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Folks Online Think People Who Weren’t Raised Right Show Clear Signs Of It With These 30 Behaviors
Being a human is hard. There are so many physiological, psychological, social and cultural things that are in play all the time, there's bound to be hiccups every once in a while, if not more often.
And it's even more so a problem when a very complicated you have to pass on your worldly knowledge and skill on to your kids so that they won't make the same mistakes. But they're as complicated as everyone else!
And the vicious cycle keeps on perpetuating itself because of this, leading some to wonder about it. And much of today's wondering is done on Reddit, among other places, where, incidentally, we have one user asking folks what’s a sign that somebody wasn’t raised right?
Bored Panda collected the top answers to the now-viral thread, and has glued together the macaroni-art piece you can see below. So, upvote, comment, and discuss these and other signs someone wasn't raised right in the comment section below!
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#2
If you go to someone's house, and they cook for you, you eat it with a big smile and lots of thanks, even if it was garbage.
My wife brought her friend over for lunch, I made pierogies, she goes "that's not a meal, that's a side" and goes to get Quiznos. Blew me away.
Someone's hospitality is the deepest respect they can show you. You have to give it back. How conscientious you are of that scenario is a good sign on how you were raised
Kookamunga 1 year ago
Yes, if you don't like the food, keep it to yourself. Act gracious. Act kind.
#3
They always portray themselves as a victim. Nothing is ever their fault and somebody is always out to get them.
Stardust she/her 1 year ago
I’m a victim minded person. Each time something happens, I blame the other person and hold a grudge against them. Now I’m doing much better and have started owning up to my mistakes without unfairly blaming someone
#4
If they make messes in public areas and just wander off (leaving trash in the theater, not flushing, leaving the cart in a parking space).
Edit: forgot the theater thing is the norm in Britain! I meant in general, leaving a mess where it's not supposed to be.
#6
They act like mental illness is something you can just get over.
#7
How they treat people from whom they have nothing to gain.
#9
How they act as a boss when their employee messes up.
Yelling and belittling shouldn’t be your first option.
#11
Someone that does things to intentionally hurt another persons feelings after they’ve expressed that, that certain thing hurts their feelings.
#12
Not respecting personal boundaries.
If you're wondering why someone has these sorts of issues, take a look at their parents.
Kookamunga 1 year ago
I love my fur baby, but why why why must his comfy spot be 1 inch from my face? We've established your ownership of me 8,364 times already. get-off-me...c4e626.jpg 
#13
They whistle, snap their fingers, or make that "pspsps" sound to get their server's attention in a restaurant.
#14
We lost a beloved pet today, one of our friends said "time to get another". This happened today! I'm not sure if he's stupid, insensitive or just an a*s know we're not friends anymore.
Jessica Specht 1 year ago
I've learned over the years that as much as the people I care about love their pets, it's wrong for me to assume they even want another pet after having to put one down. I've had to put 3 pets down in the past 15 years sooner than I had hoped due to undiagnosed medical issues. I now have an almost 14 year old beagle mix girl (Ziggy). When she goes, I will likely be unconsolable and if anyone tells me (that doesn't understand the bond between a pet and owner) to "just get another one", I will likely remove said person from my life. I don't even know if I would WANT another pet after Ziggy goes, and my husband may not want another one either. It's just simply insensitive and uncalled for to a grieving pet parent.
#15
You give them a lift and they leave rubbish in your car.
DennyS (denzoren) 1 year ago
Yep but I rather they leave the trash in the car than throw it out the window...that's an absolute no-no.
#16
Who are the guys who spit out their chewing gum into urinals? I see this all the time at work and I work in a high end corporate place. Do they think it disolves and goes down the pipe? The janitor has to pick that out.
#17
The word "no" just means throw a fit and be as obnoxious as you can be until you get your way. "No" does not mean that rules are rules or someone's job might be on the line, they're the important one, not anyone else.
#18
They one-up you *all the time*.
