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Many cultures have proverbs about respecting your elders. In theory, they've lived for longer, so they automatically have more experience, and with experience comes knowledge, right? Maybe some people would like to argue that wisdom doesn't come from how old you are. Yet you can't deny that people who have more years under their belt might have a different perspective on current trends and events.

Well, one netizen had the idea to ask older adults which current social norms and things they find strange. The user u/-----Diana----- wrote: "What's socially normal now that you disagree with?" The people on r/AskOldPeople shared some things they're not entirely on board with. And their answers are actually insightful, not the old-man-yells-at-cloud kind.

To know more about the 'Grumpy Old People' myth and why older people tend to disagree with modern social norms, Bored Panda reached out to Dr. Julie Erickson, a clinical psychologist and author of The Aging Well Workbook for Anxiety and Depression.

We also managed to have a conversation with the Redditor who started the discussion, u/-----Diana-----. The user from Romania was kind enough to tell us why she was curious about what older adults think of today's social norms. Read both interviews below!

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“Total Ignorance Of Science”: 40 Older Adults Point Out Weird Things That Are “Normal” Nowadays Our society being ok with total ignorance of science and some are even praised for it.

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It's natural for people to have differing opinions. Sometimes, these opinions can differ because of age. And that's completely normal, too. Clinical psychologist and author of The Aging Well Workbook for Anxiety and Depression, Dr. Julie Erickson, says that different generations commonly have conflicting views over norms, values, and beliefs.

"Each generation has 'cohort beliefs,' which are beliefs held by people born at a similar time period," Dr. Erickson tells Bored Panda. "These beliefs are shaped by a variety of different social, political, cultural, environmental, technological, and economic factors of the time."

But to say that "all elderly people hate technology" would be too simplistic and untrue. And, honestly, pretty ageist. There's much more nuance to it than that. "It's important to recognize that there is tremendous individual variability in the extent to which older adults accept new social norms," Dr. Erickson observes. "Some older adults are quite capable of evolving their worldview. It's an ageist assumption that older adults are stuck in their ways or more resistant to change."

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    #2

    “Total Ignorance Of Science”: 40 Older Adults Point Out Weird Things That Are “Normal” Nowadays The widespread inability to spell words correctly or use them properly ( e.g. Their , There , They're ) and don't get me started on grammar.

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    Ace
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    9 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Was always the case, we just get exposed to it more because everyone has easy access to post all over the place. It's more the lazy ones like U and Ur that annoy me.

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    The clinical psychologist says that some studies suggest the personality trait we call 'agreeableness' increases as people age. "That being said, as we get older, we tend to prefer what is familiar and personally meaningful," she also notes. "This can make some people less open to new experiences or worldviews."

    When the world's changing so fast and in so many ways, it can become harder and harder to keep up with current trends. And that includes not only knowing who the most popular celebrities are or what the latest fashion trend is. It's more about things like what words or phrases might be inappropriate to use.

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    #4

    “Total Ignorance Of Science”: 40 Older Adults Point Out Weird Things That Are “Normal” Nowadays Kids (and some adults, but I mostly see kids) with tablets or phones at full volume out in public. I have no interest in hearing other people's games, videos, music or phone conversations.

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    Christopher Crockett
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    9 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I see this far more with retirees than with younger folks. Phone on speaker, full volume, blabbing it up about nothing regardless of setting. I don’t need forty minutes of Sylvia’s infected toenails.

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    #5

    “Total Ignorance Of Science”: 40 Older Adults Point Out Weird Things That Are “Normal” Nowadays Me: Hey, how have you been?

    Them: Haven't you seen my posts on [social media platform]?

    Me: I'm trying to have a conversation with you, not subscribe to your newsletter.

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    ZGutr
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    9 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I'm not even explaining myself. If that's the response I turn and walk on.

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    #6

    “Total Ignorance Of Science”: 40 Older Adults Point Out Weird Things That Are “Normal” Nowadays Being mad at me because I don't automatically know your pronouns... Just tell me if I'm wrong in a nice way and I'll adapt.

