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30 People With Non-Obvious Illnesses Share The Reasons People Get Mad At Them I have Crohn's disease. The fatigue and the joint pain can be debilitating. I have been accused by family members of being lazy because somedays I can't get motivated and do even the smallest of chores. Most people don't realize that with Crohns and Colitis the symptoms aren't just intestinal. The inflammation can effect your entire body. It breaks my heart because I really just want to be normal and capable.

candmjjjc , drian Swancar Report

Final score:

265points

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Tracey Robinson 2 years ago

I'm with you there x

47points

lurklurklurkPOST , Robina Weermeijer Report

30 People With Non-Obvious Illnesses Share The Reasons People Get Mad At Them I have ADHD

I tell people; Imagine brains are like browsers. A normal person can have several tabs open at once, switching between them as needed.

An ADHD brain has just 2 tabs. Whatever you're doing right at this moment, and a tab just for daydreams that you can't close that plays audio in the background.

Give a normal person a task: "Do your laundry at some point today" and they'll pop it in a new tab and get to it when they're closing tabs later.

Give an ADHD brain the same task, and their one functional tab becomes "remember to do laundry" until a new task pops up, at which point it gets overwritten.

It really sucks as a kid because it's functionally identical to forgetting, and if you've ever had parents, you know "I forgot" is not an acceptable answer.

Final score:

245points

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TheAquarius1978 2 years ago

Oh believe me lol i know the felling, i don't have ADHD, i have Asperger syndrome, and worst i'm from the 80s ( when Asperger didn't existed ) which meant i was just had bad behavior, was lazy, and rude lol, and my Mother was a firm appologist in beating my a*s everytime i " missbehaved " ...

92points

wildonthefrontier , Matteo Vistocco Report

What seems incredibly simple for one individual might be extremely hard for another. There’s a bit of an understanding and empathy gap here. People can find it hard to put themselves in someone else’s shoes concerning tasks and activities that come naturally to them. However, we can start to understand what patients might be feeling by considering what we, ourselves, find difficult, and applying it to other areas in life.

Something else to take into account is the amount of chronic pain and discomfort some folks might be dealing with every single day. We have to think back to the times that we’ve had to function while in pain if we don’t ‘get’ how others might have trouble doing seemingly ‘easy’ tasks. Have you ever had to work or go to school with a toothache, broken arm, or severely upset stomach? Now imagine having to get things done with that (only possibly even worse).

Then there are the psychological factors to consider. People with ADD, ADHD, Asperger’s, autism, extreme sensory sensitivity, and other disorders provided the internet with a window into their lives in the r/AskReddit thread. The best way forward is to be as kind as you can to everyone you meet, no matter if they’re fit as a fiddle or have to deal with lots of obvious and not-so-obvious medical problems.

According to psychotherapist Silva Neves, people have two different, constantly-competing instincts within themselves. One for kindness. The other—for survival. Our brains are hardwired to reward us when we’re acting in a social and altruistic way, he told Bored Panda a while back. A the same time, we’re also prone to selfishness because it’s directly linked to our desire to survive.

30 People With Non-Obvious Illnesses Share The Reasons People Get Mad At Them Migraines. To the point of pitch black room, no noise, no aromas or odors, ice cold and ice packs on my head. Can’t see because of all the flashing lights and dark spots in my vision. I hate going somewhere and someone is wearing some cloying sweet perfume because I will get nauseous and flashes start and I could be down for days. Longest migraine was 7 days; had to have i.v. therapy and shots in the butt for the pain.

Final score:

222points

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Susie Elle 2 years ago

I've had periods of migraines when I was younger, ocular ones. Couldn't see anything except for weird lightningbolt flashes, immense headaches and vomiting until I felt better. I can't imagine how hard it must be to experience them on such a regular basis and for such a long period of time. I have a stupid question: doesn't there exist any medication for migraines?

47points

30 People With Non-Obvious Illnesses Share The Reasons People Get Mad At Them Celiac disease. People joke about gluten free being a fad diet for basic bi**hes, and then get really irritated with me when I request that when dining out together we go somewhere safe for me to eat. I’m so sorry but PLEASE don’t veto this restaurant just because it doesn’t quite hit your craving. It is literally the only safe place where I can eat something on the menu.

