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Woman Upset After Being Invited To Dinner Party Where She Was Served Salad While Others Had A Feast
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Woman Upset After Being Invited To Dinner Party Where She Was Served Salad While Others Had A Feast

Woman Upset After Being Invited To Dinner Party Where She Was Served Salad While Others Had A FeastLady Is Invited As Dinner Guest To Friend’s House, Is Only Given A Salad While Friends Eat LavishlyWoman Is Invited To Friend's House For Dinner, Is Shocked When Friend Doesn't Give Her Proper MealGuest Assumes They Will Be Provided Food At Dinner They Were Invited To, Finds Out They Were WrongFriend Invites Lady For Dinner, Expects Her To Bring Food, Refuses To Share When She Brings NothingLady Makes Do With Salad While Friend Dines Lavishly Even Though She Was Invited As A Dinner GuestFriends Refuse To Share Meal With Dinner Guest, Eat Their Food In Front Of Her, Only Give Her SaladWoman Upset After Being Invited To Dinner Party Where She Was Served Salad While Others Had A FeastWoman Upset After Being Invited To Dinner Party Where She Was Served Salad While Others Had A FeastWoman Upset After Being Invited To Dinner Party Where She Was Served Salad While Others Had A Feast
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In this financial climate, everyone is looking to save a few bucks here and there. But some frugal people take it to the extreme and end up doing stingy things that don’t sit well with the people around them. It might involve extreme couponing, reusing old items even when they should be retired, or not sharing food with friends.

A shocked woman shared her experience with a stingy friend who invited her over for dinner, only for the hosts to indulge in a feast while she had to make do with a salad.

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A woman was invited for dinner, assuming she would get a meal, but when she arrived the host was surprised that she didn’t bring her own food

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Woman invited friends to her house for dinner and cooked up tasty traditional dishes, she received a dinner invitation from the same friends telling her to “come to theirs for some food”

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She took a jar of chili peppers as a small gift, but her host was confused and asked her if that was all she would be eating because they expected everyone to bring their own food

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The woman was perplexed because she thought her friends had invited her as a guest, to which her friends replied, “yes, we invited you to come to the house for dinner!”

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She didn’t have anything to eat so they chopped raw vegetables, added white sauce, and put the salad on the table while they ate their own meals without offering her anything else

The author shared her experience with a stingy friend when she was invited to their house for dinner. She started off by sharing that she had called her friends to her place for dinner one day and prepared tasty dishes from her culture, such as sausage rougail and chicken cari. She also made dessert for them. Because of her invitation, her friends returned the favor and told her to come to theirs for supper.

Usually, people don’t turn up empty-handed when they are invited to someone’s house. So the poster brought a small jar of chili peppers to give her friends. When she gave it to them, one of the hosts asked her if that was all she was going to eat. The woman was confused until the friend mentioned that they had wanted everyone to bring their own food.

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That’s when the woman was shocked and tried to clarify that she had been invited for dinner. The hosts did not seem to realize the misunderstanding, but they said that they would “share” some of their food with her. Instead of letting her eat their meals, they cut up different raw vegetables and placed them along with white sauce in the middle of the table. 

The author was surprised by her friends’ stinginess and probably had to return home with an almost empty stomach. According to Psychmechanics, “stinginess is the opposite of generosity. While a generous person gives freely, often finding giving a pleasurable activity, a stingy person withholds and finds giving hard and uncomfortable. Though stinginess is commonly associated with money, it manifests in other areas too.”

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Research has shown that stingy people might be the way they are for a number of reasons. It can be due to their upbringing, where resources were limited, and they developed a scarcity mindset to try and hold onto things. Another reason could be due to low self-esteem or anxiety about the future. Sometimes life difficulties and loss of one’s job can push people into a form of survival mode where they want to hold onto resources.

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Stinginess can manifest in many different ways. Most people think that it’s about being miserly with money, but it can also be seen when people hoard objects, don’t want to share, or end up scarfing down food without giving their friends any. Whatever the reasons were for the poster’s friends not to share their meal, it ultimately annoyed the woman enough for her to write this post.

Being miserly about things can also have negative effects on the person’s mental health. Researchers at Queensland University of Technology conducted an experiment on participants who were playing a financial bargaining game. They found that the people who made lower offers experienced more stress than those who were generous. It shows that being stingy can negatively impact your mood and increase your stress levels.

The author’s story helps shine a light on the way being miserly can impact one’s relationships with other people. The post received over 1k replies, and many people shared their own experiences with miserly folks. What would you have done if your friend called you over for dinner only to give you a salad to munch on? Let us know in the comments, and tell us if you’ve ever had a similar experience.

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Netizens shared their experiences with stingy friends, and some even faced this annoying problem at people’s weddings

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Alexandra
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7 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

What is this madness? You're invited but not fed? Where have they been living? Under a rock?

Marcel
Community Member
7 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

The problem is no communication. Why didn't they say in advance to bring food? For whatever reason. I have no issue if they can't or won't serve food. But they do have to say so.

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Joey Jo Jo Shabadoo
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7 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I have shown up at potlucks empty handed a couple of times. The first time because I didnt know what a potluck was (in my culture if you invite someone to your house, you are feeding them). The other time I asked if I could bring something and was told, " no, no", but apparently in that culture the host says no but you are supposed to understand they dont mean it lol. Either time, I still got fed. Nobody just punished me for not knowing. These people just sound mean.

Ken Beattie
Community Member
7 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

That would be fair enough, but it doesn't even sound like this is the case for the OP. It just sounds like a straight up dinner invitation, made even worse by the fact she had them to dinner and fed them a few days earlier. You'd think if it was cultural, when they turned up at her place they'd have brought food with them.

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Ash
Community Member
7 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

The original story is bonkers, but then there's the person who was like, "I went to a friend's house and she didn't offer me anything to drink??!!!??" What?

Gayle Owens
Community Member
7 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Ex friend who I had stay at my home many times and we paid for everything. Got invited to lunch by her at a cafe and we ordered, yep she expected me to pay as usual. Visiting her home and you dont even get a glass of water

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Alexandra
Community Member
7 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

What is this madness? You're invited but not fed? Where have they been living? Under a rock?

Marcel
Community Member
7 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

The problem is no communication. Why didn't they say in advance to bring food? For whatever reason. I have no issue if they can't or won't serve food. But they do have to say so.

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Joey Jo Jo Shabadoo
Community Member
7 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I have shown up at potlucks empty handed a couple of times. The first time because I didnt know what a potluck was (in my culture if you invite someone to your house, you are feeding them). The other time I asked if I could bring something and was told, " no, no", but apparently in that culture the host says no but you are supposed to understand they dont mean it lol. Either time, I still got fed. Nobody just punished me for not knowing. These people just sound mean.

Ken Beattie
Community Member
7 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

That would be fair enough, but it doesn't even sound like this is the case for the OP. It just sounds like a straight up dinner invitation, made even worse by the fact she had them to dinner and fed them a few days earlier. You'd think if it was cultural, when they turned up at her place they'd have brought food with them.

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Ash
Community Member
7 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

The original story is bonkers, but then there's the person who was like, "I went to a friend's house and she didn't offer me anything to drink??!!!??" What?

Gayle Owens
Community Member
7 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Ex friend who I had stay at my home many times and we paid for everything. Got invited to lunch by her at a cafe and we ordered, yep she expected me to pay as usual. Visiting her home and you dont even get a glass of water

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