40 Times Weddings Were So Bad, They Deserved To Be Shamed On This Facebook Page
Passionate, enduring love, forever and ever. An adventure through life with a partner you trust with your heart and soul. Someone who gets your quirks and loves you for your silly jokes. That’s the happily ever after that many of us Pandas dream of having. And whether or not you plan on getting married yourselves, you can’t deny that weddings are beautiful celebrations of love. Well… sometimes.
Other times, they’re more of a disaster than a fairytale. But there’s always humor to be found, even in the darkest of places. And that’s the silver lining we’ll be focusing on today. The ‘That’s it, I’m wedding shaming’ Facebook page documents the most “hilarious bridezilla and tacky wedding stories’ to amuse and entertain the net. We’re featuring some of their best of the worst posts to show you just how bad things can actually get.
Scroll down, upvote the posts that grabbed your attention the most, and be sure to send this list to all of your friends who are planning on getting married this year! If you enjoyed the content, be sure to give ‘That’s it, I’m wedding shaming’ a follow. Meanwhile, read on for Bored Panda’s interview with wedding experts Anna and Sarah, team leaders at The Wedding Society, about keeping things running smoothly.
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Props to the photographer, but damn imagine being this petty.
Over 21.5k Facebook users follow the ‘That’s it, I’m wedding shaming’ page, and they can’t wait for the latest updates and juicy gossip to pop up on their feeds. There’s tea being spilled by the gallon here, and it’s all anonymous to protect everyone’s feelings.
If your new husband can’t be bothered enough to at least wear a button up shirt and slacks...then you may need to throw him back to the trailer park and go fishing for a better catch
Imagine if weddings were a celebration of love, and she happened to love how casual and laid back he is, and he happened to love that she accepted him that way. That'd be neat.
One of the most talked about wedding shames we’ve had...redneck mud wedding
Florida in a picture.
Florida, never change. Edit: I changed my mind. Florida, please change.
If you have a weird wedding story or some fiery drama to share, you can join the community and get in touch with the founder of the page. You never know, it might be your post that’s amusing everyone next week. Tacky doesn't have to mean unfunny.
The fact of the matter is that it’s far from just brides and grooms who cause drama and create situations that everyone will be gossiping about for years and years to come. There are some truly peculiar people out there who end up being invited to celebrations of love, only to try and ruin them. Some folks simply take pleasure in causing chaos wherever they go. Weddings are no exception.
Anna and Sarah, team leaders at The Wedding Society spoke to Bored Panda about unruly and rude guests, and how to manage them. In short, it’s important to let go of the idea that weddings can be ‘perfect’: some things will go wrong no matter what. So it’s vital to be able to adapt and not take any minor flaws in the plan personally.
you lost me in three words. didnt take much. I'm sending your mom telepathic therapy.
“Some people just want to watch the world burn, and as hosts to an event, it's just something that wedding couples will have to accept,” Anna and Sarah explained to us that the happy couple has to be realistic about the fact that not everyone will be well-behaved and polite on this happy occasion. No matter how much we might want them to.
Herbalife as a wedding theme? If I were invited to this wedding, I would walk out
Paint them rainbow colours and wear them AT Pride.
Load More Replies...How can you shame a woman for wanting to be comfortable and enjoy her day. Crocs are amazing. If I went to that wedding I would only be upset if the bride did not give advance heads up that crocs are welcomed at the reception
Especially good for outdoor weddings in hot sticky weather
Load More Replies...I'm not going to shame them if the dress is floor length. Let's be realistic. It's this or going barefoot half the night.
What if the dress isn’t floor-length? I’d still think it was a good choice. This is peak fashion.
Load More Replies...My friend and her bridesmaids wore converse sneakers when she got married. It was a long standing joke between them, and one of the bridesmaids was 7 months pregnant, so my friend was more than happy to accommodate by having everyone wear flat shoes. They still wore proper dresses.