MollFlanders , Julia Tsukurova Report

Final score:

200points

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Laura Ketteridge 2 years ago

When eating out, I will always say to the waiter that I'm gluten-free, and even a tiny bit of gluten will cause problems. From time to time, a chef will come out just to check whether is is a diet-of-choice, or medical need. They have all been brilliant.

7points

PossessionNo6878 , Towfiqu barbhuiya Report

30 People With Non-Obvious Illnesses Share The Reasons People Get Mad At Them Arthritis in my hands knees and spine and Bipolar 1. Other stuff too. People (my wife's dad most recently), think it's seriously okay to make fun of the noises I make when I have to stand up. I refuse to take opiates. Standing hurts. A lot. He will literally talk s**t to my wife when I'm out of the room about how I'm just a Pu***. That it's just laziness.

I'm also a large guy. 5'11 280lbs fairly muscular (pretty solid dad bod) they get mad or tease me because I won't do things like carry shingles up onto my roof, and that I paid a neighbor to do it. Arthritis is degenerative and painful. Just because I look this way doesn't mean I can lift and carry.

The bipolar? I have psychotic features. Hallucinations (audio/visual). The minute people hear the word "psychotic" attached to anything they run away screaming. I've lost close friends, relationships, jobs (I have a hard time finding and keeping one. Another thing that gains ridicule), and have family that won't let their kids around me because of a diagnostic term.

I've never hurt anyone. My visual hallucinations are usually dogs and rats that I pet idly if I'm not focusing and distressed. My audio hallucinations are literally audible music, or mostly kind voices encouraging me to do better. I'm not suddenly going to be a serial killer. This has been a thing since I was a child. The ONLY person I've hurt outside of a fair fight (I was a bar hopper for a little while in my youth) is MYSELF.

Final score:

198points

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Madeleine 2 years ago

“The minute people hear the word ‘psychotic’ attached to anything they run away screaming.” It sounds like it’s time to experiment with not attaching that word. Unless someone becomes very close to you and is trustworthy, they don’t need to know details about your condition.

4points

Boring_Blueberry_420 , arritos Mexican Soda Report

People tend to worry that by helping someone out, by being kind to them, it can somehow backfire on them. However, there are benefits to kindness, too. Altruism can make us feel good physically, it gives us a sense of purpose, and it can raise our own self-esteem.

“It [kindness] is also good for others, obviously. So kindness is actually something that we, humans, are naturally driven to be. “The sense of kindness is in competition with our survival mode, so, as human beings, we tend to live in contradiction, between kindness (opening our arms) and protection (closing our arms).”

Meanwhile, the Action for Happiness team previously explained to Bored Panda that altruism is closely linked to our own happiness. When we’re kind to others, when we act in a selfless way, the reward center in our brains gets activated.

“Small daily actions one at a time can help us to make altruism a lifetime habit. You could start out small by deciding you are going to smile at everyone you meet or pay three people a compliment today,” the AfH team shared how someone can start becoming kinder to others in their daily lives. You might decide that you want to volunteer for a good cause, help an elderly neighbor, or give money to charity.

30 People With Non-Obvious Illnesses Share The Reasons People Get Mad At Them I literally have a memory problem, and when I say that everyone acts like I'm joking. Until we are mid sentence and I have no idea what we are talking about. Sometimes people get mad. I can't control it. It's annoying to me too, not just you!

Final score:

177points

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Amanda 2 years ago

I feel this. I have fibromyalgia, and the fibro fog is real. I forget names I’ve known for awhile, specifically kids I teach, and they get a little upset when I ask them to repeat it. I’ve explained though that it will happen, and it’s something I can’t control unfortunately.

64points

30 People With Non-Obvious Illnesses Share The Reasons People Get Mad At Them I have autism and a few diagnosed mental illnesses that I go therapy for. I have a very hard time blocking noise out due to my autism and I hated as a kid when I would complain about another student bothering me in class and the teacher would respond with, “just ignore them” I LITERALLY CAN'T???? Now as a high schooler, I can just put my headphones on and my teachers don’t mind, since I get my work done in a timely manner (most of the time lol).