Braelyn Robinson 1 year ago
Pfft! Those trophies are weaksauce compared to my collection. Why, did you know I was the 1977 world pickleball champion? All of these new players need to know who’s boss.
#19
I know a few of these types of people, and they tend to have one or more of the following traits:
* They are disrespectful to everyone, not just authority figures. Watch how they treat customer service or retail staff.
* They have no manners in general, or only use manners when they absolutely have to in order to preserve their own interests.
* They are cruel to people and/or animals, and laugh at the suffering of others.
* They are selfish.
* They destroy things, steal, and cheat. Some also commit more serious crime.
* They expect handouts from everyone.
* They shirk hard work and responsibility whenever they can.
* They complain a lot, and constantly act like they are a victim.
* They are terrible parents to their own children.
Kookamunga 1 year ago
Treatment of servers, retail workers, etc - that's the key. If they pick on someone that can't fight back, that is beyond a red flag. You are officially a complete b a s t a r d.
#20
They gossip about others and will be vindictive behinds people’s backs, but pretend to be sweet to their face.
#21
Not putting the cart back at the grocery store.
Headless Roach 1 year ago (edited)
So piling them up on your truck and driving away is cool? TIL
#22
Turning conversation back to themselves at all cost.
Being a good listener is a sign of a person raised well.
Edit: to clarify, I don’t mean quiet or a doormat. I mean generous, empathetic, supportive and curious. Good follow-up questions without making it about oneself, etc.
Alexia 1 year ago
This one usually doesn't go alone. Such people are also narcissistic and emotionally abusive, extracting validation from humiliating and belittling others. They know everything, they give unsolicited lessons and advice, the world revolves around them. If you lost somebody for example, your grief is nothing as compared to what they had suffered in a similar situation. If you're planning to do something, they've already done it ahead of you. If you wish to visit a place, they've already been there before you. I had such a "friend". Avoid them like plague.
#23
People who don’t offer to help you clean up when they are visiting you.
Like having friends over and them leaving you with all the beer bottles, bowls and glasses on the table. I don’t mind cleaning up, but I always offer when at someone else house. You make the mess together.
Not-a-Clue-What-to-Call-Myself 1 year ago
I'm never sure if the protocol on this. I would always offer, but it does depend on how well you know people and some people seem genuinely offended if you try to help out, like they want to act as the hosts and treat you like guests.
#25
They don't know how to do normal household stuff. I've seen people that don't even know how to make their own coffee or clean a toilet.
Edit: I only mentioned making coffee as an example. If you don't know how to make coffee because you don't drink it, that's fine.
Jessica Specht 1 year ago
I don't know how to clean a house very well, because my mother did all of it. Her reasoning.....me, my sister, and my dad won't do it right. It's not like I don't do my best to keep a clean home, but it's not a very good job.
#28
They apologize for every little thing. Probably a sign that they grew up with abusive parents that got mad over anything and everything.
#29
They will never try to defend something they believe using logical reasons.
CHRIS DOMRES 1 year ago
How be be a good neighbor: never bring up religion or politics when talking with neighbors.
#30
I'm gonna answer this literally.
As a teacher, I see there's a lot of different values that go into parenting styles, some that aren't my values but still raise a productive, responsible, and successful child. But there is evidence of bad parenting from a child development point-of-view.
-Is extra clingy and implies or outright states your their sole custodian for their well-being.
-Is incredibly aggressive about getting their way or being correct all the time.
-Responds to slights or inconveniences violently.
-Is extremely withdrawn and doesn't care for self.
-On the flip side, is very self-sufficient from a very young age and also has anxiety and/or depression.
-Seeks attention constantly. Not just a lot, but *constantly.*
Obviously, the child abuse signs are indicators of not being raise right, and only apply here to actual children, but it never hurts to remind people of them:
-Has suspicious bruising/injuries on body where it's not normal to have injuries (ex. bruised forehead and skinned knees are normal on toddlers, black eyes are not)
-Carefully covers parts of the body that would not normally be covered (Ex. Won't roll up sleeves even a little on hot days which, bonus, is also a sign of self-harm)
-Is inappropriately sexual and/or knowledgable about sexuality for age group
-Is weirdly afraid to be alone with another person. Not just, I dont want to go home because my dad's gonna give me a whuppin for starting a fight at school, but something like finding a lot of excuses to not hang out with an older cousin ever
-Is often dirty, stinky, soiled
-Is often underfed
-Tells you they are being abused
I took this way too seriously, but there you go!
