Bride Feels Insecure Around Thin SIL, Buys Her A Dress To Wear But She Refuses To Come At All

The wedding day is traditionally considered the bride’s day, as an unspoken or even explicitly stated rule. The goal is simple: make the bride as happy as possible, after all, it’s her day. But what happens when the bride decides to make “her day” everyone else’s problem with unreasonable demands? Well, this Redditor experienced a “bridezilla” moment from her future sister-in-law, who insisted she dress down for the wedding because she was skinnier.

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Being a part of a wedding often takes a lot and sometimes comes with its own set of unrealistic demands

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This woman shares that her sister-in-law wanted to select the dress she would wear to their wedding, stating that she tends to draw too much attention to herself

Bride Feels Insecure Around Thin SIL, Buys Her A Dress To Wear But She Refuses To Come At All

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She reassured her that she had no plans to “outshine” her but then the bride revealed that the problem was with the author’s weight

Bride Feels Insecure Around Thin SIL, Buys Her A Dress To Wear But She Refuses To Come At All

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According to the bride, the author’s life has always been easier and it was unfair to steal her wedding day as well

Bride Feels Insecure Around Thin SIL, Buys Her A Dress To Wear But She Refuses To Come At All

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The Original Poster (OP) is having a problem with her brother’s fiancée regarding her attendance at their wedding. Since she was pregnant during the entire planning process, she was not actively involved. However, soon after giving birth, her future sister-in-law (FSIL) informed her that she had chosen a specific dress for her to wear to the wedding. The reason behind this, according to the FSIL, was the OP’s tendency to attract attention.

Apparently, during another brother’s wedding, the FSIL felt the OP drew too much attention, and she didn’t want a repeat at her own wedding. The OP, understandably confused, reassured her FSIL that she had no intention of stealing the spotlight, as everyone would be focused on the couple. She also clarified that she had no plans to wear an inappropriate or revealing dress, assuming the bride was concerned about her family’s reaction.

The real issue, as the bride eventually revealed, was the OP’s weight. Being slightly overweight herself, the bride felt insecure and wanted the OP to wear a dress that would completely cover her figure. The OP, rightfully upset, expressed that the bride’s insecurities were not her responsibility and that it was unreasonable to ask her to wear a specific outfit solely because she’s slimmer.

This response did not go well with the bride, who accused the OP of always seeking attention and implying that her life had always been easier, further suggesting that the OP was trying to “steal” her wedding day. As the bride denied asking other slimmer guests to do the same, the argument escalated, involving the OP’s husband and brother.

Ultimately, the situation reached a boiling point, leading the OP to kick her brother and his fiancée out and decide not to attend the wedding.

They argued and ultimately their husbands got involved and joined the argument

Bride Feels Insecure Around Thin SIL, Buys Her A Dress To Wear But She Refuses To Come At All

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It’s no secret that weddings can be a very sensitive time for couples, especially the brides. This can sometimes lead to frustrations being taken out on guests, with bridesmaids and family members often serving as collateral damage. According to research conducted by The Loupe, only 47% of survey respondents said they would still agree to be in a wedding party if they knew the bride was going to be a “bridezilla” beforehand. Additionally, 6% of respondents reported that their relationship with the bride worsened after being in the bridal party.

The bride’s attitude can significantly affect the atmosphere of the wedding day and the experience of the bridal party. Unfortunately, 12.5% of respondents reported that the bride’s attitude negatively impacted their mental health while participating in the bridal party.

It’s important not to enable a bride if she’s being unreasonable. According to Vows and Forever, try to steer her in a more positive direction. Remind her that a wedding is meant to celebrate love, not about throwing a perfect party. Assure her that her future spouse will love her regardless of the flowers in her bouquet and likely won’t even notice the specific type.

If the bride is constantly yelling at you or unloading her emotional baggage onto you, you don’t have to tolerate it. In fact, it’s advisable to set boundaries and keep your distance. While we don’t recommend completely ghosting your friend or family member, especially if you’re part of the wedding party, taking some time away may give her space to reflect and address her behavior.

Commenters unanimously agreed that the request made no sense and that she didn’t need to do all of that. But what do you all think about this situation? Do you think she is overreacting? Share your thoughts below!

The poster also shared a similar dress to the one her FSIL picked out, so commenters could get a feel for the look

Bride Feels Insecure Around Thin SIL, Buys Her A Dress To Wear But She Refuses To Come At All

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Redditors backed the woman up and didn’t see anything wrong with what she did

Bride Feels Insecure Around Thin SIL, Buys Her A Dress To Wear But She Refuses To Come At All

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Ron Baza 9 months ago (edited)

Credit due to the husband for being on board with his wife (I don’t mean the husband-to-be, who is on board only with his wife’s pathetic need to put other people down to make her own life less pitiable). The OP should, however, wear the dress and attend the wedding. Her husband should be the one to steal the show, wearing an all-body Sasquatch costume with fairy wings, a tutu and fluorescent orange top hat covered in flashing lights.

35points

Chez2202 9 months ago

Or a Mankini

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TheBlueBitterfly 9 months ago

I'd wear an inflatable suit with a frilly dress over it. Y'know, so as to hide my shameful figure.

5points

Patti Hampton 3 months ago

I would likely really embarrass her. I'd make a toast at the reception and say something like, 'I want everyone to look at this dress. This is not my taste, as you all probably already know. This is what my SIL picked out for me to wear because she wanted to humiliate me. She feels inferior for some reason and thinks I should wear this ugly, hideous bag. So here's to my SIL... who should seek therapy for her insecurities, as soon as she gets back from her honeymoon. I'll even pay for her first session.' I would have to do something, if I went. Believe it or not, there ARE women out there who wish some of us would just stay hidden so they could get more attention. I heard this come out of someone's mouth, about me. Rather than others trying to do better, actually put in some effort toward their appearance, they want to hide the rest of us from public sight. They have deep seated jealousy issues, for sure.

0points

Helen Rohrlach 9 months ago

Probably just a formal suit in identical colour to the ugly dress would get the point across.

0points

Tyke 9 months ago

The problem is quite simple, bride is jealous. She should be called out for that and OP should not be shamed whatsoever. In fact, next time bride says "you like to outshine", "you're doing this for attention" I would simply say... "I'm going to state this FACT once and for all. The world does not revolve around you. In fact, I barely think of you at all, I think about how to keep my newborn happy, healthy and alive, I think about the washing I have to do, the cooking the cleaning. I think about when and how I can meet with my closest friends. I think about how to get more quality time with my husband. I wonder if oranges had been purple would be calling them purples and would that even be weird. There is a list a million lines long that I am thinking of before I even think of you. However, if you really think that much of me, perhaps you need some therapy." And I would not attend that wedding.

16points

Hphizzle 9 months ago

I literally yelped when the picture of the example dress popped up. I would have skipped the arguing, held up the dress and said “You can leave my house now. We will not be attending your wedding.” That kind of behavior towards op is ridiculous.

15points