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“AITA For Refusing To ‘See Other Options’ For A Girl And Pressing Charges For What She Did To My Son’s Car?”
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“AITA For Refusing To ‘See Other Options’ For A Girl And Pressing Charges For What She Did To My Son’s Car?”

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It is very human to have the urge to get back at someone if one has been wronged or hurt by them in any way. But it is also very human to get carried away with how one responds in such situations.

While some try to talk it out, others turn to property damage, and, needless to say, it often doesn’t go well. What does property have to do with any beef that you have with a person, anyway?

A concerned dad has turned to the internet for some perspective on a situation where his son’s ex, along with her brother, decided to vandalize his car after the two broke up, which led to some pretty serious consequences.

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    So, Reddit user u/Wild-Spread-8713, who introduced himself as a 39-year-old dad of a 17-year-old son, Bryce, turned to the Am I The A-Hole community to figure out something.

    In particular, that something was if he and his wife ought to press charges against the neighbor’s daughter Lana, also 17, his son’s ex-girlfriend, after she has completely trashed his car after a breakup.

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    OK, so, a little context. The kids were together for about a year, and throughout the relationship, they saw how abusive Lana could be with her controlling and aggressive behavior towards Bryce.

    What does make things right, however, is turning such a situation into a lesson, just like this dad decided to do when his son’s ex trashed his car

    Image credits: Wild-Spread-8713

    While the son did have a talk with his parents regarding the future of the relationship, he never really wanted to proceed with a breakup because of fear Lana would retaliate. The breakup was inevitable, and the interesting part is that Lana’s response was nonexistent at the time.

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    Some time later, Bryce got a car as a Christmas gift from his parents so that he could get around places, like school, work, etc. However, the car very quickly became a victim of scratches and the like, and while everyone knew it was Lana as they had cameras, the son decided to do nothing so as to not prod the lion, sort to say. The damage was minimal anyway.

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    Image credits: Wild-Spread-8713

    Until it wasn’t, when one morning the family found the car absolutely trashed: paint, glue, feathers, confetti, the door handles were wrecked, flat tires, paint all over the windows, the works. Needless to say, everyone was distraught.

    Camera footage showed Lana and her brother going nuts on the car, so one phone call to the police later, the brother was jailed, while Lana is a minor and her fate rests at the hands of Bryce and his family. So, the dad decided he’ll press charges.

    People online saw no fault in the dad for pressing charges—in fact, they advised that he go all the way

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    Lana’s parents weren’t all too happy about it, and offered to replace the car, and to send Lana to therapy just so that they wouldn’t proceed with making her pay. But the family was having none of it and want to stand their ground with the charges.

    And the story found its way on Reddit, where it got over 31,000 upvotes with a bit over 50 Reddit awards. The community, which left over 2,000 comments, ruled that there is absolutely no way they could be wrong here. People said that she needs a wake-up call, and needs to be taught a lesson that actions need consequences and that pressing charges is the only reasonable thing to do.

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    You can check out the post here, but don’t go just yet cause we’d love to know your thoughts on this. How would you handle this situation? Let us know in the comment section below!

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    Robertas Lisickis

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    Zoe's Mom
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    2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    She deserves everything she gets as well as the brother. They both need therapy.

    Cold Contagious
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    2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Absolutely correct! I also hope that they charge her as a adult, like she deserves. I hope the cctv footage shows her laughing and yucking it up, while they're destroying his car, so the proper authorities who are imposing the actual charges can experience the full impact of her behavior against her ex-boyfriend. So they can present adequate charges. I also hope therapy is part of the judgement against her, as well as a epo for her ex-boyfriend. There's no telling how many times she has been aggressive towards former boyfriends and crushes throughout her history, that her parents may have taken of for her previously.

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    Kusotare
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    2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    This is one of the easiest AITA calls ever. NTA. Lana and her entire family need to be set straight. Let the court system decide what form that takes, but do NOT negotiate with her enabling parents.

    Jennifer Millner
    Community Member
    2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I grew up in a military family. It was made clear to me that if I got into trouble, I was on my own. No bail money, no paying for an attorney. I was also taught respect for others. Funny how I never got into any trouble, isn't it?

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    Number 5
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    2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I suppose it would be difficult since they're neighbors but I would want a restraining order as well. This girl and her brother's behaviors are terrifying. She'd better get therapy because I can see her actions escalating. If the OP's family has any pets they'd better not leave them unsupervised outside.

    alfonso
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    2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    The girl should go straight to prison, no restraining orders necessary

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    Zoe's Mom
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    2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    She deserves everything she gets as well as the brother. They both need therapy.

    Cold Contagious
    Community Member
    2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Absolutely correct! I also hope that they charge her as a adult, like she deserves. I hope the cctv footage shows her laughing and yucking it up, while they're destroying his car, so the proper authorities who are imposing the actual charges can experience the full impact of her behavior against her ex-boyfriend. So they can present adequate charges. I also hope therapy is part of the judgement against her, as well as a epo for her ex-boyfriend. There's no telling how many times she has been aggressive towards former boyfriends and crushes throughout her history, that her parents may have taken of for her previously.

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    Kusotare
    Community Member
    2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    This is one of the easiest AITA calls ever. NTA. Lana and her entire family need to be set straight. Let the court system decide what form that takes, but do NOT negotiate with her enabling parents.

    Jennifer Millner
    Community Member
    2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I grew up in a military family. It was made clear to me that if I got into trouble, I was on my own. No bail money, no paying for an attorney. I was also taught respect for others. Funny how I never got into any trouble, isn't it?

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    Number 5
    Community Member
    2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I suppose it would be difficult since they're neighbors but I would want a restraining order as well. This girl and her brother's behaviors are terrifying. She'd better get therapy because I can see her actions escalating. If the OP's family has any pets they'd better not leave them unsupervised outside.

    alfonso
    Community Member
    2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    The girl should go straight to prison, no restraining orders necessary

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