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Teen’s Smirk After Destroying Heirloom Ends 6-Month Relationship, Realizes Her Mistake Too Late
Nowadays, there are hundreds of different ways to make up a family. As long as there’s plenty of love present, it makes no difference whether you have one parent or four (including your stepparents). But although it’s perfectly fine for adults to find love again and again, it won’t necessarily be easy for their children to adjust to having someone new around.
One woman recently shared a story on Reddit detailing how her last relationship ended because of her ex’s daughter’s behavior. But now, the teen is reaching out to her for help, and she’s not having it.
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This woman’s last relationship ended due to the cruel treatment she endured from her ex’s teen daughter
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But now, the teen has realized that she hates her dad’s new partner even more
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It’s common for teens to have complicated feelings about their parents entering new relationships
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Even if your parents have been divorced for a decade, which is the case for the teen in this story, it can still be challenging to accept that there’s someone new in one of your parents’ lives. According to Hidden Strength, when a teen resents the new partner of one of their parent’s, it’s possible that their resistance to change isn’t personal.
It might actually be coming from a fear that their parent is pushing them away or trying to replace them. They might also be jealous of how much time their parent is now spending with this romantic partner. And it’s possible that they feel bad for their other parent, if they assume that they’ve been left behind or forgotten.
Teens sometimes also find it embarrassing or gross that their parent would be dating and trying to find love again. And, in some cases, there might actually be something specific about the partner that they don’t like. And, of course, if the new partner doesn’t like the teen, the feeling will likely go both ways.
However, Hidden Strength notes that seeing a parent start dating someone new is not a valid excuse for bad behavior. If the teen is being hostile or acting out, it’s important for their parent to address it immediately. It’s recommended for the parent to ask their child what exactly is bothering them and how they can work together to find a solution.
Parents should make sure that their children are comfortable before bringing someone new into their lives
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And when it comes to helping a child or teen accept a new partner who they’re not particularly fond of at first, Sydney Couple & Family Specialists recommends making sure that the hierarchy in the family is clear. Your child should always show respect to you and your partner, even if they’re not happy with the new arrangement yet.
It can also be helpful to encourage the new partner to get involved in activities like household chores and household traditions. This might make the child or teen view them more as part of the family, rather than a stranger in their home.
If it’s necessary to discipline your child, try to do so one-on-one, without your new partner around. They might feel like they’re being ganged up on if the two of you are present when this happens.
And the child or teen should always have their own safe space in the home. Their bedroom, a playroom or an upstairs space away from the rest of the home can be incredibly helpful if they feel overwhelmed and need to be alone. They should have somewhere they can go to process their emotions without worrying about someone barging in at any moment.
It’s important not to rush the process of having your child open up to a new partner. They might be feeling a complicated mix of emotions, and it’s completely natural to take time to adjust to any sort of life change.
We would love to hear your thoughts on this situation in the comments below, pandas. Do you think this woman was obligated to help her ex-boyfriend’s daughter? Feel free to weigh in. Then, you can check out another Bored Panda article discussing similar issues right here.
Later, the author replied to several readers and provided more details about the situation
Many agreed that the woman was not obligated to help the teen
However, some thought that the author should have gone out of her way to help
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Seán Baron 11 months ago (edited)
What glue have the YTA posters been sniffing? Especially the last one.
LonelyLittleLeafSheep 11 months ago
Well they admitted they didn't even read the post, so...
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Skogsrået 11 months ago
Lmao, kid fûcked around and found out that sometimes things can get worse.
patricia patricia 11 months ago
She's not a kid, she's sixteen. Young, but she would have penal responsibility in my country.
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Captive 11 months ago
Why would Tia even go to her, like what is she supposed to do? No she doesn't owe her a shoulder to cry on. Serves you well, entitled brat
Sebastian Marcell 10 months ago
Why would she go to OP? Because OP was weak and did everything she wanted just to keep the peace. She probably assumed OP would crawl to meet the new GF and defend her
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marcelo D. 11 months ago
karma. She FAFO with daddies girlfriends, and now she has to face consecuences. OP has no reason to help her at all. She isn't a "kid" as so many posters keep claiming. She is 16, in many parts of the world that is a legal adult, that can drink alcohol, drive, and even vote in some countries. The infantilization of teenagers in the US is astonishing.
