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Woman Gets Called Out For Attempting To Outshine The Bride At Her Ex’s Wedding, Takes It Online To Complain But Finds No Support
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Woman Gets Called Out For Attempting To Outshine The Bride At Her Ex’s Wedding, Takes It Online To Complain But Finds No Support

Woman Gets Called Out For Attempting To Outshine The Bride At Her Ex’s Wedding, Takes It Online To Complain But Finds No SupportWoman Gets Told Off For Trying To Upstage The Bride At Her Former Husband’s Wedding, Takes It Online To Vent About It, Yet Has No SupportWoman Can’t Get Why Bride Was Livid When She Arrived In A Flashy Red Wedding Dress To Her Former Spouse’s Wedding CeremonyWoman Can't Understand Why Bride Was Upset When She Showed Up In Showy Red Wedding Dress To Her Ex's Wedding CeremonyWoman Gets Called Out For Attempting To Outshine The Bride At Her Ex’s Wedding, Takes It Online To Complain But Finds No SupportWoman Gets Called Out For Attempting To Outshine The Bride At Her Ex’s Wedding, Takes It Online To Complain But Finds No SupportWoman Gets Called Out For Attempting To Outshine The Bride At Her Ex’s Wedding, Takes It Online To Complain But Finds No Support
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It so happens that family life often ends in divorce. In the end, none of us are perfect, and it is better to go our separate ways, while maintaining friendly, or at least just normal relations. And then one of the former spouses marries again – and everything goes awry…

A wedding is a celebration for two, and even if, for instance, the groom’s ex-wife is on excellent terms with both, her appearance at the ceremony may cause unpleasant feelings in one of the newlyweds. Especially if the guest is dressed in a chic dress, as it happened with the user u/closureseekingex.

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    The author of the post got divorced yet managed to have friendly relations with her ex-husband

    Image credits: MonMer2 (not the actual photo)

    The woman and her ex are co-parenting their three kids together with no significant issues

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    The woman decided to RSVP Yes to her ex’s new wedding invitation – and showed up in a flashy red dress

    So, the Original Poster (OP) says that she and her ex-husband divorced amicably, and now they are co-raising their three children without any problems. And recently, the ex-husband of the author of the post was going to remarry. The OP admits that she likes Stephanie, her ex’s future wife, especially since she treats the children well and makes their father happy.

    When it came to the wedding, the groom sent the OP a personal invitation, but Stephanie probably expected her to politely decline on some plausible excuse. But the author of the post thought: “And why not, damn it?” In general, the woman put on her most luxurious red dress, took the kids, and went to the wedding. Moreover, when Stephanie asked if she planned to stay at the ceremony, the OP said yes, noting that she was invited by the groom.

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    Thanks to her flashy outfit, the original poster attracted everyone’s attention, and in fact, almost all the guests knew very well who she was to the groom. The bride, in turn, was restless and anxious, and finally in private accused the OP of trying to ruin her special day. A real scandal erupted, and only the groom and his mother were able to calm Stephanie at least a bit.

    As for the original poster, she sincerely refused to understand why her spectacular appearance upset the bride so much. She told the newlyweds that she was not to blame for Stephanie’s insecurities, and that she was not going to steal her ex back at all. As you probably guessed, the wedding was completely ruined…

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    There are well-known cases where ex-spouses part on very good terms and calmly attend each other’s new weddings. Perhaps the perfect example here are Demi Moore and Bruce Willis, who, like the original poster, had three children at the time of their divorce. Willis was present at the wedding of his ex-wife with Ashton Kutcher (there were even rumors that he would walk the bride down the aisle), and many years later, Moore came to Bruce’s wedding with Emma Heming. But this Hollywood story is perhaps the exception rather than the rule.

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    “You might have some difficult emotions to work through – especially if your split is recent,” Colorado-based wedding counselor Jan Scott-Frazier tells Insider in a recent interview. “Whatever may still be unresolved, the past is the past and this is right now this minute. Perhaps thinking of the wedding itself as neutral ground would be good.” Apparently, the original poster didn’t exactly heed this sound advice…

    Especially when you consider what kind of dress she wore. This is definitely a wedding dress – even if it is red. This was noticed by many people in the comments who criticized the original poster heavily. “That dress is too much for a guest at a wedding,” commenters wrote. “I don’t care if it’s red, that is wildly inappropriate,” people do suppose. And by the way, what do you think about this story and whether the original poster’s behavior was appropriate?

    People in the comments slammed the woman for literally ruining the wedding out of the blue – especially after she revealed what kind of dress it was

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    Oleg Tarasenko

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    Nikki Sevven
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    1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I was all set to say NTA until I followed the link to the dress. The description literally says "red wedding dress." She wore a wedding dress to her ex-husband's wedding.

    Shark Lady
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    1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    The dress was not really appropriate for a guest to wear, it was advertised as a wedding dress and would also work as a bridesmaid or maid of honour dress but definitely not for a guest who was also the ex of the groom. It definitely seemed like OP was stating her claim to the groom and reminding the bride that she was wife number 2.

    fadedandjaded
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    1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    yeah! who wears something like this to a wedding as a normal guest?? just because it's red doesn't mean it's not a wedding dress... 41VNd8HfUL._AC_.jpg 41VNd8HfUL._AC_.jpg

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    TheElderNom
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    1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    There is also this thing about wearing red at a wedding. Supposedly it means you've slept with the groom. Stupid, but I'd still avoid it if I'd dated the groom, unless I'm the bride I guess.

    Jig Jive
    Community Member
    1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    This was my thought too. I was always told never to wear red to a wedding because if this. Add in that it was a wedding dress in red? This was 100% about ruining the bride’s day.

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    Nikki Sevven
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    1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I was all set to say NTA until I followed the link to the dress. The description literally says "red wedding dress." She wore a wedding dress to her ex-husband's wedding.

    Shark Lady
    Community Member
    1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    The dress was not really appropriate for a guest to wear, it was advertised as a wedding dress and would also work as a bridesmaid or maid of honour dress but definitely not for a guest who was also the ex of the groom. It definitely seemed like OP was stating her claim to the groom and reminding the bride that she was wife number 2.

    fadedandjaded
    Community Member
    1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    yeah! who wears something like this to a wedding as a normal guest?? just because it's red doesn't mean it's not a wedding dress... 41VNd8HfUL._AC_.jpg 41VNd8HfUL._AC_.jpg

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    TheElderNom
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    1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    There is also this thing about wearing red at a wedding. Supposedly it means you've slept with the groom. Stupid, but I'd still avoid it if I'd dated the groom, unless I'm the bride I guess.

    Jig Jive
    Community Member
    1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    This was my thought too. I was always told never to wear red to a wedding because if this. Add in that it was a wedding dress in red? This was 100% about ruining the bride’s day.

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