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I (47F) am wondering if I should leave my husband (47) so that he can be with someone better. I don’t believe he is physically attracted to me anymore, as he has been searching for nudes on the internet. I have also noticed him looking at other women and flirting when we are out in public. I don’t blame him for looking, as I am not attractive (short, overweight, small breasts).

If he wants to be with someone better and would be happier, then I would leave. I want him to be happy

Image credits: Priscilla Du Preez (not the actual photo)

So, should I leave and not tell him that I know I’m not good enough for him? Should I leave and tell him that I know I don’t make him happy?

Knowing I don’t please him and that he would rather be with someone else, I’m not sure I would be able to enjoy intimacy

Image credits: M. (not the actual photo)

Should I stay and tell him that I know I don’t make him happy? Should I stay but not say anything? Especially since I know that he’s internet exploring just before we are together.

I have really low self-esteem, and knowing all this makes me feel even worse about myself

Image credits: Hannah Xu (not the actual photo)

Additional info: married for 23 years, 2 older teenagers. I don’t think he has cheated on me. I won’t do an open marriage.

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