the next time you're watching the sun rise, you'll know what's also heading your way.

A lot of women won't compliment a man because they're worried their kindness will be mistaken for sexual interest. Which is a sorry situation for everyone.

Thank you

Well, growing up in a southern country town here in the U.S. A lot of my female friends never wore makeup and were more interested in shooting sports. They were always the most beautiful when they were just doing what they wanted and not focusing on their appearance. We had beauty pagents and stuff, high school girls that were obsessed with looks and all, but I never saw the appeal of that. They looked much better natural with the confidence that they were more than their appearance.

Fix-it-ability, like any other skill, requires training. It's not instinctual.

Most times it's easier just to let it go ..... No drama. Failing that a good fist fight solves most petty squabbles.

I make no secret about this. My greatest dream has always been to have someone to share my life with.

Literally just enjoying existence in the moment

I can confirm. Sometimes you just don't want to get out of bed or do something because you just can't.

Men physically have more muscle cells.

Yup.

Well we're told to "man up" or whatever from such a young age, it's not even not knowing why we feel a certain way. It's not even understanding what we're feeling.

Well, I'm a woman, not so young anymore, and sometimes I still don't know why I feel a certain way.

Men and women are equally capable of empathy and emotions, but men are told they aren't supposed to engage with that, and so they are typically very stunted. It's like learning a new language, you can't expect to be able to understand it without practice

That's true for everyone no?

The only emotion that's really safe for boys and men is anger, so when we have anything other than anger we struggle.

we weren't raised to pick apart and analyze and then label our feelings. so yes we feel, a lot, but we can't say exactly what.

As boys we are taught to deny our emotions, fear, sadness, anger, even affection are all no nos. For many of us, the way we learn to deal with emotions is by detaching from them. So it’s not surprising that so many of us have trouble understanding our own emotions. How am I supposed to know what I’m feeling when I was always told that I shouldn’t feel anything at all?

I find it easier to explain my emotional state by comparing to physical sensations, rage feels like being on fire, sorrow feels like being stabbed in the heart, depression feels like weights holding me down, and joy feels like electricity flowing through me.

This is actually because men are not told what depression and anxiety really are. They are brought up believing that depression is this massive crushing suicidal feeling and anxiety is a massive panic attack that sends you insane. Not that they are have many levels.

I needed years of therapy to understand why I feel a certain way

Males are taught by society, and sometimes by their own parents, that being sensitive and understanding is not masculine, and they have to suppress their feelings so they won't appear "soft" and many men don't possess the ability to define emotions, much less understand why they're feeling something.

Really? I come from a family of girls. I have a 17-year-old son. I would insist that everything has a reason when he tells me he feels a certain way. Now, I find out that men can ACTUALLY not know the reason?

My experience is that most people (men or women) don't know why we are have the emotions we are having. At least not in the moment. Otherwise we wouldn't need therapists

we can usually figure it out if we analise it enough over a few says.

yep. we arent overthinking in general. mostly we're just wondering what's wrong with the car.

I would think this applies to all people, not just men? 🤷🏼‍♂️

We're like dogs really! We'd like nothing more than to curl up on the sofa, head on your lap, and get stroked while we doze.

And somehow, we are all born with the knowledge of these rules.

Because if they wanted us to know, they'd tell us.

Actually, most of us chaps who managed to get to being a grown up (at whatever age) want precisely that, some of us are actually an ickle bit romantic too x

So, knowing this, why wouldn't you (a woman) say what you mean? why play games? why want them to read your mind? why getting pissed at them for something you saw in your sleep? And after all, complain about not having proper communication... This is not always the case, but i have seen it over and over between many couples

I have no idea what this person is talking about.

Doesn't everyone do this? 😅

He was being nice. He realises. And it's weird, because the minute you're in a relationship as a guy, it seems women start throwing themselves at you. Whether it's because without the nerves of chatting up you notice signals more, or that being in a relationship makes you more attractive to women, I really have no idea.

We can, more than we're given credit for actually lol (I do acknowledge however that it's not all of us).

The man in the photo is leading the woman up to the edge of an erupting volcano. We do that stuff all the time.

I honestly would love this-

ProTip: take heed of surroundings -- do not stumble over walkway obstructions.

Um... that's what "The Shake" is for.