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    Captain McSmoot
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    9 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    People changing their naturally born pronouns and expecting the entire world to magically know something which took them years to find out for themselves and exploding on them is the biggest douche move. Congratulations! You know yourself more fully now, but it doesn't give you the right to be a rude a*****e about it when others don't know. They expect people to know in an instant what took them years, maybe even decades, to find out for themselves. You're an idiot who thinks you now have an excuse to be rude and the masses will back you up because you are "different". People aren't hating on you because your pronouns don't align with the "traditional" sense; they're hating on you because you are an obnoxious, entitled a*****e.

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    Some people grow more anxious as they age because they feel like the world might be leaving them behind. Dr. Erickson says that this is a concern for people who subscribe to the narrative that it's all downhill from a certain age.

    "We forget about everything we gain as we get older: wisdom, maturity, emotional stability, a clearly defined sense of self, not sweating the small stuff as much, and plenty of experience solving problems. It's about finding a way to use these strengths in a changing world," she explains.

    #7

    “Total Ignorance Of Science”: 40 Older Adults Point Out Weird Things That Are “Normal” Nowadays Its now socially normal to not use caps or punctuation so that your thoughts are all one single stream of consciousness and really hard to read like reading ulysses but the kids dont even know or care what that is because they just want to get their thoughts all out at once without any regard for the reader and the annoyance it is to try to figure out what they are saying Signed: A pained English major.

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    #8

    “Total Ignorance Of Science”: 40 Older Adults Point Out Weird Things That Are “Normal” Nowadays Being around others while obviously sick. It’s been normalized because we have a garbage safety net that doesn’t allow people financially to take care of themselves and not make others sick. Or allow them to be off work to care for sick children. 40 years ago when unions were strong there were lots of sick days in lots of jobs and people mostly were able to stay home when really sick, in professional or union jobs anyway. There’s always been a segment of the working population that got screwed. But now more than ever we need generous sick leave policies in place for EVERYONE.

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    WonderWoman
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    9 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Corporations have groomed people into believing that taking sick time is a bad thing, that they aren't team players. Then the government started doing the same thing with covid and took away that safety net. STAY HOME when you are sick. If you physically can not then put on a damned MASK for everyone else's sake. It is NOT a sign of weakness, rather a sign of strength.

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    #9

    “Total Ignorance Of Science”: 40 Older Adults Point Out Weird Things That Are “Normal” Nowadays Since this is the Ask Old People category, I disagree with people being dismissive because I am old. I have at least one more sucker punch left in me for the next ‘ok boomer’ comment I get in person.

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    JoNo
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    9 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    When my father was in his 70s & 80s, he would get annoyed by the "ageism" shown to him when out in public, at stores and even in the nursing home lived in for the last six months of his life. I'm not saying it's worse than the other "-isms" but it definitely is the one that seems ignored. This isn't about being treated differently because of dementia (how those people are treated is a whole other story), it was a much wider range of behaviours shown to him, including being talked to like he did have dementia, because people would presume he did. He would get frustrated and tell me "they treat me like I'm stupid" when an incident happened. He wasn't, his only crime was being an older person.

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    Bored Panda also had a short chat with u/-----Diana-----, the author of this thread. "I got the idea for the question one morning when lying in bed," the young Redditor tells us. The user shared how she lives in a Romanian village where a big portion of the population is over 50. "They have lots to complain about," the Redditor chuckled.

    #10

    “Total Ignorance Of Science”: 40 Older Adults Point Out Weird Things That Are “Normal” Nowadays I'm really not comfortable will all the ads for betting and sports book platforms.

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    Kristy Marion
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    9 months ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    We can’t advertise alcohol, pharmaceuticals or nicotine in my country. However, we can advertise gambling. Guess which country has the highest amount of gambling losses? Edit to give more facts… we have HALF the entirety of the worlds slot machines, and the government gets 30% of every dollar put into them. And then add another 40% of tax from the owners of the slot machines for any gains on said slot machines.

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    #11

    “Total Ignorance Of Science”: 40 Older Adults Point Out Weird Things That Are “Normal” Nowadays Not being willing or able to just be superficially nice in social settings. Sometimes it's *okay* to just be pleasant instead of making your unique and specific viewpoint heard.

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    Stephanie Barr
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    9 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Pretending we're all fine when we're not has, in my opinion, acerbated a lot of mental health issues. Better to talk them out then act them.

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    #12

    “Total Ignorance Of Science”: 40 Older Adults Point Out Weird Things That Are “Normal” Nowadays Tipping on everything. Especially with those iPads that spin around and awkwardly ask you for 10% because someone got you a muffin from behind the counter. Make it end.

