Someone Asked, “What Is A Clear Sign Of You Getting Older?”, Here Are 67 Of The Most Honest Responses
Everyone knows the physical signs of getting old: you start noticing fine lines and wrinkles, your knees and back start hurting, and you can no longer function properly without a full night's rest. And then, there are other signs of aging: the cashier is no longer asking you for an ID, those kids in the neighborhood are getting a little too loud, and you go from being a regular at a bar to a regular at a pharmacy. And though often depressing, signs that you're getting old also indicate that you're becoming more mature, wiser, and know yourself better than you ever did. Are those worth trading for softer skin? Some food for thought.
Either way, one of the harsh truths about life is that every single one of us is getting older. The only ones who don't experience aging are the ones who have already passed. Hence, though bittersweet, aging is an inevitable part of life, and signs of aging are pretty much signs of approval that things are going how they are supposed to. Some time ago, user NordicModro asked fellow users of the AskReddit community, "What is a clear sign of you getting older?" And thousands of users swamped the comments section to share signs of getting old that they have learned and encountered in life. Though some answers were relatively expected, many were oddly specific instances from people's daily lives, which made this thread even more appealing to dig through.
Below, we've compiled some of the most interesting responses from the thread, inviting people to share signs you're getting old and the instances they realized they were getting older. Can you relate to any of the statements? Let us know by giving them an upvote! Also, how would you answer that same question? In the comments, you can let us know by finishing the following sentence: "you know you are getting older when..."
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TheYoungWan said:
"I used to sneak out of home to go to parties. Now I sneak out of parties to go home."
YouveGotItMister replied:
"Your next stage of old is not going to parties in the first place."
This really depends on the kind of party. Kegger? Not so much. Tailgate Party? Yes, please!
stark561 said: "You find teenagers irritating." SadLaser replied: "Everyone finds teenagers irritating, including other teenagers."
Potential-Leave3489 said: "Intolerance for loud noise. The older I get, the less I can stand it." steamygarbage replied: "I look out the window like a grumpy senior when I see kids blasting music out loud in their cars at my apartment complex. No one cares what you listen to. Turn it down."
Even if your music is my music, turn it down!
Load More Replies...I seriously need a house that's like...a km away from everything on each side just surrounded by trees. That's perfect.
Blasting music thats: got a very loud base feature to the point its vibrating through my windows or: has a lot of obscene phrases or words in it blasting out of a car window. If you want to listen to stuff like that please do so with the window shut.
Even the Netflix "ta-dah" thing when it loads drives me up the wall
Haha I just pictured the Netflix logo doing the "jazz hands"
Load More Replies...Loud music doesn't bother me so much but I kinda hate like super loud cars or motorcycles. Sometimes I blast my music pretty loud :/ sorry guys lol
Yup. I still have very sharp hearing but loud music gets on my nerves more often than not nowadays! I’m also in my early 30s.
User No 1 said: "People in positions of power being younger than you." RealStumbleweed replied: "Your primary care physician looks like she's about 17."
What always gets me are these teenaged cops. I got pulled over for not wearing my safety belt, and my first thought when the cop got out of his car was, "Do your parents know that you're out driving around?"
Don't worry. They stop pulling you over , once you had a little accident and you are buried.
Load More Replies...It is weird and can be uncomfortable, but old doctors tend to be out of touch with current medical practices.
I found that too, but (my example is personal 😂) a 19 yr old CEO of the disabled Olympiad committee on $200k a yr is suss
Load More Replies...This started earlier for me than I expected. When I was 27, my 5yo needed ear-tube surgery and her surgeon looked my age or younger. I was very concerned, but he did a good job. He was blessed with great genes or excellent intellect, likely both, plus while I was having kids he was in medical school. I just have to remind myself of that whenever I see someone my age or younger doing advanced stuff; they might be exceptional, but maybe I could be doing it too. I just took a different life path,
Heath_and_Harebells said:
"Making noises when sitting up and down."
WaldoJeffers65 replied:
"Our dog is getting old, and whenever she stands up, she makes these little groaning noises. I thought it was cute and funny until the day I realized that I, too, make those noises whenever I stand up."
Being over 60 is like being an old Buick. Sometimes you just gotta sit on the edge of the bed and warm up.
I've made these noises for years comes with playing sports most of my youth and gaining weight after high school.
ManicPrincessofKink said: "When you are asked your birthday online and you realize how much you have to scroll to get to your birth year." Bortle1 replied: "This one. The little year wheel just rolls and rolls and rolls to get to my year (1967!). PS. And I’m grateful for those years!"
And the young whipersnappers can't comprehend how I worked at an Insurance company but didn't have a computer. My world was rocked when we got a word processor
UnQualityLife said: "Back pain." User No 2 replied: "Waking up every day with a new random pain somewhere. Probably partly some arthritis too."
I started this ceap early at 25 to get it over with and we'll it only got worse. (I have a slew of medical issues and every day I get achier and crankier
Yup I hurt my back pretty bad in a car accident when I was 22 and it never really goes away. I will say that it used to be worse though I can sit for longer periods of time now then I used to but it's still there always but has dulled
Load More Replies...There's nothing wrong with it as long as it hurts somewhere else every morning, because over 50 that's how you know you're still alive :) Go see a doctor when you have pain in the same place regularly.
Part of the back pain club, much is to do with weight. But I've also been thrown off a horse and landed on my back as well as had currents of electricity shot up my spine when trying to get around a horse paddock and the only way in was through. Sometimes, I'd forget to relax my back and the zap would just be enough to remind me how much I despised rope fencing.
"I schedule plans with friends earlier and earlier every passing year. There's just something so satisfying about getting dinner and drinks at 6 pm and being back at home wearing my comfy fit binging the show du jour by 9 pm."
When I worked for a grocery store I'd work 4 days on 3 days off as their policy for full time was 32 hrs based on the union they used. I used to love taking one of my days off and going to a matinee at the theater it's about half the price and its quiet so I can enjoy my movie. Of everything I miss that.
