The exact same thing happened to our daughter. She and her best friend Sophie were inseparable from kindergarten to grade five. One day DD came home sobbing. She had gone up to Sophie in the hall at school as usual and the little b*tch said "I don't hang out with losers", then she and her new friends laughed. Our daughter is 22 and I still hate that kid.

Based on the mom's defensive reaction...Yeh it could indicate why the kid is acting like that in the first place. Worth exploring for op.

Yeah, it sucks. I remember when I was 13 and I was into younger things than my 'bff'. Well she got accepted into the cool girls group and that was the end of that friendship. It's important to be honest about what's happened, and let him know he's not alone in having this happen to him.

No accounting for hormones and peer pressure. People are in our lives for a reason, a season, or a lifetime. Mourn the loss... then get busy living your best life. Time is Now. Do not waste it on game players.

Friends I had in primary school stopped speaking to me in High School when I was placed in the 'smarter' classes than them. By year 12 I had a bestie and up until he got married that continued. Then his wife made sure I was cut out of the picture, They are now divorced but he has clearly move on. I have never let anyone get that close again. Chris, if you're out there (and I know you are) I still miss you, the beach, movies and board games.....

The OP should get her son therapy to help him processes this. It's normal for kids to drift apart as they age or even to have fights that end the friendship but out if the blue like this is confusing and emotionally devastating for a child that is just learning intersocial skills. Also, see if you can move him out of the class if there's another of the same grade. I'm not sure if the teacher went about this correctly. Bullying shouldn't be tolerated and this girl's parents should have been called in for a parent-teacher meeting about her behavior and informed that if it continues she'll be suspended or disciplined per school policy. There's nothing to be done about this other woman who's clearly raising a little brat. You've seen the type of person and parent she is.

Yeah kids can be mean. Plenty of boy and girl bullies I have dealt with in school.

Id explain to DS that sometimes good people make bad choices in life it doesnt mean they are bad people though...my heart goes out to both them n hopefully this is just a phase mia is going through n things will sort themselves out. The thing about mia's "friends" is they will likely turn on her/bully her at some point.

Bro don't worry about it just get some friends that are boys and I'm a hard time fall back on them us boys fall back on each other all the time so don't worry about it

Mia is going to turn into a mean girl and that never goes well. Especially these days. Cut the losses.

An only child? Perhaps the oldest? Seems like the mother has not experienced the terrible tween years. Girls "mature" faster than boys. Mia may be making poor choices but she is growing up and that is part of it. Hopefully she will realize she is becoming a bully. As for the mothers, most prefer to believe that their children are perfect little angels and anyone pointing out otherwise becomes the enemy. The boy will just have to make a new best friend. As does his mother.

A girl I grew up with most of my life and I were the best of friends. We did everything together. Everyone just knew that we'd marry some day. Then, in the blink of an eye at 17 she just up and moved in with her mother. She'd lived with her sisters up to that point. No "bye" no explanation, just gone. I even went to see her the following summer and it was like I was almost a stranger. I saw her one more time about 4 years later and she hardly spoke to me and that was the last time I ever saw or heard from her. Her sisters and I stay in touch and neither of them have ever had any idea why she just ghosted me. They were just as shocked because they more than anyone thought we'd marry. Who knows, we probably would have if she hadn't left.

The first commenter up there said it's very normal for kids' friendships to change around the years of 7-11. And this is true. But most kids don't start suddenly, actively, constantly bullying their former friends. Some do. But at that age, most just change their minds like they change their panties. And the commenter's logic doesn't really apply to this situation anyway. Because Mia's mom certainly isn't 7-11 years old, and she turned on OP just as quickly as Mia turned on OP's DS. No, this is a case of a shallow, two-faced garbage human who coddles her baby and believes they can do no wrong. And she's raising her daughter to be just as shallow and two-faced as she is. Her daughter is where she belongs, with other shallow "cool" kids, who don't care about anything but appearances, and will drop her for no reason just as quickly as she dropped OP's DS, if they decide she's not worthy anymore. And that will be Mia's karma-though she'd never see it that way, because she's being raised to believe nothing is ever her fault. OP and her DS are better off without them.

When I was in 5th grade, at the beginning of the school year, I became fast friends with another girl who happened to be sitting near me. And for the next few weeks, we continued to sit together and talk regularly throughout the school day. Later that month I missed a few days of school because my family and I went out of state for a relative’s wedding. When I returned to school, another girl said to me, “Poor you, everyone hates you!” And my new friend had, indeed, moved her desk away from mine and next to the class bully; she was suddenly friends with her now. The bully apparently had spent the days that I was gone talking badly about me and turning this girl against me! FWIW, though, the animosity didn’t last. The girl and I eventually became friends again and remained that way throughout even high school! :) Kids can be weird. PEOPLE can be weird!

I'm just waiting for this drama to enter our lives. My 8 is a klutzy Viola playing Godzilla and Sonic fanboy. The boys he most wants to play with are all active in sports and have older brothers so they act older than kids without kids with high school siblings. I don't want to force any friendships on or off, but I fear that jock rejection of the nerd one of these days.

That little girl has joined the mean girls club. Will not change while in school. Maybe later. I’d do my best to keep DS away from her and her “fiends.” Maybe even changing schools when they finish middle school.

I think this stuff happens to everyone in school if they had friends, even out of school. Particularly between girls n boys though not limited to that. Kids meet other kids or groups of kids and sometimes they feel like they have to make a choice. From an adults perspective it can seem wrong but its a natural selection process with kids. I can see that its a little more concerning with really close kids but it still happens. Not blaming your kid but he probably kept trying to talk to her to try to figure it out which meant she was going to keep saying mean things to distance herself. While the other parent could have been more understanding, people are protective of their kids. Going to the principal was was beyond and you shouldnt have done that unless you felt the girl was going out of her way to bully your kid. Epecially once your son told you about her hanging out with new kids, tell him dynamics change as kids change.

I would say good riddance to little Mia. Obviously without meaning to Mia's Mom (or Dad) has raised her that it is ok to judge and treat people by their looks and what they own. She would not be getting this behavior from nowhere. She may have been tempted to hang with the cool kids, but she never would have been weak enough to fold to that kind of vicious behavior unless she grew up to a certain degree that those that have are better than those that have not. Mean Girls don't become mean girls out of thin air. It is a core personality trait, those beliefs are there to begin with. You are going to have many friends through life. As a Mom you will have many more. I would be more worried about the dark personality path your daughter is taking and less worried about the friends you lost. You lose friends for reasons. And no one likes Mean Girls or Bully's, big or all.

Call the cops for harassment

The DS abbreviation is so f**king stupid. It needs to end immediately.

I think OP is either not getting the whole thing from her kid or not telling us everything. Something isn't adding up to me

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