Woman Can’t Take Care Of Sis Who Is Jobless, Useless With Chores And Eats Everything, Loses It

If you have the means to help someone in need, you should always do it, right? Well, some might argue against such a statement. For example, the original poster of today’s main story.

She helped out her sister by giving her a roof over her head after she got out of a serious relationship. Soon, she regretted this decision, as the sister turned out to be an overly messy and extremely inconsiderate person.

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Should you continue helping someone who disrupts your peace at home?

Woman Can't Take Care Of Sis Who Is Jobless, Useless With Chores And Eats Everything, Loses It

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A woman sheltered her sister after she got out of a serious relationship and didn’t have a place to live

Woman Can't Take Care Of Sis Who Is Jobless, Useless With Chores And Eats Everything, Loses It

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Woman Can't Take Care Of Sis Who Is Jobless, Useless With Chores And Eats Everything, Loses It

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Woman Can't Take Care Of Sis Who Is Jobless, Useless With Chores And Eats Everything, Loses It

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Pretty quickly, she started regretting this decision because her sister kept trashing the whole place and eating her food without paying the rent

The OP worked very hard to earn the lifestyle she currently has. But her sister, who was dubbed Grace, didn’t. As the author pointed out in the comments, at the time of writing, Grace wasn’t working, nor was she seriously looking for a job. Instead, she was freeloading at the original poster’s home.

She ended up living there when she got out of one of many of her serious relationships. Quite often, people who go from one relationship to another are driven by the fear of being single.

There’s a deep-rooted idea that not being in a relationship is a sign of being incomplete. It possibly comes from society’s “single-shaming.” It’s when people assume that those without a partner are sad, lonely, desperate, or simply have something wrong with them. When in reality, single folks can be just as happy as those who are in relationships.

Well, we don’t know the reason why the OP’s sister jumps from relationship to relationship — we only know that she does that. What we also know about her is that growing up, she basically had everything served on a silver platter. She and her two brothers could do no wrong, while the author had to work hard for everything. Well, in the end, she was the one who ended up having everything she wanted, while the rest of the siblings had to rely on family handouts.

So, as we already said, when one of Grace’s relationships ended, her sister was kind enough to let her stay with her. But very soon after, she started regretting this decision. It turns out that Grace is an unpleasant guest, to say it lightly.

For example, she made such a bad mess in the home that cockroaches appeared. Not to mention, she didn’t even pay the rent for the home she infested!

Another thing that bugged the OP is food-related. The sister didn’t help with cooking at all. One time, the woman prepped the soup and asked her simply to stir it, and she couldn’t even do that.

Woman Can't Take Care Of Sis Who Is Jobless, Useless With Chores And Eats Everything, Loses It

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To make matters even worse, she also ate up nearly all the food the woman stocked up on. The thing is that the original poster is diabetic, and all her food has to be chosen very carefully.

This food management includes things like limiting the consumption of high-carb, sugary, fried foods, starchy vegetables, and alcohol, to mention a few. And so, it’s no surprise that the diabetic woman liked to stock up on the foods she could eat.

But when her sister moved in, these stocked-up foods started to go very fast. A soda stash used to last her two weeks, but after the move-in, it would be gone in two days. And if that wasn’t enough, the sister tried to blame it all on her 7-year-old child, but the OP didn’t believe her.

One day, all the frustration built up so much that the author started considering the eviction of her sibling. After a 12-hour shift, the woman wanted to make herself a turkey sandwich with her special bread. Less than a week before, she purchased a huge family pack of meat, so she was sure it was going to be in the fridge. But it wasn’t. The sister ate it all.

Most of the people in the comments sympathized with the situation. They felt sorry that the woman couldn’t have peace in her home. Others were annoyed by Grace’s freeloading. Overall, the majority’s opinion was that the OP wasn’t a jerk for considering eviction in this case.

Since the original story was posted some time ago and there has been no update since then, we can only wonder what ended up happening. Did the sisters find a common ground, or was Grace forced to move out? Well, no matter what happened, we can only hope that, in the long run, it was the right decision for everyone.

One day, after noticing that the sister ate a whole family pack of turkey in two days, the woman started considering eviction, which seemed like a proper reaction to many people online

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How should the original poster handle the situation with Grace's freeloading?

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PeakyBlinder 4 months ago

I dont understand why OP puts up with this? Get rid of her now - your parents can take her in - or not...anyway its not your problem...

22points

Bored something 4 months ago

Although it's obviously not a romantic relationship it is still an abusive relationship. It is damn hard to end an abusive relationship, especially when you have your parents telling you to do the 'right thing' by your sister. She's taking the first step by becoming aware that it's not right. Hopefully by seeing so many people telling her she's right to be annoyed and she doesn't have to put up with it she will be able to make a change.

16points

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Sand Ers 4 months ago

A lifetime of conditioning will do that to a person. It takes hard work and conscious awareness to break away from automatically obeying those implicit orders, and set boundaries. They’ve been doing this to her all her life. It feels normal to her.

11points

Orysha 4 months ago

She has been emotionnaly abused by her parents all her life (and her siblings too it seems) it's not easy to change this state of mind. It always infuraites me when people tell you to deal with someone while they won't do it themselves.

4points

Sunny Day 4 months ago

Dang, OP. You want to live in peace and enjoy your own home? How DARE you? What makes you so special that you think you deserve "the very same thing everyone else deserves"? Kick sis to the curb. She has the Golden Ticket (grandchild), so they won't be living on the street. Your parents will take them in. If anyone tries to guilt you into letting them stay, the phrase "Not my circus, not my monkeys" is very useful.

9points

DarkViolet 4 months ago

OP, you are a doormat. Your family have been wiping their muddy feet on you literally from day one. The only one who can put a stop to it is YOU. YOU have to 86 this tradition, and no one else. Otherwise, you could find yourself broke, homeless, and emotionally destroyed. Depending on how long your deadbeat sister has been living with you, the laws in your area may require you to serve your sister with a formal eviction notice. Go for the least amount of time allowed by law for her to move out. 30+ days is more than enough time for her to wreck your home beyond repair. Prepare for a fight with her and your parents (aka, flying monkeys). Gather some trusted friends and notify the sheriff's department to insure that your sister moves out on the designated day. As soon as she's out, change the locks, install security cameras, and go extremely LC with your fa-a-a-a-mily. They are toxic AF.

5points