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“Went To Cinema, Got Called ‘Negative’ For Asking 3 People To Stop Talking And Using Their Phones”
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“Went To Cinema, Got Called ‘Negative’ For Asking 3 People To Stop Talking And Using Their Phones”

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Dane Cook once called the movies cinematic adventures. And, honestly, that is a very good way of approaching them.

Cinematic adventures entail a sense of personal growth and excitement. It doesn’t allow the experience of watching a movie to be dumbed down to a visual medium of consumption. It’s something more than just watching a screen for a few hours.

And as such, cinematic adventures—and everyone’s experience of them—ought to be respected. So, if you see anyone talking or using a phone during such an adventure, please be a knight in shining armor and bring them to cinematic justice.

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Watching movies is an experience. One that can be easily ruined by folks who think cinema etiquette is overrated and choose to ignore it

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Well, this one Redditor chose not to deal with those who chose barbarism and told them to shut it (more or less politely) only to be told they’re “negative”

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Image credits: u/deathcastle

The cinematic experience was ruined in the end, though the Redditor’s efforts did at least soften the blow for his friends who were first-time watchers of the movie

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Image credits: Samuel Regan- Asante (not the actual photo)

A Redditor by the nickname of u/deathcastle recently shared a story of mild fury in the appropriately named r/mildlyinfuriating subreddit.

The story goes that he, his wife and two friends went to a fancy movie theater to watch that new Barbie movie. They happened to be seated next to a group of 3 younger folk, somewhere in their twenties.

All was fine and dandy until the trailers started, yet the young ‘un group kept blabbering away at a regular tone and volume—as if the cinematic adventure hadn’t started. OP took notice of it, but didn’t react just yet. Maybe they’d calm down for the movie.

Nope. They kept on doing their thing, talking the movie away and pecking at their phones, violating the sanctity of the cinema and all that it stands for. This is the point where OP decided that maybe they needed to be reminded of where they were. This seemed to be effective… for probably 2 or 3 minutes. After that, the chatterboxes continued with their regularly scheduled three dudes talking podcast.

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Once again, OP turned to the group, now side-kicked by his wife, and they both told them to shut their noise holes. The group didn’t take that one lightly and came back with what’s your problem? and saying the dude was, like, killing the vibe with his negativity.

Now, OP seemed to immediately understand where this was going and cut to the chase: he went straight to the cinema staff to explain the situation and see if they could do something about it.

Well, that seemed to have solved the problem. Mostly. While the group was now more or less quiet, they did manage to ruin some key moments in the cinematic adventure and did some vibe killing of their own with chatting and that one forgot to mute my phone, sorry-not sorry moment.

Image credits: Tima Miroshnichenko (not the actual photo)

This was OP’s second viewing of the movie while it was his friends’ first, and he served as a sort of buffer between the two parties well enough to not have the experience be ruined for the friends, but OP still found it upsetting. Hence the post on Reddit.

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And folks in the community shared the sentiment. Everyone and their mother agreed that it’s absolutely annoying, nay, infuriating to experience talkers during movies. So much, in fact, that some choose not to go to the movies at all at this point.

Others, however, take matters into their own hands and do what OP did, except with an increased degree of efficiency through what I would assume is intimidation. And if they are not the ones asking chatters to shut the full cup, then it’s someone else—like this teen with jewels of steel who took some inconsiderate guy’s business call, told the guy at the other end they’d be contacted at a time following the cinematic adventure, and hung up, returning the phone to the guy. Silence was bliss.

All of this begged a very legit question: why pay top dollar for a movie ticket if they’ll end up ignoring most, if not all, of it with chatter and gawking at their phone? Many considered it an utter waste of money. Probably time and everyone’s patience too.

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Image credits: Krists Luhaers (not the actual photo)

Bored Panda got in touch with OP for an interview on the situation and how it all panned out. The post on Reddit was a form of casual catharsis that, as you can see, drew the eyes of many.

OP explained that he never sought out to take revenge on the obnoxious talkers—just to have them pipe down and let everyone else enjoy the movie. And OP wouldn’t settle for anything less than no talking:  “No talking, period. It’s crazy that this is even a question to anyone. Respect the people around you who paid to see the movie—they didn’t pay to hear your dumb [shirt] conversation.”

Now, OP’s party and the party of 3 speech-craftians weren’t the only ones there (d’uh). So, we asked OP if anyone else reacted to the scene developing in their part of the cinema. And he had this to say:

“There were people sitting in front, and behind us, but I didn’t take the opportunity to see whether they were also bothered by the prats. My aim was to enjoy the movie, so after the altercation I went straight back to doing exactly that.”

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OP concluded: “Posting it to Reddit was a great outcome—received overwhelmingly lovely comments and messages from others who also vented their frustrations, and hopefully achieved some level of catharsis as well. There were a tiny amount of fragile men who seemed very bothered that I, a man—enjoyed the Barbie movie. Losers!”

Image credits: Personal Creations (not the actual photo)

Let’s consider movie theater etiquette for a bit. While anyone can agree that it’s not polite to tell anyone to give their vocal chords a rest, it’s equally impolite to be talking or on the phone in a movie theater because it’s ruining it for everyone.

There’s this thing called Debrett’s Cinema Etiquette, released by Debrett’s, a British professional coaching company, publisher and authority on etiquette and behavior. It highlights 5 key rules for how to behave yourself in a cinema:

[1] don’t kick the seat in front of you; [2] don’t talk or whisper during the movie; [3] keep back-row seat romance to an absolute minimum; [4] be there on time; and [5] don’t be making that snack noise.

