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Woman Withholds Her Baby From Mom And Sister After They Disappointed Her While She Was In Labor
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Woman Withholds Her Baby From Mom And Sister After They Disappointed Her While She Was In Labor

Woman Withholds Her Baby From Mom And Sister After They Disappointed Her While She Was In LaborBirth Of Newborn Overshadowed By Perfectionistic Rage After Sister ‘Fails’ To Look After Puppy“AITA For ‘Failing’ To Take Care Of My Sister's Dog While She Was In Labor?”Woman Loses It After Sister And Mom “Fail” To Take Care Of Her Puppy While She’s In Labor“You’re Lazy And Unreliable”: Simple Favor Turns Into Family Feud Over A Puppy And A Newborn“Said We Wouldn’t Meet The Baby”: Woman In Labor Berates Sister For Failing To Take Care Of DogWoman Hurt After Sister Yells At Her For Being “Lazy And Unreliable” While Dog-sitting Her PuppyNew Mom Throws A Fit Over Sister 'Failing' To Take Care Of Her Dog While She's In LaborWoman Shuns Sibling From Seeing Newborn After She ‘Fails’ To Take Care Of Her Dog“Get Over It”: Woman Berates Sister For Not Doing A Perfect Job Dogsitting While She’s In Labor
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Giving birth to a baby is no joke. Hormones can wreak havoc on a woman’s body during labor, so it’s normal that they might not react adequately to some situations. This mom-to-be got mad at her sister and mother for not taking care of her puppy properly.

The author was ready to chalk it up to labor hormones and forgive her sister. But when she brought up her hurt feelings after the birth, she was again met with anger and threats she wouldn’t be allowed to see the baby. So, she asked people online: was she wrong to want her feelings acknowledged?

When this woman went into labor, she asked her sister to look after her puppy

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But after the sister failed to care for the dog “properly,” the new mom had some harsh words for her

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Ideally, dogs should only wear a harness outside

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The catalyst for the fight between sisters seems to be that the author didn’t take care of the puppy properly; she didn’t remove the dog’s harness after they got back home from a walk. As she noted in one comment, “There is nothing medically or safety-wise special about this harness, just that due to her being a smaller dog she can get uncomfortable being in it for long periods of time.”

Experts say that harnesses are only suited for outdoor wear. Many dog owners prefer them over collars because there’s less potential for injuries. Any collar that goes around a dog’s throat can damage the trachea, esophagus, and even the thyroid.

According to the outdoor gear for dogs specialist at Arctic Sammy, owners shouldn’t leave dogs with their harnesses on all the time. When a dog wears a harness 24/7, they might develop several skin issues: chafing, rubbing, sores, hair loss, and matted fur. Not to mention that the harness might get caught or stuck on something.

When a dog wears their harness indoors for prolonged periods of time, they may also start associating it with discomfort. If they wear the harness for long, they will inevitably start feeling discomfort and skin irritation, and this might undo the positive progress owners strive for during training.

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Pet rescue advocate and pet chef Rocky Kanaka agrees that people shouldn’t leave harnesses on their dogs 24/7. “When you are at home and your dog is not in walk or work mode, it’s best to let them relax and be harness-free. Overuse of a harness can negate the positive association with the training you have done with the harness, and it can impede their physical safety and comfort at home.”

A woman in labor should hear words of encouragement and not worry about things not related to the birth

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Giving birth is hard work, no wonder they call it ‘labor.’ What people say to a person in labor matters. Healthcare experts say that women need to be as relaxed as possible, as that can lessen the physical pain and the emotional distress of labor.

There’s a myriad of emotions women feel during birth. The physical sensations include pain, fatigue, nausea, and pressure. So, it’s only natural that women might feel anxious, afraid, calm, anticipation, great joy, and exhaustion.

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The things people should be saying to a woman in labor should be words of encouragement. Of course, pain-relieving measures and medication can make the birth more comfortable, but supportive talk can be just as important.

So, it’s quite strange that the woman’s partner chose this time to tell her about how her sister failed to take a harness off their dog. It might make one wonder whether that’s really a priority while a child is being born. Whether she’s in the first or the third stage of labor, the woman should be thinking about seeing her baby, not what her dog is doing.

“The most important thing is being kind and offering support,” Robin Elise Weiss, PhD, MPH, writes. “Let the laboring person know they’re loved and that they can get through their marathon of labor. Stay upbeat and keep negative commentary or snarky remarks to yourself.”