Katchen 11 months ago
Teenaged criminals can be tried as adults in the US. Not sure where you get your info.
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Fellfromthemoon 11 months ago
I feel the word "child" became an umbrella term w/o distinctions or nuances. Like we don't expect more maturity from a 16-year-old than from a 3-year-old.
MoMcB 11 months ago
It’s a good lesson to the daughter- actions have consequences. She pushed until the lady left, and got someone worse.
Orysha 11 months ago
Jane isn't worse. She knows how to deal with entitled brats.
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FlamingRed 11 months ago
Wait a minute. Tia showed up _with her dad_? At your workplace? Oh, hell, no! You should have told Tai, "FAFO, my dear." And you should have told John if you see him anywhere near you again, you'll file a restraining order. You are well rid of both their crazy.
patricia patricia 11 months ago (edited)
You've made me laugh so much!!! Do you really think you can get a restraining order just because a person turns up a couple of times anywhere near you? Unless he is abusive or does something dangerous or intimidating he is free to go wherever he wants to. Nobody would take you seriously if you went to the police with such an idiotic story. Educate yourself and let people who really know what they are talking about give legal advice.
Load More Replies... Miriam Insidecor 11 months ago
Complete nonsense. The girl is 16. almost an adult, and her behaviour is ridiculous. The OP owes her nothing, and OP's sister sounds like a stupid idiot as well.
Orysha 11 months ago
Jane is the real hero in this story. No woman would ever be good enough in Tia's opinion and her father is an a.shole, he doesn't want a partner just a bang maid.
Nina 11 months ago
Sounds like the little b***h has got the stepmum she deserves. Karma really is real.
Mike F 11 months ago
The cherry on top would be sending her to a boarding school.
Load More Replies... BrownEyedPanda 11 months ago
OP is SO NTA. Tia is learning that you can't sow dandelions and expect to reap strawberries. Her nasty, abusive behavior drove her dad's first girlfriend away. Now she's dealing with someone who don't play that shìt, that is a living example of Newton's 3rd Law of Motion, and is it ever glorious to behold! (Before everyone condemns the new girlfriend to hell, consider this: it's possible that she has dealt with this scenario her entire life, one way or another. Her method seems to work best.) Daddy Dearest needs to stop thinking with his gonads and start behaving like a--GASP!--parent. Tia is liable to do something really off the wall, like borrow her father's car without permission or go out of her way to physically hurt someone. That girl is burning bridges, and her father is providing the gasoline and torches. OP is justified in avoiding Tia like the Plague; it would only be a matter of time before Tia and her father's apathy would destroy OP.
brandyy17 11 months ago
im gonna b completely honest. even of tia had a good reason for going to the OP like realizing the OP was better then jane or something like that tia is not part of the OP's life anymore. if the OP helped tia her efforts would b hit with "this doesnt concern u" and jane would probably treat tia worse. she also was in her right not to help bc of the hell tia put her thru. i truly believe the OP handled the situation very well too. she couldve easily been mean to tia and told her to go away but no she asked if tia's mom knew and told tia theres nothing to worry about since her mom took care of the situation. if the OP had shown a grudge toward tia id say shes a slight a*****e but she didnt. she says that she feels for tia's situation but didnt feel anything towards the girl herself. thats perfectly reasonable and i wouldve handled the situation the exact same way. if tia said she didnt tell her mom i wouldve told her to tell her mom cuz she could help more then i could. im sure the OP wouldve said the same considering how she handled it.
patricia patricia 11 months ago
There's no evidence Jane treats Tia in a bad way. She is just "mirroring" Tia's behaviour. That's real life: if you treat people like rubbish they will treat you like rubbish.
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Broadredpanda 11 months ago
I’m absolutely shocked that this father introduced another woman to his already screwed up daughter!?? This father HAS to or MUST get help for Tia. What TF is wrong with him that he’s not seeing that he’s daughter needs help? It doesn’t sound like he even put up a fight for someone he loved! How can this sorry excuse of a man not ask himself why his daughter is behaving this way? NO!!! He goes to sleep without a thought and eight weeks after this break up, he introduces ANOTHER girlfriend 🤦♀️ It’s not Tia who’s the problem, it HER DAD! She’s was being hostile and has hatred in her, but her Dad is the reason she’s not of sound mind!! This is disturbing and Tia needs serious mental health help!!!!!!
