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When something good happens in your life, you want to share it with your friends, you confide in them when you are having a rough period in your life and you are there for their joys and troubles. Friends are necessary for people to be happy, but somehow we manage to call people our friends who don’t really care about us or hang around just because they know they can use us.

Somehow it is hard to tell when you’re the only one putting effort into the relationship and are not receiving anything for what you give. Every friendship is different, so you need to evaluate whether the friendship brings you more happiness or hurt to determine whether it is worth keeping in touch with that person.

Redditors shared their own stories of what happened between them and their friends that led them to realize their relationship wasn’t as strong as they thought. Even though it probably wasn’t easy, in the end, they certainly benefited from the breakup.

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30 Instances Friendships Ended Because Folks Realized Their Friends Weren’t Actually Their Friends When my father passed NONE of my friends showed up to the funeral. It was an hour and a half away so when they made up excuses not to come I said I understood (I didn't).

Surprisingly two of my neighbors that I barely know showed up. I'm friend with them now.

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Emerald Ocean
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Wow… those friends were the worst kind. They couldn’t even be there for you in one of the lowest points of your life. RIP your father

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    30 Instances Friendships Ended Because Folks Realized Their Friends Weren’t Actually Their Friends She was one of my best friends, I guess. She was a self-centered drunk, but had some good qualities. We were talking on the phone one day, and she rambled on and on about her stupid, lazy co-workers. Then I told her I was afraid I was starting to relapse (life-threatening illness I thought I was over). She sighed and said "....AND? What's that to ME?" She was bored and wanted to talk about herself. When I got off the phone I emailed her a "Dear Karen" letter, saying don't ever contact me again. She didn't, and I didn't either. And I wasn't relapsing after all, thank God.

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    Nikki Sevven
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    2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I've lost more friends who have just, without a word, dropped out of my life because they couldn't handle the fact that I'm disabled. While it sucks not having close friends, it's better than wasting time on people who don't care about you.

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    #3

    30 Instances Friendships Ended Because Folks Realized Their Friends Weren’t Actually Their Friends I decided to throw a Super Bowl party a few years ago. I went out a bought a new grill and mounted a tv in the kitchen for people who wanted to hang out and snack while watching the game. Had tons of food and beer ready. 30 minutes before kickoff I got a text that the whole group decided to go to someone else’s house and that I should bring all my food and beer over there. Needles to say, I didn’t go, and I haven’t thrown a party at my house since.

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    Sweetpotato314
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    2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Wow, that's so freaking rude! I hope OP dumped those friends and found some genuine ones.

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    30 Instances Friendships Ended Because Folks Realized Their Friends Weren’t Actually Their Friends Was a cop wife for twenty years. When you divorce you not only lose your cop family, you evidently lose your best friend who is married to a cop. I learned a valuable lesson. Friendships built on a common thread last only as long as that thread remains. Heartbreaking.

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    mind yours
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    2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    this sucks of the "friend" and also don't marry a cop until after you google the rate of domestic violence in marriages to cops

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    30 Instances Friendships Ended Because Folks Realized Their Friends Weren’t Actually Their Friends Tried to invite them to an event I go to every year. Day of I go by myself and find out weeks later they went as a group without me.

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    Viola Fö
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    2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Don't get offended by what I'm about to say. But I get this a lot. Something happens with a friend and everyone's standard answer is just dump them. They're not real friends. A. It's hard to dump all of your friends. Bc it still hurts to lose all your friends simultaneously or just one. It's like a breakup just more painful. I had a friend for 15 years we don't speak now but she was a good friend to me. And it hurt when we parted.

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    NotMe
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    2 years ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    In highschool I had a group of friends that all wanted to skip class and go hang out at the mall. I didn't want to skip, and convinced another of my friends to go to class first and then we could go to the mall (we weren't in the same class). We both did attend our classes, but she got out a little sooner than me, and when I was starting to walk to the school yard where they were waiting for us, I saw them just starting to go without me. They didn't wait for me, didn't think of me at all. I actually passed right by them on the street and they didn't even notice. That day I realized I wasn't part of the group. From then, I never made any effort to hang out with them. Probably no big loss but it still kinda hurts. Sorry for talking about me, this post reminded me of that time.

    Rosie Hamilton
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    2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Talk away! I'm glad you shared. All too many of us have painful experiences like this. Where we weren't wanted or considered. No, they were not real friends but you didn't know that until that day and of course it hurts.. We all want to be liked for who we are. Our people are out there though! It can just take time to find them. Joining groups where you share interests and social groups on places like MeetUp - they've helped me.