This is the only thing I can think of right now, but I might add to it.

ihaveteafortea , Alexander Grey Report

Final score:

175points

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max and the expresso 2 years ago

I also have sensory issues and earphones in the classroom/work environment are a life saver

50points

my depression often cripples me from being able to enjoy or simple tasks. but im just lazy. thats what people say and im starting to kinda believe it. sometimes i cant even will myself to get up

burntbtoast Report

Final score:

158points

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Lorraine Woollands 2 years ago

I know, please take some comfort in the fact you are not alone , we understand

75points

“All of these actions help others and boost your own happiness and if we are happier, research shows we are even more likely to help others,” Action for Happiness said. According to them, if you’re not used to being altruistic and kind, it’s fine to fake it until you make it.

“Maybe at first, you start out doing things to help others only to get attention and praise, but you will find that doing things for others helps you feel good and when you see people’s responses. Once you see the difference you can make in the world and to your own happiness and altruism can grow naturally.”

#10

30 People With Non-Obvious Illnesses Share The Reasons People Get Mad At Them I have POTS. If I stand up my pulse spikes to 140 bpm and stays that way till I lay down. This often leads to migraines and fainting just from being up for too long. I spend almost all my time in bed, so I can't do most things. Luckily my wife is understanding and we find ways to make it work, but other family members like my parents don't accept my problems and would constantly try to push me to the point of falling down.

odysseyshot , Mufid Majnun Report

Final score:

157points

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MantisGirl15 2 years ago

Same here! People, especially my parents, often don't trust when I say I'm tired or unable to do something because POTS affects me differently every day and I could seem fine one day and feel horrible the next day.

31points

#11

30 People With Non-Obvious Illnesses Share The Reasons People Get Mad At Them I have diagnosed agoraphobia. Most people think that means I don't want to go outside. That couldn't be further from the truth. I can't stand huge spaces with crowds. I was diagnosed before mass shootings were a thing. It's way worse now. Now I cancel plans a lot and it's because of my mental health but people think it's just because I "don't feel like it".

dissapointingsex , Jake Weirick Report

Final score:

145points

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Lorraine Woollands 2 years ago

I have agoraphobia, physical disabilities and depression and a lady from Social Care was her to see if I qualified for having Carers. She ask me to list the things that are wrong with me and when I said that I have agoraphobia,she turned round and said "Oh it's not that you can't go out, it's that you don't want to". When I told me Social Worker, she was not happy because she had seen how it upsets me when I think I may have to go out. Because of my physical disabilities I can't get out anyway but she shouldn't have said it

48points

blackesthearted , Elia Pellegrini Report

#12

30 People With Non-Obvious Illnesses Share The Reasons People Get Mad At Them I'm autistic, of the "would be Asperger if that was still it's own diagnosis in my country, but it's not" variety.

I only have a few sensory issues, but I get flack for them all the time.

I'm mostly vegetarian because I can't tolerate meat unless it meets certain criteria. Ground beef is usually fine, as is heavily processed meat that doesn't resemble meat much (like chicken nuggets or most lunch meat). But like, a chicken breast or pork chop? Absolutely not. I've been harassed about this for over three decades now. "Just eat it, it wont hurt you" and "you're just being weird" and "don't be difficult, everyone eats this."

Also, sensory overload. I usually have a high tolerance and it's hard to push me into a meltdown (it's more like a shutdown for me), but when I get there, I legitimatelt cannot function unless I can remove myself to a quiet dark room to "reset." I've never needed to do this in school or work (I'm an RN) but in my personal life I've been called "dramatic" or "difficult" for sometimes needing 5-10 minutes alone to get my sensory needle out of the red.

Mind, I grew up in the dark ages of the 80s and 90s and because I'm female and of "above average" intelligence, was repeatedly told as a child and teenager I could not be autistic. I was diagnosed in my 30s. But, the "you can get over this if you just tried" thing has not stopped since getting my official diagnosis. If anything, it's gotten worse because "yeah but you're not on the 'bad' end of the spectrum so what's the problem?"

Final score:

130points

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Jaguarundi 2 years ago

I truly feel you. Anyone who is "high functioning" is obviously faking to most people. I had to learn to hide and camouflage being on the high end of the spectrum. I still haven't mastered facial expressions (I may never do so at my age) so I always look angry or disinterested. It's hard, very hard for me too. Take care of yourself first, other people may not.

