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“He Was Tacky And Rude”: Sister Freaks At Brother’s Alcohol-Free Wedding
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“He Was Tacky And Rude”: Sister Freaks At Brother’s Alcohol-Free Wedding

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Some see weddings as a wonderful union between two loving parties. Others see it as a literal party, one of those ever-rarer opportunities as an adult to just let loose. These are not necessarily mutually exclusive goals and desires, but drama can arise when wedding guests don’t have their expectations met.

A woman decided to get worked up over her brother’s dry wedding, calling it tacky and “rude” only to end up being called out online. We reached out to the sister in the story via direct message and will update the article when she gets back to us.

Every wedding ends up looking a bit different

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But one woman decided that her brother’s decision to have a dry wedding was, somehow, offensive to her

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First and foremost, it basically should go without saying, the bride and groom are the only ones who get to make decisions about what their wedding will look like. Everyone is entitled to their own opinion, but let’s face reality, you can’t just go to another person’s wedding and start making demands. There are already enough “happy couples” who have a dream wedding so ridiculous that it has become completely disconnected from reality.

Thinking there absolutely has to be a bar or drinks available is about the same as disregarding their catering and instead yelling at them for not getting your favorite comfort food. For some reason, there is a subset of people online who think that alcohol is simply a must and the entire thing won’t make sense otherwise.

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Setting aside the fact that this sounds like a case of developed alcoholism, the sister also seems to be confused about what will and won’t be provided at the wedding. She herself states that she and the other folks in the pro-alcohol crowd would only want a glass of wine or two, not to get completely wasted. Overlooking the bride and groom’s particular rules is a lot more tacky than any random decision they may have made.

So why the sparkling wine that would be provided isn’t enough is beyond comprehension. The fact that she went online to “vent” about this would indicate that she truly believes she is in the right. This suggests that she and the “others” she mentions really do believe that to enjoy a social event, one must be able to drink. This is equal parts sad, as it is concerning.

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Similarly, she is very quick to disregard the happy couple’s intentions, as she thinks drunk driving is something that happens to other people. To put this into perspective, around 37 people die from driving under the influence every single day in the United States. While it’s possible to argue that everyone can choose what risks they will subject themselves to, drunk drivers don’t just kill or injure themselves, they can cause all sorts of collateral damage.

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Similarly, she seems to be fully overlooking the sparkling wine which isn’t exactly the same as a few cocktails, but is still noticeably alcoholic. The sister seems to have an extra large dose of entitlement without any imagination. If she wanted to drink a little more, she could have perhaps asked her brother for more sparkling wine. Similarly, there would no doubt be at least one person at the event who wouldn’t want their wine and could share with her.

So if you were inspired by the brother and, hopefully, not the sister, one alternative to a “wet” wedding would be to serve mocktails. If you have the budget for it, hiring a bartender to make the drinks could add that festive feeling, without the risks of alcohol. Entitled brides and grooms are bad enough, but entitled guests are even worse.

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But most thought the sister was acting horribly entitled

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A few thought she had a point

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I am a writer at Bored Panda. Despite being born in the US, I ended up spending most of my life in Europe, from Latvia, Austria, and Georgia to finally settling in Lithuania. At Bored Panda, you’ll find me covering topics ranging from the cat meme of the day to red flags in the workplace and really anything else. In my free time, I enjoy hiking, beating other people at board games, cooking, good books, and bad films.

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Viktorija Ošikaitė

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I'm a visual editor here at Bored Panda and I enjoy a good laugh. My work ranges from serious topics related to toxic work environments and relationship difficulties to humorous articles about online shopping fails and introvert memes. When I'm not at my work desk, checking if every single pixel is in the right place, I usually spend my free time playing board games, taking pictures, and watching documentaries

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Gwyn
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6 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

So ... Not worth driving to a wedding if there is no alcohol? What about going just because you love the people getting married and want to support them? OP sounds self centered. Of you can't enjoy being with people you CARE about and it's not worth it unless there is alcohol you may have a problem.

Becca not Becky
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6 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

And the fact that the brother said no gifts were necessary adds to your point. A wedding celebration shouldn't be so transactional anyway, but the brother really just cared about the celebration and wellbeing of others. He showed no entitlement while the guests showed a lot. So sad

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Becky Samuel
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6 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Why do people feel so entitled to d**g themselves at someone else's wedding? Do we need to specify on invitations that hard drúgs are not going to be served. Honestly, if you can't enjoy yourself for an evening without drinking then you need to look at yourself, not point fingers in blame.

TheBlueBitterfly
Community Member
6 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

While I agree that liquor and beer are totally unnecessary, a single glass of wine with dinner isn't going to make anyone plastered. I do agree that drinking "culture" has gotten completely out of hand, especially at weddings. Nobody NEEDS or requires or is entitled to alcohol at someone else's wedding.

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Charles McChristy
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6 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

If you're this upset about not being able to have a few glasses of wine, then I have some hard truths for you, and the number one is that you need to seek therapy. There is nothing tacky or rude about a dry wedding except for the way you were acting. Like an entitled Karen.

Historyharlot93
Community Member
6 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

My wedding had a cash bar only, the reception started at 2 pm. My parents were raging alcoholics at the time and broke so I knew they couldn’t afford to buy drinks. Their alcoholism was well known, but never called out. My brother had a dry wedding, and my parents went out in the pouring rain to drink the booze they had in their car. It’s hard to call out people you love. I have a feeling OP is the one with the problem.

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Gwyn
Community Member
6 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

So ... Not worth driving to a wedding if there is no alcohol? What about going just because you love the people getting married and want to support them? OP sounds self centered. Of you can't enjoy being with people you CARE about and it's not worth it unless there is alcohol you may have a problem.

Becca not Becky
Community Member
6 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

And the fact that the brother said no gifts were necessary adds to your point. A wedding celebration shouldn't be so transactional anyway, but the brother really just cared about the celebration and wellbeing of others. He showed no entitlement while the guests showed a lot. So sad

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Becky Samuel
Community Member
6 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Why do people feel so entitled to d**g themselves at someone else's wedding? Do we need to specify on invitations that hard drúgs are not going to be served. Honestly, if you can't enjoy yourself for an evening without drinking then you need to look at yourself, not point fingers in blame.

TheBlueBitterfly
Community Member
6 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

While I agree that liquor and beer are totally unnecessary, a single glass of wine with dinner isn't going to make anyone plastered. I do agree that drinking "culture" has gotten completely out of hand, especially at weddings. Nobody NEEDS or requires or is entitled to alcohol at someone else's wedding.

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Charles McChristy
Community Member
6 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

If you're this upset about not being able to have a few glasses of wine, then I have some hard truths for you, and the number one is that you need to seek therapy. There is nothing tacky or rude about a dry wedding except for the way you were acting. Like an entitled Karen.

Historyharlot93
Community Member
6 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

My wedding had a cash bar only, the reception started at 2 pm. My parents were raging alcoholics at the time and broke so I knew they couldn’t afford to buy drinks. Their alcoholism was well known, but never called out. My brother had a dry wedding, and my parents went out in the pouring rain to drink the booze they had in their car. It’s hard to call out people you love. I have a feeling OP is the one with the problem.

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