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Mom Disappointed Daughter Thinks Winning Cooking Contest Is An Achievement
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Mom Disappointed Daughter Thinks Winning Cooking Contest Is An Achievement

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Some people love it. Others hate it. But many experts believe that cooking is actually really good for your mind, body and soul. A growing number of therapists are even integrating it into their practices alongside other traditional forms of therapy. Research shows that cooking can help reduce stress, anxiety and depression.

When one teen turned to cooking as a way to calm herself during stressful times, she soon found out that she really enjoyed it. She even placed second in a cooking contest. But the teen kept it all a secret from her domineering mother. And when her mom found out, all hell broke loose. The mother believes she’s wasting her time and should focus on her schoolwork instead. Now the aspiring chef is wondering if her mom is right.

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    Cooking therapy, or culinary therapy, has become popular in recent years. A number of experts are using it, either alongside other forms of therapy or as a standalone to treat patients. Dr. Michael Kocet is one of those experts. He took a cooking class back in 2006. “Every single person I told would say ‘oh, cooking is so therapeutic for me’. And the light bulb went off and I thought, in our field, we have art, dance and music therapy, but why hasn’t anyone done cooking therapy or culinary therapy?” Kocet told the BBC.

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    Kocet defines culinary therapy as “the therapeutic technique that uses arts, cooking, gastronomy, and an individual’s personal, cultural, and familial relationship with food to address emotional and psychological problems faced by individuals, families, and groups.” Kocet adds that culinary therapy allows the therapist and patient to explore an individual’s relationship with food, and look at how food impacts their personal relationships, as well as psychological well-being and functioning.

    The expert created a graduate counseling course in culinary therapy at Chicago School after seeing the benefits and a gap in the market. According to the school, he teaches students about mindfulness and food portion control. But he also uses cooking therapy to help individuals and couples, and those dealing with family issues, including grief.

    Charlotte Hastings is another firm believer in cooking as a form of therapy. She trained as a psychotherapist and also taught cookery in night-class community kitchens. When she realized she could merge the two, she founded Kitchen Therapy in the U.K. The expert says culinary therapy is less formal and intimidating than traditional “talk therapy.”

    “If you’ve got a lot of problems, then for some people, to sit down still and talk, it can actually exacerbate those issues and make you feel worse,” she said, adding that her sessions will often begin with a chat, and end in the kitchen. Talk therapy helps her find out about the patient and cooking helps her dig deeper.

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    Because we’re not eyeballing each other, and we’re achieving something and it’s fun, we can be on the same level, there’s a real equality that happens,” said the therapist. “I’ll have the recipe and have the ingredients, but I can enable that person to do something for themselves – so there’s elements of ‘self-therapy’. It provides a safe space.”

    Kocet says that you don’t need to be good in the kitchen to benefit from cooking therapy. “Whether you’re a Licensed Mental Health Counselor like me, someone who just lost a family member, a psychologist, or someone who lives in a food desert, every person on this planet has some kind of relationship with food,” said Kocet, adding that culinary therapy can impact our mood, psychological health, and physical health.

    Netizens rallied behind the teen and encouraged her to continue cooking

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    Janelle Collard
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    1 week ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    And parents wonder why their kids go NC with them... 😒

    Littlemiss
    Community Member
    1 week ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Far out, I hope OP is able to escape her toxic relations. Not everyone is built for academic standards. Found something she loves, is doing well and they just can't stand to see success.

    LB
    Community Member
    1 week ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I'm currently doing a second master. Already have a PhD. But if I wasn't disabled, oh man, I would love to be a handyman. F**k all that noise, just do what you love.

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    V
    Community Member
    1 week ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Cooking isn't a career? I hope mom is cooking all her food from scratch right down to milling her own flour because otherwise she is contradicting herself every day.

    Sue User
    Community Member
    1 week ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Bet mom eats in high end restaurants. She cant even say its harder to get into because I am sure there are more chefs than neurosurgens.

