Stop bothering about these grown-a*s people.

YTA at it again. “They aren’t thanking you for choosing, buying, wrapping and delivering a present because it’s their dad’s money. Why are you complaining?

Once again, the YTA's just astound me with their comments. Do they even really read the stories?

It's two years later now, she's still active on Reddit but hasn't updated

My POS father left my mother for another woman when my sister and I were little kids. He did the same thing three more times. I had multiple stepmoms and stepsiblings. I always tried to be so nice to all of them because I knew what it was like to life with my father, and I felt so bad for them. I never lumped them in with my father, if that makes sense. I liked them for who they were, and they were always very kind to me. I was always able to separate them from my father. It sounds like these "kids" never even gave her a chance. She's her own person, and she's clearly very thoughtful and considerate. Those kids are missing out on a friend. I wish I could have stayed in touch with some of my steps, but my father made sure that would never happen because they didn't want anything to do with any of us by the time they got rid of him. Don't blame them.

Seems like her step kids don't really care for her. She may be a needy person, always looking for validation and praise. That can be annoying.

Both the easiest and hardest thing to do in this situation is bluntly but kindly ask what is going on. It is the easiest because it will resolve it once and for all by getting whatever it is out there, but so hard because confronting people is never easy. It is scary to just do it, but even scarier not knowing what the answer will be. There is more to this story.

My SD as a grown up us saying that I didn't allow her go on vacation with us, conveniently forgetting that it was HER own Mother that would not let her go. We did get to take her to Disneyland once, but she must have enjoyed herself too much and that going on vacation with us was never to happen again.

Guess husband gets to see if they brag about the gifts that he actually purchases, rather than getting credit for the gifts that wife buys them. His kids are still getting gifts - he just needs to take responsibility

Unpopular opinion, but I think people are missing an important factor. Op says that she has been dating her partner for several years, but they've only been married for a year, and that his kids are in their mid to late 20's. Then she goes on to say that they have never used the word step... these kids would have been teenagers when she started dating their dad - and why would you jump to immediately calling them your kids when you're only dating their dad?? I'm pretty sure that dad's girlfriend referring to you as her child and not her stepchild or her boyfriend's child would get under the skin of almost any teenager. Whether she realizes it or not, she's been alienating these two from jump. And I do wonder in what other ways she has acted as though she is their actual parent - given that the only pushback she's getting is that they don't say thank you to her, but do thank their dad (whose money is paying for those presents) - maybe she needs to look at herself.

Folks, THINK SERIOUSLY before you date, much less marry someone with kids. The stepmother is the most hated trope in all of Western civilization. I personally just would not ever date any single father. I don't have kids, damn sure don't want anyone else's. Know yourself. Play the video ahead and think of the worst step-parent/stepchild interactions possible. Are you willing to put up with that? for life?