They are, that’s why she’s wearing them at the reception!
Load More Replies...It's better than dancing in heels all night! The last wedding I went to I had to put band aids on my feet for weeks afterwards and I wasn't even the bride 😄
Ehhhhh....I HATE crocs, but I am much more in favor of brides (hell, people at weddings in general) not having to wear atrociously painful/uncomfortable wedding gear, so I'd give this a pass.
In most of the long dresses you can't really see the shies anyway, why be uncomfortable and in pain for no good reason? Love those.
i think anyone with something negative to say about this is overlooking the word"reception" ...... this is fine
Not shaming. I once did a customized pair of white canvas Keds (pearl, sequin, and lace trimming) for a bride so she could enjoy her reception, instead of suffering through it in heels. They were the hit of the party, and--she still, 25 years later, periodically thanks me for how much she enjoyed her own wedding.
Idk what you wear on your feet on your wedding day. The dress will hide the shoes anyway and you for sure want to be comfortable. Was a bridesmaid at a friend from HS who wore a pair of checkered vans she had since we were in school together (this was many, many years after we graduated - they were haggard lol) and each of the bridesmaids and groomsmen either initialed or colored in a square. She got to have comfy shoes and a great keepsake. We all got to "walk down the aisle" with her and have that uniquely sweet memory to keep. Her dress was gorgeous and ceremony was at a museum- most beautiful wedding I've seen. Point being - wear whatever makes you happy. Old AF vans, crocs, designer heels, roller skates..literally anything that makes you happy.
Eh, I wore Vans that I custom ordered with a purple and black checkerboard pattern - and would have worn them even if my dress didn’t cover them. My hubs wore purple Converse. When my mom got married to my stepdad, I spent most of the reception barefoot. Nice shoes hurt.
I don't understand the fad with crocs. They're so ugly. Then again, Converse Chucks are my go-to shoe 🤷♀️
Comfort is not shameful, she put in alot of work and they look awesome!
I got married in Vegas. My 'something blue' was a gorgeous pair of Manolo's. My feet were screaming for relief. After the ceremony, I immediately put on my trusty Chuck Taylors and was much happier.
I do not like crocs. I hate the way they look but hey if you're comfy in them then you go gurl. Enjoy not having blisters at your wedding in your blinged out crocs
Hell most women end up barefoot at the reception anyways because they want out of their heels. There’s nothing wrong with crocs or any other comfy shoes. Now if they were hooker heels, then yeah trashy, but someone else’s minor comfort is none of your damn business. Go be mad elsewhere and let them enjoy their day
Great for dancing, I would wear these too....who needs heels ALL damn day?
They'd be comfy. Because of several medical conditions I have to have very comfy footwear and have never worn heels in my life. Good for the Bride 😊
Just imagine the comfyness.....I'd wear them, after the ceremony and a few hours of dancing....but not before that 😅
I wore ivory sneakers (Keds, simple and comfortable) with my ivory wedding dress. I planned to gussy them up with pearls etc but never did. Don't care, wanted to be comfortable on a very important day instead of in pain.
Are they confortable?... No because *spoiler* if you have to wait standing for who knows how long listening to an old man in a dress babbling about the sanctity of the marriage before god..... At least let's be confortable 😁
I’m not even going to shame these. We bought a pair for the new sister in law. Her feet hurt and so did the grooms. We got the groom hey dudes and got the “ extremely nice for being PREGNANT “bride a comfy pair of white croc’s. She felt so much better. Her dress hid them. It would have been fine to see them too though because knowing they worked for her made me happy. She is genuinely a nice person. I adore nice people so to me it didn’t matter what she wore. I just cared that I was invited.
I mean quirky. Better than going barefoot because my shoes were so uncomfortable.
They will be very comfortable to wear after you walk down the aisle. Your feet will Thank You all throughout the reception
I've seen worse.Wearing heels for any length of time is painful.Why not opt for comfort during the reception? Not weird.
