Men also get post partum depression. https://www.unitypoint.org/news-and-articles/male-postpartum-depression--unitypoint-health#:~:text=Male%20postpartum%20depression%20is%20also%20known%20as%20paternal%20postnatal%20depression,or%20needs%20to%20be%20examined.

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Just find a wonderful, maternal "Mrs. Doubtfire" looking type as a nanny. Best quasi-grandma that baby could ever want. Problem solved.

Telling your husband that he has no voice in who to hire as a nanny would make you a bad wife. You'd have a hard time finding a male nanny since men know that they will have a hard time finding work as a nanny since people think male nannies are pedophiles.

The adoption idea was a dumb idea from the mother. Why did she think adopting would be easier than having a biological baby? Foster care is usually harder since foster care kids often have emotional trauma to deal with.

They're pulling them straight off reddit and chucking in some filler. Reddit is not a reliable source of common sense or decency

Whether someone is correct has to do with the logic of their argument, not the amount of support they get from others. For example, your comment only has 1 vote supporting it after two months. Does that mean that no one should pay any attention to what you say?

She's post partum with a kid she basically had to be convinced to have, still dealing with all the hormones and the fact that giving birth is traumatising at the best of times, and setting up her own practice. He promised to be the SAHD, he should take the initiative and request help where necessary, not throw the towel in and expect her to give up everything she's worked on. Did HE ask his parents/in-laws for help? Did he go "hey, honey, this weekend was really overwhelming and I'm having a hard time adjusting to being a sahd, could we please look at having a nanny to give me a break? Or perhaps getting our parents to look after them every now and then?" But he didn't, he went "this is hard, you do it." Yelling may not be the best move but it certainly doesn't make her TAH when he pretty much baby trapped her and went back on his promise and expected her to give up everything.

I wouldn't be mad at him either - except that he told her he was feeling overwhelmed, isolated and trapped and went straight to "let me get my job back and YOU take over the parenting!" As if she might not have the same feelings in that situation, or they wouldn't matter? That's a betrayal - especially when you couple it with his immediately behaving as if their logical discussions about why she wanted to continue to work had never happened.

Okay, fair. But did you give up after a single weekend? That's not even really a trial. He felt alone and isolated, but did he leave the house? Try to find parenting groups and activities? Invite a friend over to play video games? I'm an unwilling sahm. We live in a child care desert with special needs children that need on the order of 20 hours of therapy a week. It sucks, and that isolation is real. He made an agreement and didn't even try to make it work. If this were after 2 months and he was going crazy, yeah its time to get him some help, but we are talking 3 days tops. Anyone who can't handle their own child for 3 days shouldn't be a parent...

Could you all stop saying he was "Overwhelmed" for Christ's sake he watched his own freaking kid for a WEEKEND!! Nobody gets overwhelmed and lonely after 2 damn days. Funny it's expected for the woman to just suck it up and stay home but God forbid a man do it. Boggles the mind how hypocritical this is.

If OP forced the man to have a baby. Absolutely. You guys saying OP is wrong seem to keep missing that OP didn't Want this child She tried to not have this child. And her hubby forced her into it with a promise he is backing out of That's s**t parenting no matter gender. As a former sahm. Who knows just how hard it is. And hubby didn't say "I need help" he said "I give up you do it"

It was one weekend! He didn't last one weekend with his baby. That's not even really trying. He didn't give it a real shot at staying home. The baby doesn't even really have a schedule yet. He's got to try longer than a weekend before he says he can't do it.

The only part I have a problem with is his solution. He wants to switch places with her. What makes him think it will be any easier on someone who quite obviously didn't want that role in the first place. I think a lot of men underestimate what it takes to be a SAHP. Just because women have been doing it for years doesn't mean it's easy. I would be more sympathetic if he just said "Hey this is a lot harder than I thought it would be could we put up some nanny cams and hire some part time help because I need a break." Instead it's more like "Hey this is way harder than I thought it would be..you do it."

Many women feel that way, but you know what? Most of them will suck it up and look after the baby. Why should a man get a pass just because 'it's too hard'? He made the deal, let him honor it, and his wife, by carrying out his duties as a parent. OP made clear that she doesn't want to stay home - she had a BABY! going through pregnancy, just to please him! But now he's too fragile to step up? Give me a break.

It's fine that he is overwhelmed but he also said he isn't willing to keep doing it. Moms don't get to say they are unwilling. They just have to do. He had two days of parenting. Yes it can be overwhelming but u don't get to say yeah no I'm going back to work AFTER all is said and done. She needs nanny nanny cams and a divorce. If he thinks two days is a lot he can do two weeks alone. With joint custody.

I would absolutely say the same if a woman badgered a man into having a child with the promise of quitting her job and taking care of the child, then gave up after a few days. He is allowed to feel overwhelmed. He is not allowed to back out of his promise without even giving it a solid go. And that's not even considering this oh-so-conveniently broken condom.

I guess he'd have to figure it out then, wouldn't he, instead of tapping out after one weekend. What a loser!

You’d be surprised..my ex refused to help at all with our daughter and if I had a doctors appointment or something would push me to ask my mom to watch HIS kid or he’d go with the baby to his moms. But when I kicked him to the curb he started ranting and screaming about HIS RIGHTS AS A FATHER and demanded 50/50 custody to which I agreed. But he lives with his parents again so pretty much all day they look after her and he’s at work out out socializing, he even said as long as I don’t have her more than he does it’s fair. Absafuckinloutly stupid.

He should think about that, then, shouldn't he? If he couldn't hack it for one weekend then divorce isn't in the cards for him, because I don't think mum is accepting full custody.

Honestly, YES, bc he clearly is deceitful and gives serious red flags along the lines of "kids are MT right" which usually goes hand in hand w the "kids are property" mindset. He'd try for full custody just to get back at her.

The baby's going to end up in daycare or a nanny either way definitely if they get divorced

And emotionally immature people like him end up weaponizing their child in a divorce.

He'll get a girl friend and dump the responsibility on her.

"IF" they divorce and "IF" they share custody. The end of my comment was about how in this situation, no outcome would be happy for everyone.

How many days have you been a woman exactly?