Omg I just went on a trip with my mother (38, 58) and for four days, we explored early, ate dinner early and curled up in our fluffy hotel beds early with our wine and watched documentaries until we happily fell asleep. Heaven!!
Or instead of going out, you invite a few friends over which is just an excuse for wanting to stay home and wear comfy clothes.
"I get excited when I buy a new kitchen utensil or some other house related thing."
Wait until you figure out how to prevent a spatula from stopping the draw from opening
Love my immersion blender. Made some killer deviled egg filling using it.
Load More Replies...Or when you figure out which ones you don't really need. Yes, kitchen gadgets are cool but do we really need 200 of them?
New comfy bed set! And side note, wondering why decorative pillows are so expensive 🤔
For me it's new plants. Cause then I get to spend some extra time with my small indoor garden getting things situated and making sure the others are loved and watered.
"So, here are a few POSITIVE signs of aging: You recognize something is a dumb idea BEFORE you do it. You handle your own sh**/clean up your own mess, rather than leaving it for someone else to deal with. Your immediate desire or impulse doesn't obscure every other factor when making an important decision. There are more, but you get the idea..."
Smart is learning from your mistakes, wisdom is learning from other people's mistakes.
"After sitting still for a long period of time, standing and walking involves shambling about like a zombie. You're fine after a seconds of movement, but initially nothing works right."
Michi_Exiled said: "Shrek was released 22 years ago." DemocraticRepublic replied: "The Matrix was 24 years ago."
I wouldn't have been born when either movies were made. I told my mom how long ago the movies where. I started DYING laughing cause my mom started flipping out bc Matrix is so old!!
What! Who would take their 4 yr old to a movie like Jaws!
Load More Replies...Eh, almost everything that I like is 15-20 years old, so this one is like a yea I'm not surprised anymore. Lol
Dudes, I was born the year Sally Field won the Best Actress Oscar for the movie Sibyll, so... Look it up!
I was nine when The Matrix came out and 11 when Shrek came to theaters…. Now I feel old!!
"Always tired, and waking up sore every morning."
I sound like a haunted house when I roll over in bed in the morning
Sounds like you need a new mattress and/or pillow…that’s another good sign, not being able to sleep on the bed you’ve had for ages anymore!
GrimmRetails said: "You don't dare leave the house without peeing." Snooty_Goat replied: "And you never fart in public. That s**t can go wrong in a hurry." GyrosSnazzyJazzBand also replied: "I'm in my early 20s and I do this."
My gallbladder just randomly decided to go bad one day. After they took it out, the surgeon's parting words as she left after the post-op check in were "Never trust a fart".
Thanks for sharing that, Craftsman. Can relate. Toot, toot
Load More Replies...It's a sign that you are an adult when you go to the bathroom before leaving the house without a reminder.
marina-minx said:
"I don't want to set foot in a nightclub ever again."
Fubai97b replied:
"I'm old enough where the club girls don't check me out so much as keep an eye on me. When I was about 40, I got dragged to a club by some younger coworkers after a team dinner. I lasted about 5 minutes before having to tap out. The music and fog machine going full blast was like a living hell to me."
Just talking about going to clubs on Saturday and the last time I went was 15-20 years ago; I'm 39F. Just can't stand clubs and much prefer, if I have to go out, to go to an old man bar where you can barely hear the music and the patrons are just quietly stewing over their drink contemplating their life choices and calculating if they actually can retire early
I think a library bar would be a great concept. Double as a café during the day.
Load More Replies...I've been to one club in my whole life, in my early 20s in Tel Aviv during a Birthright trip. Didn't care for it at all. At least it had some interesting drinks, but I just found it boring and very loud. I was already slightly sensitive to noise with my ADHD, now that I'm in my early 30s, that's worse.
"Roughly 80% of the musical guests on SNL I have never heard of."
I once read an issue of People magazine from cover to cover (dentist's office) and I didn't recognize a single person. I was actually quite liberating.
I'm proud to say I've never seen an episode of SNL. 😀 I did watch All That as a child though. Same concept but for kids.
I’ve actually had to look up most of the celebrities that the generations below mine follow. My generation was obsessed with celebrities, and some of my peers still are. I’m rather glad I’m not, to be honest, although I’m also cool with others using their freedoms to follow the celebrities they like.
User No 1 said: "That two decades ago is no longer the 1990s." airnlight_timenspace replied: "Sometimes I catch myself thinking the 90’s were only a decade ago." havean**us also replied: "The worst was when 80’s night at the club turned into 90’s night. Then when it turned into 00’s night I started shopping for grave plots."
When the game show Pointless has a category like "Top 100 pop songs of this century" it usually takes me a while to realise they don't mean the years up to 1999
You shut your dirty mouth with all your lies! The 90's was only 10 years ago 😢
I have a hard time remembering the 00's were 20 years ago at this point. So much happened that it doesn't seem like it's been that long.
Whenever I see someone's birthdate is in the 80s, I immediately think that person is in their 20s (and I was born in the 70s)
I say "30 years ago" and I mean the 60s, okay? Just go with me here, don't clarify and say "In 1993?"
Yearofthehoneybadger said: "40 is a weird age. Everyone older says you’re so young. Everyone younger thinks you’re so old." zoomie35 replied: "50 is the old age of youth, and the youth of old age." Ineedavodka2019 also replied: "I had the nurse ask my husband at an appointment if I was his mother. Then two weeks later my teen daughter said all of her friends thought he was her brother and so hot. I’m younger than him. I must look old. He is hot."
I'm thankful I'm aging gracefully like my dad did. When he was 70 people still thought he was 50.
Genetics are powerful. I'm 58 as of January. I have about 10 grey hairs and a few laugh lines. No crow's feet or forehead furrows. (Disclaimer: I've always had dry skin, so I've always moisturized heavily, and I'm sure it has helped.)