Not bad. I wore $10 glittery sandals with memory foam. I was super comfy the whole night
Don’t get me wrong, I’m all for changing into a more comfortable ensemble for the reception, but I lean more towards cocktails at the Rainbow Room and less holly hobby in the vegetable patch.
Good for her! At least she will be comfortable and able to really enjoy her reception and all the dancing without the very sore feet from new, not-worn-in, expensive shoes, that she would worry about being damaged because of how expensive/ uncomfortable they may be. Smart move on her part.😁😎
Plus can you imagine dancing in Crocs??? Probably easier wearing broken stilettos on a greased up oily dance floor.
Crocs are so ugly, tacky, cheap looking & a poor excuse for shoes. Especially at a wedding. Get rid of them entirely. That's like the equivalent of wearing flip flops or slippers, lazy + a turn off.
They look comfortable & they are white. At least her feet will be comfy.
Nobody wants to dance in heels. My niece wore her 10 year-old Converse with her $600 prom dress.
That's not terrible though. I took my heels off and put on Nikes. Let women wear comfy shoes.
I wore white Birkenstocks at my reception. I did wait until after the first dance. Dress hid them. But why should I bride be uncomfortable all night?
It's important to have comfortable footwear at your reception. Your feet already hurt by the time you get there. Dancing in heels is not easy. And rather than just take off your shoes to dance, this way your feet won't get stepped on. Great decorating.
I don't see anything wrong with this. After wearing fancy shoes for the ceremony, you want to relax and enjoy yourself at the reception, which is hard to do when your feet hurt.
In my entire life NO ONE was looking at my feet! And not one man ever made a comment on SHOES! Wear what makes you comfy ALWAYS!
I'm sorry I'm confused. Is it a croc in a croc or just a baby croc? Never seen one in the wild, So
Unpopular opinion: Crocs and Ugg boots are the stuff of nightmares. I don't care how comfortable they are, they're hideous and they make my eyes hurt.
Honestly, the only reason I didn't wear fancy sneakers (trainers for the UK crowd) to my wedding is that we went to a fancy shoe store that was known for really doing weddings up right. The guy who "helped" me claimed that the shoe size I'd worn for years was "wrong," my feet were actually *narrower* than I knew they were, and because the wedding sneakers "didn't come that narrow," he insisted on selling my parents (they paid for my wedding) a pair of really uncomfortable slingback pumps that were way too narrow and hurt like hell. My emotionally abusive mother was relieved that the sneakers "didn't fit" (I tried them on, they were infinitely more comfortable than the pumps, and would have been fine), because "sneakers with a wedding dress is just unseemly. Pumps are more ladylike!" *Eyeroll*
Going to admit I don't know what a 'pump' is in the context of shoes... Yes, I googled it and, no, it didn't help as it came up with practically every shoe imaginable as well as water pumps.
Load More Replies...Well, you can't see the shoess under a big dress, anyway. This is at least comfortable. Not great, but I have seen MUCH worse.
Always a good idea to wear comfortable shoes for the reception I had a pair of wedges waiting for he
If it can't be seen under the skirt,and you have to stand long hours,I approve. But maybe a simple white shoe could do.
“Not everyone is going to fall in line, especially your anarchist uncle Jerry with the overgrown beard. That said, try to fall back on your vendor support system as leverage,” the experts pointed out that the marrying couple shouldn’t have to do everything themselves. They can’t worry about every tiny detail or mishap. They should turn to the venue’s staff to help them handle all the issues.
Oh baby.
“Simply saying, ‘The venue has rules’ or, ‘Our caterers have agreed to only..’" is an easy way to take the blame off yourself but still enforce hard rules,” the wedding expert shared how couples can shut down some bad behavior among guests. It’s a way to misdirect some of the havoc-wreakers’ negative emotions elsewhere.