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    Louise B
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    2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Urgh!! Horrible. How can someone do something so hurtful? It might not feel like it now,, but ultimately you win because you no longer have these poisonous people in your life. The best revenge is living well.

    Robert Minichino
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    2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    My daughter had suggested that her group of friends all go kayaking. They went without her. She could not even tell you what they are up to because she ended it with all of them.

    Chanya Roye
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    2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    If they all don't want to hang out with you..... Maybe you're not the great friend you think you are. Either way, it seems you are better off without each other.

    Mine Truly
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    2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Yeah, I don't want to blame the victim here, but... While it's likely OP is a decent person with shitty friends, it's also possible OP is a flaky person/chronically late/super annoying/violates boundaries/hurt someone in the group. Something like this calls for some self-reflection... "Was it me or them?" I've been dumped from groups before, and I've come to realize how pushy, annoying, and unable to read the atmosphere I was. Now I'm much better at being present. Of course, it also may be the case that OP is totally fine and the friends are shitty. I have no idea which way it will go.

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    Misty-Dawn Amayi
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    2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    This could have been me writing this post. I wanted to go to a very special place my stepdad and I were going to go together before he passed away. Since I'm disabled, I couldn't make the trip alone, so I asked three longstanding friends to go with me. They basically hijacked the entire trip, and they went together with their other friends and without me.

    Kevin Fest
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    2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I think that the most important lesson is to love yourself and stop worrying about what others do. In the end when it involves other people you eventually are just disappointed. People are people nothing will ever change that. What hurts more being lonely or finding out that the people you thought were your friends....aren't.

    Adalind Schade
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    2 years ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I invited my friends to the movies and they said they couldn't go that day......turns out they just wanted to go without me and still went on that time and day only reason I found out was because they accidentally slipped up in front of me.

    Marita Berndt
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    2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Weird. What sort of people do you hang out with- did you hang out with?

    Astral Lopithecus
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    2 years ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    We don't know the whole story though, you might have done something that made them uncomfortable or maybe you lack a sense of self-awareness and they couldn't break it to you since you might get aggressive and they decided instead to not let you know for the group. I know that it's hurtful but still, there's always a reason right? Eitherway, both ends might have done something wrong.

    John Cordova
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    2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    In all honesty it seems as if we are only getting half the story in all of these. What if the OP was a rude bigoted a*s. I wouldn't want to go with them either

    Giulia Belfiore
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    2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Same exacr thing happened to me. I haven't spoke ti any of them ever since.

    Jean Yselle
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    2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Maybe you are the problem and they find it difficult to hang out with you? 2 sides to a story...

    Hard as pumpuli
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    2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Happened to me ’cause I did’t drink as much as they all did. I don’t see them anymore.

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    Jane Evil
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    2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I’ve had this happen in the past couple of years with friends I thought were suppose to be some of my best friends … So Now, if there is any event, concert etc I want to go to - I just go by myself ! That way I don’t have to worry about anyone else .

    Agentblackbetty
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    2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    This is why I don't care anymore. It's only when like minded people meet or are already friends that it works, especially when you are a non judgemental person.

    Becca Hauck
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    2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    This is a little different but... In high school my best friend and I were really into reggae music and my one year older sister wasn't (bestie was sister's age). Rule in our family was that if you had a babysitting job, you couldn't cancel without a genuine emergency unless you found a suitable replacement. My sister asked me to babysit on her behalf and I agreed. Then found out that sister and bestie had plans to go to a reggae concert that I just found out about. I wasn't allowed to cancel the babysitting job. Later realized that sister and bestie only hung out when it would really hurt me. Bestie later tried to get my kids taken away so that we could be college roommates as my kids were taking up too much of my attention. Sister realized she couldn't have kids and decided the best deal all around was for her to have my kids and me to go be a college roommate. Haven't spoken to bestie since.

    Leoninus Fate
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    2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    basically everything on this list has happened to me with friends or family, my sis is the only person to stick with me so far....

    SAF saf
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    2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    This needs more info, it sounds like they went out of there way to exclude you.

    Paul Godly
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    2 years ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Ok, there f****n stories sound all the same, ; "My friends decided to suck d**k without me, Knowing I'm the best nut-gobbler in the area, Now I'm sad, thought I still licked the same d**k they did." There you go

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    #6

    30 Instances Friendships Ended Because Folks Realized Their Friends Weren’t Actually Their Friends My wife and I had a small wedding. I didn’t invite a ton of people but I invited 15 or so friends. Besides my best man, only one showed up. What’s worse is that all these people said they were coming. I no longer put effort towards those friendships.