CP 11 months ago
NTA, but totally missed a prime opportunity to possibly teach another human a valuable lesson. The people saying she is an entitled brat are totally correct. That child did not choose to be raised that way. There is no fault in the person not caring to explain, but no one else seems to be getting through.
Jessie 9 months ago
At some point you can’t blame someone’s actions on the way they’ve been raised. Anyone above 10 knows it’s wrong to call someone names or break their belongings, if they haven’t learned it at home then they learned it at school or anywhere else. This girl knows perfectly well what she’s doing, her dad is enabling her behavior but everything she does is still 100% on her.
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Rebecca Joan 10 months ago
It’s not like Tia‘s mom is dead. If she needs a shoulder to cry on, she can go to her mom. This woman isn’t with her father anymore, and she was a horrible bratty teen to her anyway. So I don’t think this OP is the a*****e. Tia can go kick rocks.
KatSaidWhat 11 months ago
Girl needs therapy, but that's not OP's problem. Sometimes you only learn too late how good you had after your determinedly napalmed that bridge.
James King 11 months ago
This reads just like about 12 other "boyfriend's daughter is EEEEVVVIIILLL!" stories floating around BP. At least it wasn't a wedding dress that got ruined this time.
J L 11 months ago
lol NTA. That crazy teen did not want to have anything to do with you, you have ZERO relationship with her, and ZERO responsibilities to her. You tried to be nice, but she was being a major b**ch, so too bad, so sad. Now she has to deal with dad's new GF who gives her a taste of its own medicine. KARMA is a b**ch lol
Surly Scot 11 months ago
Kid's just an a-hole who wants to drive every woman away from daddy so she can have him all to herself. She needed physical reprimanding as she was being raised, giving her this much leeway has turned her into a little c*nt who severely needs punched. I'd file a restraining order on her for extra effect for coming to my workplace. Little psycho. Her father also needs a punch for being a piece of sh*t of a parent and partner. OP's better off not knowing them. Good on Jane the new GF for being as much of a b*tch back to the kid, that's what the kid needs, put in her damn place.
Schmebulock 11 months ago
As is usually the case this is just another person seeking attention because there is no real debate about her being an AH. I highly doubt the sister told her she was an AH for not supporting an evil teen she has almost no connection with and absolutely no responsibility for. Secondly, I like Jane and she sounds awesome! It's a completely toxic relationship she is in with the ex-bf, but I love her handling of the fucktard teen.
Pyla 11 months ago
This really reads like fiction. I like the Jane character, though. Downvoted due to the YTA stupidity
Reginald 11 months ago
Most of the “AITA” on Reddit are fiction. People starved for upvotes, or just AI
Load More Replies... patricia patricia 11 months ago
Tia is hurting? Ohhhhhh, I'm sooooo soooorry. That's exactly what she deserves. She's not a kid. It's high time she learnt actions have consequences. She's only hurting because she can't manipulate daddy's new girlfriend. She sounds like an entitled brat.
Broadredpanda 11 months ago
What about what’s happened throughout her life? The dad just introduced another “f**k buddy” within eight weeks without dealing with his daughter. Somethings not right and he took his daughter to the ex because she’s everyone else’s problem and not his🤷♀️ you’re all f***ed in the head that you’re not judging daddy dearest!!! Idiots
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Mari 11 months ago
She is a teenager, she has to take the consequences of her behaviour BUT also she is just a teenager who needs someone to talk to. Even if she don't derserves your time, just listen. You don't have to give any advise or a solution, just let her calm down and it is up to her dad to find a solution.
patricia patricia 11 months ago
Why should OP waste her time? The girl is clearly getting what she deserves.
Load More Replies... Seán Baron 11 months ago (edited)
What glue have the YTA posters been sniffing? Especially the last one.
LonelyLittleLeafSheep 11 months ago
Well they admitted they didn't even read the post, so...
Load More Replies... Skogsrået 11 months ago
Lmao, kid fûcked around and found out that sometimes things can get worse.
patricia patricia 11 months ago
She's not a kid, she's sixteen. Young, but she would have penal responsibility in my country.
