Life is full of ups and downs. So when Reddit user Unorthodox69 made a post on the platform, asking its users "What's a sad truth you've come to accept?", many felt like sharing.
Whether we look at the answers about things outside of our control, like other people's thoughts, opinions, and behaviors, or our own mistakes, they serve as reminders that sometimes, no matter how good our intentions are, it just doesn't work out.
However, acceptance is genuinely an important first step in getting past uncomfortable situations. So at least they're not lying to themselves, right?
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The next generation is already set up for failure. Good and rational people are no longer having kids. Idiots and bigots are reproducing like anything.
Just because someone is family doesn't mean they have your best interest in heart.
No matter how good you are at your job, you are disposable and replaceable.
My ego was so big when I was younger I thought I could never be fired and the company would suffer if I were to quit. A friend of mine asked me "has a company ever gone out of business because you were gone??" Slapped me back to reality. Thank you Tom 😊
You can't help someone who doesn't want to be helped.
Sometimes people have to hit their rock bottom before they want help. For some, rock bottom becomes a comfort and they never will want to be helped. At that point, just accept that's how they want to live. Nothing much more you can do about it, other than leave.
Social media has destroyed our mental health and society, but it also is Pandora's Box. There's no putting this lid back on.
never fall in love with someone twice, the second time you'll be falling for the memories
Hard work does not equal success.
Moral of the story: don't work hard unless there's something in it for you. And don't expect others to work hard.
The narcissists in your family will never give you the apology you deserve.
They will sooner throw you under the bus and make you wish you were never born before they ever admit to doing you wrong.
Love isn’t enough to make a relationship work.
Yeah I think this is one of the saddest realizations, that love isn't enough. Really sucks to get there
Very few people in life will ever give a s**t about you.
That a few dozen people can destroy us all because they don't like each other.
Greed is the underlying cause of a lot of the world's suffering as it allows people to justify doing horrible things
"I'm paying for this..." Whenever I hear this, I think of manipulation and exploitation. Doesn't matter the context. When people say s**t like that all consideration for the human aspect has gone out the window.
The biggest pieces of s**t will usually get away with it.
Unless I win the lottery, I have no chance of retirement. When im too old to work, I'll have to choose between homelessness or a dignified exit
I really can't buy my old dog much more time. She's still happy and doing dog stuff, but she's losing weight and having a hard time getting around. I talked to a mobile vet about end of life planning for her but I really don't want to accept it. I love my doggo.
I am so very sorry and I wish you strength and peace. Doggos are truly the best.
The justice system in the US is absolutely f****d and nobody is looking out for you. If a cop, judge, DA, anyone decides they wanna f**k up your entire life, they can and there’s nothing you can do about it.
Well, you could be born rich, that's something. /sarc, because it's needed these days.
You’re never going to be good enough for some people.
On a related note; they’re not worth wasting time or energy on.
It doesn't matter how much you do for someone, they can and will walk out of your life. Let them
This f*cking terrifies me. One of my biggest fears in life is people just leaving because they can. And people have done it before. This keeps me up at night and makes me question every relationship. I know it's true but it hurts so much to be abandoned by someone you care about.
That my family did in fact hurt me and it wasn't my fault.
Gettin older, rusty, no longer able to do things i could when i was younger due to aging
It's always harsh. I lost being able to do a lot of things from illness. Life can be so cruel 😔
I spent my 20’s on a person who didn’t deserve me. I hate that I can’t get those young years back. Red flags are so fukn real. I’m so mad at myself.
You can't save someone from themselves. People trapped in self-destructive cycles like toxic relationships, substance abuse and criminality are drowning. They will drag you down with them if they can.
Until they are willing to admit that they have a problem, there is precious little you can do.
I am thought of as the "mother of the group", when someone has a problem i want to do everything in my power to save them. But I can't. Because they don't want to be saved, yet i feel responsible. You are your own person with your own emotions, they need to figure it out for themselves.
Your dreams and ambitions mean nothing without execution.
Like a good third of adults are still essentially children in grown up bodies.
I don't know, I can be a pretty adulty adult lol
Load More Replies...If you lose your child like essence then you’ve basically lost everything, if nothing is fun or exciting or joyful anymore then there is no more to live for
At least, that’s about the percentage of adults who never become emotionally mature and never develop critical thinking skills—-and it just feels like that percentage is increasing, which is the diametric opposite of the way I thought we’d be in the 21st f*****g Century!
As an old fat I can tell you, the number is closer to nine tenths.
My body may be worn out and full of ugly surprises, but my brain is still shocked when I look in the mirror, or when I can't do the things I've always done in the past. I will always giggle at stupid jokes, and talk to the pets before the people.
My husband often acts a lot like a 12 year old. I wish I could go back to being a child again and have a happy childhood. That would be nice. To be able to grow up with good memories and feel like you have a solid foundation under your feet.
