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35 Of The Most Soul-Crushing Things Folks Have Ever Heard Someone Say, As Shared By People In This Online Group
Life is full of everything.
And when you’re starting to think that things are looking up and that positive things are coming and that there is no evil in the world, you get hit in the face by reality.
A reality so heavy that it feels hard to stomach.
Folks online have been sharing these particular moments. A Redditor asked others to share the most soul-crushing things someone told them or they have heard someone say. Nearly 2,000 comments later, we’re here.
Scroll down to read the best responses to the viral question. And while you’re at it, upvote, comment, or share your soul-crushing moments, or if not that, then ways to recover from said soul-crushing moments, in the comment section below
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#1
I used to work in a restaurant, and a woman came in with an urn and set it on her table. Apparently her son had died in a car accident very recently and she was supposed to take him out to lunch for his birthday… so she brought his ashes to lunch instead. She was there for a few hours sobbing into her food (we all felt so bad because people kept staring at her as we sat them or walked past her table). Then she ordered his favorite dessert off our menu with special birthday plating, and just let it sit on the table. It was really awful to watch her be so irreparably heartbroken.
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#2
"How can she be my wife? I have no idea who she is." said my husband of 8 years after a bad car wreck and 4 weeks in a coma. He lost about 12 years of memories. Including our whole relationship. We got divorced 2 years after as his memory never returned.
#3
My husband and I took our teenage son and his friend (I’ll call him Alex) to an amusement park recently.
My husband is a really funny guy and was making both boys laugh on the car ride home.
Alex told my husband, “You’re really funny, Mr. D! You remind me of my Dad, except your jokes aren’t hurtful.”
My heart.
#4
My dad and step mom adopted a baby girl, and my step sister overheard my dad talking about how excited he is to adopt a girl because *he’s never had a daughter*.
Absolutely crushed my step sister, she thought of my dad like her own father. He’s been all she’s known.
#5
I saw a documentary.... I don't even recall what it was about, but they were focusing on this family in a rural part of eastern Europe or southern Asia. There was a little girl in this family and all she did was work. She couldn't go to school, and she just assisted her mother in doing all the necessary drudgery around the house.
One of the film makers asked the girl what her secret dream was.
She said, "To play".
#6
Woken in the middle of the night to a phone call from an anonymous, kind nurse who said. “I regret to inform you but [your mother] passed away at 11:40pm. She was not alone... I held her hand.”
#7
When I was 14, I overheard my mother, who had already abandoned my sister and was making arrangements for me to go live with a relative, trying to convince her new husband that they should have a baby together.
Emerald Ocean 2 years ago
Omg. I’m so sorry. I can’t believe any parent that would do that to their own child!
#8
"My family just gave up on me."
-A 10-year-old that just got the news they had been unadopted by their family of the last 5 years.
#9
My first big break-up. I was crying and said to my mom, "I feel like I'm hard to love."
She gently replied, "Well, you are."
I was the one being abused.
I was a typical teenager. I've been brutally honest with multiple therapists (at first, on an attempt to get them to see whatever awful person my parents saw) and have been reassured a was a *typical depressed teenager*.
Any "abusive" behavior from me was reactive abuse (i.e. yelling after I'd been pushed and pushed and pushed).
I wasn't the Proper Pastor's Kid they wanted.
I've been married to the same man for 15+ years (got married at 19) so... I found at least one person to love me.
Emerald Ocean 2 years ago
I’m sorry that happened. That sucks. No one should say that to their kid!
#10
"Mom and Dad have been telling people they only have two kids" from my sister. They have three kids. All because I didn't go to the religious college they wanted me to go to.
#11
Son was moved from hospital to palliative care. They said he had about a week. After getting him settled there he stopped being alert so I went home to grab a shower and get some rest. He passed while I was away, alone.
Emerald Ocean 2 years ago
I’m sooo sorry for you loss, though I know words will never make it better
#12
"Vleir is dead."
Vleir was the name of the pony who basically started my entire horse back riding experience, he gave me confidence like never before, he was so kind, so sweet, so gentle, he taught me how to canter, he taught me patience and how to jump. He was the best boy out there.
The last time I saw him was the afternoon of my usual riding lesson, he was sick so he wasn't being used for lessons. He passes away from a heart attack in his pasture that same night.
I remember crying myself to sleep the night my mom told me he was gone. Tearing up while writing this right now.
RIP Vleir sweet boy, I miss you and I regret not saying goodbye before I left to go home.
Emerald Ocean 2 years ago
I’m so sorry. I also ride and have a great bond with one of my trainers horses. I can’t imagine the feeling of losing gypsy.