Load More Replies... Captive 11 months ago
Why would Tia even go to her, like what is she supposed to do? No she doesn't owe her a shoulder to cry on. Serves you well, entitled brat
Sebastian Marcell 10 months ago
Why would she go to OP? Because OP was weak and did everything she wanted just to keep the peace. She probably assumed OP would crawl to meet the new GF and defend her
Load More Replies... marcelo D. 11 months ago
karma. She FAFO with daddies girlfriends, and now she has to face consecuences. OP has no reason to help her at all. She isn't a "kid" as so many posters keep claiming. She is 16, in many parts of the world that is a legal adult, that can drink alcohol, drive, and even vote in some countries. The infantilization of teenagers in the US is astonishing.
Katchen 11 months ago
Teenaged criminals can be tried as adults in the US. Not sure where you get your info.
Load More Replies... Fellfromthemoon 11 months ago
I feel the word "child" became an umbrella term w/o distinctions or nuances. Like we don't expect more maturity from a 16-year-old than from a 3-year-old.
MoMcB 11 months ago
It’s a good lesson to the daughter- actions have consequences. She pushed until the lady left, and got someone worse.
Orysha 11 months ago
Jane isn't worse. She knows how to deal with entitled brats.
Load More Replies... FlamingRed 11 months ago
Wait a minute. Tia showed up _with her dad_? At your workplace? Oh, hell, no! You should have told Tai, "FAFO, my dear." And you should have told John if you see him anywhere near you again, you'll file a restraining order. You are well rid of both their crazy.
patricia patricia 11 months ago (edited)
You've made me laugh so much!!! Do you really think you can get a restraining order just because a person turns up a couple of times anywhere near you? Unless he is abusive or does something dangerous or intimidating he is free to go wherever he wants to. Nobody would take you seriously if you went to the police with such an idiotic story. Educate yourself and let people who really know what they are talking about give legal advice.
Load More Replies... Miriam Insidecor 11 months ago
Complete nonsense. The girl is 16. almost an adult, and her behaviour is ridiculous. The OP owes her nothing, and OP's sister sounds like a stupid idiot as well.
Orysha 11 months ago
Jane is the real hero in this story. No woman would ever be good enough in Tia's opinion and her father is an a.shole, he doesn't want a partner just a bang maid.
Nina 11 months ago
Sounds like the little b***h has got the stepmum she deserves. Karma really is real.
Mike F 11 months ago
The cherry on top would be sending her to a boarding school.
Load More Replies... BrownEyedPanda 11 months ago
OP is SO NTA. Tia is learning that you can't sow dandelions and expect to reap strawberries. Her nasty, abusive behavior drove her dad's first girlfriend away. Now she's dealing with someone who don't play that shìt, that is a living example of Newton's 3rd Law of Motion, and is it ever glorious to behold! (Before everyone condemns the new girlfriend to hell, consider this: it's possible that she has dealt with this scenario her entire life, one way or another. Her method seems to work best.) Daddy Dearest needs to stop thinking with his gonads and start behaving like a--GASP!--parent. Tia is liable to do something really off the wall, like borrow her father's car without permission or go out of her way to physically hurt someone. That girl is burning bridges, and her father is providing the gasoline and torches. OP is justified in avoiding Tia like the Plague; it would only be a matter of time before Tia and her father's apathy would destroy OP.
brandyy17 11 months ago
im gonna b completely honest. even of tia had a good reason for going to the OP like realizing the OP was better then jane or something like that tia is not part of the OP's life anymore. if the OP helped tia her efforts would b hit with "this doesnt concern u" and jane would probably treat tia worse. she also was in her right not to help bc of the hell tia put her thru. i truly believe the OP handled the situation very well too. she couldve easily been mean to tia and told her to go away but no she asked if tia's mom knew and told tia theres nothing to worry about since her mom took care of the situation. if the OP had shown a grudge toward tia id say shes a slight a*****e but she didnt. she says that she feels for tia's situation but didnt feel anything towards the girl herself. thats perfectly reasonable and i wouldve handled the situation the exact same way. if tia said she didnt tell her mom i wouldve told her to tell her mom cuz she could help more then i could. im sure the OP wouldve said the same considering how she handled it.
patricia patricia 11 months ago
There's no evidence Jane treats Tia in a bad way. She is just "mirroring" Tia's behaviour. That's real life: if you treat people like rubbish they will treat you like rubbish.