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A spokesperson from Debrett’s pointed out that, over the last few years, experts see an overall decline in cinema etiquette. This in turn can be a real pain and can seriously ruin the fun of going to the cinema.

Turns out, the #1 problem—expressed by nearly half of all movie-goers—is seat kicking. Nearly 15% of cinematic adventure enthusiasts explained that they hate folks blocking the view, and the third biggest problem, expressed by around 12% of folks, is the phone. Now, nearly 4 out of 10 people are happy to discipline complete strangers if they happen to break any of these rules, but note that rule breaking shouldn’t even be a thing in the first place. By proxy, that would be a problem solved.

But, back to the story. In just under a day, nearly 30,000 people upvoted the post. You can check it out in context here. But before you do that, why not vent your frustrations in the comment section below, or alternatively share some pleasant cinematic adventure moments? Or movie recommendations! Those are good too.

The story landed in Reddit where the community shared their sympathies, frustrations and the mystery of why people pay for movies if they’re not gonna watch them

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Robertas Lisickis

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Some time ago, Robertas used to spend his days watching how deep the imprint in his chair will become as he wrote for Bored Panda. Wrote about pretty much everything under and beyond the sun. Not anymore, though. He's now probably playing Gwent or hosting Dungeons and Dragons adventures for those with an inclination for chaos.

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Robertas Lisickis

Robertas Lisickis

Writer, BoredPanda staff

Some time ago, Robertas used to spend his days watching how deep the imprint in his chair will become as he wrote for Bored Panda. Wrote about pretty much everything under and beyond the sun. Not anymore, though. He's now probably playing Gwent or hosting Dungeons and Dragons adventures for those with an inclination for chaos.

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Monika Pašukonytė

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I am a visual editor here. In my free time I enjoy the vibrant worlds of art galleries, exhibitions, and soulful concerts. Yet, amidst life's hustle and bustle, I find solace in nature's embrace, cherishing tranquil moments with beloved friends. Deep within, I hold a dream close - to embark on a global journey in an RV, accompanied by my faithful canine companion. Together, we'll wander through diverse cultures, weaving precious memories under the starry night sky, fulfilling the wanderlust that stirs my soul.

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Monika Pašukonytė

Monika Pašukonytė

Author, BoredPanda staff

I am a visual editor here. In my free time I enjoy the vibrant worlds of art galleries, exhibitions, and soulful concerts. Yet, amidst life's hustle and bustle, I find solace in nature's embrace, cherishing tranquil moments with beloved friends. Deep within, I hold a dream close - to embark on a global journey in an RV, accompanied by my faithful canine companion. Together, we'll wander through diverse cultures, weaving precious memories under the starry night sky, fulfilling the wanderlust that stirs my soul.

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deanna woods
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I haven't been to the movies in a long time. They have gotten so incredibly expensive and the experience is not always enjoyable. I don't understand why people feel the need to talk so loud and use their phone while they are watching a movie. If you can't watch a movie without being on your phone, then you need to wait until the movie is on some sort of streaming service and watch it from your house. The "negative vibe" comment just sounds totally childish and immature and it doesn't make any sense. Our local movie theater is a pretty good place and all of this conversation about movies is making me want to go see a movie.

Hokuloa
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1 year ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

That’s on the theater for not booting the 3 patrons. This is exactly why I don’t go to cinemas anymore despite being a huge fan of film. People act atrociously in cinemas (and theaters in general) now. I’d rather get a less than ideal but “pure” first time experience viewing at home, rather than have a film ruined by juvenile antics.

Ken Beattie
Community Member
1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I've got to say it's pretty rare in my experience to encounter people who are as obnoxious as the ones in this story. It's quite awhile since I've even seen people take a call/text quietly in a movie let along selfies and whatever other nonsense these ones were doing.

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Nadia Montera
Community Member
1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

This is why (in addition to the pop corn and chips bags noises) I don't go to the cinema anymore

bbfa
Community Member
1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I'll add this is why I don't see concerts any more. $200++ just to see nothing but cellphone screens everywhere in front of your face blinding you. People watch the whole thing through their phones - just stay home and watch it on TV, then. They all think they are going to get that special shot for social media - just like 40,000 other people times dozens of stadiums. Just enjoy the show.

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deanna woods
Community Member
1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I haven't been to the movies in a long time. They have gotten so incredibly expensive and the experience is not always enjoyable. I don't understand why people feel the need to talk so loud and use their phone while they are watching a movie. If you can't watch a movie without being on your phone, then you need to wait until the movie is on some sort of streaming service and watch it from your house. The "negative vibe" comment just sounds totally childish and immature and it doesn't make any sense. Our local movie theater is a pretty good place and all of this conversation about movies is making me want to go see a movie.

Hokuloa
Community Member
1 year ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

That’s on the theater for not booting the 3 patrons. This is exactly why I don’t go to cinemas anymore despite being a huge fan of film. People act atrociously in cinemas (and theaters in general) now. I’d rather get a less than ideal but “pure” first time experience viewing at home, rather than have a film ruined by juvenile antics.

Ken Beattie
Community Member
1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I've got to say it's pretty rare in my experience to encounter people who are as obnoxious as the ones in this story. It's quite awhile since I've even seen people take a call/text quietly in a movie let along selfies and whatever other nonsense these ones were doing.

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Nadia Montera
Community Member
1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

This is why (in addition to the pop corn and chips bags noises) I don't go to the cinema anymore

bbfa
Community Member
1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I'll add this is why I don't see concerts any more. $200++ just to see nothing but cellphone screens everywhere in front of your face blinding you. People watch the whole thing through their phones - just stay home and watch it on TV, then. They all think they are going to get that special shot for social media - just like 40,000 other people times dozens of stadiums. Just enjoy the show.

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