Load More Replies...Good genes in my family. I have always looked 15 to 20 years younger than I am. My parents were the same. As I approach 70 I'm just now showing some wrinkles and eye puffiness. It's nice, except I have the personality of an 85 year old recluse who shouts at people to get off their lawn. I remember when Eisenhower was Prez, both Kennedys were shot and a color TV was a big deal. I still get butterflies when I hear an early Beatles song and Jethro Tull takes me back to highschool. Don't get me started on Led Zeppelin. I feel lucky and grateful to have all these years, those I've loved and loved me. Growing old is a privilege in this life and with every ache and pain there are 10 more bits of wisdom to make me feel even more grateful. Live long and prosper everyone.
I'm 33 and I still get carded as many think I'm 18 or 20. The looks I get from 20 yr old females could cut glass when I tell them I don't wear makeup and other than a face scrub once in awhile I clean with micellar water. Apparently, they think I'm lying until I show my ID.
My husband (42) gets mistaken for my (36) dad making me my daughter (12) older sister
When you realize your body is older than your brain. I think the phrase is "young at heart."
My brother (biological, we have the same birth parents) is technically old enough to be my dad. My dad, 55, looks like he's in his mid to late 60s. My mom, a few years older than him, is still a natural blonde and could easily pass for late 40s.
NoraTMS said: "I don't care about how I look without makeup anymore." Melscott19651414 replied: "I can’t even see enough to put makeup on... lol." soggy_n_groggy also replied: "I’ve noticed this recently. A combination of the pandemic lockdowns negating any need for make up and reaching a point in life where I don’t give a s***. Plus I think our perception of what is good looking becomes more broad and generous as we get older. I appreciate my face more than I used to."
That last comment. I wish I could give my younger self just a fraction of the confidence I have today and tell him that he was beautiful. And, in 20 years, I expect I'll feel the same way about my present self. It's a cruel trick of life.
Make up wasn't something I was taught how to use and as someone who grew up on a farm during some of her teen years I had chores to do before I had to go to school. I know how to do basic applications but don't ask me to put on fake anything because I don't see the point. My sister on the other hand learned from YouTube and has been putting on make up since she was in middle school and it looks amazing. I do wish I'd learned more about hair care and styling though.
Yees! The last sentence. The older I get the more beautiful people are, the more I like my own natural look, and the more a person's personality affects their appearance. Kind eyes and a real smile, or genuine life experience, intelligence, honesty, even sadness, all can make a person more attractive or beautiful or interesting. But anger, shallowness, unkindness, selfishness, stupidity, greed, cunning, dishonesty ...these show up too, and it doesn't matter how well groomed a person is or naturally attractive a person's features are or how skilled their makeup is applied. If someone is nasty inside it's not long before that spoils their outside
I still wear makeup when I need to feel good about myself, whether I'm going out or not. I don't leave the house often, but when I do it's usually for lunch and a movie, so makeup isn't really gonna last long, but it's always a good way for a woman to feel pretty (especially if the men in her life notice and comment on the fact)
SavvOrie said:
"Valuing your sleep and at least trying to follow a decent sleep schedule."
Snooty_Goat replied:
"I just can't do it if I don't. In my younger years I could take on an army with 4 hours. Now 6 hours isn't even enough to piss straight."
If I get less than seven hours’ sleep, I am barely functional for the day, barring that I have very strong coffee with breakfast. It just works to wake me up! Coffee is simply an accent to my day when I’ve slept properly, though!
Luckily at 74 I can still get everything done correctly with 5-6 hours of sleep, but who knows when my body will say eh no more lol
I wish my bladder would let me sleep for more than 6 hours. And once I get up, I'm just up, there is no going back to sleep for me. Le sigh...
I'm pushing 40 and still got the same sleep schedule I had as a teenager: 4-5 hours a night with an occasional mid-day nap if I can get a day off.
saifster9 said: "You start to give fewer s***s about others' opinions and actions and do more self reflecting instead." and_so_forth replied: "I really noticed this today. I teach at university and in a session today my students got into a pretty heated debate where I thought a few of their points were badly thought through or a little angry and immature. A younger version of me would perhaps have got a little worried they were laying down bad rationality but today-me just smiled and watched and intervened during the debate to make sure everyone got to talk. They'll learn the world at their own pace and they don't need browbeating by some dad-lookin' guy. I only intervened when I thought they were being rude or when they were straight-up wrong. It was only driving home reflecting on it that I thought to myself, 's**t, I wish I'd learned to do that twenty years ago. Life would have been much more relaxing.'"
Hardtopickaname said: "Media (songs, movies, games) you grew up with start being referred to as "classics"." advocatus_ebrius_est replied: "The first time I heard Nirvana on the Classic Rock station, I died a little inside." iodine_iron replied: "Same here but it was Green Day." GrapesHatePeople also replied: "I don't think I'll forget the feeling of listening to my go to classic rock station at the time, a station that had always played stuff like Led Zeppelin, Ozzy Osbourne, and Van Halen, and the first thing I heard after an ad break was: "Do you have the time, to listen to me whine..." I think several of my hairs immediately turned grey in that moment."
When the station I used to listen to changed its format from "all the hits from the 60s, 70s and 80s" to "all the hits from the 90s to today" I knew I was now an old fogey (my music taste pretty much ends at the 80s)
When Nsync became a staple on the soft rock/adult Contemporary stations. That was my moment.
I work with people 40 years my junior. Beatles, Stones, Queen, CCR, Prince, Michael Jackson... They can sing along to it. When I was their age my dad was listening to Montavani. That was death.
While I was jarred the first time I heard this, I also temper it with the memory that the first time I found one of my childhood toys in an antique store was the summer before I turned 20. "Old", "classic" and "antique" are all relative; and "old/ classic" isn't the opposite of "cool/ good".
What's odd is when you have bands that have been making music for 40-odd years. So their earlier stuff is considered classic, but what about the band itself? If they're a classic rock band, why aren't they playing classic rock music? This question really started bugging me when I heard Red Hot Chili Peppers on a classic station last year.