Load More Replies... Broadredpanda 11 months ago
I’m absolutely shocked that this father introduced another woman to his already screwed up daughter!?? This father HAS to or MUST get help for Tia. What TF is wrong with him that he’s not seeing that he’s daughter needs help? It doesn’t sound like he even put up a fight for someone he loved! How can this sorry excuse of a man not ask himself why his daughter is behaving this way? NO!!! He goes to sleep without a thought and eight weeks after this break up, he introduces ANOTHER girlfriend 🤦♀️ It’s not Tia who’s the problem, it HER DAD! She’s was being hostile and has hatred in her, but her Dad is the reason she’s not of sound mind!! This is disturbing and Tia needs serious mental health help!!!!!!
CP 11 months ago
NTA, but totally missed a prime opportunity to possibly teach another human a valuable lesson. The people saying she is an entitled brat are totally correct. That child did not choose to be raised that way. There is no fault in the person not caring to explain, but no one else seems to be getting through.
Jessie 9 months ago
At some point you can’t blame someone’s actions on the way they’ve been raised. Anyone above 10 knows it’s wrong to call someone names or break their belongings, if they haven’t learned it at home then they learned it at school or anywhere else. This girl knows perfectly well what she’s doing, her dad is enabling her behavior but everything she does is still 100% on her.
Load More Replies... Rebecca Joan 10 months ago
It’s not like Tia‘s mom is dead. If she needs a shoulder to cry on, she can go to her mom. This woman isn’t with her father anymore, and she was a horrible bratty teen to her anyway. So I don’t think this OP is the a*****e. Tia can go kick rocks.
KatSaidWhat 11 months ago
Girl needs therapy, but that's not OP's problem. Sometimes you only learn too late how good you had after your determinedly napalmed that bridge.
James King 11 months ago
This reads just like about 12 other "boyfriend's daughter is EEEEVVVIIILLL!" stories floating around BP. At least it wasn't a wedding dress that got ruined this time.
J L 11 months ago
lol NTA. That crazy teen did not want to have anything to do with you, you have ZERO relationship with her, and ZERO responsibilities to her. You tried to be nice, but she was being a major b**ch, so too bad, so sad. Now she has to deal with dad's new GF who gives her a taste of its own medicine. KARMA is a b**ch lol
Surly Scot 11 months ago
Kid's just an a-hole who wants to drive every woman away from daddy so she can have him all to herself. She needed physical reprimanding as she was being raised, giving her this much leeway has turned her into a little c*nt who severely needs punched. I'd file a restraining order on her for extra effect for coming to my workplace. Little psycho. Her father also needs a punch for being a piece of sh*t of a parent and partner. OP's better off not knowing them. Good on Jane the new GF for being as much of a b*tch back to the kid, that's what the kid needs, put in her damn place.
Schmebulock 11 months ago
As is usually the case this is just another person seeking attention because there is no real debate about her being an AH. I highly doubt the sister told her she was an AH for not supporting an evil teen she has almost no connection with and absolutely no responsibility for. Secondly, I like Jane and she sounds awesome! It's a completely toxic relationship she is in with the ex-bf, but I love her handling of the fucktard teen.
Pyla 11 months ago
This really reads like fiction. I like the Jane character, though. Downvoted due to the YTA stupidity
Reginald 11 months ago
Most of the “AITA” on Reddit are fiction. People starved for upvotes, or just AI
Load More Replies... patricia patricia 11 months ago
Tia is hurting? Ohhhhhh, I'm sooooo soooorry. That's exactly what she deserves. She's not a kid. It's high time she learnt actions have consequences. She's only hurting because she can't manipulate daddy's new girlfriend. She sounds like an entitled brat.
Broadredpanda 11 months ago
What about what’s happened throughout her life? The dad just introduced another “f**k buddy” within eight weeks without dealing with his daughter. Somethings not right and he took his daughter to the ex because she’s everyone else’s problem and not his🤷♀️ you’re all f***ed in the head that you’re not judging daddy dearest!!! Idiots
Load More Replies... Mari 11 months ago
She is a teenager, she has to take the consequences of her behaviour BUT also she is just a teenager who needs someone to talk to. Even if she don't derserves your time, just listen. You don't have to give any advise or a solution, just let her calm down and it is up to her dad to find a solution.
patricia patricia 11 months ago
Why should OP waste her time? The girl is clearly getting what she deserves.
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