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When we meet someone new, it can take a while to get to know them and decide if we can trust them. And that’s totally fine—it’s a smart move to take your time.
But sometimes, there are little signs that give away someone’s genuine kindness right from the start.
Redditors have been talking about traits like these, and we’ve rounded up their most interesting takes for you below. Scroll down to see if you agree and let us know your thoughts in the comments!
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#1
Got a cancer diagnosis in January. I had just started dating this woman, she came with me to my first appointment for chemo. I'm thinking to myself as I'm sitting there, this is it she is gonna bail so quick once the side effects start. She was there for me. Every. Single. Time. Made it through the treatments, and now I'm cancer free and married her in August.
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#2
I’m a kind person but my guy? He’s a GOOD man. No one will scroll far enough to read this so why not brag on him.
My partner is almost 50, big quiet man. Been working in construction for over 30 years. He hires subs to do a lot of the specialized jobs, like painters. He’s been hiring these painters as long as he’s been in the business. About a week or so ago, the owners of the home they are building were having a party holiday party for the crew, interior designer, and architect. My partner got an igloo mug and Christmas card, inside was a nice bonus, in cash. He thanked them and went to check on the rest of the crew. He noticed all the “main” crew got the igloo mug and a card, with some cash, except the 5 painters. They just got igloo mugs, which is fine, the owners didn’t need to give anyone ANYTHING that’s on the business they work for. But my guy knows these guys. This year they had lost the owner of the painting business and the father of one of them. 2 of the guys just started families. They are like his main crew! He took his bonus, gave each of them some of the money and wished them a Merry Christmas. They tried to refuse. They told him they were fine. But my quiet guy, did what he does best, ignored them and walked off. No need for props or thank yous. Just a good heart.
THAT IS A GOOD MAN.
#3
They do good things for others without expecting something in return.
DennyS (denzoren) 7 hours ago
1000% but also not to the point that their kindness isn't being used/exploited.
#4
They are able to be happy for other people. It’s a vanishing skill these days to be able to just honestly be happy for someone who succeeds and not be snarky about it.
Karl der Große 3 hours ago
I'm often happy for other people, but I can remember when I would get resentful. I think it is something that comes with maturity.
#5
They’re polite to people they have authority over.
Justanotherpanda 10 hours ago
The are polite to everyone, not just the ones they have authority over.
#6
They authentically apologize when they are wrong or when they make a mistake without anyone asking them to. They can let go of ego for the sake of what is right. On the opposite side of the same coin, they have a forgiving nature.
Beak Hookage 9 hours ago
You have to really, REALLY push it for me to decide I'm never going to forgive you.
#7
Their genuine kindness towards those weaker than themselves.
Animals immediately feel comfortable around them.
#8
That guy or girl that tries to integrate you in conversations in a pretty organic and not showing off way. Specially when you’re introvert.
DennyS (denzoren) 7 hours ago
Or the one that makes sure you're cool from time to time...speaking as the introvert in question lol
#9
One of my favorite sayings is “Principles only mean something if you stand up for them when it’s inconvenient.” When people stand up for what’s right at a time when it isn’t convenient, that’s a good person.
Plenty Pineapples 7 hours ago
So many people that assume that they would have spoken out against antisemitism 90 years ago are now slient because it's not popular and inconvenient...
#10
People who are able to laugh at themselves, especially after falling down in public, oh and they are totally okay with others laughing as well because sometimes it's just silly being human.
#11
They are the one in the group who stops and waits for you while you to tie your shoe or they hold the door as the rest of the group keeps moving.
kkrq2vk4tm 7 hours ago
Is it etiquette to wait for someone to tie their shoe lace if so it's one that passed me by but it a kind gesture to just wait for someone so that don't feel left behind
#12
When they are kind to cashiers and servers
Adrian Sparkles 10 hours ago
This is gold for me. How simple is it to be nice and wish them a nice day.
#13
Being kind to animals, they don't judge us nor give something of monetary value in return. The only reason to be kind to them is because you're kind.
Adrian Sparkles 10 hours ago
If my cat likes you when you enter my home you are half way to perfect. Sheena is an excellent judge
#15
The one guy in high school who’s friends with the “weird”, quiet kids and the “popular” kids at the same time.
Just treating everyone with respect, even when others don’t do the same.
Beak Hookage 9 hours ago (edited)
One of the best things I did this year was when I started taking classes I noticed that the youngest of my classmates was always sitting by himself well away from the rest of us. He was neurodiverse and clearly troubled. I immediately started making friendly overtures, in part because I used to BE that kid, and soon he was sitting next to me for every class and would wait for me afterwards so we could walk together. By the end he was talking to everyone and very much part of the group. Later on I bumped into him with some of his friends including his girlfriend, and the girlfriend took me aside and said she wanted to thank me for how much I'd helped him.
#16
They intervene when someone is being a jacka*s to someone else.