The author clarified why she brought up her issues to the sister so soon after the birth

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Most people believed the author was not at fault here, as hormones don’t explain such rude behavior

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However, some thought that the OP didn’t have to push so soon, as her sister had just given birth

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Kornelija Viečaitė

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Hi there, fellow pandas! As a person (over)educated both in social sciences and literature, I'm most interested in how we connect and behave online (and sometimes in real life too.) The human experience is weird, so I try my best to put its peculiarities in writing. As a person who grew up chronically online, I now try to marry two sides of myself: the one who knows too much about MySpace, and the one who can't settle and needs to see every corner of the world.

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Kornelija Viečaitė

Kornelija Viečaitė

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Hi there, fellow pandas! As a person (over)educated both in social sciences and literature, I'm most interested in how we connect and behave online (and sometimes in real life too.) The human experience is weird, so I try my best to put its peculiarities in writing. As a person who grew up chronically online, I now try to marry two sides of myself: the one who knows too much about MySpace, and the one who can't settle and needs to see every corner of the world.

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Mindaugas Balčiauskas

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I'm a visual editor at Bored Panda. I kickstart my day with a mug of coffee bigger than my head, ready to tackle Photoshop. I navigate through the digital jungle with finesse, fueled by bamboo breaks and caffeine kicks. When the workday winds down, you might catch me devouring bamboo snacks while binging on the latest TV show, gaming or I could be out in nature, soaking up the tranquility and communing with my inner panda.

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Mindaugas Balčiauskas

Mindaugas Balčiauskas

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I'm a visual editor at Bored Panda. I kickstart my day with a mug of coffee bigger than my head, ready to tackle Photoshop. I navigate through the digital jungle with finesse, fueled by bamboo breaks and caffeine kicks. When the workday winds down, you might catch me devouring bamboo snacks while binging on the latest TV show, gaming or I could be out in nature, soaking up the tranquility and communing with my inner panda.

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Gwyn
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1 month ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Raising a new puppy when you're expecting a baby? Face time during labor? What's with these people.

Sand Ers
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1 month ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Once again, the YTAs have their heads up their own donkeys. The sister is hyper controlling, and the boyfriend sounds like a díck. OP did nothing whatsoever wrong, regarding both the puppy being in the harness for a few extra minutes and asking for an apology and acknowledgement of her own feelings. I’ve had small dogs for 16 years. We use a harness when walking them to avoid them being choked by a collar. A few extra minutes in one is absolutely nothing. Sister went berserk over something that was literally nothing. I really feel for the child who is going to be raised by a lunatic.

CanadianDimes
Community Member
1 month ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Especially the one that said she was pouting about it days later. It was *the same day* and OP raised her concerns when the sis asked what was wrong.

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Alexandra Hall
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1 month ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

This is SO WEIRD. Why on earth is the father setting the new Mum off for a complete non-issue? We had premature twins and were grateful just to have healthy babies. Wtf is this baby daddy causing problems? He’s off his nut. If we’d had a pet at the time (we didn’t- ps- it’s SUPER STRANGE to get a PUPPY when you’re expecting a baby, period.) we would have left it completely up to whomever was willing to look after it for us. Fleck’s sake. What is wrong with people?

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Gwyn
Community Member
1 month ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Raising a new puppy when you're expecting a baby? Face time during labor? What's with these people.

Sand Ers
Community Member
1 month ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Once again, the YTAs have their heads up their own donkeys. The sister is hyper controlling, and the boyfriend sounds like a díck. OP did nothing whatsoever wrong, regarding both the puppy being in the harness for a few extra minutes and asking for an apology and acknowledgement of her own feelings. I’ve had small dogs for 16 years. We use a harness when walking them to avoid them being choked by a collar. A few extra minutes in one is absolutely nothing. Sister went berserk over something that was literally nothing. I really feel for the child who is going to be raised by a lunatic.

CanadianDimes
Community Member
1 month ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Especially the one that said she was pouting about it days later. It was *the same day* and OP raised her concerns when the sis asked what was wrong.

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Alexandra Hall
Community Member
1 month ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

This is SO WEIRD. Why on earth is the father setting the new Mum off for a complete non-issue? We had premature twins and were grateful just to have healthy babies. Wtf is this baby daddy causing problems? He’s off his nut. If we’d had a pet at the time (we didn’t- ps- it’s SUPER STRANGE to get a PUPPY when you’re expecting a baby, period.) we would have left it completely up to whomever was willing to look after it for us. Fleck’s sake. What is wrong with people?

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