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Brother’s Fiancée Turns Out To Be This Woman’s High School Bully, So She Exposes Her At A Family Event
We are often kind enough to forgive others and ourselves for their mistakes in order to move forward and grow. It is probably this kind of acceptance that Oscar Wilde had in mind when he insisted every saint to have a past and every sinner to have a future. However, letting go of the misdeeds without a person taking responsibility, acknowledging they did us wrong and are willing to change might mean indulging such behavior and enabling them to keep on hurting us, so it is only fair that we refuse to play along and and refuse to “forget”. As did this Redditor when she met her high school bully at a family dinner.
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Her brother’s fiancée claimed to not remember bullying his sister in high school
This woman had an unpleasant experience of recognizing her high school bully at a family dinner, where her ex-bully wasn’t simply a passerby with not much of an agenda, but quite on the contrary, she was her brother’s fiancée that the family was about to meet for the first time, as no one knew he even had a girlfriend.
That is not to say that people do not make mistakes, especially with high school being one of the first arenas in many people’s lives where we try various roles that possibly, and to be honest, hopefully, change or evolve as we gain more experience in life. However, as this woman got a chance to talk the issue through with her brother, he brought up that his fiancée’s excuse was that she did not remember doing anything wrong to his sister.
As the original poster explained, in high school, her interaction with “Annika” wasn’t about just bumping into each other occasionally, but consisted of being close friends until she found out that “Annika” was spreading lies about her, which eventually turned her life into hell right up until they graduated. So much so that after all this time, the woman felt sick seeing “Annika” again.
Having in mind that both women are in their mid-twenties at the moment, there is almost no way “Annika” truly cannot remember her misdeeds, while it’s quite understandable that she does not want to remember. As neither woman talked or acknowledged each other during the party, it took one question from this woman’s aunt, as she was persistent to make the woman answer it and didn’t let her change the subject, to make her finally snap and spill the truth about the past of her brother’s fiancée as well as about how she felt about it.
The woman’s aunt insisted she share her feelings, so she opened up about their past
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The woman’s brother called her a horrible person for embarrassing his fiancée and insisted she apologize
This led to her brother being angry at her and demanding she apologize for embarrassing Annika in front of the family over “high school drama”. So eventually, the disagreement was about who had to apologize. The woman’s brother was insisting his fiancée could not apologize for something she could not remember and that it was his sister who should apologize.
The woman had a good reason to believe there was no way Annika could not remember, but only wanted it to slide in order to not take responsibility for her actions. However, she refused to let it slide and pretend that there was no history between them without at least being apologized to.
In her study The Psychology Of Offering an Apology: Understanding the Barriers To Apologizing And How To Overcome Them, Karina Schumann noted that after an offense, a person often gets to decide whether to apologize and if so, how to apologize. The decision of whether to apologize and how to apologize often highly influences both people who are involved in a conflict as well as their relationship.
And even though high-quality apologies are extremely effective in getting people to reconcile, people often choose to not ask for an apology, to be defensive, or to only give a pseudo-apology lacking in remorse. For this reason, Schumann lists three barriers to offering high-quality apologies and these include low concern for the victim or relationship, perceived threat to one’s self-image, and thinking that the apology won’t be effective. Schumann suggests that these barriers can be overcome by targeting the problematic psychology behind them.
Redditors agreed this woman was not being a jerk, while some pointed out that “not remembering” is convenient for bullies
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SnackbarKaat 1 year ago
Bullying has a huge impact on a person, for a very very long time. I think OP is in her right. The best Annika could have done is take OP apart beforehand and talk about it, ask forgiveness.
Daffydillz~ 1 year ago
You're exactly right. It seems her brother steered the issue away from any kind of possible resolution ahead of time and wanted to keep it a secret. Her brother is just as disgusting as her bully. He knew exactly who she was and what she was about and compromised his own morals and his relationship with his sister because he was thinking with the wrong head. He wanted to maintain a sexual relationship with a person that he knows is a liar and a bully. Now, he wants to marry her and expects his sister to bend to his will. They all need to get their heads out of their A$$E$ and remember the hêll that his sister went through. Annika needs to take a long walk off a short pier. I'd never do this to my family members.
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FABULOUS1 1 year ago
I dont know if anyone has seen the movie You Again with Betty White, Sigourney Weaver, Kristen Bell and Jamie Lee Curtis. But this is the exact plot to the movie. Except no one in the family remembered the bully, but the bully pretended not to remember the sister when her and broker got engaged and it was all for show. Funny movie.
Tyranamar Seuss 1 year ago
The names aren't the only thing fake here. Who refers to their bully by first and last names. Anika Jones is so mean to me brother! Then years later when brother hears her full name again he recognizes it, and puts together it's the bully.
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Emmydearest 1 year ago
She obviously remembers. The bullying took place in high school, for years, and they are in their mid-twenties, it's not like it was one single comment happened 70 years ago, c'mon. And if she was changed she would have apologized. How hard that would be? "Hi, yes I recognize you, I know I bullied you for years, but I fully regret it and I sincerely apologize. I really love your brother and I hope we can all get along" of something like this. Instead she immediately cried. Uhm, ok drama queen. No, she knows, she remembers, she still doesn't care. For her brother's sake, I hope they don't get married, she seems an awful person.
SnackbarKaat 1 year ago
Bullying has a huge impact on a person, for a very very long time. I think OP is in her right. The best Annika could have done is take OP apart beforehand and talk about it, ask forgiveness.
Daffydillz~ 1 year ago
You're exactly right. It seems her brother steered the issue away from any kind of possible resolution ahead of time and wanted to keep it a secret. Her brother is just as disgusting as her bully. He knew exactly who she was and what she was about and compromised his own morals and his relationship with his sister because he was thinking with the wrong head. He wanted to maintain a sexual relationship with a person that he knows is a liar and a bully. Now, he wants to marry her and expects his sister to bend to his will. They all need to get their heads out of their A$$E$ and remember the hêll that his sister went through. Annika needs to take a long walk off a short pier. I'd never do this to my family members.
Load More Replies... FABULOUS1 1 year ago
I dont know if anyone has seen the movie You Again with Betty White, Sigourney Weaver, Kristen Bell and Jamie Lee Curtis. But this is the exact plot to the movie. Except no one in the family remembered the bully, but the bully pretended not to remember the sister when her and broker got engaged and it was all for show. Funny movie.
Tyranamar Seuss 1 year ago
The names aren't the only thing fake here. Who refers to their bully by first and last names. Anika Jones is so mean to me brother! Then years later when brother hears her full name again he recognizes it, and puts together it's the bully.
Load More Replies... Emmydearest 1 year ago
She obviously remembers. The bullying took place in high school, for years, and they are in their mid-twenties, it's not like it was one single comment happened 70 years ago, c'mon. And if she was changed she would have apologized. How hard that would be? "Hi, yes I recognize you, I know I bullied you for years, but I fully regret it and I sincerely apologize. I really love your brother and I hope we can all get along" of something like this. Instead she immediately cried. Uhm, ok drama queen. No, she knows, she remembers, she still doesn't care. For her brother's sake, I hope they don't get married, she seems an awful person.
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