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30 Warning Signs That Indicate Someone Is A Terrible Person, As Shared By Folks Online
How to recognize a bad person? No, not a caricatured villain from comics, but simply a person who at first glance looks completely harmless, but if you look closely, various aspects begin to appear, thickening the shadows on a previously light and, perhaps, shining image.
In fact, the ability to recognize not-that-nice people is very useful in life for almost any of us, so this selection of 'red flags', carefully compiled and based on a recent poll in the AskReddit community, might be really wholesome. At least, if you don't see yourself in all these various clues...
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People who treat servers, Uber drivers, convenience store clerks ect disrespectfully.
Character is how you treat the people that you’ll never see again.
Making your children upset in order to record it and post it for internet points.
I think there needs to be a punishment where people who do things like this get like a house arrest anklet. Instead of geo tracking should have something that scramble and disallows the internet around the person.
In fact, of course, the negative traits listed in this selection can be found in almost any of us. After all, there are no perfectly good and sinless people and we have all done some bad deeds at some point. And here, probably, the main difference between a really bad person and a good one comes into play.
A good person, having done something icky, realizes it, gets upset - and tries to learn a life lesson from this experience, not to do it again. The bad one probably won't refrain from repeating it - even if it obviously hurts and troubles others.
In my opinion cheating on your significant other its one of the highest levels of betrayal a person can do to another.
And there are no excuses that are acceptable. Don't care if you were drunk, on a business trip, it was one time, you regret it, they came on to you, blah, blah.
Believing mental disorders don't exist.
Or believing it is something to be judged and found wanting for. Had a work friend turn to me because her son was suicidal because she knew I suffered from depression. While talking it came up that he had been prescribed the same anti depressants I was on. Many hours of comforting and sharing later she asked me to be sure to never let anyone know he was on prescription drugs at work because she didn't want anyone thinking her son had a mental problem......let that sink in.
By the way, the ideas expressed in this selection also clearly show the evolution of the image of a villain in popular culture - the most dangerous are not loud-voiced scoundrels and poseurs like Thanos or Lord Voldemort, but, on the contrary, sometimes charming and quite charismatic personalities, inside which, however, pitch darkness reigns. Think, for example, Hannibal Lecter, Kaiser Soze or Nurse Ratched. The latter generally inspires more horror just because she's absolutely sure that she is right, and even revels in her own power within certain limits. And that makes her even more dangerous and disgusting.
Not having empathy, common courtesy, or respect for people in worse situations than yourself. For example treating homeless people poorly and “lesser” than you, or treating people in low paying service jobs poorly because you feel that they’re beneath you somehow.
Hotelier, here. Our resort has garden (golf course) rooms starting at $1200/night w/resort fees, taxes, etc. Our ocean views start at $1700 and oceanfront at $2300. Those are rackrate, off-season. You can guess which guests have issues with everything from their room to facilities to staff to the food to activities. They often treat staff as “less than” It’s not the wealthy folks peering out at the sun setting over the sea. It’s the mildly successful, upper middle class who think they’re better than others and have snobby attitudes and outrageous demands.
Minimizing other peoples experiences or pain because it doesn't match with your experiences
This behaviour is a good warning sign though. It shows that you’re dealing with someone who’s whole self-worth is determined by how they match against other people. Run away!
"Unfortunately, most [toxic people] don't come with warning labels the way toxic chemicals do. Many of them seem very likable at first. After all, most toxic people are good manipulators, so getting you to like them is part of their toolkit", Minda Zetlin, a contributor for Inc, writes in her column. "While there's no foolproof method to tell right away if a new friend or colleague will be a drag on your energy, mood, or productivity, there are some early warning signs many toxic people display." So most importantly - always take information critically because what you can perceive as a red flag can always turn out to be an instant clouding of a true good person. Just give people a chance...
Parking in the handicapped spot and not being handicapped or have a sticker/placard. Or parking in a spot crooked where the next car can’t park.
