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Joke About Pregnant Mistresses Blows Up In Bride’s Face As $7,000 Dream Dress Vanishes
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Finding out that someone you love is engaged can be almost as exciting as being proposed to yourself. If you know that your best friend has been looking forward to this proposal for years or your sister has been head over heels for her fiancé since the day they met, it’s only natural to be thrilled for the happy couple.
But if you’ve had a complicated relationship to weddings in the past, you might be feeling a mix of emotions. And one woman managed to rip open her sister’s old wounds by making a “joke” about her wedding that went wrong. Below, you’ll find the full story that was posted on Reddit, as well as a conversation with Jhona Yellin, Editor at Bespoke Bride!
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This woman was happy to help pay for her sister’s dream wedding dress
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But she quickly changed her mind when her sister started mocking her past
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In 2023, the average cost of a wedding dress was about $2,000
It can be challenging to know where to even begin when planning a wedding. Setting a date and securing a venue might be your first order of business, but there may be a dozen other topics trying to grab your attention. What kind of food will you serve? How many people will you invite? And what will you and your partner wear? It can become overwhelming quickly.
While planning a wedding should be incredibly exciting, it’s understandable that many couples become stressed when they realize that Americans spend an average of $33,000 on their weddings nowadays. If you’re paying that much, you better be getting the best day of your life out of it!
And of course, you want to be looking your best on your wedding day too. But you certainly don’t need to spend $7,000 to find a gorgeous wedding dress. According to The Knot, brides in the United States spent an average of $2,000 on their gowns last year.
However, the price of the dress can vary depending on the style the bride wants, the location where they live or are purchasing the dress from, and whether they want a custom-made design or will need many alterations.
“Back in the day, the bride’s family paid for the dress, but now, it’s a mix”
To learn more about this topic, we got in touch with Jhona Yellin, Editor at Bespoke Bride. Jhona was kind enough to have a chat with Bored Panda and explain who typically covers the bill when it comes to the wedding dress.
“Traditionally, back in the day, the bride’s family paid for the dress, but now, it’s a mix,” the wedding expert shared. “Some brides pay themselves, some rely on parents, and others share the cost.”
So is it common to be spending $7,000 on a wedding dress? “That’s a hefty sum,” Jhona noted. “Most brides I work with budget between $1,500 and $3,500. But if a bride has the budget for a couture gown, $7,000 isn’t unheard of.”
“Designer dresses can carry sky-h**h price tags. However, it’s not the norm, especially for most couples planning a wedding on a budget,” the editor explained. “For the brides who are just about to start searching for their dresses – check out our post about the trendy wedding dresses for brides this season.”
The expert also provided some advice for anyone who has gone through a nasty breakup or had a horrible experience at their own wedding. “Attending weddings can be super tough. It’s okay to feel triggered, but try not to let it overshadow someone else’s joy,” she told Bored Panda.
First, Jhona recommends being emotionally prepared. “Know that the day might stir up emotions, so have an outlet ready afterward,” she shared. “[And] be honest. If the wedding will bring up too much, it’s okay to skip.”
It’s also a good idea to focus on the couple. “Shift your focus to their happiness. It helps to put your own memories aside and celebrate their love. I know it’s easier said than done, but just try your best,” Jhona says.
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“A little understanding goes a long way, especially if someone close to [the bride] has experienced painful events like a wedding breakup”
“If you’re attending, having your seat in a ‘safe’ location—away from intense emotions like speeches or vows—can help create a more comfortable environment,” the expert added. “For the bride and groom planning the wedding – read our tips about how to seat your wedding guests.”
So is it a good idea to be involved with a wedding at all if your own is still a painful memory? “Helping with a wedding when you have unresolved trauma is extremely tough. It can trigger emotions and leave you feeling really overwhelmed. If you’re not ready to dive into wedding-related tasks, it might be best to pass,” Jhona shared.
Is there anything the bride can do to make her loved ones more comfortable? “As for the bride, she should be sensitive to the emotional states of her loved ones. She doesn’t need to make the event about them, but a little understanding goes a long way, especially if someone close to her has experienced painful events like a wedding breakup,” the wedding expert says.
“Also, with social media these days, seeing those perfectly curated wedding photos on Instagram can intensify trauma,” Jhona added. “Every scrolling moment brings dreamy images of what you ‘should’ have had, which can make the healing process even harder. It’s important to be kind to yourself and allow space for your feelings without the added pressure of digital perfection. For more about this – read our post about the impact of social media on relationships and breakups.”
We would love to hear your thoughts on this situation in the comments below, pandas. Do you think this woman was overreacting, or was she right to refuse to pay for her sister’s wedding dress? Then, if you’d like to check out another Bored Panda article discussing similar wedding drama, look no further than right here!