    EDIT: I’ve struggled with social anxiety my whole life. These “friends” were all people I met at work. I work at a big company and this was the first time I actually had friends. I wouldn’t call any of them super close but I thought they were at least close enough to come to my wedding as they always talked about coming and would comment saying that I better invite them. I worked on several different teams then and most of them didn’t know each other. I don’t think it was intentional. I just think I misinterpreted what true friends are. I was more of a casual friend to them than they were to me. I did wonder if I did something wrong and it made me feel pretty awful for a while, but as someone who didn’t have experience with friendships I think I just invited people who didn’t really value me as much as I value them.

    I hope that makes sense. I definitely looked back at my behavior, and like I said, I wondered for the longest time if I had did something wrong, if it was my fault.

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    Zophra
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    2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I have made this mistake of thinking a "work friend" is a closer friend then I am to them. Painful and a bit humiliating.

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    30 Instances Friendships Ended Because Folks Realized Their Friends Weren’t Actually Their Friends An easy answer for me.

    One year I had a sleepover party with a bunch of childhood friends from the neighborhood as a teen. It was really fun and I invited 15 or so kids, had to convince my parents and spent a ton of money to make it perfect for everyone. We went swimming in the pool, played dodgeball, kickball, had tons of food, had a nerf gun war, played pool, played video games, and watched movies. It was a blast and everyone was clearly enjoying themselves.

    Then they tried to watch a horror movie that my parents would [end] me if I saw it, and I objected for a while before reluctantly putting it on. I hated horror movies, too, but I wanted them to have fun. It was like 1 in the morning.

    They got bored during the movie and asked if we could all go to the clubhouse (I lived in a gated community with a public clubhouse at the time) to meet up some girls in the middle of the night. I said that my parents would never let it happen and that I didn't want to get caught, so I told them we couldn't go. After that, about 5 of them left at like 2-3 am to go without me. They said they'd be "right back" and that "one of them needed their medicine so they went to get it." Within the hour, everyone was gone except me.

    I was crushed, and too embarrassed to tell my parents, so I finally put on the movie *I* wanted to watch before going to sleep. In the morning my parents were furious because over a dozen kids that they had promised their parents would be at their house had disappeared without a traced. Sad and tired me had to call all of them to figure out where they were and let all of their parents know that they didn't spend the night. Even though my parents made me do it, a lot of them got mad at me for that. The worst part by far was figuring out that they had all went to a different kid's house to spend the night after leaving mine.

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    #8

    30 Instances Friendships Ended Because Folks Realized Their Friends Weren’t Actually Their Friends I opened up to him about my mental health issues, and after a day or two he messaged me saying he couldn't have that kind of negativity in his life. This was literally the first and only time I told anyone about it.

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    Raven DeathShade
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    2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I told a dude (over text) that I had severe mental health issues that can really affect my friendships. He thanked me for letting him know and told me that it's okay. That's how a good person reacts. Not all this nonsense.

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    30 Instances Friendships Ended Because Folks Realized Their Friends Weren’t Actually Their Friends He was physically and psychologically abusing to me for years. It took a long time for me to see that even though he was “joking” it was just flat out abuse.

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    Best friend of nearly 10 years expected me to travel halfway across the world and take a month off from work to stay with her (and her boyfriend) so that we could go to Oktoberfest and maybe do other things. However, when the time came, she refused to make any concrete plans, but still insisted that I apply for a visa and book my tickets anyway. Note that at this stage she hadn’t even confirmed the dates and had not spoken to her boyfriend about the possibility of my staying there for a month. She never initiated the conversation and very rarely answered my texts/calls. At some point I called her out on it, demanded that she show some interest on her part considering how I would be making a significant financial investment if I had decided to go through with the plan. She told me she was busy and that she would call me back. She never did.

    One day I simply had enough, blocked her on all social media and haven’t talked to her since. All relationships require effort. If people care, they will show you they care.

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    Wendy Wiseman
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    2 years ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Sounds like me traveling across the Atlantic to spend my birthday with my so-called BFF, and she ditched me to baby sit her kid & the kids friend and her bosses dogs to hang out with her new boyfriend and also wouldn't return my calls or texts on when she was returning but could check into FB in some bar or other.

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    #11

    30 Instances Friendships Ended Because Folks Realized Their Friends Weren’t Actually Their Friends When I was hanging out with my real friends and felt at ease and calm with them.