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    Megan Curl
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    9 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    This is an everybody thinks this thing. It’s making for a hostile purchasing experience.

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    The inspiration for the question came from a lady in her mid-70s, u/-----Diana----- tells us. She overheard the woman complaining about how her grandchildren were always on their phones. The Redditor then went to r/AskOldPeople to ask the older adults what things the younger generation does nowadays that bother them. "The answers there tend to be intriguing generally," the user adds.

    #13

    “Total Ignorance Of Science”: 40 Older Adults Point Out Weird Things That Are “Normal” Nowadays The assumption that if you say one thing you automatically believe something else. For example if you say that we should look at tightening up our gun control laws, that automatically means you're anti-gun and want to take away everybody's guns.

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    Jane Jayne Jain Jeign Jein
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    9 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Yes, the total inability to appreciate nuanced arguments. "If you're not with us, your against us" mentality that just breeds polarisation.

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    “Total Ignorance Of Science”: 40 Older Adults Point Out Weird Things That Are “Normal” Nowadays Playing with your phone while in the presence of live conversation.

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    JoNo
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    9 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Parents looking at their phones while their young children play around them is a sad sight to see.

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    #15

    “Total Ignorance Of Science”: 40 Older Adults Point Out Weird Things That Are “Normal” Nowadays Politics being your entire identity. They did this to us on purpose to divide us.

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    kansasmagic
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    9 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    "Religion" being your entire identity, "ethnicity" being your entire identity...

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    u/-----Diana----- also told us that she's heard her fair share of complaints about young people from her grandparents. "They're both about to turn 70 years old this year," she says. According to the Redditor, they like to talk about how the young generation is self-absorbed and how people became worse and worse after the demise of Nicolae Ceaușescu and the fall of the communist regime in Romania.

    #16

    “Total Ignorance Of Science”: 40 Older Adults Point Out Weird Things That Are “Normal” Nowadays Peak Cpitalism; the wealthy amassing even more wealth and not caring about a decent life for everybody.

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    #17

    “Total Ignorance Of Science”: 40 Older Adults Point Out Weird Things That Are “Normal” Nowadays Declarations of "body count" to dating partners. I don't like the violent implication of the term, and I don't like intimate history being tallied like a score.

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    Corvus
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    9 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    It's borderline dehumanizing, like some sick form of collecting trophies.

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    #18

    “Total Ignorance Of Science”: 40 Older Adults Point Out Weird Things That Are “Normal” Nowadays Never saying NO not your child.

    It sounds very «boomer» - I know.

    But I have two kids born early 2000s and one child born 2015, and just wow how many more kids are brats now.

    Don’t get me wrong, kids have always been kids and act out, but now they are more rude.

    We have always had the whole class in kids birthday and it has always been insane and loud, but with my youngest class I just can’t do it.

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    Megan Curl
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    9 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I call it laissez-faire parenting. No, you do need to teach your children respect and appropriate behavior.

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    However, u/-----Diana----- agrees with some things the older people shared in this thread. She feels sad about how many young people of her generation seem to spend too much time on their phones and are not living in the moment. And while she thinks that the rise of loneliness might be imminent, she remains optimistic. All we need is some meaningful human contact, she says.

    #19

    My grandfather used to tell me that who you vote for is private. He and his wife never even shared with one another which candidate won their vote. I wish that was the case in modern times.

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    #20

    “Total Ignorance Of Science”: 40 Older Adults Point Out Weird Things That Are “Normal” Nowadays A couple of things but the biggest one by far is the ear bud culture which just bleeds into a level of rudeness and isolation that’s unsettling. You might find small talk tedious but I promise you, the connection to the outside world that small talk creates is a gift to you. Humans aren’t meant to be so isolated.

    As a parent I give a lot of rides. I can’t tell you how many teens have gotten into my car without even a simple hi or hello and sat there silently with their head in their phone and their ear pods in.

    Say hi. Talk about the weather for a minute. It might be dumb but we are human and civility and connection matter. Otherwise all you’ve got is that phone and your ear buds. It’s kind of a bleak existence.

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    The way that men are starting to call women "females" but when referring to men they say "men".

    We are not lab specimens dude.