Many readers sympathized with the author, noting that she’s the only one allowed to joke about her past
However, some thought that the situation could have been handled more maturely by all parties
And others called out the author for overreacting to her sister’s “joke”
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Justanotherpanda 1 month ago
If you are struggling for money for your wedding, a $7000,- dress should not even be an option......
Zoe Vokes 1 month ago
And just because somebody says they’ll help you out financially, it doesn’t mean you can take advantage.
Load More Replies... Libstak 1 month ago (edited)
The YTA showing us the world is chock block full of trolls yet again. I wonder how little sister is going react in 6 years time when someone who is supposed to have her back is getting married and says "all good well, touch wood, unless of course I end up having to go down the aisle in a burlap sack because I can't afford a proper wedding dress".
on second thought.... 1 month ago
Interesting how some people think that recovering from trauma has a timeline. It hasn't as decent therapists will confirm.
Alexandra 1 month ago
No, it's just that people are selfish and want someone else to ' move past it' so that they can take advantage of them.
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Nina 1 month ago
The last YTA comment... 'Jokes about trauma is how people recover'. FFS. 1. It is not how they recover, it is how they cope, BIG difference. 2. It's not 'recovery' or coping when they're the butt of the joke.
marcelo D. 1 month ago
Aldo it’s how the person with the trauma copes, it’s not others making fun of them
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TribbleThinking 1 month ago
Lack of apology = lack of remorse. The sister is basically sending flying monkeys to demand that the generous contribution be made. True remorse would have been running after the sister to apologise for the spiteful dig, not remaining seated and wailing about her dress.
Ash 1 month ago
I can see where it could have been a dark joke. However, 1) OP has the right to not pay $7,000 of her own money for her sister's wedding dress, and 2) if it WAS a joke, the sister should have been EXTREMELY remorseful and immediately made a full apology, with no motive of just getting her sister to pay the money. If the sister was a loving sister, she should be FAR more upset about hurting OP than about her dress.
Mike F 1 month ago
Let the aunt who has no filter, and the dad who doesn't want the sister to cry split the cost of the dress. 7k for a dress she will wear ONCE is obscene by any stretch, but let them pony up the $ if they're so invested.
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Schmebulock 1 month ago
$7K for a wedding dress is a fucktard amount to pay unless you are wealthy and the sister looked the proverbial gift horse in the mouth.
JoMeBee 1 month ago
Sister sounds like a brat, and the family (including OP) her enablers. $7000 is a stupid amount of money for a wedding dress if the bride/family aren't loaded. She "cried" to have it?? Now she's crying because she f'ed up and can't have it?? It's a hunk of material!! Too many people put too much emphasis on the wrong things!! Sorry but ESH with a lesser amount towards the OP for at least having a generous nature...
JayWantsACat 1 month ago
"I was just joking about buying you the dress you wanted. hahaha See how funny it is?"
G Bono 1 month ago
OP.should stand by her decision not to give her sister the money, or, to keep peace, lower the amount she gives to maybe $700 and, in a year or two, and ask her if she still thinks unexpected surprises on or around her wedding day are still funny. The aunt also needs to be put in her place, but OP didn't provide enough info to suggest something appropriate for her. Maybe invite the aunt to something the aunt has always wanted to do -she can tell her she has $7k to spend, and then not show up or cancel at the last minute, but both need to learn a lesson
Reta Murphy 1 month ago
I had a sister say before I got married, "lets hope he doesn't break up with you 2 days before wedding like Roger did right before Sr. Prom." Thanks for making me feel great. I don't have RBF, I have Resting B***h I wish you would try face. I must have got a really nasty look on my face and she went running a crying to my mom that I looked at her mean. She is 5 years older than me.
notlikeyou1971 1 month ago
I'm sorry but as a survivor of some horrible traumas I will tell you there's no specific time frame or deadline for recovery. All these people who say a person should " get over it " or " it's in the past don't understand or have never been through it. What OPs sister said was disgusting. I don't care if she considered it a joke either but it was not funny and the fact that she had the nerve to say it without remorse to the very person who was paying for her wedding dress was nervy. On top of that she's more upset about losing the dress than being sorry for her obnoxious, hurtful behavior. I would stand my ground and not pay for the dress. I also wouldn't attend the wedding at all. To all the relatives who are defending the sister and pressuring OP to buy the dress and take those comments as a joke, let them pool their money together and pay for the dress. OP, never let someone disrespect you like that and then turn around and give in and do something nice for them. Don't be a doormat. Even with an apology, which would only be made to get your money, it's unacceptable to say cruel things like this and then call it a joke knowing that it's a traumatic situation in your life. Please stand your ground and refuse to pay. Also don't attend the wedding. Go NC for a while as well. Truthfully it would take some time for me to forgive such cruelty.