    Made me realize that my other friends gave me anxiety.

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    30 Instances Friendships Ended Because Folks Realized Their Friends Weren’t Actually Their Friends My husband and I went on vacation with her and her husband. My husband and I did some gambling and won a decent amount of money. They did not gamble at all. When we got back I found out they had told everyone how much of a b***h I was because I had not offered to pay for their half of the vacation with my gambling winnings. When I confronted her she did not deny it. I didn’t want to be friends with someone that thought money played into our friendship or that talked like that behind my back.

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    2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    A cousin of mine is quite lucky with his online bets and that. When he gets very lucky, he always gives my mum a few pound from his winnings. Kind of like a "share the wealth" or a "good lucks penny." He would give a few very close family members a little share, nothing major though. I know a few people who do that, only a few though! But thats about it lol nothing extravagant lol i personally would never expect a penny from someone else's winnings. Thats theirs and happy days for them i say 😁

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    30 Instances Friendships Ended Because Folks Realized Their Friends Weren’t Actually Their Friends Not me, but the kid who vandalized my house and car.

    After someone threw eggs and rocks at my house, and finished with a rock through my windshield, I left the car parked next to the street with a big poster on it with "Reward for information" on it.

    Within hours the kid's friends turned him in for $10 each.

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    #14

    30 Instances Friendships Ended Because Folks Realized Their Friends Weren’t Actually Their Friends They don't contact me at all unless I go out of my way to contact them first. They find any reason to not hang out. They claim we're good friends but it just feels like they just want to be able to say that I'm a friend without doing anything to *be* a friend

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    Strawberry Pizza
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    2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    this isn't about the text post but what exactly does that photo have to do with this lol

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    30 Instances Friendships Ended Because Folks Realized Their Friends Weren’t Actually Their Friends When I realized that everything I did for them, they totally took for granted and advantage of most of the time. Like going out to eat I would usually pay because I used to make more then her but when she got a better job she still expected me to pay all the time. Nope

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    Alexia
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    2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I had such a "friend". I offered her all the emotional support when her fiance dumped her. She literally used to cry in my arms. I patiently listened to all her complaints and venting about her ex. I joined her in vacations so that she wouldn't feel alone and miserable. 2 years after, she finds someone else and gets married. I happened to go through a difficult period then (I was hospitalized), but she didn't care to give me a call. I really needed to talk to someone but she was not interested and even snapped at me a few times. One night we both went out to a restaurant. The waiter casually asked her about me: "Is she your best friend?" to which she calmly replied "No, she's not my friend." I was dumbfounded. She later explained to me that I shouldn't be upset about what she said to the waiter, because she never had any real friends. To this day, she is still wondering "I don't have any friends, nobody wants to be my friend, I wonder why". :))))

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    She sided with her boyfriend when I told her he had made jokes about sexual assault which made me uncomfortable, eventually accused me of lying even though she was there when he made them

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    #17

    30 Instances Friendships Ended Because Folks Realized Their Friends Weren’t Actually Their Friends I used to go out for dinner with some college friends.

    Unlike me, they'd order multiple "call" drinks and *the most expensive* things on the menu.

    Then, when the huge bill arrived, they'd say, "Let's just keep it simple and divide it equally." The guys knew I was paying double or triple what I should have, but that didn't seem to bother them.

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    2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Instant reply..."how about we keep it fair, and each pay for their own?" Or, when they inform the server of this, let him or her know that I will be paying for *my* meal and drinks only.

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    #18

    30 Instances Friendships Ended Because Folks Realized Their Friends Weren’t Actually Their Friends when i decided not to be the friend who always organised things and started conversations. i get no contact on the weekends and during the week, i noticed that if i kept quiet in a conversation, they wouldn't even notice i was there

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    30 Instances Friendships Ended Because Folks Realized Their Friends Weren’t Actually Their Friends With friends on a trip to Japan, drinking one night in Roppongi district. I'm trying to taper off, Karen (no, really, it was her name) keeps putting drinks in front of me, paying the bartender for weird shots for me, but not for anyone else in the group. She's saying really catty s**t, but laughing like it's all good fun, we're pals. She starts saying some pointed stuff that makes me think she's been holding on to some really ugly resentment for awhile. After I'm good and sloshed, she pushes me over to my partner and tells him to grab a taxi and take me back. On the way back to the hotel I look at my partner and say, "I didn't realize until now that Karen hates me." He replied, "She sure seems to." Neither the trip nor the friendship was the same after that night, and I had the worse hangover of my entire life, passed out on the floor of a Tokyo hotel bathroom.

