I simply cannot understand that there are so many NTA's in there. Sure it was his house, so he can technically do with it what he wants, but how can people be so neglegent about the fact that she probably has a lot of feelings invested in that place too? As her partner, the least he can do is to investigate her opinion on the project before finalising it. That house was a home, not just a stockoption, and selling it will inevitably have some sort of effect on her life. When you are married, actions you consider taking that can cause major lifechanges for either of you ought to be descussed so you can make an informed choice where all relevant considerations has been taken into account.

YTA. Seriously, you sold the house without even consulting your wife? This is a residence, not a business suit. Smart move leaving the spouse out of the arrangement. Just remember: what goes around, comes around. Don't be surprised if she makes a decision about her personal assets or having children, without discussing it with you.

Wow... What kind of person needs to ask if they are the AH after selling their home without even informing their partner...

‘My asset’ etc what kind of marriage is it when you are so precious about owning things so much so you won’t even tell your wife you’re selling house you both currently still live in… it’s not the case of ownership it’s the case of partnership clearly you don’t care that much about her and her feelings. But hey at least you’ve got your ‘assets’

YTA. No matter if it is your right or not, you should have told her. It's not illegal to hog the blankets either, but it's not nice.

A simple hey hun, I’m going to put this house on the market, what do you think? Would be baseline for communication in a marriage.

I like how in the first part he talks about how he didn't see the need to discuss the sale with his wife, and didn't even mention the possibility of selling until after the escrow closed, then in the update tried to claim he "thought she agreed to sell, as we both agreed the house was too big..." Sure, Jan.

YTA doesnt begin to touch it. Absolutely nothing in any of his post made him sound remotely tolerable. What a sh*t excuse for a person. Money wont make you a good person but it sure brings out the worst in most.

Marriage is meant to be a partnership with two people sharing their life together. The fact that he sees it as 'his' house and not both of theirs means he's TA.

Sure it is OP's property, but it was also home to both of them. I would say that their relationship isn't one of love and trust but rather in name only.

Honestly, this just seems like one more illustration of how rich people literally think of no one but themselves. He was an a*****e long before he sold the house.

I'm surprised she never asked about selling the house. The topic NEVER came up as you were purchasing your new house. This just seems so unbelievable to me that there were zero discussions about not selling the old house. Either she explicitly told him NOT to sell it or he is a VERY crafty liar/avoider and continually told her "not to worry about it" or "we will figure that out later let's take care of this first" every time she asked about it

YTA! No question in my mind. You disrespected your wife who is now probably wondering what else you are doing/have done that affects her without her knowledge . It's not about whose asset it is. You both live in the house as your primary residence. It's about respect, transparency, empathy and communication. If you cared half as much about your wife's lived experience and trust in your relationship as you do about keeping track of your "assets," perhaps she wouldn't be upset.

Damn straight you're the a*****e!

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The epitome of First World Problems.

Just the headline. Amazing. Absolutely amazing questions as well

It really reads like the relationship is transactional, so why wouldn’t he forgo communication and inclusion? I don’t understand how either could be genuinely happy living such a contractual existence. Sounds like it sucks for both of them. Still, communication or the lack of it is what’s at play here and I’m not convinced the wife isn’t culpable in this. My husband and I encourage and reinforce our communication skills no matter how adept at it we think we are. To think for a second we wouldn’t need to communicate because of legal technicalities is and should always be absolutely foreign. That he didn’t communicate & include her suggests neither is central or key in the relationship and that’s the responsibility of both. Still, he’s def TA.

*yawn* Wealthy people problems. No one cares.

Seems like ESH. She was aware they were moving to a new house, if the old house was important to her she had plenty of opportunity to say so and she didn't. That's failure to communicate on her part. OP also obviously failed to communicate his plans properly. This is on both of them to talk to each other.

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Rich people problems. I can't identify and I don't care