"She gave him what he wanted." And that's the problem. She allowed an eleven-year-old to make a major decision. You cannot expect an eleven-year-old to have the maturity of an adult. Eleven-year-olds are cocky. Surprise, surprise. That's why their PARENTS are supposed to make major decisions for them.

Parent: mother and FATHER. Daddy is just as responsible for kiddo. Daddy became the primary custodian. The eleven-year old remained with his family. What is your point?

It’s true you can’t expect an 11-year old to have the maturity of an adult. You also can’t expect anyone to be able to mind read that another person regrets what they demanded. Seventeen, still isn’t (generally) mature enough to consider things from anyone’s perspective but their own; this post is evidence of that. Don’t get me wrong, my heart bleeds for the confused 11-year old simply assuming mom would let him stay out his tantrum at dad’s then bring him back home. What OP and, apparently, you don’t understand is his mom respected his autonomy and right to choose… even at 11. Unless, and until, OP is willing to be vulnerable with his mom and tell her he didn’t mean it, never expected her to give him what he said he wanted and felt abandoned she took him at his word, there will be no reconciliation. It’s just a guess but if/when OP finally opens up to describe his feelings to his mom, there will be floods of tears. Regret for the misunderstandings and lost time.

lmao that's what the PARENTS did. Do you think only a mother is supposed to be a parent? She left him with *gasp* the OTHER PARENT.

This comment has been deleted.

This comment is hidden. Click here to view.

Yeah these comments are bananas. I have to assume they are mostly people who think their opinions matter when they've never raised a teenager. I mean, both parties certainly have some faults, but it was clear this kid was testing her boundaries and she basically proved she didn't give a enough of a f**k and just gave up am let him win. Some people aren't cut out to be parents.

He said he wanted to live with his dad. Regardless of age, are you saying you would have told him "No, you're not living with your dad?" If you did let him go live with his dad, at what point would you have picked him back up considering he never told his mom he wanted to come back. You are not the only one who has raised a teenager.

You're making an assumption that when she kicked the kid out was the first time he's been a pain in the a*s. From the sound of things he was likely causing trouble for awhile before she "gave up". I don't think this was a case of giving him what he wanted, I think it was a case of "I can't help him, and he's broken me".

She did not "kick out" her child. She let him live with his other PARENT.

I think the father (ab)used his kid to break the mother.

This comment is hidden. Click here to view.

Took away his bedroom. He is no longer part of the family