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    SheamusFanFrom1987
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    1 week ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Sounds like your typical Asian family where engineers, doctors etc are viewed too favorably and everything else can just 'eff off (Believe me, I should know). Cooking is a skill, and one that can translate into a career. I hope OP never stops cooking, but more importantly, gives her soul-sucking, sh*tbag excuse of a family a good frying before leaving them behind for good. 2nd place in a cooking contest is already an achievement, and at 17??? I call that a freakin' immortal-level feat. When the sh*tbags, especially birth-giver cr*ppiest, finally realize their collective gooses are cooked when OP dumps them all, hopefully they enjoy their extremely humbling pie then. People... -_-

    Royal Stray
    Community Member
    1 week ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I sincerely hope that OP's mother is at the very least consistent with her beliefs and has never eaten and paid at a cafe, bar, or restaurant. I'm assuming she also doesn't acknowledge their existence as she clearly doesn't believe in them. Serious though I hope OP gets tf out of that environment as soon as she can

    Orysha
    Community Member
    1 week ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    So this neurosurgeon mother operates on other people's brain without one one of her own, that must be very hard. Tell her to fu.ck off and I hope she never set a foot in a resstaurant.. I don't know where this story takes place but you're welcome to come to France, we love new cooks with an open eye. Your mother should learn about Paul Bocuse, Guy Savoy and a few others. I'm sure there are other famous chefs in other countries. Cut contact with this toxic family.

    Mr.Mister
    Community Member
    1 week ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    NTA!!! This girl is just walking her own path. And thats great! Her mom is a karen who looks down on cooks/chefs. I know this firsthand, since my father was also a cook/chef with own chinese restaurant. When a friend from school was there with his family, i asked him to go outside and play till their food is ready. Well he asked his mom first and she said "No you can't play with him. He is the son of a cook." Just go on and do what YOU want. You owe nobody an apology. And congrats an makind 2nd place.

    Michelle Randazzo
    Community Member
    1 week ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Congratulations!! Sounds like you found your calling!!! Best wishes and hopefully you

    JayWantsACat
    Community Member
    1 week ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I don't even have a family and still wouldn't want this one. NTA, by a wide margin.

    Margaret Nupponen
    Community Member
    1 week ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Any person who manages to support themselves financially is a success, including the man who gets paid to collect the carts from the parking lot at the local supermarket even though he can't even drive himself to work because of his intellectual disability. Your mother is an education snob.

    UncleJohn3000
    Community Member
    1 week ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Congratulations OP, and start saving to move out as soon as you can.

    Kristen Sharp
    Community Member
    1 week ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I personally have PTSD from school. But that's a different story. When I'm feeling stressed or depressed , heck, even if I just want to, I'll cook. I love to cook! Doing so instantly puts me in a better mood.

    Arabiata Arabiata
    Community Member
    1 week ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Your mom is an a*****e, I feel sorry for you. Working as a cook / chef is a nice but very difficult job both physically and mentally. Not everyone needs a degree, choose a profession that you will enjoy doing. And left that toxic place called parent's house. You're much more grown up than your "parents".

    Earonn -
    Community Member
    1 week ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Love the "apology to the mum because OP is not a carbon copy of her". That's how to do it.

    Anna Drever
    Community Member
    1 week ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    And they want OP to give up her job to concentrate on studies. Take away the one thing OP feels proud of and makes them happy. 😡

    Gen X Feral
    Community Member
    1 week ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I guess mommy dearest should have invented a way to clone herself instead of becoming a brain surgeon. Mommy dearests brain could use some help because it doesn't work so good, all narcissistic and delulu. F those people I hope op walks away from them and never looks back. Go live your life girl🥰

    Mark Alexander
    Community Member
    1 week ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Gee, mom. I didn't tell you because I didn't do it for you. And I may open a restaurant someday. When are you opening your own hospital?

    François Bouzigues
    Community Member
    1 week ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Parents who only see thing their way end up having kids who hide things from them. Because that is the only logical think to do. I want to do "A", which is a non dangerous, shameful or embarassing thing that i happen to enjoy. If i open up about it, i will be told how stupid it is, and yelled on. If i do it anyway, and tell afterward, i will be told how stupid it is, and yelled on. If i do it anyway, and don´t tell, i will only be told how stupid it is and yelled on if i get caught. Since being belittled and yelled on is the only possible outcome, best i can do is to delay said outcome.

    Janelle Collard
    Community Member
    Premium
    1 week ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    And parents wonder why their kids go NC with them... 😒

    Littlemiss
    Community Member
    1 week ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Far out, I hope OP is able to escape her toxic relations. Not everyone is built for academic standards. Found something she loves, is doing well and they just can't stand to see success.

    LB
    Community Member
    1 week ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I'm currently doing a second master. Already have a PhD. But if I wasn't disabled, oh man, I would love to be a handyman. F**k all that noise, just do what you love.

    Load More Replies...
    V
    Community Member
    1 week ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Cooking isn't a career? I hope mom is cooking all her food from scratch right down to milling her own flour because otherwise she is contradicting herself every day.

