You saying “maybe I did make it easy”, breaks my heart and is all down to the victim blaming society puts on us. The ONLY person to blame is the perpetrator. For years I kept blaming myself for always going to my neighbours house even when it was going on. It has taken YEARS of therapy and help from my hubby to understand things better. I was a child, and he took advantage. I hope you can heal from this and congratulations on your little boy. All the best to you and your future.

Repeat after me: it is not my fault. Hugs. You will be a great mom.

Im overwhelmed by the support guys. Im in a dentist chair waiting for fillings crying silly. Thank you again for the response, it makes a difference.

Oh my gosh I am so sorry. I think my dad was a jerk but your father RAPED YOU!? It’s really sickening. I understand how it sort of feels though. Never feel that it is your fault ITS NOT. Always know that for every person in the world that is like that, there are a thousand more bound to care and love you And support you. My story isn’t near Y to the same degree as yours but maybe this will make you feel better? I’m not sure: I found out that I’m 7th grade one of my TEACHERS was taking pictures of me in class (of no one else) and posting it on his instagram with really gross captions. When I told the school... well after that he just started harassing me outside of school. Uggh. Society is great right?

So sorry that happened to you, Kayla Bear. I hope you are now surrounded by others who respect you and treat you like the valuable person you are. All the very best to you and your little boy <3

Man, that's a sad read, I know you probably know this on a logical level but it's worth stating again it was in no way your fault what was done to you. You were a child, it's the job of parents to protect their children not to look for an opportunity to take advantage. It's common for children to blame themselves as they try to rationalize in their head abuse that they receive for parents, most often unaware due to lack of life experience that they are even being abused(as in it's not normal behavior for a parent to do what they're doing to you). Wish you the best.

I'm so sorry you want through that. As a social worker I see such f***ed up family dynamics and that lasting damage it does. I've also spent time with women in domestic violence (nothing "domestic" about it) and seen how women and children have so much resilience when their communities close around them and protect them, it's wonderful to see them change from frightened broken people to independent survivors. Thank you for sharing

Not your fault at all, hope you opening to this comunity gives you the feedback u deserve. Many hugs and be proud of yourself, gonna be a great mom.

I'm sorry you had to go through that (especially with your father of all people). He took a child's trust (his own child at that) and DESTROYED it don't blame yourself. If anything you should praise yourself for getting your sister out of there and protecting her from that environment,and for SAYING something I know plenty of people (friends of mine who when they were kids and including myself) who went through things like this. Thank You for making more parents aware that this isn't a story their kids are making up or a "misunderstanding" this is REAL! People can be sick AND deprived (even our own family) and will take advantage. So thank you for not letting him take advantage of your sister! You fought for her and I know she thanks you for that EVERYDAY! Some kids aren't lucky enough to have a sibling to protect them or someone who ACTUALLY understands. So dont beat yourself up over what you didnt cause

It was not your fault. And thank you all the kind people I am crying reading this. Coming to almost believe it was not my fault either. Even tho' my mum said i was lying.

I'm so sorry this happened to you. You did NOTHING WRONG. It was up to him to not abuse you, not for you to prevent him from doing it. I mean, not raping your own children is a pretty low bar for parental behaviour, right?

It's not your fault. None of it is your fault, not even a little bit.

I am so sorry that this happened to you. You have nothing to feel guilty for.

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Sounds like your mom is a piece of s**t too. Drop 'em both. I don't get why people feel the need to associate with people just because they're related. Drop them and make sure their insanity doesn't affect the next generation. Best of luck.

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My dear do not treat this as some sort of behavioral problem that must be trained with a boy.. 99 percent of men do not rape, don't abuse women..and certainly dont sexually assault them. Those men that act this way have mental problems...

Nope, it's not about your looks. It's about their rage and need to punish and control. Doesn't matter if the offender is male/female or the victim is male/female. One wants to take power and get their jollies by hurting the other. And this is why I hate being a human instead of, say, a tree...

Yeah it really doesn’t matter if you’re plain, hideous, gorgeous or a supermodel. If you look young, physically small or weak, if you look alone, or innocent in any way, or if you just exist and present yourself as a woman, this can and will happen to you.

I have had men come onto me when I am fat , bald, over 50 years old. ( no not cancer ). Really ugly clothes. Pretty sure they figured I'd be "grateful" and then submissive. That was the vibe anyway. Does it ever stop???? please tell me yes.