The first time I felt like that was when I heard a relatively recent Keith Urban song on a local mix station playing as though it was quite old. The song had come out when I was about 16 and it seemed presented as quite old when I was 20. Rarely have I felt like so much time had passed as I did then!
I was shocked and appalled when I heard 90s music being referred to as oldies.
MonkMode2022 said: "Preferring to stay home than to go out." ILL_Show_Myself_Out replied: "So, I’m slowing down and staying in as I enter my mid thirties, but I see more and more younger people 18-25 who aren’t doing much at all. Actually- the internet has become a bit of an introvert circle-jerk over the past years - I FULLY anticipate 21-22 year olds to join this thread and say 'I’m 22 and I feel this way” and the like. I actually feel like a bit of a curmudgeon who wants to shout “that’s not how I was raised! You get back in the club and grind with rando’s and you like it!'"
Having friends that still think 8pm is a good time to go out for dinner. I’m in my pjs as soon as I get home and by 8 if I’m not sleeping, it’s because the doc I put on was too interesting.
So what I'm hearing is I need more Old soul friends.
Load More Replies...If I went out, I wouldn't be able to check BP would I? (my phone is purely for text and calls)
georgewashingguns said: "You are more aware of others wasting their time." ForestMage5 replied: "Yes! And of their wasting YOUR time." DontmindthePanda also replied: "My tolerance for that is falling pretty fast recently. I remember waiting for people for half an hour or even longer because they had something else to do or needed to pick up other people. Now I'm like 'f*** it, if you're not here at 5, I'm gonna order something and don't wait'."
I'm the opposite. It used to drive me crazy if people were late or time was wasting. I got incredibly anxious if I was late and felt awful if I wasted someone's time. Now that I'm older and have raised kids and have gotten treatment for my own issues, I'm better at managing my own time and patience. So I don't let people down as often, and I have a lot more patience and understanding if other people lose track of time or make me wait. I have tons of things I can do in the meantime. I've come to think of punctuality as an ableist concept. There's so many people with executive functioning issues and mobility issues that might make them slower or bad at time management, and so many people who just need more compassion. I'm much more flexible these days. And if people are casually or callously wasting my time? I can gently drop them from my life, it's pretty easy to do that and makes for less drama. No biggie.
irridisregardless said:
"You say to yourself: 'It's the end of January already!?'"
Translationerr0r replied:
"More like: 'What did I do between 1990 and 2000?'"
Yup! I can’t believe it’s spring already, and it feels like the middle of January was literally yesterday.
. That's so true ! Feel like I'm missing - one or two decades
macnutz22 said: "More and more things annoy me." PowersIave replied: "Yes! I'm 30 and I am acting more and more like those old grumpy people I remember when I was younger. Turns out I am becoming one, day by day. Come to think of it, maybe I thought they were old. They really weren't that old. Sorry."
I'm old. Get off my lawn. I feel less alone reading this one. Lol
The thing is, people are becoming more and more inconsiderate and not teaching their children to behave anymore. That's what really gets to me and makes me seem like a grumpy old woman (I'm almost 40)
Yeah, the ancient Roman lawyer Cicero said the same thing. Every generation says that and nobody ever learns from it.
Load More Replies..."(58m). Where do I start: 30s, didn’t brush off that wipe out on my bike like I did in my 20s. 40s, had to stop eating like I was 20, and visits to my family physician became much more frequent. 50s, takes much longer to get out of bed. My back and joints ache continually. as I approach my 60s, my friend and family pool is getting smaller as they start to pass on. Spend more time reminiscing about the past than looking to the future. Life goes by quickly. Don’t waste it!"
Don't be down, Clearly Sunny. It's tough growing older, but the really important things in life mean more, cost less and and feed your soul.
Load More Replies..."When you start to notice that your parents were right. Time passes by so incredibly fast! Remember that delicious pizza you ate yesterday? Nope. That was 1.5 months ago."
Someone told me recently that the days drag and the years fly. Mind blown!
So true…the older we get the faster time seems to fly by. It’s all in perception but still…now it’s hard to keep track of the day!
Kooky_Finding8516 said: "I genuinely (not sarcasm, not a meme) have no idea what slang teenagers use these days. I have absolutely zero context or exposure to any cultural influences teenagers even have. But honestly, it's kind of fun reading what slang people use these days. I was pretty sure things aren't "fire" anymore, but maybe that's still used?!?!"
"I used to be with it, then they changed what IT was. Now what's it scares me" - Grampa Simpson
It is the *duty* of us older people to be utterly clueless about what The Kids These Days(tm) are doing. Can you imagine how embarrassed my nieces and nephew would be if I understood their slang, their music, etc?
Load More Replies...I was a teacher for awhile, so I was able to keep up with the slang. But I've since gone back to get my phd, and most of my classmates are twenty-somethings. And I'm like... I think I've taught students who are now older than some of you. Where was this story going again?
I work in education, so I’m practically required to understand the slang and cultural references that appeal to my students!! Thankfully, pretty much all of the slang with which I grew up is still popular and I’m quick to understand new vocabulary, if you will.
I am currently a young teenager and I don't understand half the things people say
DaSoberChef said:
"I sneezed the other week and threw my back out."
Sylvair replied:
"Last year I had to take a day off work because I had hurt my back doing origami the night before."
Teenager with back strain: I did a backflip and landed wrong. Me with back strain: I slept wrong.
pretty_little_life said: "It takes twice as long to look half as good." More-Athlete1175 replied: "Exactly. Used to be so easy at even 35 to look cute. When I do wear make-up I'm like well I still look 50."
I feel as if I look like an ugly man trying to look like an ugly lady. Don't even waste my time anymore with makeup.
StrangerKindly6118 said: "Napping more often." User No 2 replied: "I woke up early today to get some work done just so I could have time to nap later."
Any_Acanthocephala18 said: "When they tear down a building that you remember getting built." Thinkingard replied: "Haven't experienced that, but that feel though when a place you used to work in your hometown is now a parking lot." cc452 also replied: "My elementary school got torn down and turned into condos. That was weird."