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    #22

    That every white woman who complains is a Karen. Sometime it’s a legitimate complaint.
    Calling someone a Karen on Social Media has become such a lazy comeback for when you don’t agree with someone who appears to be female online.

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    I don't get why it's wrong to use punctuation when texting.

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    WonderWoman
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    9 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Also why can't they spell out the words! Seriously, you don't pay by the character anymore. Misspelling and no punctuation, or the dreaded all caps/no caps is not a flex.

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    #24

    “Total Ignorance Of Science”: 40 Older Adults Point Out Weird Things That Are “Normal” Nowadays Recording everything.

    Recording fights. Recording car crashes. Recording traffic stops (your own or others) when cops have body cams and dash cams already. Recording people in the gym (yourself or others), recording in public and getting mad at pedestrians for ‘ruining the shot’.

    Heck, people were even standing there like insane people recording the Super Bowl parade shooting. Like dude…LEAVE THE AREA OR HIDE. Don’t stand there drooling with a phone in your hand for internet clout or to sell it to the news.

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    Tracy Wallick
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    9 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Cops are infamous for turning off or obscuring their cameras when they know they're doing something illegal, people recording things has helped expose things that otherwise would lack the kind of evidence needed to take them to task. Additionally, while recording events like a shooting are terrible, footage like that has been used by law enforcement to apprehend perpetrators. It's not exclusively a negative thing.

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    #25

    “Total Ignorance Of Science”: 40 Older Adults Point Out Weird Things That Are “Normal” Nowadays Children having access to social media.

    I think nothing good comes of it.

    I got other parent friends who have no issue with their kids scrolling tiktok, or being on whatsapp groups (I was an older mum, my kid is still primary school age).

    (She says, acknowledging the irony of posting this on reddit).

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    Corvus
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    9 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Schoolkids getting beaten up because of a comment under a FB post - it's becoming pretty "normal" nowadays...

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    #26

    I went for a walk at a park recently. There was a guy entering the trail while holding his phone out and talking into it. Everyone got to hear his c**p instead of the relaxing nature sounds. Isn’t he special?

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    Eugene the Jeep
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    9 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Since he wants to share his conversation with you, feel free to join in.

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    #27

    “Total Ignorance Of Science”: 40 Older Adults Point Out Weird Things That Are “Normal” Nowadays People posting their entire lives online. I'm probably excessively private but it's really crazy how people are so willing and even eager to broadcast their personal lives to the world.

    I don't think people fully appreciate how possible it is to string together little details from multiple sources and form a detailed picture of someone's life. That should scare people.

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    PFD
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    9 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I think that's about to get a lot scarier. I came across a tool that uses AI-powered facial recognition to search the web. I tried it with my own face using a fairly old low-resolution social-media profile pic in which part of my face is covered with a graphic. I don't have much of a web presence but it found pictures of me in a bar in another country, with different hair, beard etc, that my sister put on Insta. I couldn't help but think how easily this could be abused.

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    #28

    “Total Ignorance Of Science”: 40 Older Adults Point Out Weird Things That Are “Normal” Nowadays Wearing pajamas and slippers to go shopping. People, if you can't be bothered to put on fresh clothes, don't go out in public. Also, do they then wear those pajamas to bed? Ew!

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    Tracy Wallick
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    9 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Who cares? It's not affecting your life beyond the fact that you're choosing to pay attention to it.

    Jeffrey Musial
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    9 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Actually it makes you seem both trashy and lazy at the same time, and it also shows the people that say oh well, you want to sleep go home, and sure you have more shoes than a pair of slippers

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    Cosmikid
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    9 months ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Aha. See, there is a real division here; and most of you are not seeing it. That's - normal, and the problem. These are supposed to be comments from elders- but the responses are to justify current behavior. What the elders did not clarify- since it was obvious to them - is that wearing sleepwear in public - was an egregious transgression in earlier times. Likely to get you picked up by the cops- and simply beyond the pale. Now- that HAS changed- but for them, their gut still reacts the same way. Horror!! Horror!!!! Not kidding. HORROR!!

    BeepBoop is Lonely (she/they)
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    9 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    so I'ma shed some light on this as a younger person who does this. I barely have enough motivation to get out of bed in the morning, let alone get dressed and actually go shopping for the food I need. If you care so much that's your problem tbh mind your business you have no idea what I'm struggling with every day.

