Do you know what? I NEVER had a best friend. Even though I had "friends" I was bullied by all of them. I was an easy target because I was small and feeble. Mine started at around 7 years old and I thought that was bad, but senior school was horrendous!!! I had no-one. My parents (who I love dearly) didn't do anything, but I didn't tell them everything either. But I raised three daughters and when my youngest was being bullied, I knew. My mam knew of bad incidents but didn't do enough and my dad just tolerated us. He's amazing now though! I went on to be bullied in the workplace and I'm now 52 and still struggling with confidence and I'm called "the sorry girl" I did everything I could for my girl and she's Fricken amazing!! My mam and dad now know the extent of the bullying, but say "we didn't know this" rubbish!! I wished I could get over it but I'm still a mess sometimes. OP this is awful for him but the problem lies with the parents if they don't/wont acknowledge her bad behaviour.

I'm guessing that one of Mia's classmates referred to him as her boyfriend. She wanted to stop that rumour immediately so went scorched earth.

It sounds like she wanted to join the “cool kids” but was given an ultimatum - Them or the bestie. Was probably told if he speaks to her, then she can’t stay in the cool group. Thus, she abuses him as a way to get him to stop wanting to be her friend. I was bullied a lot as a kid and you get so desperate to be accepted that you do what others tell you to, in order to be accepted by them. Also the mother just doesn’t want to believe her perfect daughter could do such a thing, so labels the others as liars.

I experienced this growing up. Around 8th grade, 2 girls I considered best friends started to bully me, talk about me behind my back, spread rumors, and wouldn't talk to me. As someone who was/is socially awkward most of the time, I had always been bullied. However this hit differently because it came out of left field and there wasn't a specific incident or event that changed things. It sucked but I learned to become more social with all people, and have learned to accept others for who they are

Mia is copying her new "friends". She wants to be like them. Sad for her. A day will come when she will regret it. I (64f) know. I so want to apologize to a girl from 5th grade but can't find her.

Happened to my daughter in high school. Some years later the mean girl tried to friend her on Facebook. She said thanks but no thanks.

I had fallings-out with friends in my preteens and throughout the teens and you know what? The only mothers who treated my mom badly were the ones whose children have done something weird and/or wrong. When my friends and i fell apart organically my parents and their parents had no problems coexisting and cooperating at school, they liked each other and kept out of our teen shananigans. One girl told their mother i was a s**t for dating their friend and another girl kept buying magazines not appropriate for our age and said i gave it to her. I guess those mothers are just trying to protect their children too. I still dislike those girls to this age (40s now), and yet these girls betrayed other friends too, the friends who stood with them when these girls were lying about me. One of their friends, after being abandoned after 20 years of close friendship, actually got depressed. I'm vindicated after 30 years, so just eating my popcorn.

My bff from fifth grade dumped me halfway through freshman year of highschool. Our school had a sorority rush, and there was no way I was going to make it. (Not that I wanted to.) She just flipped a switch. I cried and mourned for what felt like ages. Hard lesson, but it prepared me for a lot more nonsense in the future. Love your friends while you have them, but be aware sometimes things go sideways through no fault of your own. I'm glad my mom was honest with me about that. Sorry for both of your losses, even if they were good ones.

Same thing happened to my brother at that age. He still won't interact with peers because he's terrified of being hurt and thinks they're all out to trick him.

Exact same thing happened with my daughter and one of her still best friends. When they were younger, this friend of hers had told all of their mutual friends to be mean to my daughter. This little girls mom had also become a very good friend of mine. So, thank goodness, her being such a wonderful person handled it completely different. She told me that her daughter will be apologizing to my daughter tomorrow at school and to please let her know if she does not. Well, she did apologize and to this day, they are still best friends! Her mother was still my best friend until the day she passed away. I sure wish this mother in this story would have handled it that way. ❤️❤️

I think miA is going through early puberty, she doesn't understand her feelings

A girl I grew up with most of my life and I were the best of friends. We did everything together. Everyone just knew that we'd marry some day. Then, in the blink of an eye at 17 she just up and moved in with her mother. She'd lived with her sisters up to that point. No "bye" no explanation, just gone. I even went to see her the following summer and it was like I was almost a stranger. I saw her one more time about 4 years later and she hardly spoke to me and that was the last time I ever saw or heard from her. Her sisters and I stay in touch and neither of them have ever had any idea why she just ghosted me. They were just as shocked because they more than anyone thought we'd marry. Who knows, we probably would have if she hadn't left.