I bet they thought he had a keyboard. Or a big truck and a couple of guys from a moving company
According to the experts, they stressed that they would be “utilizing the professionals” around them for help if they were ever in a situation where disaster’s looming either during the ceremony or the reception afterward.
You cannot convince me that a trampoline in someone’s backyard holds that much sentimental value to any couple getting married
“By now you will have developed a relationship with them [the professionals] and they'll often be more than happy to put the foot down on your behalf—especially venue staff,” they pointed out that the people the wedding couples have hired are there to help in any way that they can.
I think this one is actually a creative dress design. It’s well made and infused with taco scent.
Giving D&D a whole new meaning! Denim and Diamonds, coming to a Brides magazine near you.
“Have a quiet word with your coordinator or someone else more emotionally removed from the individuals involved and ask them to help you manage,” they shared what you can do if some of your guests start behaving in a way that’s over the line. It’s one thing to cause a bit of chaos accidentally, it’s something else entirely when you’re trying to derail everything because you want all the attention.
I would say what this looks like, but y'all probably already know.
I don’t even know where to start...but y’all should probably get off those train tracks before an actual train wreck happens, instead of the metaphorical one happening with those outfits.
Sadly no alien facepalm emoji, so I'll have to settle for this: https://images.app.goo.gl/QGNXUJKtNA4VFS2t7
Yes, this is a cake. No, they didn't drop it on the floor.
It’s a bit busy, but flowered garnish aren’t bad for wedding cakes.
I had to stop. Some of these are crazy for sure. I'm not arguing that. But some of these people are doing what they can with what they have. They just want to be with the one they love. Bad behavior should've been the focus here. Like the lady wearing white to her son's wedding. That's mean. But the rest? Just let people like stuff. Even those horrifying wedding crocs.
If we called it something else 'quirky wedding choices that aren't for everyone' or something, I'd have enjoyed those parts a lot more, too. Because it is neat to see, just...why shame people for doing what they love?
Load More Replies...I've said it in previous posts and I will say it in future posts. No, they don't "deserve to be shamed". As long as they are not causing harm, or humiliating people or something like that, let them have their wedding any damn way they want. Live and let live.
Totally agree, most of these were totally fine. (Apart from like, the confederate flag sash) we shouldn't shame people for doing what makes them happy
Load More Replies...some are poor and do the best they can. some have a peculiar taste but hey, it's their day. and some don't know how to behave. the latter deserve to be shamed.
Exactly, a third of those posts are just shaming any wedding which doesn't have a white & beige theme with colour-coded everything. I'd much rather go to a quirky wedding than a stuffy one. (Disclaimer: I've been to a lot of more traditional weddings which were not stuffy at all, and quite fun. It's about the attitude.)
Load More Replies...I'm coming to the conclusion that this site has become far too dominated by mean-spirited bullying. Did you know that all these people who state an unpopular viewpoint and get -10 votes end up suspended? Three suspensions equals a permanent ban.
Load More Replies...What a snobby post. Not everyone has money to spend on “classy” weddings, and frankly, I’ve been to fancy weddings and they were all boring as h**l. Most of these look a lot more fun.
A lot of these were just people not spending tens of thousands of dollars on a one day party. Who cares if someone wears jeans to their wedding? A few of these (like the woman with the confederate flag sash) should rightly be judged, but people having fun with their own wedding and wearing camo, or having funny cake toppers? GTFO of here with your judgement.
It wasn't a confederate flag, it was a criss-cross hatch pattern, the fabric is on the floor at her feet. It was an unfortunate accident and she doesn't deserve the harassment she got from this.
Load More Replies...Most of these are the couples taste and style. It's their weddings, let them have it how they want it. This is a very Liberal site and shaming these people for being themselves is very hypocritical and narrow minded. Y'all discuss me!
Anyone else getting backflashes to the wedding shaming Facebook group where a lot of the things aren't bad but just being shamed for being a non-typical wedding
I believe all of these are actually from that very same Facebook group. I've tried to look at it & it's a "private group". If this kind of shaming & punching down is how it operates, I'm definitely not 'joining' it.