61points

#13

30 People With Non-Obvious Illnesses Share The Reasons People Get Mad At Them Hold down a job. I've got a triple threat of medical conditions, epilepsy, diabetes and aspergers. My parents see me only at my physical appearance, my dad has even stated that it's because I'm part of a generation that wants instant gratification and all the millennial stereotypes. My mom thinks I'm just playing a Sad sob story as an excuse not to work hard. But the thing is, I try my damned best to do what I do. I mean I can't earn over a certain amount or my social security stops, so i take the roll of house husband and do all the chores. Cook, clean, grocery shop, ect. But my parents think it's me being lazy. And I'll be the first to admit I've never been good at holding a job. Between the depression from being torn away from my hometown and friends without even being allowed to get phone numbers to say good bye, and the epilepsy that made it near impossible for me to get my driver's license, I decided being a homemaker would be my best course of action. But of course, nothing will ever be good enough for them. They hold every mistake I make over my head. And it sucks. I can't even afford a service animal to help me with my epilepsy/seizures

WinterWizard9497 , Tony Tran Report

Final score:

122points

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Jackie Lulu 2 years ago

Sounds like a big part of your problem is your parents!

72points

#14

I have quite severe endometriosis which is causing a lot of flow on inflammation issues and a whole lot of pain.

It's hard to get people to understand what it even is beyond 'period pain' let alone how it affects me. This is affecting more than just my uterus, and it is every single day. My fam is good, work is not.

HowlingKitten07 Report

Final score:

109points

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Helen Waight 2 years ago

Endometriosis is something I cannot get my boss to understand. No, it’s not ‘just cramps’, it’s ‘vomiting in pain and trying to knock yourself out on the nearest wall’. Some doctors are really unbelievable too - ‘oh that’ll go away once you have kids’

58points

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#15

I had acute leukemia as an adult and had 2.5 years of intensive chemotherapy. I have now been done with chemo 5 years, but I still struggle so much with fatigue. I can only handle like one errand a day or a couple of household chores. I look pretty healthy now and a lot of people just don’t get how much damage the chemo did to my body.

Final score:

101points

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Natasha Tomes 2 years ago

My ex had cancer at 18. He took almost a decade to get to where he could work a full time job.

24points

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#16

Household chores that involve my arms over my head or a lot of force.

I have a connective tissue disorder that makes me hypermobile. It *literally* means it's harder for me to do something like fold laundry. But it's invisible and I can handle it most of the time (Thanks to a ton of physical therapy!) so people just pretend I'm being lazy.

Final score:

100points

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Alexandra Davis 2 years ago

EDS! I have this too, both the hypermobility form mentioned here (I can dislocate/ partially dislocate stupidly easily, like taking off a jumper will pop my shoulder out!) and vascular form which is much more dangerous. Mine isn't as invisible because this and other physical conditions have left me needing to use a wheelchair full time. But when I could walk, but in daily chronic pain lots of people (thankfully not friends or family) would think me lazy/ low pain threshold when actually it's very very high!)

31points

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#17

30 People With Non-Obvious Illnesses Share The Reasons People Get Mad At Them Waking up in the morning. I have a complex medical history that includes Delayed Sleep Phase Disorder and I've tried every recommended treatment but it's going against my natural state and I don't want to have to take more meds on top of the ones I have already.

I can work remotely at night and I get decent quality sleep during the day (when it's quiet, that's another story) but my family are convinced this is a sign of depression or laziness. If I force myself to be awake during the day I am clumsy, I drop things all the time and I struggle to form sentences. At night I can multitask, complete 3 hours work in 1 hour and my memory is sharp. There is no reason for me to try and fit daylight hours except to fit into what they think is normal.

Craicpot7 , Kinga Cichewicz Report

Final score:

98points

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Vinicius Assis 2 years ago

Same here

24points

#18

30 People With Non-Obvious Illnesses Share The Reasons People Get Mad At Them Combo disorder depression and anxiety mixed around with brain trauma. I forget things constantly and have a hard time doing what others see as simple daily tasks. Anxiety is rough, but it's the absolute worst when it comes to operating a vehicle. Due to my inability to drive safely without the risk of harming others, I choose to not drive. Because I could kill someone. Obviously. The people around me don't understand it at all and I get told I need to grow up or simply not care if I kill a person because driving is just soooo important.