Refusing to wear headphones
It really makes me want to unplug my headphones and let my metal fuse with the monotone, mumble rap that the offenders are usually playing just to show them how terribly annoying it is.
Treating people who are just doing their jobs as automatically inferior.
If they don't do their job, you can't do yours. I'm talking to you, mom, about janitors.
Be that as it may, the list that is presented here looks quite complete, and is able to cure almost any person from excessive naivety. So now please feel free to scroll it to the very end, and if you have your own marker for identifying terrible persons, then write it down in the comments section. Perhaps your experience will also be wholesome to someone. After all, helping others is just the hallmark of good people, isn't it?
People who cut you off after 2 - 5 seconds every time you try to say something!
if you're a boss, and you know for certain your place is about to close up, and you don't tell your crew so they can start looking for a new paycheck? absolute f*****g scum.
People who enjoy other people hurting.
This seems to have been accelerated by social media. Like there were always Carnts beforehand but nowhere, anywhere in the numbers like today.
Not accepting mistakes as mistakes. Just say I f****d up.
When someone complains about everyone else behind their backs
You should get this person together with the one who is "just being honest".
When someone literally tells you they are a good person, run for the hill.
I try to lower the bar and tell everyone how awful I am. Then they're pleasantly surprised with my mediocrity.
"Don't hate the player, hate the game."
Yeah, I hate both.
Someone who has spent thousands of dollars on tattoos while their children are dressed in clothes that are falling apart or who look exhausted and hungry.
Those same people begging outside the shops for f*g money. Edit for the BP censors: f.a.g is a colloquialism for cigarette in English English
They don’t put the goddamn cart back at the grocery store
I will take abandoned carts and put them away in addition to mine. It's because I'm a really good person. And I'm honest.
Making a huge screaming scene in a restaurant .
Or anywhere in public. Unless, you know, it's to do with a medical emergency and there is reason.
Not saying it's awesome when a kid shows you a drawing they made
I need a bigger fridge for all my grandkids' artwork and it's all absolutely freaking awesome, especially the dragon.
Load More Replies...At least guess what the picture is! You might get it right,once in a while.
Actually, on my occasion kids just wanna have conversations with me I will just tell the truth (not in a straight way )like “it needs some improvement “then smile and knock on their heads with fingers they don't seem to mind at all and smile back at me If a drawing is truly a masterpiece I might say something like “I need to call the art school to hire you as a professor asap”
Pro Mom tip: If you can't tell what it is, compliment something objective (I love the colors, that is so creative) and ask them to tell you about it, rather than asking "What is it?"
If you don't want to say it's awesome bc you don't mean it, then just ask the child to tell you about it. Not all artwork is awesome, but every kid deserves some interest in it.
I'm guilty of this. Find it really hard to lie to kids, also when i do manage, i still feel like they can tell I'm not being sincere. Makes me feel guilty... am i crazy? i don't think that makes me a bad person, just slightly socially inept.
By Interesting I mean humorous I m not good at English _:(´ཀ`」 ∠):
Load More Replies...I have a picture my niece drew for me when she was about 2. It’s literally just squiggles on a sheet of paper but she was so proud of herself for making it for me. She’s nearly 7 now and I still have the squiggle picture 🙂
People that care more about being right than anything else. People that lie to seem better than other people.
bullying others. whether you see it as a joke or not, you’re still annoying someone else and thats wrong so get the f**k away from my table and stay atleast 6 ft away from me, simon.
Alphabroism- just made that up but You know it when you see it
Taking advantage of others or mistreating others when they can get away with it.
Things like letting their roommates do all their dishes and pay all the bills. Getting their partner to do the majority of housework and slinking out of helping. Acting like they care about something only when someone is witnessing them. Being kind only when others are watching. Being cruel when others are not watching. "Forgetting" things that don't fit their narrative about who they are.
It is so manipulative to cultivate a persona that is totally false and to act the opposite when it is advantageous. So many people use this strategy to get away with terrible behaviour and once you see their true colours it immediately screams they are terrible at their core.