Load More Replies...They don't throw the bouquet everywhere. Lots of places the bouquet is preserved and displayed, so those "alternative" shamed bouquets make sense if you think about that.
Stop judging people just so you can be hateful and intentionally trying to be the worst version of yourself. It's really not that hard to be decent to your own kind. This stuff is not ok.
I think most of these are just matters of taste, and to each his own. Years ago I went to a very upscale wedding with an open bar. The bar opened hours before the actual ceremony, so by the time they were ready to start, at least half of the attendees was pretty well lit. I left when the drunk father of the bride salaciously grabbed a bridesmaid and was pulled off by an equally drunk groomsman, resulting in fight #1. Mother of the bride heard the ruckus and came running out to wail on her husband, fight #2. At the same time, groomsman and groom were having words about the fight with father of the bride, and I later heard it devolved into fight #3. I was told next day that the cops showed up and three people were arrested for drunk and disorderly, and two for assault. The most valuable lesson I learned was if you are having an open bar... don't open too early, or keep it open too long.
I thought it would be fun; not. Then I realized that in each and every case these folk probably knew what was coming. They didn't transform into bad meme's overnight. Years ago there was a wedding shamed and laughed at because they weren't a "main stream" couple. Some time later there was a follow-up and they were still happily married and had a child. We're being snobby. I'm just not letting the world know I am by advertising it.
Some of these were perfectly fine, not everyone wants a fancy shmancy white wedding
My MIL "boooooo"ed when I walked down the aisle. Loudly. Tried to pass it off as a "joke." I should say, "my EX-MIL."
My sister-in-law got married to a guy whose brothers made the DJ at the reception play "Put Another Log on the Fire" at least a dozen times before I left the building to puke (No, I WASN'T drinking.)...
I seriously do not see anything wrong with the majority of these /shrug
Not everyone can afford to spend thousands of dollars on a wedding. I admire and respect the resourcefulness some of these people have. No shame.
I'll give you one. My dad cheated on my mom and she left him. Came back after all of his pleas that "I'll change". He did not. She left again. After 30 years of him calling her a "door mat", she moved back in with him and then asked for her wedding ring back. (I'd been wearing it around my neck for 30 years). So they were remarrying. My only request was that my sister and I (who totally experienced this divorce), would be included in the remarriage. My father hates any kind of happiness, so we promised no flowers, party, festivities of any kind. So I said, just a nice lunch after the courthouse ceremony. My mom agreed. My dad figures out a way to "remarry" via fax. My sister and I never married. Wonder why.
I had to stop. Some of these are crazy for sure. I'm not arguing that. But some of these people are doing what they can with what they have. They just want to be with the one they love. Bad behavior should've been the focus here. Like the lady wearing white to her son's wedding. That's mean. But the rest? Just let people like stuff. Even those horrifying wedding crocs.
If we called it something else 'quirky wedding choices that aren't for everyone' or something, I'd have enjoyed those parts a lot more, too. Because it is neat to see, just...why shame people for doing what they love?
Load More Replies...I've said it in previous posts and I will say it in future posts. No, they don't "deserve to be shamed". As long as they are not causing harm, or humiliating people or something like that, let them have their wedding any damn way they want. Live and let live.
Totally agree, most of these were totally fine. (Apart from like, the confederate flag sash) we shouldn't shame people for doing what makes them happy
Load More Replies...some are poor and do the best they can. some have a peculiar taste but hey, it's their day. and some don't know how to behave. the latter deserve to be shamed.
Exactly, a third of those posts are just shaming any wedding which doesn't have a white & beige theme with colour-coded everything. I'd much rather go to a quirky wedding than a stuffy one. (Disclaimer: I've been to a lot of more traditional weddings which were not stuffy at all, and quite fun. It's about the attitude.)