I wouldn't be able to live with myself if I hurt someone. I cannot put a luxury above the lives of others.

angroro Report

Final score:

94points

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Lorraine Woollands 2 years ago

I have depression and anxiety and agoraphobia and physical disabilities and the number of times I have been made to feel lazy , sometimes by my parents, sometimes by Carers . My parents it was " she's doing it for attention" or " Snap out of it", " Get over it". Another was " Oh what's she crying for now", I had no idea what I was crying for sometimes it happens. My partner wasn't much help either, he used to said that he understood,but he didn't (he died in January) I am now on my own it has made it so much worst because I have to much time to sit and think about things and worry over them . Money yes, we all worry over money at the moment, it can still things like what I am I having for dinner. I know it's silly but that's how my brain is wired and I can't help it

30points

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#19

30 People With Non-Obvious Illnesses Share The Reasons People Get Mad At Them it’s not as serious but I’ve had chronic bladder and kidney infections since I was 15 which basically meant constant rounds of antibiotics but also I got up in class 3-4 times an hour to go pee. My teachers were MAD and accused me of just using my phone or wanting to ditch class, when in reality I was just in a lot of pain.

t1nydancers , Towfiqu barbhuiya Report

Final score:

90points

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Gabriele Alfredo Pini 2 years ago (edited)

This I don't understand. I know which kids I let them go to the bathroom and then scold (or put a note for the parents on their diary) because they need to learn to wake up a little earlier, and which kids have legitimate problems and need to go to the toilet often. I have a kid with a probable urethra chronic infection and one with little control on their intestine. I will never scold them!

42points

Mysterious_Sugar7220 , Sofia Alejandra Report

#20

30 People With Non-Obvious Illnesses Share The Reasons People Get Mad At Them Just go to the ME/CFS sub. I was diagnosed at 23 and am thankfully recovered, but it's the worst illness, and people don't believe you're sick.

Long Covid has finally given people some understanding.

It's not 'tiredness.' It's your limbs feeling like lead - just crossing a room feels like you're walking through molasses. Vertigo that makes you feel like you're going to pass out when you stand up. Sore, achy, painful muscles and joints - neck, shoulders, back, legs. No appetite. Brain fog. Headache. And all of this combined with the worst, most deadening exhaustion you can imagine.

It's essentially the worst flu imaginable, every day. I was basically bedbound.

Besides the flat-out contempt I received from some doctors, there was my family's insistence that it was a 'nervous breakdown,' or that 'if I had no choice but to recover then I would,' or that it was a 'lack of motivation.'

I was told that I needed to go to X event, and I could 'rest' or 'you can sit down when you get there.' Not realizing that even just getting there and having to socialize - even just sitting up - would cause me days of severe pain and exhaustion.

And not understanding that I couldn't be courteous - I couldn't bring this in from the kitchen, help make food or set the table, etc.

When I was fired from my job I was told it was 'great I had time to travel or pursue a hobby' - no, I was too sick to get out of bed.

It's an awful, life-limiting illness and disgusting that its very existence is still disbelieved. In studies, sufferers have been shown to have less quality of life than late-stage AIDS and cancer patients, but it gets less funding than hayfever.

Final score:

87points

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Pirates of Zen Pants 2 years ago

I've had ME/CFS for over twenty years. I rapidly went from running a marathon at 30 to barely being able to walk the dog. I'm part of a crowdsourced online research community where 13,000 of us share information about what does and doesn't work for us. The website is https://www.stuffthatworks.health/myalgic-encephalomyelitis. I strongly recommend it. The FDA has not approved any treatments for ME/CFS whatsoever, so it's only through networking with other patients that I've learned how to manage this disease.

10points

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#21

30 People With Non-Obvious Illnesses Share The Reasons People Get Mad At Them I have psoriatic arthritis and fibromyalgia. Just recently diagnosed but have been dealing with the pain and fatigue for years. I get a ton of judgement because my husband is “mr. mom” and takes on a ton of the parenting duties for our toddler, especially when we are out of the home. He doesn’t care - a) he’s an equal parent by choice, and b) it’s an agreement we’ve made, that with all of the energy it takes me to even get us out of the house and socialize…he primarily manages the parenting once we get there…but people see a dad being primary parent and the judgements are plain as day on their faces. My own mom used to make sideways comments implying that I was lazy, poor Bob (not his name hahah), but now I finally have a diagnosis and that’s stopped.