The first commenter up there said it's very normal for kids' friendships to change around the years of 7-11. And this is true. But most kids don't start suddenly, actively, constantly bullying their former friends. Some do. But at that age, most just change their minds like they change their panties. And the commenter's logic doesn't really apply to this situation anyway. Because Mia's mom certainly isn't 7-11 years old, and she turned on OP just as quickly as Mia turned on OP's DS. No, this is a case of a shallow, two-faced garbage human who coddles her baby and believes they can do no wrong. And she's raising her daughter to be just as shallow and two-faced as she is. Her daughter is where she belongs, with other shallow "cool" kids, who don't care about anything but appearances, and will drop her for no reason just as quickly as she dropped OP's DS, if they decide she's not worthy anymore. And that will be Mia's karma-though she'd never see it that way, because she's being raised to believe nothing is ever her fault. OP and her DS are better off without them.

When I was in 5th grade, at the beginning of the school year, I became fast friends with another girl who happened to be sitting near me. And for the next few weeks, we continued to sit together and talk regularly throughout the school day. Later that month I missed a few days of school because my family and I went out of state for a relative’s wedding. When I returned to school, another girl said to me, “Poor you, everyone hates you!” And my new friend had, indeed, moved her desk away from mine and next to the class bully; she was suddenly friends with her now. The bully apparently had spent the days that I was gone talking badly about me and turning this girl against me! FWIW, though, the animosity didn’t last. The girl and I eventually became friends again and remained that way throughout even high school! :) Kids can be weird. PEOPLE can be weird!

I'm just waiting for this drama to enter our lives. My 8 is a klutzy Viola playing Godzilla and Sonic fanboy. The boys he most wants to play with are all active in sports and have older brothers so they act older than kids without kids with high school siblings. I don't want to force any friendships on or off, but I fear that jock rejection of the nerd one of these days.

I think this stuff happens to everyone in school if they had friends, even out of school. Particularly between girls n boys though not limited to that. Kids meet other kids or groups of kids and sometimes they feel like they have to make a choice. From an adults perspective it can seem wrong but its a natural selection process with kids. I can see that its a little more concerning with really close kids but it still happens. Not blaming your kid but he probably kept trying to talk to her to try to figure it out which meant she was going to keep saying mean things to distance herself. While the other parent could have been more understanding, people are protective of their kids. Going to the principal was was beyond and you shouldnt have done that unless you felt the girl was going out of her way to bully your kid. Epecially once your son told you about her hanging out with new kids, tell him dynamics change as kids change.

I would say good riddance to little Mia. Obviously without meaning to Mia's Mom (or Dad) has raised her that it is ok to judge and treat people by their looks and what they own. She would not be getting this behavior from nowhere. She may have been tempted to hang with the cool kids, but she never would have been weak enough to fold to that kind of vicious behavior unless she grew up to a certain degree that those that have are better than those that have not. Mean Girls don't become mean girls out of thin air. It is a core personality trait, those beliefs are there to begin with. You are going to have many friends through life. As a Mom you will have many more. I would be more worried about the dark personality path your daughter is taking and less worried about the friends you lost. You lose friends for reasons. And no one likes Mean Girls or Bully's, big or all.

Call the cops for harassment

Lyoness: To call any child a bit*ch is a bit much. To hold a grudge when your child is now 22, is nuts. I'd move before I'd let this control my life so much. If ANYONE is being treated like this, and you can afford it....MOVE BEFORE A TRAGEDY TAKES PLACE!

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