“The best index to a person's character is how he treats people who can't do him any good, and how he treats people who can't fight back.” ― Abigail Van Buren
"I'm just really honest"
People who wear their religion on the sleeve/shove it down other people’s throats. Live and let live ffs!
People who swerve around a stopped car at a crosswalk to speed through without watching for pedestrians. People who don't stop for pedestrians at crosswalks.
And people who choose to go to the heat of the empty lane to get ahead of many others, instead of waiting their turn to merge.
Load More Replies...People who attack first aiders and firemen. People who try to find reasons why other people should not earn a living wage for a full time job even though their work makes billions for the companies. People who look down upon people who experience hardships and claim they must have done something to deserve it and claim that bad things only happen to bad people. People who enable other horrible people and force their victims to cave to the demands of narcissists and abusers to 'keep the peace'.
Conspicuously absent from this post is BAD DRIVERS ! How someone drives says a lot about a person, don't you think ? Sociologists tell us that many people who lead exemplary lives can change into raving maniacs behind the wheel. If you want to know about a person, ask to check their dashcam video.
making comments and jokes a default but really they arent ok. ex: "this makes me wanna kill myself/ kill yourself." "you are so gay man" "the weather is so bipolar today" and so many others, coming from a queer person with mental health issues, i just cant deal with them.
i sometimes say that the weather is "typical texas weather" which is the most confusing type of weather. instead of saying bipolar weather, we should say typical texas weather
Load More Replies...Gaslighters. Dated one. Hated every moment. Always walking on eggshells, never sure if I was imagining stuff.
imagine a gaslighter as a parent. I hate every moment with them.
Load More Replies...Bosses who have the gall to ask "Were you REALLY that close to [relative/loved one who died]?" Or the ones that try to make you choose your job over family. "Look, the company is having trouble right now and needs you to work. Just put your dead dog in the freezer so you can grieve when it's more convenient."
"Boys will be boys". Nice coverage for young men to do anti-social things, while subtly approving.
Freedom of speech means that everyone is allowed to express their opinion - even the "jerk" that you happen to disagree with.
Load More Replies...People who wear their religion on the sleeve/shove it down other people’s throats. Live and let live ffs!
People who swerve around a stopped car at a crosswalk to speed through without watching for pedestrians. People who don't stop for pedestrians at crosswalks.
And people who choose to go to the heat of the empty lane to get ahead of many others, instead of waiting their turn to merge.
Load More Replies...People who attack first aiders and firemen. People who try to find reasons why other people should not earn a living wage for a full time job even though their work makes billions for the companies. People who look down upon people who experience hardships and claim they must have done something to deserve it and claim that bad things only happen to bad people. People who enable other horrible people and force their victims to cave to the demands of narcissists and abusers to 'keep the peace'.
Conspicuously absent from this post is BAD DRIVERS ! How someone drives says a lot about a person, don't you think ? Sociologists tell us that many people who lead exemplary lives can change into raving maniacs behind the wheel. If you want to know about a person, ask to check their dashcam video.
making comments and jokes a default but really they arent ok. ex: "this makes me wanna kill myself/ kill yourself." "you are so gay man" "the weather is so bipolar today" and so many others, coming from a queer person with mental health issues, i just cant deal with them.
i sometimes say that the weather is "typical texas weather" which is the most confusing type of weather. instead of saying bipolar weather, we should say typical texas weather
Load More Replies...Gaslighters. Dated one. Hated every moment. Always walking on eggshells, never sure if I was imagining stuff.
imagine a gaslighter as a parent. I hate every moment with them.
Load More Replies...Bosses who have the gall to ask "Were you REALLY that close to [relative/loved one who died]?" Or the ones that try to make you choose your job over family. "Look, the company is having trouble right now and needs you to work. Just put your dead dog in the freezer so you can grieve when it's more convenient."
"Boys will be boys". Nice coverage for young men to do anti-social things, while subtly approving.
Freedom of speech means that everyone is allowed to express their opinion - even the "jerk" that you happen to disagree with.
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