Load More Replies...I'm coming to the conclusion that this site has become far too dominated by mean-spirited bullying. Did you know that all these people who state an unpopular viewpoint and get -10 votes end up suspended? Three suspensions equals a permanent ban.
Load More Replies...What a snobby post. Not everyone has money to spend on “classy” weddings, and frankly, I’ve been to fancy weddings and they were all boring as h**l. Most of these look a lot more fun.
A lot of these were just people not spending tens of thousands of dollars on a one day party. Who cares if someone wears jeans to their wedding? A few of these (like the woman with the confederate flag sash) should rightly be judged, but people having fun with their own wedding and wearing camo, or having funny cake toppers? GTFO of here with your judgement.
It wasn't a confederate flag, it was a criss-cross hatch pattern, the fabric is on the floor at her feet. It was an unfortunate accident and she doesn't deserve the harassment she got from this.
Load More Replies...Most of these are the couples taste and style. It's their weddings, let them have it how they want it. This is a very Liberal site and shaming these people for being themselves is very hypocritical and narrow minded. Y'all discuss me!
Anyone else getting backflashes to the wedding shaming Facebook group where a lot of the things aren't bad but just being shamed for being a non-typical wedding
I believe all of these are actually from that very same Facebook group. I've tried to look at it & it's a "private group". If this kind of shaming & punching down is how it operates, I'm definitely not 'joining' it.
Load More Replies...They don't throw the bouquet everywhere. Lots of places the bouquet is preserved and displayed, so those "alternative" shamed bouquets make sense if you think about that.
Stop judging people just so you can be hateful and intentionally trying to be the worst version of yourself. It's really not that hard to be decent to your own kind. This stuff is not ok.
I think most of these are just matters of taste, and to each his own. Years ago I went to a very upscale wedding with an open bar. The bar opened hours before the actual ceremony, so by the time they were ready to start, at least half of the attendees was pretty well lit. I left when the drunk father of the bride salaciously grabbed a bridesmaid and was pulled off by an equally drunk groomsman, resulting in fight #1. Mother of the bride heard the ruckus and came running out to wail on her husband, fight #2. At the same time, groomsman and groom were having words about the fight with father of the bride, and I later heard it devolved into fight #3. I was told next day that the cops showed up and three people were arrested for drunk and disorderly, and two for assault. The most valuable lesson I learned was if you are having an open bar... don't open too early, or keep it open too long.
I thought it would be fun; not. Then I realized that in each and every case these folk probably knew what was coming. They didn't transform into bad meme's overnight. Years ago there was a wedding shamed and laughed at because they weren't a "main stream" couple. Some time later there was a follow-up and they were still happily married and had a child. We're being snobby. I'm just not letting the world know I am by advertising it.
Some of these were perfectly fine, not everyone wants a fancy shmancy white wedding
My MIL "boooooo"ed when I walked down the aisle. Loudly. Tried to pass it off as a "joke." I should say, "my EX-MIL."
My sister-in-law got married to a guy whose brothers made the DJ at the reception play "Put Another Log on the Fire" at least a dozen times before I left the building to puke (No, I WASN'T drinking.)...
I seriously do not see anything wrong with the majority of these /shrug
Not everyone can afford to spend thousands of dollars on a wedding. I admire and respect the resourcefulness some of these people have. No shame.
I'll give you one. My dad cheated on my mom and she left him. Came back after all of his pleas that "I'll change". He did not. She left again. After 30 years of him calling her a "door mat", she moved back in with him and then asked for her wedding ring back. (I'd been wearing it around my neck for 30 years). So they were remarrying. My only request was that my sister and I (who totally experienced this divorce), would be included in the remarriage. My father hates any kind of happiness, so we promised no flowers, party, festivities of any kind. So I said, just a nice lunch after the courthouse ceremony. My mom agreed. My dad figures out a way to "remarry" via fax. My sister and I never married. Wonder why.