My preschool is now a liquor store same building and everything lol
Truth is, it always was... If you'd just asked Teacher Suzy what was in her coffee to get her through the day.
Load More Replies...Mines a bit different. I grew up in the surrounding metro area of Phoenix during the 90s. This was before it became the metropolis it's become. So, once I moved away the picture of a desert community that no one visits was what I remembered. Fast forward a few years when I visit for Christmas and it had changed in just the two years or so since I'd last been their. I had a hard time coming to terms that the desert town was no longer there. Houses were up the mountain sides and it was hotter than I remembered.
lorna141 said: "You have a serious and indepth conversation with your friends about decent lawn mowers/ weedkiller/ vacuum cleaners..." mrmoe198 replied: "Dammit. I was talking in earnest about home appliances and had to stop and realize… dammit if this is relevant then I’m old."
I just got a new mower. I spent the weekend taking to a friend about mowers of different makes and models, comparing pros/cons and features. This went on for hours
My "baby" cousin (29) called me to tell me about her new kitchen garbage can. We realized half way through the phone call we are so old now!
As I've gotten older I not only get excited about decorating my spaces, but getting them organized and I can spend hours looking at The Container Store website just making plans.
pineappledaddy said:
"If anyone asks me to do anything after 8 pm, the chances of me going are slim, and the chances are even slimmer if I've already put on sweat pants."
Stay-Thirsty replied:
"You get out of sweatpants. Well done. Workings remotely has definitely made me feel like I’m dressing up when I put jeans on."
Eh. These days I just wear sweats and leggings. Jeans are just uncomfy.
My bra is like my open and closed sign. If my bra is off then I'm closed for the day.
CattoGinSama said: "You start getting wisdom moments. Understanding why things happened and had to.. being more compassionate towards mistakes of others because you’re sh***y yourself and you know it." DadJokesAndMore replied: "This one hits it for me. I think I have become much more patient with idiots than before. I want to add though; I also see through bull***t and have no fear calling it out, now, I mean, whose going to smack some old man for mouthing off Yikes."
wisertime07 said: "The feeling of not waking up hungover sounds better to you than a night of partying." thisisinput replied: "I get hungover without even getting drunk now." BamH1 also replied: "Oh yeah. The classic 3 beer hangover is the worst. Then your wife says 'you know you shouldn't have had that many IPAs'."
I remember when I used to go out in my twenties until 4am, come home, sleep for 2 hours, get up to get ready for work and be there bright as a button for 8am. These days if I have a bit too much to drink on a Friday I'm still feeling the effects of it the next Wednesday.
When I see people who live like that into their 50's and 60's, it genuinely confuses me. Like, how are you doing that? Are you a wizard?
Load More Replies...I don't get hangovers 🤣 My husband hates it cuz he can't drink like that no more
I had a hangover all last week from the change to Daylight Saving Time.
stillcore said: "Hair growing in places where hair shouldn't be." Talesin_BatBat replied: "Seriously, what is this bull***t that I have to shave my ears now?!" TheEyeDontLie also replied: "Yeah I was surprised this wasn't higher. When I was 30 I noticed a few grey hairs. When I was 32 I noticed more hair on my chest and back. When I was 34 I had to start trimming my nose and ears and eyebrows and shaving my neck weekly and my nipples are surrounded by fountains of pubes."
Yeah, when your hair stops growing out of your head and transfers to your ears and nose, you're getting old.
Those 6 stiff chin hairs that I have to pull out weekly. And they're not invisible, they stick straight out and are very thick and they are shiny. Like, the universe is saying "you're a female and you're not old, but if you want to sample being an old bearded guy here's a tiny preview " and you can't opt out
Ughhh I have this too! I'm only 28!!! And unfortunately it's not something new either lol I wax mine at home
Load More Replies...I found my first gray hair last year. But it seems I'll be going silver instead.
hiro111 said: "Reading glasses." Aims312 replied: "Multiple pairs placed in strategic places. Bedside, by my chair in the living room, in my truck, in my purse, and one at work."
I wear glasses and contacts and a few months ago I had my annual check up with my optician. She asked if I was having any problems and I said reading things close up is getting a bit difficult and then jokingly said "but that's probably my age". She looked me dead in the eye with no hint of irony or sarcasm and replied "it is"!
I am extremely nearsighted; can't see more than about 3 inches before things get blurry. I've been wearing glasses since I was about 7/8 (I'm 39 now) and was so excited two years ago when the dr said my vision had not changed because it always gets a little worse every year I go. Last year it was still unchanged and I'm still ecstatic; two years in a freaking row! Never had the same glasses this long before 😊
My myopia and astigmatism required thick glasses all my life, interspersed with rigid GP contact lenses. Here came middle age and my worsening vision turned out to be cataracts. I was told the surgery would cure both my nearsightedness and astigmatism and I was thrilled! Now after the procedure, I'm stuck with reading glasses because I can't read anything, especially labels. It was a huge letdown. Still grateful for the gift of sight however..
Okay this one scares me quite a bit! I've always had excellent eye sight. I used to be able to read things like little signs across the store and now I've noticed that things are getting a little more blurry and hard to see. I still have good eye sight as I'm still pretty young but it scares me that it's going to go away :( :( :(
I've worn a heavy eye prescription my whole life but it stopped getting worse at least, sometime in my early 20s. Last year I told my eye doctor that I couldn't read fine print anymore and that my eyes would get blurry looking at my phone or books. He gave me reading glasses and I about died. I thought that was for people in their 80s! And it is literally negating part of my regular prescription! -10.0 contacts and +2.5 reading glasses?! I have to make my eyes worse to see close up? But not all the way worse. And what about when I'm not wearing my contacts? I'm supposed to wear the reading glasses on top of my regular glasses?! I'm pretty good with that rest of the whole aging thing but I'm really not okay with this
Im.in my 40s and have progressive glasses. I never heard of them before
Sreneethomas said:
"When you’ve seen multiple decades of fashion trends come back into play with the 'young crowd'."