Jayjay 6 hours ago
This one is extremely important. Bullies can only continue with their bullying someone because of the joiners who keep quiet when someone is bullied. The joiners are too afraid of the bully, because a bully always need someone to bully. When one victim is gone, the bully will look for a next victim. Standing up alone against a bully can therefore be very scary. Joiners should join together to stand up against the bully around the victim, and isolate the bully instead of the victim.
#17
They treat people that cannot do anything for them very well.
Beak Hookage 9 hours ago
When someone is only nice to those they want something from while being utterly cold or indifferent to everyone else, that's a huge red flag right there.
#18
They don't need a list of rules nor exterior validation in order to make decisions for the sake of greater good.
Good people don't not commit armed burglary because its *illegal* - they don't commit armed burglary because it's a s****y human thing to do.
#19
When they pick up other peoples trash without making a big deal about it.
#20
I was one of 40 or so people from my church feeding the homeless at the Salvation Army shelter one night. I dumped a bag of dinner rolls into a bowl. "Don't just dump them", our group leader said; "presentation is important".
I rearranged them nicely. Treating everyone with respect, be they guests in your home or homeless people in a shelter, is a mark of a genuinely good person.
MotherofGuineaPigs 4 hours ago
Shows you care enough to treat them like they are people by making the effort to offer the same courtesy as you would give a paying gig or even your family.
#21
They treat 'ugly' and 'fat' people like people. So many times as a big person I've been overlooked and literally cut out of group conversations because of my size (had confirmation of this not guessing). The good person would always bring me into the conversation and talk to me outside of the group.
Smeghead Tribble Down Under 11 hours ago
This happens to me often. Being ignored, I mean, not included. Because I'M the good person but also fat, so I'm the one who gets excluded/ignored/sneered at/made to feel worthless. I wish there were two of me, so I could be nice to me.
#22
Actively listening to you as you’re talking
Engaging in conversations that you’ve started or are interested in
Will show up when they say are coming
Can turn down your event, without being a d**k about it (saying yes then not showing up or using an excuse to not go).
#23
They fill you in / include you in an existing convo that you’ve just joined.
DennyS (denzoren) 7 hours ago
I can't remember the movie but I like to use the line "let me bring you up to speed...we still don't know what we're doing here or why....you are now up to speed' lol
#24
It's easy to be a good person when things are easy.
A true good person will remain good when they are angry, or scared, etc. If your morals evaporate under stress, you don't actually have morals.
Beak Hookage 8 hours ago
We've all said things we shouldn't have in moments of anger. A good person is the one who pretty much immediately thinks "aw hell why did I say that, that was way out of line" and apologises.
#25
When you’re in a conversation with multiple people and you keep getting interrupted and they say something like “wait, were you saying about ___?” to make sure you’re included and to signify that they are listening.
#26
Their default expectation is that people are generally good.
I don't mean that they're naive, they're aware that some people are a******s, that crime happens. But they don't automatically assume strangers are up to no good, that people are trying to screw them over. They're willing to extend a bit of grace when someone is a.bit rude (maybe that person is just having an off day).
Kyra Noelle 5 hours ago
My experience is that when people blame or accuse are usually the ones guilty and projecting on to others.
#27
Here's one, you mention: "man I have to get to this location" and the person goes "oh dw, I can give you a ride."
For no reason but to be nice.
You'll notice a LOT of people never offer this, good people do.
Traveling Lady Railfan 5 hours ago
That depends a lot on other factors. As a single female, I can't just be giving strangers or just met acquaintances rides places. But I have given neighbors and co-workers a ride when they need it, no questions asked. You do have to be careful.
#28
They ask you about something you told them before to see how things are going. They remember little bits of information about you and ask you about it.
#29
They share their favourite food with you. I don't know what it is but I really appreciate the food sharing.
#30
They attract good people, regardless of social income or ranking. It was the first sign I had that my SO was a good person. He was very liked at work as a manager and whenever he had friends around, they all seemed to have good energy (like good values and qualities). Also, people felt comfortable enough to share personal things with him. I did. I worked a year with him and the feeling that he was good just got stronger with time. 8 years-ish later, I was spot on on my character judgement. Not only is he a good person and partner, he is an awesome dad as well :).
What do you think ?
Trillian 10 hours ago (edited)
I do most of these things but would not consider myself a particularly good person? Most of these just rank "have some effing manners and don't be a complete tool".
ADJ 10 hours ago
Exactly. Good people do not label themselves "good", just normal, decent human being. So you are indeed a good person.
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Hammerfairy 4 hours ago
Truly good persons use their empathy to actually do something good, regularily.
Trillian 10 hours ago (edited)
I do most of these things but would not consider myself a particularly good person? Most of these just rank "have some effing manners and don't be a complete tool".
ADJ 10 hours ago
Exactly. Good people do not label themselves "good", just normal, decent human being. So you are indeed a good person.
Load More Replies... Hammerfairy 4 hours ago
Truly good persons use their empathy to actually do something good, regularily.
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