EDIT: People are commenting with personal situations that involve the warning signs of child abuse I mentioned, but aren't child abuse in their case. This is what makes it so hard to detect. Kids are always bruised, stinky, and secretive. What's important is to keep an open mind, and sort of observe a pattern of signs and behaviors. If alarm bells go off, our first impulse is to explain it away, but making an anonymous tip is not as harmful as people believe. In my experience, nothing is even investigated until the reports pile up unless you physically witness the abuse.
EDIT 2: Just to be clear, the first list just means the parents or household should be better to optimally encourage the wellness of a child. The second is of warning signs of abuse.
What do you think ?
PattyK 1 year ago
No one mentioned the person who never stops talking so you can’t get a word in. Makes you wonder when that talker even breathes.
I'mNotARoboat 1 year ago
Could mean a few different things: narcissism or some other ego issue, or someone overcompensating their shyness, someone on the autism spectrum, just to name three. I'm fairly certain you're referring to narcissism most likely though.
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Sonja 1 year ago
When they're overly judgemental and cling to perceived 'general opinions ' instead of voicing their own opinions as such. And when they belittle your preferences or hobbies as childish and try to talk over you if someone asks you about them to 'explain' them before you can so everyone can see they are childish.
Karen Philpott 1 year ago
Someone who 'mansplains'. Please, I probably know more about engineering, cars, or livestock than you. So back off. I will ask questions if I want to know something. But don't mansplain to me.
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Pamela Leigh 1 year ago
Some of these are so inconsequential. I would go with greed, ruthlessness, inability to be emotionally present. Just three of many. These are underlying personality defects, not just behaviors that result.
Camilla Koutsos 1 year ago
And then you get people raised right, but still doing this kind of thing. You only have to look at their siblings and parents to start wondering what's wrong with them.
Suzy Creamcheese 1 year ago
Republicans, on the other hand, don't need to do anything. They can p**s people off just by existing.
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Gwen Johnson 1 year ago
Well so far we know you have been raised right when you check grammar rather than content...kids can be raised right if the people raising them act right...it isn't what you say, it's what you do.
PattyK 1 year ago
No one mentioned the person who never stops talking so you can’t get a word in. Makes you wonder when that talker even breathes.
I'mNotARoboat 1 year ago
Could mean a few different things: narcissism or some other ego issue, or someone overcompensating their shyness, someone on the autism spectrum, just to name three. I'm fairly certain you're referring to narcissism most likely though.
Load More Replies... Sonja 1 year ago
When they're overly judgemental and cling to perceived 'general opinions ' instead of voicing their own opinions as such. And when they belittle your preferences or hobbies as childish and try to talk over you if someone asks you about them to 'explain' them before you can so everyone can see they are childish.
Karen Philpott 1 year ago
Someone who 'mansplains'. Please, I probably know more about engineering, cars, or livestock than you. So back off. I will ask questions if I want to know something. But don't mansplain to me.
Load More Replies... Pamela Leigh 1 year ago
Some of these are so inconsequential. I would go with greed, ruthlessness, inability to be emotionally present. Just three of many. These are underlying personality defects, not just behaviors that result.
Camilla Koutsos 1 year ago
And then you get people raised right, but still doing this kind of thing. You only have to look at their siblings and parents to start wondering what's wrong with them.
Suzy Creamcheese 1 year ago
Republicans, on the other hand, don't need to do anything. They can p**s people off just by existing.
Load More Replies... Gwen Johnson 1 year ago
Well so far we know you have been raised right when you check grammar rather than content...kids can be raised right if the people raising them act right...it isn't what you say, it's what you do.
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