    Sue User
    Community Member
    1 week ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Bet mom eats in high end restaurants. She cant even say its harder to get into because I am sure there are more chefs than neurosurgens.

    Load More Replies...
    SheamusFanFrom1987
    Community Member
    1 week ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Sounds like your typical Asian family where engineers, doctors etc are viewed too favorably and everything else can just 'eff off (Believe me, I should know). Cooking is a skill, and one that can translate into a career. I hope OP never stops cooking, but more importantly, gives her soul-sucking, sh*tbag excuse of a family a good frying before leaving them behind for good. 2nd place in a cooking contest is already an achievement, and at 17??? I call that a freakin' immortal-level feat. When the sh*tbags, especially birth-giver cr*ppiest, finally realize their collective gooses are cooked when OP dumps them all, hopefully they enjoy their extremely humbling pie then. People... -_-

    Royal Stray
    Community Member
    1 week ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I sincerely hope that OP's mother is at the very least consistent with her beliefs and has never eaten and paid at a cafe, bar, or restaurant. I'm assuming she also doesn't acknowledge their existence as she clearly doesn't believe in them. Serious though I hope OP gets tf out of that environment as soon as she can

    Orysha
    Community Member
    1 week ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    So this neurosurgeon mother operates on other people's brain without one one of her own, that must be very hard. Tell her to fu.ck off and I hope she never set a foot in a resstaurant.. I don't know where this story takes place but you're welcome to come to France, we love new cooks with an open eye. Your mother should learn about Paul Bocuse, Guy Savoy and a few others. I'm sure there are other famous chefs in other countries. Cut contact with this toxic family.

    Mr.Mister
    Community Member
    1 week ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    NTA!!! This girl is just walking her own path. And thats great! Her mom is a karen who looks down on cooks/chefs. I know this firsthand, since my father was also a cook/chef with own chinese restaurant. When a friend from school was there with his family, i asked him to go outside and play till their food is ready. Well he asked his mom first and she said "No you can't play with him. He is the son of a cook." Just go on and do what YOU want. You owe nobody an apology. And congrats an makind 2nd place.

    Michelle Randazzo
    Community Member
    1 week ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Congratulations!! Sounds like you found your calling!!! Best wishes and hopefully you

    JayWantsACat
    Community Member
    1 week ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I don't even have a family and still wouldn't want this one. NTA, by a wide margin.

    Margaret Nupponen
    Community Member
    1 week ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Any person who manages to support themselves financially is a success, including the man who gets paid to collect the carts from the parking lot at the local supermarket even though he can't even drive himself to work because of his intellectual disability. Your mother is an education snob.

    UncleJohn3000
    Community Member
    1 week ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Congratulations OP, and start saving to move out as soon as you can.

    Kristen Sharp
    Community Member
    1 week ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I personally have PTSD from school. But that's a different story. When I'm feeling stressed or depressed , heck, even if I just want to, I'll cook. I love to cook! Doing so instantly puts me in a better mood.

    Arabiata Arabiata
    Community Member
    1 week ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Your mom is an a*****e, I feel sorry for you. Working as a cook / chef is a nice but very difficult job both physically and mentally. Not everyone needs a degree, choose a profession that you will enjoy doing. And left that toxic place called parent's house. You're much more grown up than your "parents".

    Earonn -
    Community Member
    1 week ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Love the "apology to the mum because OP is not a carbon copy of her". That's how to do it.

    Anna Drever
    Community Member
    1 week ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    And they want OP to give up her job to concentrate on studies. Take away the one thing OP feels proud of and makes them happy. 😡

    Gen X Feral
    Community Member
    1 week ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I guess mommy dearest should have invented a way to clone herself instead of becoming a brain surgeon. Mommy dearests brain could use some help because it doesn't work so good, all narcissistic and delulu. F those people I hope op walks away from them and never looks back. Go live your life girl🥰

    Mark Alexander
    Community Member
    1 week ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Gee, mom. I didn't tell you because I didn't do it for you. And I may open a restaurant someday. When are you opening your own hospital?

    François Bouzigues
    Community Member
    1 week ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Parents who only see thing their way end up having kids who hide things from them. Because that is the only logical think to do. I want to do "A", which is a non dangerous, shameful or embarassing thing that i happen to enjoy. If i open up about it, i will be told how stupid it is, and yelled on. If i do it anyway, and tell afterward, i will be told how stupid it is, and yelled on. If i do it anyway, and don´t tell, i will only be told how stupid it is and yelled on if i get caught. Since being belittled and yelled on is the only possible outcome, best i can do is to delay said outcome.

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