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Bride’s “Wedding Tax” Turns Big Day Into A Trainwreck Of Screaming, Fighting, And Refund Demands
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Bride’s “Wedding Tax” Turns Big Day Into A Trainwreck Of Screaming, Fighting, And Refund Demands

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Weddings can be a pricey affair. While the costs vary based on a bunch of factors, research puts the average cost of an American wedding at $33,000 in 2024. However, some lavish ceremonies can set you back thousands more. Back in the day, it was a tradition for the bride’s family to cover the costs. Recently, more and more couples are choosing to foot the bill themselves. Or at least contribute to some of the expenses.

It’s unusual for a couple to expect guests to pay for their wedding, but that’s exactly what one bride did. Her sibling shared that they were asked to pay a “wedding tax” along with all the other guests. When they raised the issue, a massive fight ensued. Eventually, the sibling announced that they would no longer be attending. Now, they’re wondering if they took it a bit too far. Bored Panda reached out to the sibling to find out more.

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One bride turned her back on etiquette when she decided to impose a “wedding tax” that would see her guests funding her big day

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When her sibling questioned her decision, the bride simply told them to “chip in or don’t bother coming”

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The sibling did not end up attending the wedding, but she received several phone calls to say it had descended into chaos

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If you, like us, were wondering how much the “wedding tax” was, the sibling said that friends were expected to “donate” $50-$100 each, while the family was asked to give anywhere between $250 and $1000.

They also revealed that they chose not to go, but were inundated with phone calls and texts from family and friends on the day. The wedding had turned into a circus, and the entire ordeal had become “a rollercoaster ride of emotions, sibling rivalry, and unexpected twists.”

“After the wedding, I reached out to one of my sisters – the only one who didn’t agree with this but still went,” the sibling told Bored Panda. “She said it was a total ‘sh*t show’ and she was sorry she went. My sister probably could’ve gotten arrested. She was screaming at all the guests, and I’ve heard after the wedding, guests are even demanding their money back.”

The sibling told Bored Panda they were surprised some people thought they should go to the wedding and pay the tax. “I will not be paying my sister any money in the near future,” they told us. “I even sent her a gift of 200 dollars when I didn’t go to the wedding.”

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“My sister spent almost $7,000 of other people’s money, and she told them that they ruined her wedding,” added the sibling. “Still, all the family thinks we should all stick together and support my sister. My mother is mad at me for not going and harassing me.”

It turns out, the wedding wasn’t the only bill the bride expected friends and family to foot. The couple had also asked people to contribute to a “money fund for their house” two years before the wedding. “I contributed to the house fund for the house she never bought,” said the sibling during our chat. “I owe her nothing.”

The sibling also told Bored Panda that the marriage might already be on the rocks. “Apparently, my sister called her new mother-in-law ‘a stupid jerk,’ and her fiance might divorce her.”

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Historically, the bride’s family would foot the bill for a wedding because of an old tradition known as the “dowry”

The dowry custom dates back to the ancient Roman Empire, and it was a gesture from the bride’s family to offset her future living costs. Britannica defines a dowry as “the money, goods, or estate that a woman brings to her husband or his family in marriage.” The site further explains that a dowry is a “conditional” gift, meant to protect the bride against any possible future ill-treatment by her husband and his family. In the case of divorce or the death of the husband, the dowry would be returned to the wife and her family.

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Over the years, the tradition evolved, with the bride’s family footing the wedding bill instead of handing over cash, goods, or property. Under this agreement, the groom’s family would sometimes be responsible for covering the bar tab, the honeymoon, and a few other expenses.

But as is the case with many things in life, that tradition has further evolved. “As couples modernize wedding planning and are getting married later after establishing careers, more of them are paying all—or a substantial portion—of the costs of their own weddings,” explained certified financial planner, Cynthia Meyer. “Who pays for what is more flexible.”

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Experts advise couples to start saving early, and never to assume that someone else will foot the wedding bill

“Budget conversations should begin at the same time that guest list and venue discussions begin. If you are setting a budget, then set the budget,” advises wedding planner Alicia Fritz. “Don’t try and skimp on things that you know you are going to spend more on later.”

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“My suggestion for engaged couples is to communicate early and discuss the details,” said financial coach Christian Stewart. “Don’t assume that anyone will pay for anything, even if they promised you something.”

Pink Book Weddings adds that while you’ll likely have to dig deep, there is an upside to covering all of your own costs. “One great thing about this as an option is that you will be able to call all of the shots. You won’t feel pressured into anything if it is your own money that you are spending,” reads their site.

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“I see this marriage ending in six months”: many netizens felt the bride was being totally unreasonable

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Some felt the sibling should have paid the “wedding tax” as a gift

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The sibling posted an update after the wedding, warning people to “buckle up” for the events that followed

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sweet emotion
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1 week ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I think Emily deserved every moment of frustration, humiliation and embarrassment she got. Hopefully by her third or fourth wedding she will have learned her lesson.

María Hermida
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1 week ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I don't think so. Some people are too stupid to learn. Why reflect on your actions and attitudes when you have somebody else to blame, and a whole bunch of imbecile family members to support your stupid decisions? No, she'll never learn.

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Hodge Elmwood
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1 week ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

HAHAHA hell no! If you can't afford the "wedding of your dreams," you don't do it. It's that simple. Save up for it, take out a loan (not the best idea either), or plan something simpler. NO ONE is OWED the world's most over-done extravaganza. Millions of people get married every day, you're not special.

Beth Wheeler
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1 week ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

You don't charge guests at your wedding they are your GUESTS and that is in extremely poor taste Emily made a stupid decision and she paid for it in the end. I don't understand how anybody can blame the sister since she had the good sense to not go.

María Hermida
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1 week ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I guess Emily is the gold girl in the family, and they think she deserves being pampered and looked after. They created an entitled monster and now they have to deal with her and her entitlement. I don't feel sorry for any of them. I'm only sorry for OP. Her family are a bunch of idiots.

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sweet emotion
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1 week ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I think Emily deserved every moment of frustration, humiliation and embarrassment she got. Hopefully by her third or fourth wedding she will have learned her lesson.

María Hermida
Community Member
1 week ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I don't think so. Some people are too stupid to learn. Why reflect on your actions and attitudes when you have somebody else to blame, and a whole bunch of imbecile family members to support your stupid decisions? No, she'll never learn.

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Hodge Elmwood
Community Member
1 week ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

HAHAHA hell no! If you can't afford the "wedding of your dreams," you don't do it. It's that simple. Save up for it, take out a loan (not the best idea either), or plan something simpler. NO ONE is OWED the world's most over-done extravaganza. Millions of people get married every day, you're not special.

Beth Wheeler
Community Member
1 week ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

You don't charge guests at your wedding they are your GUESTS and that is in extremely poor taste Emily made a stupid decision and she paid for it in the end. I don't understand how anybody can blame the sister since she had the good sense to not go.

María Hermida
Community Member
1 week ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I guess Emily is the gold girl in the family, and they think she deserves being pampered and looked after. They created an entitled monster and now they have to deal with her and her entitlement. I don't feel sorry for any of them. I'm only sorry for OP. Her family are a bunch of idiots.

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