    Lola July
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    9 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Because none of us who get dressed to go out have struggled with anything as "horrible" as you have. Boohoo🙄

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    Kraneia The Dancing Dryad
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    9 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    LOL sounds like "people of Walmart". I don't mind the PJs much, it's the ones in the ripped/torn/obviously dirty clothes that annoy me (not that they just got off work, but that they wear this stuff all the time!) My folks would have NEVER let me out of the house without changing

    DC
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    9 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Mind your own. Sometimes, getting up at all is hard enough for several days, yet done every day. I need some stuff, I'm not going to a fashion show or such, and if I'm ugly, look elsewhere, tell someone else, I don't care. What ever became of leaving people alone?

    Cosmikid
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    9 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    No. In public - you do not always get to do just anything. You have to mind everyones- not just your own. So elders believe.

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    Jaya
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    9 months ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I find it absolutely ridiculous that convention should be more important than being comfortable. There is no inherent worth in certain clothes over others, all clothing conventions are just made up stuff, that humans decided, so why shouldn't we decide we can wear things that make us feel comfortable? We could decide that comfortable clothes are now the new chic clothes and then everyone can follow the clothing rules and still be comfortable. Why are we not doing that?

    Týr Máni
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    9 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Lol. I like being as comfortable as possible, so I'll wear whatever the fvck I want. Also, no, I don't wear those same pajamas to bed, I have separate pajamas for everything.

    David
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    9 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Food for thought - I too dislike the "Walmart shopper" look. But instead of just hating - consider there might be reasons for it. I have known people who wore slippers shopping because their feet were too swollen to wear their regular shoes. I have known people who wore pajamas or other "sloppy" pants (yoga, sweats) because either due to temporary bloating or morbid obesity they didn't have anything in their size. Not every person who doesn't dress to your standards is lazy trailer park trash. Though I admit it seems like some are.

    J C
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    9 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I just wish it was the norm when I was younger, I would have loved to wear pajamas to school. We only could really wear them during "pajama day." Otherwise, we would have been mercilessly teased.

    SpongeBob SquarePants
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    9 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Look. I'm overweight because of my depression medication. I hate my body so I wear big shirts and pajama pants when I go to the store. Ok? Is that a good enough explanation? Leave me and anyone like me alone.

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    I'm on 3 medications for depression, overweight and I still get dressed. No, I don't get fancy, just decent. Quit talking bad about yourself internally that will help, try to /do,be better, quit making excuses and remember God loves you.

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    Justme
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    9 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    As long as you’re wearing more than underwear and a see-through top I don’t care what you wear while Porsche shopping

    Kathy O
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    9 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    After COVID I have no problem with someone wearing pajamas in a store.

    axle f
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    9 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    ...but my PJ'S & slippers *are* fresh clothes. I sleep nude.

    Shawn
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    9 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Like it or not, how you dress is a form of communication with the people around you.

    Koala_Tralala
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    8 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Yes. And by wearing pajamas in public I'm giving the message "I don't give a fûck what's your opinion". If you feel offended, I still don't give a fûck.

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    Aimee Stilts
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    9 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    We out there so you have people to keep judging although I'm sure you'd find something else to judge if we disappeared. I don't need to get made up and fresh to go to the store. I'm not shopping to impress you.

    Dread Pirate Roberts
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    9 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    To me this says, "I'm to lazy to even get dressed" unless it's a kid and it's Pajama Day at school lol

    Ma Fra
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    9 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    This isn't a thing where I live. I've never ever seen someone walking around in PJ's.

    Alice Jones
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    9 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    This is a thing people get mad about? Where I live, it's a totally normal thing to go about in public, stores, etc, without shoes and/or socks on. I didn't realize anyone was bothered by thus.

    Jeevesssssss
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    9 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I throw my long coat over pj's/a onesie sometimes (knee length). I tend to wear sloppy, comfortable clothes and multiple layers anyway. I have chronic fatigue and joint issues and often my motivation levels are low and quite frankly IDGAF if you're judging me based on my clothes.

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    9 months ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Wore this to the store on my way to work today. Not lazy - I’m a teacher (with a masters degree) and I dressed up for pajama day to celebrate reading month with my students who have literally just learned to read this year. Sooo perhaps find a different way to judge people.