KatSaidWhat 1 month ago
There is no deadline for trauma, and if your family is making constant jokes about it, they can all sail off in the same boat to fuckoff island.
Chris the Bobcat 1 month ago
Fvck the sister. I hope her dear husband cheats with her best friend.
Leafy Dawn 1 month ago
Dark humour has its place...when used by the person who went through the trauma. It is NEVER okay when used against someone, especially someone you claim to love.
LtKernelPanic 1 month ago
Hope the OP took the $7k and took a nice vacation instead of going to the wedding.
Scott Rackley 1 month ago
I have a very dark sense of humor. Right up with Stanhope and Jeselnik. I also have a filter that gets used all/most the time.
James King 1 week ago
Yes, YTA...for offering $7K to someone for a friggin' dress. Totally NTA for taking it back, though.
MrsEgonSpengler 3 weeks ago
Sister sounds greedy an entitled - $7000 on a wedding dress when she's struggling for money? GTFO, I'm astonished the OP allowed her selfish brat of a sister to agree to buying it in the first time. As for her and her aunt joking about her trauma, I'd be going NC with both of them. Thankfully OP grew a spine and told her sister where to go. JFC, really goes show you can't choose your familt!
Tyranamar Suess 1 month ago
No one has to help pay for a $7000 dress that will be worn one day. However, I do not think the sister was trying to be malicious. She probably thought OP would want to make fun of that douchebag who ran off. She learned, it's no joking matter. When did we become such an unforgiving society that no one is allowed to be young and stupid and make mistakes? Everyone is too eager to go scorched earth over one comment. OP even says this is unlike her sister. So sister is not some jerk who generally disregards OP's feelings. She's a nervous bride to be who thought OP was further along in recovering from this trauma than she is. As a society we need to calm down a little bit with the judgement of others. As if we've never made stupid mistakes or said anything thoughtlessly.
Featherking 1 month ago (edited)
But then, you obviously don’t know what the fuϲk you’re talking about. I’m glad that you - very, very obviously - never experienced anything even remotely traumatic. If you had, you’d know enough to shut your face. But as you haven’t, you’re not in a position to have opinions on someone else’s traumatic experience. You should probably take shutting your face regarding trauma as a downright advice, come to think of it, in order to avoid being perceived as a numb c**t in the future. Best of luck.
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Justanotherpanda 1 month ago
If you are struggling for money for your wedding, a $7000,- dress should not even be an option......
Zoe Vokes 1 month ago
And just because somebody says they’ll help you out financially, it doesn’t mean you can take advantage.
Load More Replies... Libstak 1 month ago (edited)
The YTA showing us the world is chock block full of trolls yet again. I wonder how little sister is going react in 6 years time when someone who is supposed to have her back is getting married and says "all good well, touch wood, unless of course I end up having to go down the aisle in a burlap sack because I can't afford a proper wedding dress".
on second thought.... 1 month ago
Interesting how some people think that recovering from trauma has a timeline. It hasn't as decent therapists will confirm.
Alexandra 1 month ago
No, it's just that people are selfish and want someone else to ' move past it' so that they can take advantage of them.
Load More Replies... Nina 1 month ago
The last YTA comment... 'Jokes about trauma is how people recover'. FFS. 1. It is not how they recover, it is how they cope, BIG difference. 2. It's not 'recovery' or coping when they're the butt of the joke.
marcelo D. 1 month ago
Aldo it’s how the person with the trauma copes, it’s not others making fun of them
Load More Replies... TribbleThinking 1 month ago
Lack of apology = lack of remorse. The sister is basically sending flying monkeys to demand that the generous contribution be made. True remorse would have been running after the sister to apologise for the spiteful dig, not remaining seated and wailing about her dress.
Ash 1 month ago
I can see where it could have been a dark joke. However, 1) OP has the right to not pay $7,000 of her own money for her sister's wedding dress, and 2) if it WAS a joke, the sister should have been EXTREMELY remorseful and immediately made a full apology, with no motive of just getting her sister to pay the money. If the sister was a loving sister, she should be FAR more upset about hurting OP than about her dress.
Mike F 1 month ago
Let the aunt who has no filter, and the dad who doesn't want the sister to cry split the cost of the dress. 7k for a dress she will wear ONCE is obscene by any stretch, but let them pony up the $ if they're so invested.
Load More Replies... Schmebulock 1 month ago
$7K for a wedding dress is a fucktard amount to pay unless you are wealthy and the sister looked the proverbial gift horse in the mouth.