Waddiwasiiiii replied:
"I laughed when I saw a pair of JNCO jeans being sold as “vintage ultra baggy denim” in a trendy secondhand shop near work. It boggled my mind that people actually wanted to wear those again, but my 20-something coworker was like, “oh yeah, they go for like, a few hundred bucks or more now” I then showed the youngsters pics of how impractical garbage they were if worn in rain, snow, and the developing heel strap after about a month of dragging on the ground. They all still want them. And they said, “it's cool because no one wears them that long anymore”. Case in point, the next day I saw a teen wearing a pair, only they stopped just above her ankles. didn't think that look could get worse but the kids have gone and done it."
I miss pretty things for women, like elegant nightgowns and cocktail dresses.. Today's desses look like shapeless flour sacks. There's no style anymore and I'm not talking about $400 bags and $600 shoes. That's not style, that's extortion!
The style/form is supposed to be the body, it doesn’t work as well…
Load More Replies..."Referring to people under 30 as kids. I caught myself saying “he was just a kid” about Anton Yelchin recently even though he was 27. Also my knees sounding like bubble wrap when I kneel down."
Honestly, I think part of this is that you see more "teenagers" on TV and in movies than IRL, and Hollywood casts people in their 30s as teenagers, so you get a skewed idea of how people age. A complementary example: I'm literally at the age the Golden Girls were, but I don't look as old as they did. Styling has changed a LOT.
I still don't think we should be calling anyone who's not legally a kid a kid tbh. It's just dismissive and women especially get enough of that already. Also I wanted this as its own comment but posting is being weird. Edit: i don't think we should for teenagers either too but I'll save my battles for the main issue.
Load More Replies..."Getting excited about nesting things. Home projects. Yard work. Decorating for Holidays. New furniture. Also. When you start congratulating your friends when they get pregnant vs the feeling of panic."
On the bright side: finally having the time for art, crochet, needlework and all those things I dreamed of doing before retiring!
"Complain about prices."
I complained a lot more when the Recession happened just as I graduated high school. Which meant there were few jobs even in retail and gas prices were between $4-6 depending on where you lived. While I was in Phoenix the supermarkets did a thing where they'd round coupons either to the next dollar or next ten cents. I can't remember. It helped me get food on the table since I lived with an elderly grandma and buying groceries was my way of paying rent.
I actually complain less now that I am older. I have more of a since of everything that goes into it. Now if it is over priced I am complaining
I feel like this is universal for those folks who are 12 years old and older.
"When your former school mates are on Facebook celebrating the birth of their grandkids."
I saw a friend recently and was so shocked when they were like "this is my son"...a full grown teen in high school. I felt so old. Lol
Many of my age peers are married with children and/or grandchildren right now and I still remember being a toddler like it was yesterday!
SpatulaJamtown said:
"'Oh I like their cabinetry' while watching an exciting action movie."
Kyfigrigas replied:
"I showed my aunt Breaking Bad and she couldn't stop talking about how nice Walters house was."
lol I noticed this too and was 38 when I finally watched the show a couple years ago xD That house is freaking gorgeous! It was hard to pay attention to scenes inside the house because of it, although that's probably the ADHD rather than age 😂
"Dad jokes are getting funnier."
Oh hell yes. I find the Dr. Rick, Progressive commercials hilarious
Thirty_Helens_Agree said: "I went to a local brewery taproom for lunch. I started chatting with the 19ish year old bartender and mentioned that the first time I ever got a keg of beer it was from that brewery and mentioned the year. “Wow, I wasn’t even born yet!” he says." User No 2 replied: "For me it was meeting someone who said she was old, then I realised I have a CD that is older than her."
Same. Including the album with Macnutz on it. (A lot of people don't realize that Bruce Dickinson was not Iron Maiden's original lead singer.) 😁
Load More Replies...I used to manage a bar. The Budweiser delivery man was the kid I babysat for when I was in Jr. High school.
Botryoid2000 said: "It's weird how quickly it happens. I hear interviews with people from bands I have never heard of and the interviewer is like "You have 6 platinum albums..." Or on People Magazine covers, there are people I have never seen before. Am old, don't care." JohnExcrement replied: "I used to hold my dad in contempt for having no idea what music I liked, etc. My mom used to make an effort to keep up but he did not care. And all these years later I totally get it." Maus_Sveti also replied: "I heard Billie Eilish for the first time recently, and was like 'NOW I get why my parents always moaned about me playing Radiohead.'"
lol I get this, but I like to expand my music repertoire so I'm always listening to "new" bands and artists I haven't heard of before, even if they've been around for awhile.
-Words-Words-Words- said: "Every movie I've gone to (pre-pandemic and now) starts before 7 pm." not_an_Alien_Robot replied: "Sunday matinees, first show of the day, for me. It's cheaper where I live, not crowded at all, and as long as you avoid anything G-rated you're golden."
Far-Bug5843 said:
"Kids born in 2010 are turning 13 this year."
fahargo replied:
"Kids born in 2000 are basically done with school. Most will have graduated college."
Right. It's still odd to me that there are adults who have careers, are the head of their household, are married with kids.... that don't recall September 11th because they weren't born yet.
my roommate at the shared house I lived in a couple years ago (his mom was my landlady and he was in university) just turned 23. Really nice guy and we were friends, but it was kind of a weird vibe since I was in my late 30s at the time.
And none of them ever had to worry about the Millennium Bug (assuming they even knew what it was)
"Either hair falling or turning gray."
I had a friend that told her 80 year old mother she was depressed...she found a gray pube when she took a shower. Her mother told her just wait till your 80 and they all fall out.
I started graying in my early 20s and honestly wasn’t very much of a big deal to me because it’s genetic. 🫤 Gray hairs are signs of wisdom, so I’ll take it. 😀
-Words-Words-Words- said: "I saw this somewhere yesterday, you live your 30's just like your 20's until 'the injury'." Famous-Honey-9331 replied: "Or 'the diagnosis'." deltavictory also replied: "This is me. No injury, but life-changing (not life-ending) diagnosis - and the following ramifications - at 33 signaled the end of the good times, and forced me to come to terms with my mortality. Now my Friday/Saturday nights consist of couch, Cooper’s Hawk (home by 10), or DnD. Youth, and life, is precious ya’ll. Don’t waste it."