RecentRegister239 , Klara Kulikova Report

Final score:

84points

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Susie Elle 2 years ago

At least the comments have stopped after diagnosis. Aside from that, my sympathy, OP. It must be really hard.

28points

#22

30 People With Non-Obvious Illnesses Share The Reasons People Get Mad At Them Well people don't necessarily get mad at me for it (well they probably do but don't show it) but having a stutter when I speak can sometimes make saying even the simplest of words/sentences can be very difficult at times for me, and it's even worse when I'm speaking to people who I don't really know too well

SammyCCFC , Jessica Da Rosa Report

Final score:

80points

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Helen Waight 2 years ago

And people decide to finish your sentences for you because ‘you’re taking too long’

39points

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#23

30 People With Non-Obvious Illnesses Share The Reasons People Get Mad At Them Asthma; the amount of times I get told something along the lines of "well my friend's cousin has asthma and they don't have that trigger so you should be fine".
I have really well controlled asthma but I avoid my triggers which is one of the reasons I have it well controlled and asthma is not a one fit all ailment.

Amaranth-13 , Sincerely Media Report

Final score:

80points

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RuthieT 2 years ago

My 5 year old was diagnosed with it last year. Gets sick with so many viruses from Kindy and now school. And allergies seem to be his trigger, so I feel your pain

22points

#24

Social anxiety. My mom complains that I never call, but I am actually scared of talking to people (yup, including family) and accidentally saying something stupid, or rude, or embarrassing, and therefore irreversibly ruining my reputation forever and becoming hated, despised or just a laughingstock for the rest of my life.

Worst thing is that, ironically, I actually enjoy talking to people

Shynosaur Report

Final score:

76points

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Lorraine Woollands 2 years ago

I have had this all my life , my parents have very understood. Told me I was by antisocial.(sorry if I am posting too much on here, but it help to get it out. Sorry)

26points

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#25

My wife completely broke her shoulder many years ago, detached tendon and everything. The surgery team said she was incredibly lucky to get mostly full range of motion back and she can now lift about 5 pounds or a little more if she's using "dinosaur arms." The other one ended up going kaput soon thereafter because it's a degenerative disorder and, to some extent, it's a compensatory injury.

Otherwise, she looks incredibly healthy. As a result, we keep encountering people who think she should be lifting things. At work, she was approved for a standing desk and they asked her to assemble it herself. It's ridiculous. When we go traveling or shopping, a lot of people end up giving her looks because I'm feminine and smaller than her and I end up carrying everything because she can't. I am happy to do it, but I know it bothers her.

I just wish people were more cognizant of hidden disabilities.

Final score:

75points

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Madeleine 2 years ago

“At work, she was approved for a standing desk and they asked her to assemble it herself.” This is absurd and maddening! Such ignorant and cruel people.

37points

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#26

30 People With Non-Obvious Illnesses Share The Reasons People Get Mad At Them Dyspraxia! Most people think I'm taking the p**s when some basic motor tasks are difficult for me. Or they assume I'm stupid. Not the case, no matter how hard I try, my brain just can't always process certain things. DIY is a big one. I wish I could do it and do it well but it is very sloppy and rough even with time, practice and effort.

I was late learning to swim, late riding a bike without stabilisers and have an awkward posture and gait. It could be quite embarrassing. It's not as bad these days, I'll be 30 next year so I've had time to either adapt things to the way I do them or figure things out. I used to "get stuck" in the loft if I had to go up there. Climbing up the ladder was fine, down, difficult for me.

Some people assumed autism, which is not the case for me, though it's in my family.

a-jm93 , Ethan Sykes Report

Final score:

71points

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KristinW 2 years ago

My 17 daughter has a form of Dyspraxia, it's not an easy condition to live with.

12points

#27

30 People With Non-Obvious Illnesses Share The Reasons People Get Mad At Them I have chondropathy since my mid-20s, so running, jumping, using stairs, standing in uneven grounds or kneeling has been quite painful since then.

I don't have enough fingers to count the amount of times I've been denied the use of an elevator or received death stares when sitting on a full bus because... I'm young and thin so... I'm obviously lying or something?

LTKerr , Lindsay Henwood Report

Final score:

65points

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Batwench Premium 2 years ago

For those who have never heard of this, such as myself - chondropathy: disease of cartilage.