    Brian Droste
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    9 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I live in a small town. Normally I wear what I call lounge wear at home. Some people might consider them PJ'S. I have a PO box. Recentlly if I just need to check my mail I will leave them on and go to the post office to check my box. Most times nobody is in there. The post office workers are in the back working so I don't see them when I go in either.

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    9 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Never seen anyone at a store in pajamas and house slippers. USA again?

    Lyenne Summers
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    8 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Never seen it in any European country... Throwing on a pair of jeans and a shirt barely takes any effort at all. If I don't have the energy to do that, which happens as someone with thyroid issues and chronic depression, I don't have energy to leave my house at all and will just stay inside. Leaving your home in pyjamas is gross.

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    9 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I think I'm going to try out one of Ye's wife's clothing options...in the Bible belt, where the citizens find an adult and Liquor stores offensive.

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    Captain Kyra
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    8 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    For some pajamas are the only things they can wear that don't send them up the wall. If it comes down to me wearing PJs or not going out of my house at all, I'll wear my PJs. I have outside PJs and bedtime PJs.

    David Paterson
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    9 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I never see people in pyjamas and slippers shopping. I do see a lot of people in lingerie shopping.

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    9 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Interesting to see these posts, and the extent to which Mainstream Media has pitted us against each other. Not healthy to hate because someone holds a different opinion than you. BTW, I agree. There's an appropriate way to go out into public. Sorry Millennials.

    Vinny DaPooh
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    9 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Do you still get on an airplane in your best suit or dress? No. Then relax

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    #29

    “Total Ignorance Of Science”: 40 Older Adults Point Out Weird Things That Are “Normal” Nowadays Emotional support dogs/pets pretending to be service dogs Dragging your dog every f-ing where. I love dogs,I foster dogs,I train dogs,I have 4 huge dogs....that don't go shopping/to festivals/everywhere with me. Also letting your dog with c**p recall off leash and thinking that screaming he's friendly makes it better. And not picking up your dogs s**t on hiking trails,that's just rude and ignorant. And petting strangers dogs,um no keep your hands to yourself please Those disgusting long nails some women sport like little wearable petri dishes. Talking about politics,money or religion in every social setting. It was so much nicer when people realized that not every gathering needed to be bombarded with contentious subjects.

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    9 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I agree with most of this, if not all. It's just a little hard to decode without the use of punctuation.

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    The thought of if you can't accept me at my worst you don't deserve me at my best.

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    #31

    That the following are OK with a large swath of the population:

    Shoplifting

    Fighting

    Shooting each other

    Yelling

    Using outdoor voices indoors and drawing everyone's attention to you

    Lack of customer service.

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    JoNo
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    9 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I am thankful this list is one shorter here in Australia - "shooting each other".

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    #32

    Vaping in public really bothers me. I hated it when restaurants and bars were filled with cigarette smoke before 1990 (or whenever that changed). Now, I hate seeing people vaping everywhere I go. I see it at concerts, in bars, restaurants, grocery stores, the gas station -- everywhere.

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    #33

    Basic manners. My gran must be affecting about 500 rpm in her grave, right about now.

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    Interrupting someone while they’re talking.

    Maybe it’s just me bc it’s a huge pet peeve but I feel like I’m constantly being interrupted or people are always talking over one another. When I politely say, “excuse me, I was in the middle of talking” or “hold on a sec please so I can finish what I was saying” I get looked at like I have 3 heads or like I’m totally out of line when I say something about it.

    Again maybe it’s just me, but imo interrupting people mid sentence and talking over others is now for some reason socially acceptable - by both adults and kids no matter the setting - and I don’t get it. Now I feel like the abnormal one for thinking that’s it’s rude or for feeling slightly offended when someone does it to me. Tbh I literally physically cringe when I’m there and witness it happening to someone else while they’re talking lol. It’s wild to me.

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    9 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    By the length of this post, I can tell YOU are the talker, and people only interrupt because you won't stop talking. I have a friend like this. The only way we have a conversation instead of her just talking at me the whole time, I HAVE to interrupt.

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    #35

    Sharing every aspect of yours and also your children's lives on social media.

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    9 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I hate when my parents share photos of me online. I can’t imagine how someone feels when their parents post 20 times that.

