Wtf????? This is not how you "teach your son a lesson", this is how you make a child sad and stressed out! He is 2, he doesn't understand gender bias, he barely understands his own little world and you're treating him like a teenage boy! Absolutely horrible parenting, I feel bad for the poor kid. If you treat him like this when he's 2,i can only imagine the horrible "lessons" he'll receive as he grows older. This is how anxious kids are raised, kids who fear their parents and want to move out of the house as soon as possible.

This is like that mother who let her 5 yo go without food all day because she forgot to pack her own lunch. I am all for treating kids with respect and as equals, but we have to be aware of their cognitive development limitations. Also, bringing this 'treat women well' argument with a small child is uncalled for. It is not because you are a woman that he didn't clean his room, it's because a 2 yo has other priorities and gets distracted.

Wow, taking your feministic agenda and putting it onto a two year old? This is a phenomenal parenting fail. "Mommy tidies up!" has nothing to do with your gender if a two yeaar old utters that. By putting toys into the trash you will teach your son a lesson of unreliability and of inconsistency, and you demand a level of forecast not comprehensible for a two-year old. What about making realistic offers and demands, such as offering help after a certain amount of cleaning up has been done, turning cleaning up into a game, incentivising by offering toys he did not have in a wile, incentivising by allowing only a certain amount of different toys at a time so cleaning up is neccesary before playing something else, incentivising by promising to do some redecoration after cleaning up...there are so many possibilities. It only takes the willingness to perceive a two year old as a, well, two year old.

My dad did something similar to me when I was about 3 but instead he just stuck all my toys into black trash cans in the middle of the room and I couldn't touch them. I have never forgot that, and not in a positive way.

So did u trash them or put them in the basement? Stick to your script. Bottom line is, videoing and posting you disciplining your child is the height of trashy.

"assign age-appropriate chores"

My son is almost 4, and he has only recently started cleaning up all of his toys by himself. We didn't achieve this by carrying out harsh punishments, but by gradually giving more and more responsibility. At his age, he now understands that he is responsible for cleaning up after himself.

What about "Let's do this together."? The little guy is only two, it's part of his natural development to discover his own will. Yes, this can be a shitty phase but don't have kids if you're not able to handle that. I'm really sorry for the kid having a mother that takes the behavior of a two year old personal and thinks it's a good thing to share her opinion with the internet. Feminism is an important thing but starting with a two year old makes her just look weak.

This seems like good intentions, but bad approach, and all for a child that is too young for it. If she is worried about gender roles make sure daddy helps clean up too. Let him see good role models.

Wow. So stupid. A 2 year old child needs help in nearly everything. Cleaning up is a thing he doesnt even understand! Its so easy to clean a together at this age you could easily make a game out of it! Also she is responsible for the amount of toys, so she could easily not give him this much and so it is less to tidy up. Did she threw away the toys?

While I try to keep my cool let’s start off with a list of things on what she shouldn’t have done and why. 1. The child is f*****g TWO “. 2. Thinking her son saying “Mommy’s supposed to do it.” Is not gender bias. He is f*****g two, he cannot comprehend genders. The reason he said this so probably because his mom usually is the one who cleans, so he thinks it’s her job to do so and doesn’t see why he has to do it. 3. Telling a two year old to clean a messy room is like telling a cat to sit still when it’s dinner time. (My cat at least) 4. Taking away the toys. Really?!? That’s going to make the kid distraught, sad, and bored when he has nothing to do. What the OP should’ve done is sit down and help the kid clean. 5 Years Old is when you should expect a kid to fully clean their own room.

a younger child probably wouldn't learn from this, would probably just feel attacked, would be a good parenting tactic for an older child that will most likely use the idea of the toys as motivation, but not so much for a 2 year old (I think he was 2)

This article is a little misleading. I thought she had actually TRASHED his toys. ie thrown them out with the garbage. This would be an extreme and unfair punishment. Letting him THINK that's what happened would be little better but a punishment where he can learn a lesson and earn his way back into his mom's good books as well as get his toys back is a sensible way to teach a lesson. All punishments should involve learning. BUT, having said all that I think he may yet be still too young to learn from this, he's only TWO after all. He might actually have forgotten what he was punished for by the time he gets his toys back. And that makes punishment pointless..