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    #20

    We lived together during our early university years. I was not in a good place when we became friends. A couple years later, I picked myself up, got into really good shape, was accepted into the degree program I wanted and found an extremely awesome job. She said she couldn’t continue being friends with me because I didn’t need her. If you don’t grow together, you grow apart. Years later we were still Facebook “friends”. She deleted me when I got engaged. I noticed and asked her why, she said she didn’t care anymore about anything in my life.

    It took me a long time to get over that last part. No one needs that in their life.

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    Hphizzle
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    2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I think that they were jealous. Even people I don’t really care about get engaged or lose a ton of weight, I think “yay for them”. To actively block people takes effort, meaning there is usually some deeper emotions at play.

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    #21

    30 Instances Friendships Ended Because Folks Realized Their Friends Weren’t Actually Their Friends He ghosted me because he got a girlfriend. I knew it was going to happen, even said so when it happened, but he assured me he wouldn't disappear.

    It's two months and counting since he last texted me.

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    Ansi
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    2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    This is such a typical thing and I hate it! Why? Well, when I found my boyfriend I worked hard on keeping my 18 month friendship going. We did almost everything in three and made sure that she wouldn't feel excluded and/or forgotten. Two weeks in she got a boyfriend of her own and then I didn't hear from her again unless we bumped into her randomly. (Still have my boyfriend/husband though)

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    #22

    30 Instances Friendships Ended Because Folks Realized Their Friends Weren’t Actually Their Friends When they put rocks in my shoes and threw them in the quarry.

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    #23

    30 Instances Friendships Ended Because Folks Realized Their Friends Weren’t Actually Their Friends He got busy with his own life and I got busy with mine, and as much as I tried to keep in touch, he never did the same. I hear from him once in a blue moon, but whenever I try to make plans, he dodges me. I just finally came to the realization that a friendship isn't worth my time if I'm putting in all the effort and getting absolutely nothing back. It's sad, this is a guy I spent most of my young and teenage years with, practically lived at his house. We spent every waking minute together and had so many awesome times. I guess life just had different paths for us both. I don't begrudge him for anything, I don't think he has intentionally cut me out, I think he's just caught up in his own journey. Maybe one day life will bring us back to the same place and we will spend time together again, but maybe not.

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    #24

    30 Instances Friendships Ended Because Folks Realized Their Friends Weren’t Actually Their Friends Our group of around 6 was all out playing basketball except I only found out when I went outside to do errands cuz of how bored I was at home. Not only that but I also heard they came near my place to use our internet to message our other friend to come play with them. That really f****d with me and I never felt the same around them.

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    30 Instances Friendships Ended Because Folks Realized Their Friends Weren’t Actually Their Friends We were friends for almost 10 years. Every once in a while, we'd have small arguments, but always come around and told each other everything.

    Over a year ago, we went to a party. I didn't drink, but he did. He got extremely moody, wouldn't talk to me and kept disappearing to a room to be alone. Kept brushing me off every time I asked if he was okay. He left the party early without telling me, and I sent him a pissed off text because we had agreed earlier to cab home together.

    The next day I call and text. No answer. A week passes. More texts, still no answer. I go to his house. His roommate says he won't speak to me. He deletes and blocks me on all social media. I call and text him more, saying I'm sorry for whatever it is I must have done, still no answer. I message his friends, asking what I could have done and they have no idea, all he's saying is he doesn't want to see me.

    At one point I fell into a depression. Am I such an uncaring person that I couldn't even know that I did something wrong? Or was our friendship even that great if he was willing to drop me so suddenly without explanation or goodbye? It's a weird, scary thought when someone who knows more about you than anyone refuses to even speak to you ever again.

    It's been over a year and still no word. I went to a party the other day that I heard he'd be at. The host told me that as soon as he heard I was coming, he decided not to come. It's probably one of the biggest heartbreaks of my life.

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    Samantha
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    2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    My thought is that it's guilt. The former friend did something that he feels guilty about (kissed OP's girl, trash-talked him, maybe even found himself attracted to OP) and can't handle it. Or someone lied about OP to the friend.

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    #26

    30 Instances Friendships Ended Because Folks Realized Their Friends Weren’t Actually Their Friends When I was the constant butt of their jokes, and they were thinly veiled insults that they gaslighted me into thinking I made up or that they were actual jokes made out of love.