The old 'i used to be an adventurer like you, then i took an arrow to the knee' syndrome
Yep. As a lifelong type 1 diabetic I've always had to be careful, but was able to travel to lots of different countries, even where English isn't spoken. I figured things out even when my blood sugar was dangerously low. I still travel as much as possible and love it, and I'm a bit of an adrenaline junkie, but a lot more time traveling is spent lazing around the hotel room than it used to be. When I hit 40 in September I decided I'm done with hostels - too much stress and noise and bunk beds really suck when you're blind with a bad knee 😂
"You no longer call your knees left and right, but good and bad."
Longjumping_Sleep_12 said: "I had a painter over (19 years old) that kept referring to me as 'sir'." curtyshoo replied: "Yes, I've noticed that. You become a 'sir,' though you really don't feel like you possess the full power, authoritativeness and gravitas of one worthy of the name." strapping_young_vlad also replied: "I remember when I was like, 19, working at a video game store, this mom was there with her kid, probably 5 or 6 years old, she told her kid "now tell the man which game you want out of the case" or whatever it was. 'Man'? that threw me off. I'm 34 now with a kid and I still feel like a stupid teenager most days."
When I was out jogging I was approaching a young mother and her child (the kid must have been around 5 or 6) and the mother said to the kid "let the gentleman pass". I 100% honestly looked over my shoulder thinking some other bloke was behind me until I realised I was the "gentleman"
yeah, I use a blind cane and a father told his toddler son to "give the lady some room." Took a minute to realize he was talking about me. It's a mindtrip, in my head I'm around 12 years old, sense of humor included.
Load More Replies...In the South, they like to preface the first name with "Mister" when they know you, i.e., "Mr. David. I know it's a sign of respect but it still makes me feel old.
I'm an Aussie so it is still mostly customary for service workers to call me "mate", but I am dreading getting the "sir" treatment at some point
But cashiers and waiters still call me "miss"? No. I would rather be misgendered. Call me sir, say hey old man, ANYTHING but "miss". Do they genuinely think it's polite, or can they genuinely not tell how old I am? "Miss" is 12 year old girls. Miss is an unmarried kindergarten teacher. Miss is someone your own age if you're a teenager in the service industry or you're my teenage customer. Come on, guys! I have a ring on. I have wrinkles. I have adult children. I put the work in, I earned my "ma'am"! Call me hey you if you're not going to say ma'am. Just not miss
Right! But for me they usually call me ma'am but I am not a ma'am! I am a miss. Call me miss not ma'am.
Load More Replies...I get called ma'am all the time at work. I don't really mind being misgendered, but Ma'am!? That will be "Miss" or "Young Lady," thank you very much.
Cyberwolf_71 said:
"I used to use the pull-up bar to make my arms big. I now use the pull-up bar to decompress my spine."
t_ravyD replied:
"It’s also amazing for shoulder pain."
airfriedandbbqed said: "You hear all types of pops and clicks in your body." LastandLeast replied: "I just tell people I'm a crunchy human."
I've started to notice these too - hit 40 back in September and it's like my body decided it wants to be a percussion instrument with pretty much every movement. Gonna start telling people I'm just crunchy xD
ImWhatTheySayDeaf said: "The adults in your life start dying." Snooty_Goat replied: "Wait until you hit 40. They drop like flies. It's insane how quickly your life can depopulate." wisertime07 also replied: "I'm in my early 40's, I literally just attended the funeral of my best friend from my childhood this past Thursday. Died the day after his 42nd birthday from a coronary event. After going my first ~15 years or so without anyone I knew dying, my last 25 years has been a series of deaths and funerals. My dad, grandparents, family friends, a ton of kids from my HS. Before, it used to be extended people or older relatives - but here lately, it's people I know/knew well. And no longer car accidents, but terminal illnesses and things."
I still enjoy feel young and enjoy rewatching shows like Monty Python, The Goodies and Man About The House that I grew up on...then I realise two of the Pythons are dead, as is one of the Goodies, and Richard O'Sullivan is in a retirement home
Yeah, I've been very lucky so far that at 40 the deaths of classmates and friends have been very rare. I did lose my favorite aunt a few years ago and I'm still not over it, she was mid-50s but forever 30 in my head.
In my mid 30s I started worrying about the long term health and longevity of my parents; by 40 I had started making plans for their long term care because I see it on the horizon.
good of you to plan it in advance. It's a sad fact of life but unfortunately unavoidable at a certain point 😢
Load More Replies...same here, but she's the daughter of my great gran who was 104 when she passed - I was in my mid-thirties. I'm hoping that means a long life for my Nans, she's incredible.
Load More Replies..."You notice your favorite band is having a reunion tour and didn't realize they had broken up in the first place."
Hunangren said: "You often prefer a light dish to fried food because the latter is indeed tastier, but "it's not worth the trouble"." BriaCass replied: "Already going through this at 24. can’t have alcohol or anything spicy late at night or my stomach will not let me sleep." Lissy_Wolfe also replied: "I'm only in my late 20s, but I've realized dieting is getting a tiny bit easier for me because eating junk makes me so damn miserable it isn't worth the pain later lol."
At 63 I try and eat at 6 pm so I don't have to deal with reflux at night (even with an adjustable bed) and I find that processed stuff (even muffins from bakery section) tends to leave a bad taste in my mouth now after I am done. Heck of a way to go on a diet.
Back2Bach said:
"Your address book includes many names of people who are either dead or you haven't heard from in years.
Note: As I commented further down this thread, the address book referred to is my grandmother's from when she was alive: It's interesting to flip through the pages and see that most of the entries were crossed out by the time she died - meaning, all those people are dead too."
