Man’s About To Marry His Sister’s Bully, Father Refuses To Give Her His Grandmother’s Heirloom Veil And Causes Family Drama
Interview With AuthorThe movie trope enemies to lovers is quite predictable, but people still enjoy watching it. But it doesn’t seem to happen very often in real life, because it can be hard to change your opinion about a person and bickering all the time is exhausting.
While such a scenario developing in real life might seem unlikely, it still happens and the fictional trope had to draw inspiration from somewhere. A man on Reddit has such a story, but it doesn’t have a happy ending yet and he feels that he may be the culprit of the drama.
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Dad promised that his kids could borrow his grandmother’s veil for their weddings but when he found out who his son was marrying, he changed his mind
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The Original Poster (OP) is a dad to two grown-up children, Caleb and Anna. It seems that his relationship with his wife is very complicated because he is aware she is cheating and is actually allowing her because their marriage was a modern version of an arranged marriage, but they still keep in touch.
Anna is 24 years old and Caleb is 5 years older. The dad described the siblings’ relationship as close up until Caleb fell in love with her middle school bully.
Anna was bullied from ages 12 through 18 by this girl, Violet, who was a year older than her. She would bully her verbally, insult her looks, hide her clothes in the locker room, and pour water on her, but it would never get violent and it didn’t continue outside school.
The OP has a daughter and a son named Anna and Caleb who previously got along quite well
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The parents tried to fix the issue, went to school several times, and talked with Violet’s dad, but it seems that didn’t work as the bullying lasted until their last year of school when Violet slept with Anna’s boyfriend.
It’s safe to say that Anna didn’t like Violet, but she was hoping to never see her again after school and forget the school traumas. Little did she know that her brother’s amazing job opportunity that everyone was encouraging him to take was in Violet dad’s company.
Everyone found that out only later, but weren’t too worried, because Caleb hated Violet, even though he knew that she was the boss’ daughter. Violet didn’t like Caleb working there either because she knew he was the brother of the girl she used to bully at school.
Caleb is getting married soon so his mom gave his fiancée Violet his great-grandmother’s veil
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The two of them would bicker all the time but turns out that Caleb actually enjoyed that and he was starting to like Violet. One day, the older brother sat down with his family and “laughed and said we weren’t going to be happy. Then kind of made excuses about how she is so irresponsible it isn’t his fault. Anna didn’t say much,” as the dad told Bored Panda.
At first he didn’t tell anyone because of Violet’s history with Anna and because he didn’t think the relationship would last, but they’ve been together for 2.5 years and their wedding date is already set.
The dad didn’t like the idea of his DIL being his daughter’s school bully. He also told us that at that moment when Caleb introduced his girlfriend to the family, he “felt like [he’d] been punched in the gut and felt [he’d] failed as a father.”
Violet did apologize to Anna and the younger sister didn’t make a huge deal out of it. However, Caleb didn’t like the bullying being brought up because Violet didn’t have a stable childhood and has her own traumas, which the man didn’t reveal to his dad.
The problem is that Violet was Anna’s school bully and she felt hurt that Violet will marry in a family heirloom
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If Violet becoming part of the family wasn’t enough, OP’s wife gave her his grandmother’s designer veil with a unique pattern that Violet already matched with her wedding dress. The dad didn’t know that his wife gave his DIL the veil, but he did previously say that his children will be able to borrow it for their weddings.
When Anna found out, she said that it felt hurtful to give something that belonged to her family to her school bully even though she was his brother’s future wife, so the OP decided to take back the veil.
So the dad took back the veil, making both Caleb and his future wife really angry
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The Redditor told Bored Panda, “Violet didn’t have a reaction except for handing it to me. She doesn’t really speak to Anna or I.” Caleb, however, had a very strong reaction and even uninvited his dad from his wedding.
The OP’s wife also thought the dad was wrong for taking back the veil and accused him of favoring Anna. The OP knows that Caleb has never seemed happier before and knows that his wife’s side of the family has been inclined to have depression, but he couldn’t help but understand Anna’s feelings as well.
Even though the veil belonged to the OP’s grandmother, the wife still threatened to secretly take it and bring it to the wedding. However, the dad isn’t afraid she will actually do it because he’s confident she won’t be able to find it and understandably, he didn’t give information where it could be hidden.
His wife accused the OP of favoring Anna, and Caleb uninvited his dad from the wedding
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However, being accused of favoring one child made the dad doubt his actions, so he came to Reddit to receive the evaluation of the situation from an onlooker’s perspective. He also told us, “We don’t have any extended family. My wife’s been complaining to her friends who think I’m cruel. I know Violet’s dad is furious but I haven’t talked to anyone personally about it.”
We asked if people’s comments helped in any way and the OP revealed that the response made him realize he “had made the right decision. [He] was worried it would be split but the comments were almost unanimous.”
It is true that most of the comments supported the dad and understood how Anna may be feeling. We are interested to know how you would have handled the situation and if you think the OP is wrong for defending Anna. Let us know in the comments.
People in the comments were on the dad’s side because it’s his heirloom, so he should give it to only those who he thinks deserve it
It sounds to me like Violet and Anna need to be alone together and work things out with each other before moving on to a wedding. I couldn't imagine my bully becoming my sister in law. Maybe Violet had trauma but so did Anna, and if they don't address it head on it will always be the elephant the room. They need a day or a couple of days alone together to talk and learn how to reconcile their past together before anything else. The veil is only covering up much deeper issues.
I agree. I think i will carry a bit of hate against my bullies with me forever but i have seen people changing. I would not forgive them by 100% but if they treat me and others well today, along with an apology, i think i could accept them in my life. But the bully has to accept my boundaries (like not using the family heirloom until i eventually agree)
Load More Replies...I'm betting less than three years and they'll both blame the daughter for it.
Load More Replies...I'm torn. On the one hand people can change, you have to be an adult about it and forgive your bully. On the other hand...I'm still smiling at the memory of my bully having an accident and breaking her two front teeth in the classroom. And it's been over 30 years.
You never have to forgive your bully/bullies or their enablers. Being an adult about it means that violet needs to understand that she isn’t owed forgiveness, but she owes an apology
Load More Replies...It sounds to me like Violet and Anna need to be alone together and work things out with each other before moving on to a wedding. I couldn't imagine my bully becoming my sister in law. Maybe Violet had trauma but so did Anna, and if they don't address it head on it will always be the elephant the room. They need a day or a couple of days alone together to talk and learn how to reconcile their past together before anything else. The veil is only covering up much deeper issues.
I agree. I think i will carry a bit of hate against my bullies with me forever but i have seen people changing. I would not forgive them by 100% but if they treat me and others well today, along with an apology, i think i could accept them in my life. But the bully has to accept my boundaries (like not using the family heirloom until i eventually agree)
Load More Replies...I'm betting less than three years and they'll both blame the daughter for it.
Load More Replies...I'm torn. On the one hand people can change, you have to be an adult about it and forgive your bully. On the other hand...I'm still smiling at the memory of my bully having an accident and breaking her two front teeth in the classroom. And it's been over 30 years.
You never have to forgive your bully/bullies or their enablers. Being an adult about it means that violet needs to understand that she isn’t owed forgiveness, but she owes an apology
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