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    30 Instances Friendships Ended Because Folks Realized Their Friends Weren’t Actually Their Friends I was in a friends group of 11. Really close, hung out alot. Oddly enough, everyone coupled up. I was the only non-couple from the group (my gf wasn't from the pack). Eventually I found out that they met up very often without inviting me and I was just phased out. We had a WhatsApp group but it was quite underutilised.

    In the end, I just left the group.

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    30 Instances Friendships Ended Because Folks Realized Their Friends Weren’t Actually Their Friends It slowly fell apart. She moved to live with her partner and we slowly stopped talking as often until rarely talking at all.

    I knew I was done when she asked me to help find someone to film her wedding-that I was not invited to.

    But she's happy with how her life is and who am I to judge for that?

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    HarriMissesScotland
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    2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    She hurt you. Even though I don't know you, there is pain in your last sentence. I'm sorry.

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    30 Instances Friendships Ended Because Folks Realized Their Friends Weren’t Actually Their Friends They never paid me back the concert tickets I bought for them

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    2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    lol....yep, these are usually you cheap friends. What they don't realize is that they've essential burned their credit with you.

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    He decided to join a skinhead group in high school.

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    #31

    She told me the friendship no longer held value to her and she always viewed it as shallow. Which I found rather ironic considering I was the one that she called when she had suicidal thoughts, she lived with my family after her dad beat her, we Skyped every week for years when I moved away, traveled together, were best friends for almost a decade, created countless memories together, and I told her every secret I had during that time. But apparently it wasn’t the same for her.

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    #32

    30 Instances Friendships Ended Because Folks Realized Their Friends Weren’t Actually Their Friends None of the people I used to hang out with and see on a regular basis reach out to me after I moved away. The ones that do are all former co-workers. I guess I should have hung out with the people at work more than the people I thought were my friends.

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    Peaches GreFra
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    2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    You're not alone. I lost 50% of my friends when I left home and started my 3.5 year long world journey. You'd think they would've left over time but they did leave in the first 3 months (!) disappointment is an understatement

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    He wanted everything to be about him and hated when anyone else got attention. He was super agressive and would yell at people for nothing. He was addicted to sports drinks and was always super hyper which only made him or agressive. One time he came over and bullied my brother and punched a wall in anger when I told him to stop. That's where I drew the line and cut him off.

    He lost a lot of his friends over the years and last I checked he managed a grocery store. Hope you cleaned up your act, Kyle.

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    #34

    She was a psycho. Super controlling and never wanted me to hang out with my other friends.

    Also never got out of her weird vampire obsession phase. Remember when we were 14 and I said something she didn't like so she bared her teeth at me and hissed. That's when I thought "okay well, this pity party is over."

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    deanna woods
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    2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    She is probably still in that vampire phase. Only now she probably sleeps in a coffin.

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    #35

    30 Instances Friendships Ended Because Folks Realized Their Friends Weren’t Actually Their Friends When you find out that people make plans regularly without you.

    Most of my friends live a bit of a way away, so sometimes, those who live close together (or with each other) do stuff without me, which is fine, but we also do stuff together on a fairly regular basis. I've had friends who have just not bothered with the second part.

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    2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I get that. I frequently travel to Florida for family. One time, I was really trying to get my friends together so we could hang out and I could get some relaxation before I left (sleeping on a couch for a few weeks, being a night owl and everyone else being an early morning riser and having to deal with a one year old really makes life suck). As soon as I left (and I mean AS SOON as I left, like two days) my two friends decided to hang out together... And post pics of them hanging out without me in the group chat (it was literally just the three of us in the chat...) And basically kinda gloat about how much fun they're having. The reasoning for them not wanting to hang out when I was in town was that they were "too busy"

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    #36

    30 Instances Friendships Ended Because Folks Realized Their Friends Weren’t Actually Their Friends When I was young, it was because my best friend grew out of playing with dolls before I did. All she wanted to do was wear make up, and so she got new friends who all wore make up.

    It's been twenty years since I saw her last, but I'll never forget that. Young me was heartbroken.

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    deanna woods
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    2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    You are never too old to play with dolls and she is the one that lost out.

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    30 Instances Friendships Ended Because Folks Realized Their Friends Weren’t Actually Their Friends I was planning my birthday party last year and when people showed up early and saw me working, nobody offered to help with anything.

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    He broke off the friendship w me because he married a girl I slept with in the past. (I introduced them)

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    Adagar
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    2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    TBH I think it's a bit weird to introduce your friend to someone you've slept with already as a potential dating partner...

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