Schneetmacher replied:
"Also, you have an address book. Also, my comment comes across a bit like I'm making fun of OP, and that wasn't my intention. But I literally know of no one younger than my mother (in her 50s) who keeps a physical address book."
devraj7 said: "Haven't gone to a wedding in a very long time. Have gone to a few funerals, though." _spookyvision_ replied: "Unbelievably, I didn't go to a wedding as an adult until I was 27. Next one should be my sister in early 2023. I know people who are on a conveyor belt of random weddings and it just never seems to stop. Previous weddings had young me in attendance only because my parents had been invited and kids were allowed."
Aggravating-Bottle78 said: "When the checkout girl at the local drug mart gave me a discount and I asked why the discount and she said seniors discount. I was maybe 57 at the time. I didn't know whether to be outraged or happy about getting a few bucks off." User No 2 replied: "My husband got the senior's discount at Popeyes without asking and he's only 34 lmao."
I turned 60 on a Monday, Tuesday morning I was in the Co-op waving my membership card to get my diamond discount, 10%, not to be sneezed at
When I was working I would always ask a client if they were by chance over 60 (senior discount) even if they looked to be in their 80s or higher. Felt it was rude to just assume they were a senior. Make some of them happy too.
Seven years ago, when I was 48, I went to Del Taco for the 2 Classic Burritos for $5. The child at the counter only charged me $4.85. When I got to the car and looked at the receipt, I saw those two dreaded words: Senior Discount. I was only FORTY-EIGHT!! Maybe his last name was "Discount," and it was the cashier's name... Señor Discount?
User No 1 said: "I don't recognize popular music artists now." WhoCanTell replied: "I had an MRI recently. They asked what music I wanted on the headphones. I asked for an Alternative. I laid in that machine for almost an hour and recognized exactly one song, from Imagine Dragons, and that was only because I watched Arcane on Netflix."
Had an MRI a couple years ago and asked for metal…they played Judas Priest and Iron Maiden.
User No 1 said: "You don't understand the purpose of TikTok and take advantage of any opportunity to let others know that." koala-itykush replied: "This might be crazy, but I literally felt addicted to TikTok. My boyfriend and friends always complained I was on it too much, I was constantly posting on TikTok, until one day I decided to randomly delete it. Until then, I thought I wasn't on it too much, but after deleting it, made me realize how much easier I got bored, I didn't wanna do anything else but sit on TikTok. Eventually, I got over all those feelings, and I haven’t downloaded it again. The whole app was toxic."
The only tiktok I see are the videos imbedded in google news and I still don't understand why 5 to 10 seconds of a dog or cat activity is work watching when I don't think they are that funny or interesting. Especially Newsweek pumping up some video about a cute dog/cat tiktok.
I guess I "get" TikTok in the sense that I think some clips are really good, but the voice changing filters drive me absolutely nuts. Nah, I'll stick with documentaries and university courses on YouTube.
Oh I hate the voice changing filters they sound so stupid!
Load More Replies...I try to steer clear of tiktok but for some reason my phone keeps telling me I should download it. I barely like Facebook and tolerate Twitter. The only socials I enjoy are Pinterest and Instagram. One helps me collect ideas and store things I like. The other allows me to share my photography with others.
Okay, so, I'm going into this with the caveat that TikTok has some real security concerns and certainly CAN be toxic, BUT it has allowed me to see viewpoints I wouldn't otherwise have access to (especially from minorities) and explore a lot of special interests without having to break into a community or decide I definitely want to pursue that interest myself.
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toddlergangbang said:
"I found myself just wandering around the aisles of Lowes, not looking for anything in particular and had a moment of self-clarity: I’m old."
3-DMan replied:
"I'm lookin' for clearance sections, but I think I've always done that..."
ThorOfKenya2 also replied:
"99% of the time it's useless chaff but that one time you find a good deal, always going to check. Never know."
I do this at decor stores like Hobby Lobby. Not really going to buy but something might catch my eye.
"When I watched professional sports and all the players looked like CHILDREN! Baseball, football, tennis to etc."
😂😂 I felt depressed watching football this past season realizing I felt gross calling the young new quarterback hot. I'm old enough to be their mother at this point.
I'm a fan of Ironman races. The winners last year were young enough to be my kids. 😱
"Making healthy choices because the alternative is not worth the trouble. Eat birthday cake? No thanks, sugar makes me feel anxious and s***ty for days (it always did, but It took me 33 years to connect the dots). Wild molly bender? I dunno if I feel like 3 hours of bliss followed by a week of depression and low energy."
I've been doing this for several years but i think it's just transfered feelings from my mom. At least that's what I hope it is. Or I'm just an old person stuck in teenager form.
Load More Replies...Oh actually here's one which I honestly don't know if it's just me or what. I'm 43 and my wife is 39 (just for context). My wife will cook tinned (canned) food in the microwave such as soups and what not whereas I will ALWAYS cook the same food in a pot on the stove. Is that just me because she's always said it is?
My twins just turned the age I was when I had them. Had my first major surgery. People who are 30 look like kids to me. Go to bed way too early.
We recently realized we are the age our parent were when we were mid puberty- but we are not THAT old!
Load More Replies...I realized it when I took my readers off to watch TV but then couldn't see my hangnail to clip it... Couldn't even see it with my glasses.
I've been doing this for several years but i think it's just transfered feelings from my mom. At least that's what I hope it is. Or I'm just an old person stuck in teenager form.
Load More Replies...Oh actually here's one which I honestly don't know if it's just me or what. I'm 43 and my wife is 39 (just for context). My wife will cook tinned (canned) food in the microwave such as soups and what not whereas I will ALWAYS cook the same food in a pot on the stove. Is that just me because she's always said it is?
My twins just turned the age I was when I had them. Had my first major surgery. People who are 30 look like kids to me. Go to bed way too early.
We recently realized we are the age our parent were when we were mid puberty- but we are not THAT old!
Load More Replies...I realized it when I took my readers off to watch TV but then couldn't see my hangnail to clip it... Couldn't even see it with my glasses.
