Her bf is behaving like a childish control freak. I see no reason to keep him around. He obviously doesn’t respect her.

If you have discussed it many times, and he doesn't see the need to respect your position, ask yourself: "Do I want to do this for the next 30 years?" My answer to this question was NO.

He is either profoundly selfish and stupid, or profoundly selfish and knows exactly what he's doing. Either way, this is a massive red flag.

You don't mess with peoples sleep period! I have such a difficult time falling asleep, sometimes it takes me hours to fall asleep and wake up so easily. Just thinking about being in her situation makes my blood boil, i love my sleep. 🛏

Break up. Find another person who respects you and your wishes/needs.

Totally a control thing. But i'd say fight fire with fire, wake him up at 3am for useless cr@p and see how he likes it.

Maybe I've run into one too many AHs but to me, it feels like if OP were to cave in, her boyfriend would eventually try and wake her up at the same time as he does. BF doesn't know what to do with himself for those couple of hours so he's trying to get her on his schedule. Personally, I would break up over this. He is needy, disrespectful and manipulative. Not exactly the traits you would be looking fir in a relationship.

Man babies who don't know what to do with themselves.

"YoU ObVusLy DiDnT gET enoUGh SLeeP.." BECAUSE HE WOKE YOU UP!!!! Do not let this continue!!! This is a manipulative tactic. Some abusers begin this way, and eventually you are getting so little rest that you cannot make logical decisions. This makes it easier to gaslight you and control you further. I promise this is only the beginning.

That flick on the nose would have resulted in a punch to the face.

Hey, as long as you're awake...

I'd really like to know how this turns out

Control freak alert!! I guarantee you his mother did this to him when he was a child & it stuck like glue. She needs to stop complaining to the internet about it & dump him already.

I had to have an argument with my husband over the same thing. Except he doesn't intentionally wake me, he just cannot be quiet. EVER. So after a couple arguments, he gets up and goes and gets coffee and leaves me alone on my mornings to get extra sleep.

So, he wakes her up an HOUR earlier than her alarm, and when she gets mad he blames it on a lack of sleep??? Run, run, run!

Wake him up at 2am then dump his a**e.

This guy is a jerk and a control freak. Leave. It won't get better.

Grounds for a justifiable homicide!

Anyone who wakes me up at ANY hour will have it hard. Not letting me sleep in on my free day?? Oh boyyyy. He'd be so dead. I'd leave. There's no way I would forgive that disrespect.

Classic 'I'll get more mad at you so you (a) can't get mad at me, and (b) this will train you to not get mad at me again like that because you'll know he'll be 'madder'. He's trying to turn you into a morning person.

Yea he needs to grow up. I am an early riser, my BF sleeps in. It does annoy me sometimes because I feel like I end up cleaning the house way more than him since I'm already up and like my house tidy but overall I actually enjoy my alone time to sip my coffee without having to listen to the TV, which he incessantly has to have on. Your SO does not have to be by your side every waking moment of your life.

Oh he would be dumped and homeless in a heartbeat. Don’t mess with my sleep.

As someone that has always had problems sleeping, messing with me and sleep is one of the things that sets me off into a rage. Needless to say I wasn't a morning person growing up and my mom waking me up because a friend called (about a non-important, non-emergency) is f*****g ridiculous to me and reasonable to be angry about. Ironically, I still can't sleep but rarely like sleeping in. So, I would never be this guy. She's on top of getting up in time to makes sure they're not late and things are handled in time. This feels like a control thing because he can't be on his own for a few hours, FFS?

That's a quick way to get shanked in this house!

Train him instead to (quietly) bring you a cup of tea or coffee, put it next to your bed and let you drink it (or not) whenever you're ready. Being awakened in a genlte way by the noise of him doing so but then not pressured to get up should allow him to feel that he's "helping" without it being such an issue for you. . . . . . Or yeah, as others have said, just dump the controlling arsehole.

What he's doing is ridiculous rude and definitely a sign that he's trying to control this situation despite the fact that you've asked then told him to stop, plus he won't give you a reason that makes sense why he does this SMH HUGE RED FLAG, sorry but this is just the beginning of annoying things he's going to be doing that will p**s you off, that is if there are other red flags you've seen but are not speaking of. Best to drop him and run...FAST and NEVER look back. He'd not appreciate you flicking his nose to wake hum up earlier then agreed upon time, just rude disrespectful and rude, you need your sleep as much as he does...he's a morning person, you're not, his problem not yours and he needs to get use to that and respect you when you are asleep. Otherwise is bye bye morning bird, plain as that. 🤷🏾

I hope she dumped him. This is 100% him starting to control her.

New title: Narcissist tries to deprive his girlfriend of rest-girlfriend NTA. Ruuun, girl! Quietly and quickly. Unless it's your house. Then, warn him he's homeless if he ever disrespects your boundaries like that again. WHEN it happens, cause it WILL happen, take a sick day. Have a friend join you. Pack his things nice and neat. Put them on the lawn. Change the locks. Leave a note saying he'll have to wake up pretty early in the morning to con you the way he has tried, and he just isn't smart enough for that. A boundary is the boundary, PERIOD.

What kinda loving partner FLICKS A NOSE to wake someone?! A massive, MASSIVE 🫏🕳️. You wake the one you love with butterfly kisses and snuggles, not FLICKING, you complete and utter asshat!

Helpfully flick my nose to wake me up? I will kindly break your f*cking fingers to teach you not to! He is abusive and controlling.

He is apparently a spoiled child or a Golden Retriever puppy who can't understand why you have boundaries such as letting you sleep in, when he is bored and wants you to entertain him!

Incompatible.

you really should be getting up at the same time, regardless if you have plans or not. its how you can sleep well. but him waking you up is probably a war crime. :P