Girl Rejects Family’s Apology After Sister Wrecks Her Car, Gives Parents An Ultimatum
Buying your first car is a huge milestone, and it certainly was for the teen girl in this Reddit story shared by her dad. She spent a full year working hard and saving every penny to reach her goal.
But the excitement didn’t last long—her younger sister took the car for a drive and crashed it. Furious and heartbroken, the teen stopped speaking to her entire family. Now, her parents are left trying to figure out how to handle the situation and mend the rift.
The teen girl had spent a year saving for her car, only for her sister to crash it
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Heartbroken and furious, she’s now refusing to speak to her family
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Teens are the most likely age group to get into a fatal car accident in the U.S.
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Driving may feel like second nature to experienced adults, but for teenagers, it’s much more dangerous. In the U.S., where it’s legal to drive before turning 18, every day about eight teens die due to motor vehicle crashes. In fact, those aged 16-19 are nearly three times more likely to be involved in fatal accidents than drivers over 20, making them the most at-risk group on the road.
Thankfully, the girl in the Reddit story didn’t suffer any long-term harm—just a broken arm and leg. But even minor injuries serve as a reminder of just how important safety is for younger drivers.
Inexperience is the main reason teens are more likely to get into accidents. They often aren’t as skilled as older drivers when it comes to judging and reacting to situations like merging onto highways, making tricky turns, or handling bad weather.
Teens may also lack the motor skills and judgment needed for complex driving maneuvers. They’re more likely to misjudge traffic, get distracted, speed, tailgate, text while driving, and forget to wear seat belts. Plus, peer pressure and mood swings, especially among boys, can push them into making careless choices behind the wheel.
What parents can do to help
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Parents can play a big role in helping reduce these risks. The American Academy of Pediatrics emphasizes that one of the most important steps is ensuring teens get plenty of driving practice. In the U.S., typical school driver’s education programs only offer about six hours of on-the-road training, but the time needed to become truly proficient is closer to fifty hours. Parents can encourage teens to take their time and build their skills through regular driving.
Once a teen has a learner’s permit, parents can help by gradually introducing more complex situations, like night driving, heavy traffic, and driving in bad weather. This hands-on experience is invaluable, and getting into the habit of letting your teen drive during errands can build their confidence and skills.
It’s also important to make sure the car they’re driving meets safety standards and that they know basic car maintenance, like checking tire pressure and changing a flat.
Lastly, parents need to set a good example. Avoid speeding, texting, and road rage, and always wear your seat belt. Teens learn a lot by watching their parents, so demonstrating safe driving habits can make a big difference.
Many commenters blamed the parents for letting the sister drive the car and not insisting she work to replace it
Some users defended the parents, saying they aren’t at fault and are handling the situation as best they can
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Ooooh, the NTA commentators are the former (or current) golden children. As someone said: 1) if Alana's condition is so bad, why was she allowed to drive? 2) Since Alana could get her drivers' license, she can definitely get a job 3) If a stranger had damaged the car she had worked for so much, would you still tell Casey to suck it up? As you're favoring your youngest, teaching her she can get away with anything, prepare for a future no-contact from your eldest daughter. Signed, another eldest daughter (and former scapegoated child).
The NTA people are wrong. Just from reading what the father wrote, I can see the vibes in that house. Casey has been put on the back burner over and over. She hasn't been able to say or do much, because it was always the parents' choice. So she worked hard and earned herself a decent car. Oh, but Alana needs to borrow it. Tell me Casey wasn't pressured into agreement. Only this time, it was her money and her work at risk. Crash! No more car. Yes, hospital bills are expensive. So is a whole year working and saving. This time, Casey chose to push the point. Nope, can't do it for a year. So sorry. No, we won't let your sister suffer the consequences of her own actions. Casey has nothing that's safe from her sister, not even a year of her life. The parents have thrown Casey away, and she's done now. Cue shocked Pikachu face.
As a reply to Jihana: you never get your damage repaid a 100% by your insurance company regardless of whether you caused or were the victim of a car crash. I agree with Bouche that this whole post smacks of favouring one daughter simply because she has ADHD and the other one hasn't, so just let the other one fend for herself. ADHD doesn't exempt you from accountability. It also doesn't mean you can't work. OP only assumes his daughter's grades will slip when she has to work: have they tried it?Perhaps Alana gets pocket money: why not use part of that to pay for the damages? Also, why doesn't he mention who caused the accident? Does Alana have a college fund? Does she have savings? OP doesn't really put much effort into looking into ways of helping Casey. Casey worked hard: the parents act as if all her hard work counts for nothing with them. The mother might well be proven right in the future.
Load More Replies...So what punishment can Casey see you setting Alanna for crashing the car? Is she doing Casey's chores until the car is replaced, serving her drinks on demand, ANYTHING at all? And *that* is actually why Casey and others can see that it's totally unjust.
Ooooh, the NTA commentators are the former (or current) golden children. As someone said: 1) if Alana's condition is so bad, why was she allowed to drive? 2) Since Alana could get her drivers' license, she can definitely get a job 3) If a stranger had damaged the car she had worked for so much, would you still tell Casey to suck it up? As you're favoring your youngest, teaching her she can get away with anything, prepare for a future no-contact from your eldest daughter. Signed, another eldest daughter (and former scapegoated child).
The NTA people are wrong. Just from reading what the father wrote, I can see the vibes in that house. Casey has been put on the back burner over and over. She hasn't been able to say or do much, because it was always the parents' choice. So she worked hard and earned herself a decent car. Oh, but Alana needs to borrow it. Tell me Casey wasn't pressured into agreement. Only this time, it was her money and her work at risk. Crash! No more car. Yes, hospital bills are expensive. So is a whole year working and saving. This time, Casey chose to push the point. Nope, can't do it for a year. So sorry. No, we won't let your sister suffer the consequences of her own actions. Casey has nothing that's safe from her sister, not even a year of her life. The parents have thrown Casey away, and she's done now. Cue shocked Pikachu face.
As a reply to Jihana: you never get your damage repaid a 100% by your insurance company regardless of whether you caused or were the victim of a car crash. I agree with Bouche that this whole post smacks of favouring one daughter simply because she has ADHD and the other one hasn't, so just let the other one fend for herself. ADHD doesn't exempt you from accountability. It also doesn't mean you can't work. OP only assumes his daughter's grades will slip when she has to work: have they tried it?Perhaps Alana gets pocket money: why not use part of that to pay for the damages? Also, why doesn't he mention who caused the accident? Does Alana have a college fund? Does she have savings? OP doesn't really put much effort into looking into ways of helping Casey. Casey worked hard: the parents act as if all her hard work counts for nothing with them. The mother might well be proven right in the future.
Load More Replies...So what punishment can Casey see you setting Alanna for crashing the car? Is she doing Casey's chores until the car is replaced, serving her drinks on demand, ANYTHING at all? And *that* is actually why Casey and others can see that it's totally unjust.
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