29points

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#28

30 People With Non-Obvious Illnesses Share The Reasons People Get Mad At Them I have Borderline Personality Disorder--first I have to make them understand BPD is not bipolar disorder. And I have to constantly prove to them that I am a decent person. They don't believe me when I tell them that therapists have bailed out on me after my diagnosis even though they helped me through my OCD and I don't understand why except they believe that people, especially women with BPD are 'crazy bi**hes' (ableist term istg).

And there are literal subreddits and blogs demonising people with BPD--a mental illness doesn't make a person act bad, that is ableist to suggest so, a person's choices make a person act bad. You cannot s**t someone for being hypoempathetic but you can s**t on someone who chooses to be unempathetic. But I have a hard time making my friends and family understand that. They still routinely use psychopath and narcissist to describe someone doing something bad.

People have it easier when it comes to recognising red flags but since I have such a black and white mentality--it is very difficult--I see red flags when there aren't any and miss red flags entirely and people act like I am stupid but I just cannot--judge. I am trying to figure things out though--it will just take me more effort than most of those who don't have what I have.

They don't understand how--I struggle to have a grip on reality but it doesn't mean I have multiple personalities or trying to spite them--I genuinely cannot and then their reaction just strengthens the dissociation.

And after the Amber Heard case and the psychologist suggesting she has BPD and HPD--it just---worsened people's perception of these mental illnesses--I don't know why people attach mental illnesses to bad behaviour--how will that help anyone heal?

Also the understanding of BPD is so obviously on the pov of people who don't have BPD and have to 'deal with' BPD so the condition is very misunderstood hence the stigma. Thanks to it, everyone thinks it means I am clingy and have abandonment issues and I just--I can't. BPD is beyond that and I personally think the worst thing is the dissociation, the broken memories, the paranoid ideation, the loss of identity, the f****n pain and what not.

However, I am getting better. I catch myself and recognise my differences and find ways to navigate the world while respecting it. It helps me accept and heal. I wish I could find a therapist though...

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KombatBunni 2 years ago

Oh hugs for you! I was only diagnosed with it a few months ago and I’m still learning to recognise if something is a genuine emotion or is it BPD. My daughter has it as well and knowing that makes me feel so bad. We can barely be around each other sometimes and it breaks my heart. Therapy is helping but it’s slow going.

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I have erythromelalgia which causes severe pain in my lower leg and feet. This along with several other underlying issues in my feet make it extremely painful to walk some days. I get a lot of “just wear better shoes” or “use an insert” because people just assume it’s something I can just make go away. I’ve tried literally everything and it hurts no matter what I do or wear. My only option is pain management with medication.

I also live with very “high functioning” depression and low grade anxiety. And I get a lot of “you’re not depressed! You’re so outgoing and active” What people fail to realize is, when I’m off the clock, I’m completely exhausted from being “switched on” all day long.

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Kurtis Cobainus 2 years ago

So true about the second part. I don't have depression but that's what so many people think. Depressed people have two modes. Outside and happy, inside and sad

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30 People With Non-Obvious Illnesses Share The Reasons People Get Mad At Them I have a serious back condition caused by a prolapsed disk damaging the nerves in my lower back. I often ask co workers to lift things for me, I get especially weird looks for light items that are close to the floor. This is made worse by the fact that I'm a 6'3 250lb well built man

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Ren Karlej 2 years ago

Yep, have this problem. My elderly mother would pick things up in shops if I knocked anything to the floor and open heavy doors for me. Looked awful but she was fitter than me!! Never assume you know what's going on with people.

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SpookyPanda 2 years ago

Deaf here... people who don't know I am deaf when I am in the community may think I am rude or or dumb because I didn't hear or understand them. People in general sometimes act like I am stupid (even though I have 5 degrees including a doctorate) or don't even want to bother trying to talk to me because it is too much work for them. My own family doesn't maintain contact with me because "It'S hArD tO tExT; I wish you could just pick up a phone and I can talk to you". Some people even think I am faking; my own step-daughter, who I have known since she was 5, thought I was faking. I don't think she realized I wasn't until she hit middle school. During COVID lockdowns and mask mandates, it was very isolating and anxiety-inducing because my mode of communication was blocked off. Deafness in general can be very isolating.