#13
Less what I heard and more what I saw. I found out my stepdad was cheating on my mom one day when I was 14. I waited a few hours for my mom to get home and when I showed her what I found she took a deep breath and walked outside into the driveway. I’ve never seen such a visible heart break and my own heart has never hurt so much for my mom. Thankfully now five years later they’ve worked through it but I don’t think my mom will ever be the same.
Who Panda 420 2 years ago
I caught my dad cheating on my mom with the neighbors wife. I was 12 years old and I saw them hugging and kissing. I had gotten up to go to the bathroom and when my dad saw me he said oh that's just how friends show affection. I was not that dumb and told my mother. It ended up breaking up two families and was very messy but better off in the end.
#14
My mum once told me “You wouldn’t be a very good mother, your sister would be much better”. I always loved and worked with children, my sister is more of an animal person. It crushed me because I always dreamed of being a mother and I still think about that comment made years ago when my boyfriend brings up the children topic.
#15
Walked into school one morning to find out one of my parents were dead.
#16
In the hospital 36 hours after having my first child my (then) husband said I was scaring him and I better get my s**t together because I was teary-eyed with happiness over my new little miracle baby.
Emerald Ocean 2 years ago
Oh gosh. Your exhusband sucks! I guarantee that if u want us to we will hunt that jerk down!
#17
“You’re going to end up just like your dad. A lonely junkie that no one wants to be around.” I just stood there silent. I didn’t know what to say to that.
Well-Dressed Wolf 2 years ago
Ahh, that’s almost word-for-word what my adoptive mom told me when I was 8. “You’re going to end up a junkie and an alcoholic, just like your biological mom.” I know OP’s feels :(
#18
"I never loved you. Leave me alone." - After 8 years of relationship from the girl I was about to marry.
#19
*I was only with you because x didn't want me, and now he does there's no future for us.*
Talk about a kick in the teeth.
Hill Branda 2 years ago
That's cold-blooded. Sounds like you dodged a bullet, however painful it was. Better to be rid a heartless rat that like
#20
Recently?
Dad called me a few weeks ago, "Mom. She's gone."
She'd been sick, but it was still pretty unexpected.
Still doesn't seem real.
#21
“He’s gone” 4 weeks after finding out my dad had cancer. I watched him die but hearing that destroyed me.
#22
I had a close friend group and I left to go put something up. I came back and heard them say annoying so I of course asked who or what was annoying. They said you. "me?", I said. Completely crushed me they also told me that. No one really likes me. Yeah that really did it and I'm a lot different now. I'm also kind of glad that happend because now I'm a lot different.
#23
When my grandpa told me I wasn’t good enough. I was always never a girly girl but not quite a tomboy. I was really close to him but he was old school. As I grew up he started to realize that I wasn’t changing in the right way. He kept telling me to use my lady voice, to sit ladylike, eat lady like, and do ladylike things. He had enough when he saw me with my animals being not gentle when they were stubborn and getting dirty and liking it. He got mad and yelled at me after when no one was around. It hurt because always thought he would love me no matter what then I found out that there were conditions to his love.
Shelli Aderman 2 years ago
I’m confused by, “when he saw me with my animals being not gentle when they were stubborn and getting dirty and liking it.” 🤷🏽♀️
#24
A coworker told me that I am boring. It has always been something I felt about myself but having someone confirm it to my face was like a punch in my gut.
#25
"I don't have time for you." My father said this to me multiple times when growing up. Especially whenever I started to express that I was sad and or even really sick.
Hill Branda 2 years ago
My Dad was the same. I had a great relationship with Mom but never Dad. Even when he died, I cried not so much for him but for the relationship that never was.
#26
Was told my best friend from primary school said this the day after we had to put my dog down, “She acts like he was going to live forever.” Doesn’t seem like much but it really upset me, considering I was like 9 or 10.
Emerald Ocean 2 years ago
Omg. She’s an awful friend! Who says that when someone’s dog dies?! Dogs are like family. My childhood dog is like a brother to me!
#27
About five months into my relationship with my now-ex boyfriend, he pulled me aside from a conversation I was having with my mates. I was like "what's up?"
"Nothing, I just don't know if I trust you around others anymore."
This guy was paranoid that I would leave him that he didn't want me having friends or going anywhere without constantly talking to him 24/7. He was even more worried because I'm bisexual, meaning there was "double the threat" in his words.
That relationship went on for about 10 months, and about 5 months too long.
Kenneth McCartney 2 years ago
I've dated several bisexual girls. I certainly don't feel threatened by another girl in the mix. Am I a pig, after all?
