The one YTA reply: "Sounds like you started treating them like landlords..." Um actually, the Parents are the ones who wanted to be treated like landlords. OP was maliciously complying.

Also the parents didn't seem to offer any help with the wedding costs either, here was their opportunity to make amends and all they did was make demands. As for one of the comments above saying oh the parents level it out when they pass, oh no they don't they usually make it worse favoring one child over the other.

OP threw them an olive branch but they wanted the whole tree; perfectly stated.

Yeah!! The YTAs were shocking. It's not the non western or non US upbrinding. It's the fact OP was the one to always try after the being basically kicked out, his parents never were. I'm glad he got some financial help but the emotional matters a great deal at that age. Plus, he was being civil. His parents demanded more and also demanded he get over something they never actually apologised or showed remorse too. Just admitted they did wrong but "its not a big deal, get over it." Which is not an apology nor how someone who made a mistake and wishes to genuinely make amends behaves.

There's also the vibe that they want him to pay for his own wedding, but give them a say like they are contributing in any way

"Parents demand child grow up, move out and become independent, and are shocked and hurt when their child obeys"

Yep. Wonder if OP was the unwanted “whoopsie” that forced the parents to get married, so was resented for being conceived and born, in comparison to younger siblings who may have been planned and wanted. Or either a step child or child adopted when the parents thought they couldn’t have their “own” kids, only to find out later they could.

"after they've chosen to not be involved all those years in between" We don't really know this. The story doesn't reveal if the parents tried to be part of his life or not. For all we know, they could have really tried to be there for him emotionally, only to have him always push them away until they gave up.

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The story above started where OP wanted to start it and contains only the information OP wanted people to know. What about the whole story?

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"But his entitled parents demanded that he treated them to more." They ask why they were not involved. Nobody talk about demands. A lot of people tend to exagerrate and put word in others mouth. I think they should talk more, because they obviously never did in the 16 years prior. They could both understand how the other really feel, instead of creating their own story in their mind about how others think about this situation.

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When did the parents “demand “ anything? They asked why they weren’t involved and OP goes off on a self entitled, immature rant. Remember, even his fiancée thought he was wrong. Smh

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OP was not civil. Id be willing to bet, this is constant behavior from OP. (Crying because his older sibling got something he didn’t) This man child is also a grown a*s 30+ year old, resentful, adult. Perfectly capable of financing his own endeavors, yet still bitching someone didn’t give him a hand out over 16 years ago …🙄 We obviously don’t know all the details, but maybe they’re a middle class family where the first two kids get necessities bought and handed down to the third. No it’s not exactly fair, but gratitude for what you do have goes a long way. Maybe the other kids needed more help than he did. Maybe the parents saw that. Maybe the parents did good raising a self sufficient person. He’s textbook acting like an immature child throwing a tantrum because he didn’t get a toy his siblings did. Then going on to write a blog about how unfair it was you he get that toy. 🤡

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Obviously no here has heard of “tough love”. This kid’s siblings are going to be in for quite a shock when they get into the “real world”. You know… when their parents are dead and can’t help them. They are not going to know what to do with themselves.

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You miss read some of that article he’s the youngest of the 3 so it’s possible the parents realized their mistake with the other two and were trying to rectify it with him. They still paid for his schooling which he seems ungrateful for. Presenting them with a bill the way he did was petty as f**k and he shouldn’t have even invited them because he’s still obviously holding a grudge

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What people ignore is OP’s entitlement. You probably also suffer from entitlement ignorance. Take deep breaths, it’s not your fault. Blame whatever you need to, as long as you eventually get to a place of self actualization it’s all good.

While it is true that nobody is obligated to forgive, holding on to a grudge is incredibly destructive for the person holding the grudge. I would hope that people who cannot forgive out of love or care for the other person can do it out of love and care for themselves.

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No one is obligated to pay for your education either.