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    #36

    “Total Ignorance Of Science”: 40 Older Adults Point Out Weird Things That Are “Normal” Nowadays Yaknow...... I wish people still dressed up *a little* more. I dine at some seriously nice restaurants and it's while overall I guess it's OK if someone decides to dine there in a t-shirt, cargo shorts and flip flops but I gotta say it sorta reduces my own experience, especially if we're celebrating a special occasion.

    OK, I'll stop being grumpy now.

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    Megan Curl
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    9 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    This is one I really don’t care about. You do you. As long as everyone is well behaved, my experience is unaffected.

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    #37

    “Total Ignorance Of Science”: 40 Older Adults Point Out Weird Things That Are “Normal” Nowadays Texting instead of sitting down and having an actual conversation especially about difficult topics.

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    9 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    On the flip side I have one child who struggles A LOT with expressing herself and talking about difficult or emotional subjects. Especially in person. So we text. It has probably saved her life.

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    #38

    Constantly doing stuff on your phone. The gym had to put up little signs on all the weight machines asking people to give others a turn instead of just sitting there on their phones – and the place is still full of people sitting on the machines glued to their phones. The effect when you walk into a room like that is eerie.

    I’m much more of a phone addict than I’d like to be, but I’m trying to be more mindful and not just automatically reach for it every time there’s a lull, whether between sets or waiting for an elevator or whatever. Practicing my lost art of just looking around and thinking my thoughts and tolerating boredom.

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    “Total Ignorance Of Science”: 40 Older Adults Point Out Weird Things That Are “Normal” Nowadays Mine is that nobody is taught cursive anymore, and they surely can't read it! My fdil's little brother (19) couldn't sign his name for his driver's license and had to ask her to do it for him.

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    Christopher Crockett
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    9 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I was taught cursive but could never write it clearly. Gave it up in high school after a teacher insisted students write cursive, then gave me a 0 because she couldn’t read my handwriting. She called me an illiterate slob, so I later sent her a copy of my first novel signed (and printed) as such. Never received a thank you note. How rude…

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    #40

    Refusing to go one teenie tiny step outside your job description. If we all want to have a smooth work process sometimes you need to reach out to the other people involved in the process and work together to make things efficent.


    Also, its no ones JOB to order more vacuum bags or sponges at work. If you see something that needs addressed for the good of the office, just f*****g do it.


    This is a HUGE pet peeve of mine.. lol.

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    9 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    You give an inch the company will take a mile and EXPECT it. Do NOT take on tasks that are outside your job or it will become your job. Tell your boss that there are no more vacuum bags or the coffee machine is broken. Send it UP the chain, not down.

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    #41

    “Total Ignorance Of Science”: 40 Older Adults Point Out Weird Things That Are “Normal” Nowadays Ghosting people, both professionally and personally. This is only appropriate if you’re in a dangerous situation where your safety is at risk, otherwise it’s a cowardly and inconsiderate way to handle a situation. If you need to break away from any kind of relationship or commitment for any reason other than imminent danger, you need to tell the person(s) so they don’t waste time waiting on you or wondering what happened to you. It’s common courtesy, and ghosting shows a huge lack of consideration for everyone involved.

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    Cosmikid
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    9 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    suddenly disappearing from a relationship is not "new" in any way. It just used to be "the letters stopped coming" instead of "they blocked me"

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    Intentionally lying, then doubling down on it.

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    “Total Ignorance Of Science”: 40 Older Adults Point Out Weird Things That Are “Normal” Nowadays That elders deserve zero respect unless earned.

    For some reason it is demanded that elders respect the every wish and desire of younger generations (pronoun choices for example), but I read constantly that elders deserve zero respect unless they earn it, and often distain unless they can prove their innocence. It’s a complete double standard. Even in many “ask” subreddits I will get aggressive and any responses like, “we’ve heard enough from your generation” usually calling be a ‘boomer’ even though I’m not. But there’s such hatred for older people that ‘boomer’ has become a standard put down for anyone over 40.

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    Ace
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    9 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Where exactly do you read this constantly? Nobody "deserves" respect; everybody should start out automatically respectful to everybody else, regardless.

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    Going no contact with anyone who moderately does anything you don't like.