#28
When my uncle passed away, mum and I took his phone. My 8yo cousin had texted him "are you dead?" whenever she found out. I couldn't stop crying.
#29
My first kiss is a bad memory because the girl told me she lost a bet with her friends and was dared to do it.
#30
An ex-girlfriend who left me allegedly because she wants to pay more attention to herself, self-development, does not want a relationship.
It would seem normal, at that moment I understood her, but after 2 days I found out that she had a new boyfriend. This blatant lie broke my heart...
RandomFrog(He/They️️) 2 years ago
Story time! So I had a gf I loved very much, and she broke up w me and said the same thing; wasn’t ready for a relationship needed time for themself, and I understood and we broke it off. Her friend was behind us too while she did it. Anyways a few months later thr friend asked me out And I said yes cuz she was fairly attractive, but I didint know her (biggest regret of my life so far). I told my ex gf and she said no. Don’t date her. I kinda laughed it off and she persisted. She told me they had dated and it was toxic and she was manipulative. I though they had dated before ex gf dated me, but it had been right after, cuz she showed me some messages between them and it was dated around the time she broke up w me. So ig the girl had manipulated her and told her she needed to break up w me to date her, she had listened, broke up w me and they dated till she was borderline sexually abusive and ex gf broke up w her. After I dated her it was a huge fight and I don’t even want to get into.
#31
I teach martial arts to 3-5 yo. A mom brought her daughter and asked if those kids with me were mine. I said yes but the other twin stayed home. The mom took a deep breath and said that her daughter had a twin too that died at birth.
#32
Girl I had a crush on told me she was embarrassed that she had feelings for me.
#33
My dad was not my biological father.
Emerald Ocean 2 years ago
Even tho he’s not your bio dad, he still loves you and cares for you. That makes him your father!
#34
"Your mom has cancer..."
MotherofGuineaPigs 2 years ago
I remember getting this call about my father. Sat in my car outside the grocery store and ugly cried.
#35
"Your mom is cheating on me."
What do you think ?
Jose Ortiz 2 years ago
When i was 14 i fainted at the Kingdom Hall ( Jehovah Witness version of a Church) when i was in the ER my parents were told that i more than likely needed a blood transfusion and my parents denied the treat me due to their "faith" Im 40 and ok now but i think about that all the time and in honestly feels worst every time it think about it..
Ivo H 2 years ago (edited)
I’m really sorry. I know religious people can be manipulated to believe anything, but it should never be a reason to decline non-controversal and almost completely safe treatment for their child. I would rather go to all the hells from all the religions at once than risk my kids’ lives.
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Benita Valdez 2 years ago
Yeah these are pretty bad. I have several but one that will forever annoy me is my mom let slip that when I was born my uncles wife said I would grow up to be cold and heartless and noone would love me. She was a real piece of work and never liked me; wanted nothing to do with me but adored my older sister and just neutral about my brother. I mean I am cold and bitter but you can't say that about a freaking infant. Noone liked that woman and some of us believe my uncles death wasn't an accident.
Donna Leslie 2 years ago
I met the love of my life two years after being in an abusive marriage. A close friend committed suicide three weeks ago, then my partner left me yesterday. Feel so broken and lost.
Pterodactyl in Disguise 2 years ago
I will be here for anything you need to talk about, I can’t ever imagine how broken your heart is
Load More Replies... Jose Ortiz 2 years ago
When i was 14 i fainted at the Kingdom Hall ( Jehovah Witness version of a Church) when i was in the ER my parents were told that i more than likely needed a blood transfusion and my parents denied the treat me due to their "faith" Im 40 and ok now but i think about that all the time and in honestly feels worst every time it think about it..
Ivo H 2 years ago (edited)
I’m really sorry. I know religious people can be manipulated to believe anything, but it should never be a reason to decline non-controversal and almost completely safe treatment for their child. I would rather go to all the hells from all the religions at once than risk my kids’ lives.
Load More Replies... Benita Valdez 2 years ago
Yeah these are pretty bad. I have several but one that will forever annoy me is my mom let slip that when I was born my uncles wife said I would grow up to be cold and heartless and noone would love me. She was a real piece of work and never liked me; wanted nothing to do with me but adored my older sister and just neutral about my brother. I mean I am cold and bitter but you can't say that about a freaking infant. Noone liked that woman and some of us believe my uncles death wasn't an accident.
Donna Leslie 2 years ago
I met the love of my life two years after being in an abusive marriage. A close friend committed suicide three weeks ago, then my partner left me yesterday. Feel so broken and lost.
Pterodactyl in Disguise 2 years ago
I will be here for anything you need to talk about, I can’t ever imagine how broken your heart is
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