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Hey! 2 years ago

All my siblings and I can read lips. My father was deaf from one ear and could barely hear from the other. We aren't deaf but hard of hearing, thus reading lips. The masks do not help us at all. At least I can read my husband's lips no problem since we don't wear masks with each other. Being completely deaf is another matter entirely. Funnily enough, we like texting or emailing best.

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Llama_flower93 2 years ago

I'm actually getting a sense of this, be it a tiny one. I moved to Sweden not too long ago and can't understand when people talk around me, as they mostly speak Swedish. It has made me feel more isolated. I can imagine how it feels not being able to hear any of the communication going on around you. You're family should just text you, I would find that a gift if I knew someone who was deaf. I'm sorry you have to deal with these struggles.

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AR 2 years ago

I’m sorry you deal with that, especially from your family. My grandma became progressively deaf starting in her 30s, so when I was born she wore hearing aids, used closed captioning (one of those old big boxes in the ‘80s), and I knew I had to face her and speak loudly for her to understand me. She also couldn’t easily use phones even with special handsets, so we communicated through letters and email (she never got into texting). I had no problem repeating things for her to try and understand, nor with moving my mouth carefully for her to read my lips. It’s really not hard to try and communicate with deaf people, it just takes a little longer. I hate that people act like it’s so inconvenient.

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Autumn 2 years ago (edited)

This seems slightly unrelated but I’m currently learning American Sign Language :) I hav no idea if that’s what you use but still

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Helen Waight 2 years ago

I’m disabled enough to get a parking permit, but not disabled enough to look it - except on the days I have to use walking aids. I’m also fat. The amount of times I’ve had people shout fatphobic stuff at me and tell me that I shouldn’t be parking there because ‘fat isn’t a disability’ and ‘if you lost weight you wouldn’t need that’ is a truly staggering amount.

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Something 2 years ago

The fatphobia/ableism combo is unfortunately extremely common. I've encountered those who rant against fat people using disability aids unprompted, seemingly unable to grasp the simple fact that someone can be both fat and disabled.

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Rens 2 years ago

Yes, I hear you! I'm fat because I'm sick, I'm not sick because I'm fat. I've been slim, underweight, the correct weight, and that's not made ANY difference to my Fibromyalgia, ME/CFS. I have mobility issues, I use a mobility scooter to have my independence, but I get the looks... I have put on quite a bit of weight because I can't excersise, my meds make me put on weight too. Ironically, I have almost no appetite, lots of food intolerances and aversions; I have IBS and feel very bloated after a meal; I eat small portions and eat 2 meals a day - drinking necessary fluids leaves me too full to eat... Fatphobia is real and it's disgusting the nasty way people behave.

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AR 2 years ago

I’m dealing with hip nerve issues and am also overweight. So far I haven’t be told anything to my face or heard anything, but I think my resting b***h face helps a lot. Plus I’ve prepared myself in case someone does say something, because screw them. I don’t like having to use motorized carts at stores to get around because they die all the time, but I need to get groceries. 🤷🏼‍♀️

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Pirates of Zen Pants 2 years ago (edited)

I developed fibromyalgia in early 2021. I was already living with migraines, Crohn's disease, ME/CFS, and childhood PTSD, but fibro kicked my butt. All my nerves were screaming at me on a second by second basis. Think about the alarms that your nervous system gives you: itchiness, pain, banged-funny bone feeling, pins-and-needles, temperature swings, muscle tics, sensitivity to light and sound, chills, extreme tiredness, needing to pee, electric shocks. For me, these alarms were going off all the time. I found medical articles indicating that low-dose Naltrexone was helping people like me. I bombarded my rheumatologist with them. He didn't want to prescribe LDN, because the FDA hasn't approved it for fibromyalgia. Finally, after 15 months, I got a prescription. Now I still have the alarms, but the alarms are half as "loud" as they used to be. It's the difference between pure hell and a life that is livable. If you have fibro, please look into LDN and the UK's LDN Trust.

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Mrs. Jan Glass 2 years ago

A friend with fibro says the same. I am so glad you got some relief! The cycles of fibro/depression is just not livable.

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Autumn 2 years ago (edited)

This seems slightly unrelated but I’m currently learning American Sign Language :) I hav no idea if that’s what you use but still

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Mrs. Jan Glass 2 years ago

A friend with fibro says the same. I am so glad you got some relief! The cycles of fibro/depression is just not livable.

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