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    9 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    This far down the list, my annoyance for "J rod" has turned to pity, and I truly feel bad for him/her. Your anger and bitterness is obvious, and I hope you learn to chill a bit ... it's no good for your long term mental and physical health. Yes, there are many injustices in the world that deserve shaking your fist at, but you can't fight, nor win, every battle. I hope you have friends, and I sincerely wish you peace!

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    #45

    “Total Ignorance Of Science”: 40 Older Adults Point Out Weird Things That Are “Normal” Nowadays I you work in customer service I expect you to acknowledge my existence and be polite. I don't care how oppressed you feel because you're "only" making $15/hour. I did the same job for $3.35/hour and managed to be professional. (And before you go off on my about the cost of living, my rent was $350/month at that time, meaning I had to work 105 hours to cover it. Sorry, Zoomers, but your generation isnt the first to experience poverty.).

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    9 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Agree about the basic politeness and service - so many people are expecting tips as a basic right, not as a result of superior service. Point here is NOT about accepting BS or rude behavior from customers, but projecting professionalism and competence - which may be a whole different issue...

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    #46

    Erectile dysfunction ads everywhere.

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    frederick clause
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    9 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    If carrying an unwanted pregnancy to term is God's will, then erectile dysfunction is also God's will.

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    Wearing headphones everywhere you go.

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    #49

    I read a book last week about climate change migration, one section of which dealt with seasonal flooding in a Virginia neighborhood.

    people would buy a house in the neighborhood not knowing it was flood-prone. then they'd get flooded and either rebuild and sell or rebuild and stay.

    those who wanted to sell were apparently not required to tell prospective buyers that the house was in a flood area (but not officially on a flood map). so the seller has a dilemma: keep quiet and sell the house for as much as possible, or tell and watch the offers and price dry up. the author described the situation as the seller holding a lit stick of dynamite: seller has to time it just right so that he/she hands off the dynamite to a buyer before kaboom (another flood), or get kaboomied him/herself.

    as i'm reading, i'm thinking: is this who we are now as Americans? we'll just hand off the dynamite to the next guy and feel glad we escaped? we won't even warn others that this is, ya know, dynamite? do we bear no responsibility to others?

    i get that it's a terribly difficult decision for those who got, all unknowingly, handed the dynamite themselves. the consequences of fessing up are pretty appalling and financially ruinous. i'm certainly glad i'm not one of those homeowners.

    so that's what is apparently socially normal now that i disagree with. you can hand a stick of dynamite to someone else knowing that it's dynamite, but convincing them its a bunch of roses.

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    9 months ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    In England and Wales (Scottish and Northern Irish law may be different), you have to declare if your home has even been flooded when selling. Doesn’t stop developers building on flood plains though!

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    #50

    Going up to veterans to thank them for their service. It's not wrong, but my dad got very tired of it. He had to quit wearing his cap with his destroyer number on it.

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    9 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    He had to quit what? FFS. Going around making your previous service define your present identity, and then complaining about it? Something very wrong here.

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    #51

    Not being able to work your way up at a company.

    Corporations going right to layoffs as a form of saving money, instead of a last ditch effort to stay in business.

    Companies being bought out and half the staff being let go, while those who remain take on more responsibility without a chance to negotiate higher pay.

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    9 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Companies laying off people, cutting their pensions then giving their CEO huge bonuses and golden parachutes.

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    #52

    The idea that people aren't grown-ups until their mid 20s, because their brains aren't fully developed until then. Adulthood used to start at 18, then 21, then 22 after college, and now who knows when. You can enlist in the military at 17-18.


    I apprenticed at 17, married at 21, had two kids by 25. My career, marriage, and kids all turned out fine.

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    #53

    I notice there’s some younger people who just don’t say hi at work. You should say hello to everyone you work with.

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    René Sauer
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    9 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Expecting to greet everyone is too much. But at least greet everyone you happen to meet/pass by when coming to work.

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    #54

    I don’t disagree with it exactly but using the word “f**k” and some other choice words has gotten to be used in every other sentence. It’s coarse and boring.

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    Mainstreaming/inclusivity. Kindness and humanity have to be taken to illogical extremes so that there is no chance of offending anyone different.

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    9 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    But they aren't taken to extremes. This claim is very much like the false argument that "having equal rights means having more rights/privileges." No, dear, equal means equal... as in "the same amount."

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