JoMeBee 1 month ago
Sister sounds like a brat, and the family (including OP) her enablers. $7000 is a stupid amount of money for a wedding dress if the bride/family aren't loaded. She "cried" to have it?? Now she's crying because she f'ed up and can't have it?? It's a hunk of material!! Too many people put too much emphasis on the wrong things!! Sorry but ESH with a lesser amount towards the OP for at least having a generous nature...
JayWantsACat 1 month ago
"I was just joking about buying you the dress you wanted. hahaha See how funny it is?"
G Bono 1 month ago
OP.should stand by her decision not to give her sister the money, or, to keep peace, lower the amount she gives to maybe $700 and, in a year or two, and ask her if she still thinks unexpected surprises on or around her wedding day are still funny. The aunt also needs to be put in her place, but OP didn't provide enough info to suggest something appropriate for her. Maybe invite the aunt to something the aunt has always wanted to do -she can tell her she has $7k to spend, and then not show up or cancel at the last minute, but both need to learn a lesson
Reta Murphy 1 month ago
I had a sister say before I got married, "lets hope he doesn't break up with you 2 days before wedding like Roger did right before Sr. Prom." Thanks for making me feel great. I don't have RBF, I have Resting B***h I wish you would try face. I must have got a really nasty look on my face and she went running a crying to my mom that I looked at her mean. She is 5 years older than me.
notlikeyou1971 1 month ago
I'm sorry but as a survivor of some horrible traumas I will tell you there's no specific time frame or deadline for recovery. All these people who say a person should " get over it " or " it's in the past don't understand or have never been through it. What OPs sister said was disgusting. I don't care if she considered it a joke either but it was not funny and the fact that she had the nerve to say it without remorse to the very person who was paying for her wedding dress was nervy. On top of that she's more upset about losing the dress than being sorry for her obnoxious, hurtful behavior. I would stand my ground and not pay for the dress. I also wouldn't attend the wedding at all. To all the relatives who are defending the sister and pressuring OP to buy the dress and take those comments as a joke, let them pool their money together and pay for the dress. OP, never let someone disrespect you like that and then turn around and give in and do something nice for them. Don't be a doormat. Even with an apology, which would only be made to get your money, it's unacceptable to say cruel things like this and then call it a joke knowing that it's a traumatic situation in your life. Please stand your ground and refuse to pay. Also don't attend the wedding. Go NC for a while as well. Truthfully it would take some time for me to forgive such cruelty.
KatSaidWhat 1 month ago
There is no deadline for trauma, and if your family is making constant jokes about it, they can all sail off in the same boat to fuckoff island.
Chris the Bobcat 1 month ago
Fvck the sister. I hope her dear husband cheats with her best friend.
Leafy Dawn 1 month ago
Dark humour has its place...when used by the person who went through the trauma. It is NEVER okay when used against someone, especially someone you claim to love.
LtKernelPanic 1 month ago
Hope the OP took the $7k and took a nice vacation instead of going to the wedding.
Scott Rackley 1 month ago
I have a very dark sense of humor. Right up with Stanhope and Jeselnik. I also have a filter that gets used all/most the time.
James King 1 week ago
Yes, YTA...for offering $7K to someone for a friggin' dress. Totally NTA for taking it back, though.
MrsEgonSpengler 3 weeks ago
Sister sounds greedy an entitled - $7000 on a wedding dress when she's struggling for money? GTFO, I'm astonished the OP allowed her selfish brat of a sister to agree to buying it in the first time. As for her and her aunt joking about her trauma, I'd be going NC with both of them. Thankfully OP grew a spine and told her sister where to go. JFC, really goes show you can't choose your familt!
Tyranamar Suess 1 month ago
No one has to help pay for a $7000 dress that will be worn one day. However, I do not think the sister was trying to be malicious. She probably thought OP would want to make fun of that douchebag who ran off. She learned, it's no joking matter. When did we become such an unforgiving society that no one is allowed to be young and stupid and make mistakes? Everyone is too eager to go scorched earth over one comment. OP even says this is unlike her sister. So sister is not some jerk who generally disregards OP's feelings. She's a nervous bride to be who thought OP was further along in recovering from this trauma than she is. As a society we need to calm down a little bit with the judgement of others. As if we've never made stupid mistakes or said anything thoughtlessly.
Featherking 1 month ago (edited)
But then, you obviously don’t know what the fuϲk you’re talking about. I’m glad that you - very, very obviously - never experienced anything even remotely traumatic. If you had, you’d know enough to shut your face. But as you haven’t, you’re not in a position to have opinions on someone else’s traumatic experience. You should probably take shutting your face regarding trauma as a downright advice, come to think of it, in order to avoid being perceived as a numb c**t in the future. Best of luck.
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