Honestly, while I agree that a child should learn consequence, throwing away all of their toys isn't a constructive lesson, imo. If you really want them to understand respect then take the toys away & have him earn then back because in the real world, if we don't clean the only real consequence is a mess so instead of making it about respect, explain how this is your home & you expect x,y, & z to be done without argument because *fill in the blank numerous reasons why living in a messy environment is no fun* In my experience having raised two very different kids (f15 & m18) the one thing they both responded really well to was logical, age appropriate explanations. If, after a talk and example lesson, I was still ignored then they lost that item or another favorite toy until they could show me they were ready to earn it back.

I think this mom just wants attention and this seems very impulsive. Also I wouldn't brag that I'm best friends with my son. That's not your job - be a mother. (A friend would not also take away all your toys) Just weird all over.

disgusting HE IS TWO WTF

Some people should not be allowed to have kids. What an absolutely shitty person. As if a two-year old cares about her feminist agenda or anything. If you want to punish, put the toys away for a day.

This kid refused to clean up his toys; so they get taken away for a bit. That's not a crazy thing to do, but when you post it to social media everybody gets to judge.

When my son was just a little guy, he and I would clean his room together, me showing him how his toys should end up on the shelves made for them. By the time he was 8, however, he got the idea in his head (from the icky little cretins in the neighborhood with whom he played) that "Mom can clean my room, and I'm just going to have fun." He actually said that, so when he was told a couple days later to pick his stuff up, and he said "No, I don't want to, you can do it," I said I would, and that he'd have to live with the consequences of his words. I bagged up his entire beloved huge "Hot Wheels" collection, the worst clutter offender by far, and put it all into the storage shed behind the house. I took care of the rest of his stuff, which was allowed to be tossed into the toy box my Dad had built for Son, but the Hot Wheels didn't come back into the house. It took only that one incident for him to learn that when Mom said to clean his room, I meant it. He got the cars back a week later.

What a nut job of a mom. She's making home a toxic nightmare. Something is seriously wrong with her. Using a 2 year old to try and get internet popularity and it totally backfired on her dumb ass

Go f*ck yourself. Seriously. Die.

Well, for f***s sake. A 2 year old is absolutely capable of cleaning up. More importantly, a 2 year old has no reason to say "you clean it up, mommy". I wouldn't throw out the toys. I would let him think I was though.

no problem with me. i had a cubbie set up & drew pics of what each cubbie/tub was for so he could put them away. the bigger stuff was to be pushed to the 'toy corner'. he learned to clean his stuff and did so...until he was a teen and then it became a conflict. so, that was then i employed this mom's tactic w/my telling the teen if he didn't respect his stuff to take care of them then he didn't need them. didn't take him long to straighten up.

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My mother tossed out our toys if we didn't pick them up. Honestly, I plan to do the same thing with my kids because I am happy with the results of that as an adult. I turned into a minimalist of sorts. I don't buy a lot of things because as a kid I realized that a lot of things means a lot of cleaning. I also learned to take extra care of the things that mean a lot to me. You better believe My Little Ponies were always put away as to not risk the trash. And when I say trash, I do mean they were trashed, gone forever. As an adult, I avoid clutter and junk and I am more mindful of purchases. I don't understand buying your kids a lot of toys anyway. Though I wouldn't ask my two year old to clean their room, I would just say, "Okay, let's go clean your room." It is a statement, it is happening, and we are doing it together.

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Kudos to her. It's nice to see some real parenting. People have spent far too many years coddling children instead of teaching them values, morals, and respect. That has become all too apparent as these monsters have grown up into entitled brats.