1/3? More like 55/56 lol. Growing up you see adults as all knowing. But at 40 I'm still 13 in my head and giggling at farts. I've met a few people who have aims in life and systems to reach these goals but the rest of us are paddling around with our bathtub ducks and that's ok
No one ever grows up, There is no such thing as an adult. None of us know what we are doing.
It's OK to be lonely. But if you are lonely and act like it, it can be one of the most potent social repellents.
My 20s were wasted because I am too scared of making my family disappointed/angry with me. I did what they wanted but now I'm unhappy with my life.
You only get one life and this is it. Right now. The one you're currently living. Good, Bad, Or downright sucky, this is the only life you're gonna get
I demand a restart, so I won't make the same mistakes I did in my 20s
Friendships are like plants that have to be watered in order to stay alive. Sometimes we forget to water the plant or choose not to :(
Love can destroy your life just as much as it can brighten your life. You can go from waking up to the love of your life to waking up to the despair that they’re gone.
Since my brother died, no matter what happiness comes in my life, there will always be a hint of sadness that he’s not here to share it with.
Boom
It was Christmas a few years after my mom died. A friend took me to see "torch song trilogy". There was a scene near the end where the recently widowed mother comforts her newly widowed son. You may appreciate too. ..."Give yourself time, Arnold. It gets better... But, Arnold, it never goes away. You can work longer hours, adopt a son, fight with me, whatever... it'll still be there. But that's all right, it becomes a part of you, like learning to wear a ring or a pair of eyeglasses. You get used to it. And that's good. It's good, because it makes sure you don't forget. You don't want to forget him, do you?”
That I lost about 10 years to Depression and I will never get that time back.
I will always have mental health problems considering I have a lifelong disorder that have been present since my first memories. However, there is still a chance I can survive through adulthood and live a decent life with them if things go right. I have been in therapy for many years and things are still shaky in regards to whether those two things will be possible, but without therapy I wouldn't be here to write this comment.
I feel you, my friend. 3 years with panic disorder and its buddies (agoraphobia, thalassophobia, claustrophobia etc.). Out of the blue. Literally glues you to your home, and doctors are very happy to get you hooked up from one benzo to the other. Life is a struggle and i am aware that things will never be the same but I am certain I will eventually manage to live a normal-ish life.
The impact the pandemic had on my kids' education is permanent. There's no fixing it.
Whoever wrote this list, I hope someone talked them off the bridge, because this list is made by someone who just had a nasty breakup, or on serious depression. Life is just not that bleak. Love is awesome, friends are great, life is beautiful, get out and embrace the joy!
I dunno... it all is so very bleak at the moment. At least here in the US. Leadership that is only concerned with enriching themselves, allowing hate to flourish. Corporate ownership of the leaders, making everything too expensive. Complete disregard for the climate crises. It's about as bad as it can get. I fully expect armed rebellion after the next election cycle.
Load More Replies...Life sucks but to y'all feeling down after this, remember that puppies exist and are in the world right now, and you can look at videos of them or even foster some if you're financially capable
Puppies - yes, help if you can, BUT also remember cats who can be sneaky but adorable too.
Load More Replies...Oof. Anybody else off to search for kitten and puppy pictures now to cheer up?
You bet! Baraban-TV; Fluff Town; Buitengebieden; Geobeats animals; etc. Enjoy.
Load More Replies...Think about your most treasured possession be it your photos, some signed memorabilia or a collection of any kind.There's a good chance that when you die whatever it is will mean nothing to your heirs, who will get rid of it at the first opportunity, maybe even just trashing it.
That my husband will never cherish me or even be interested in what I'm thinking about or what I might want. That I have to tell him what to do for me. And even then he has to hide it it's an inconvenience. I didn't buy clothes or even underwear for years. I would love for him to even feign an interest in anything about me; much less to sparklingly ask me how I'm doing or what I've been taking out during the day, or even to say say hey where would you like to go on vacation this weekend... for him, I'm just a doormat or a piece of furniture. He bought me some jewelry because I kept complaining and pretty much made him but he couldn't care less about what I think or what I'm doing or what I might want to do or my Kohl's or whatever I want for us as a family doesn't care at all and this is a man who I've done so much for. i'm not sure I'm still here every day I have to jump off a bridge.
haha, not "my Kohl's," but "my goals," lol... I have a Quinn says they're more interested in what I think or what I'm interested in or what my goals are than my husband could ever be. I have to beg him for a complement of the beer him to buy food that I can eat it's really sad. Actually I'm not really sure why I'm still here except that we have a 17-year-old who is lovely and I'd like to make sure he does OK. He's the only person that my husband cares about. I keep waiting for him to care but he won't. He said he would tell his brother how is Buse of toward me but he won't do that either. I'm not really sure what to do. Please tell me to leave.
Load More Replies...And another: most of the people loudly lamenting that everyone around them is an idiot are themselves idiots. (Not directly aimed at you. Just in general.)
Load More Replies...You can do everything right, get bit by a tick in your prime and have a fever for 12 years straight and counting. End up losing your ability to work, parent your child or even hold your body upright. Your life is now your bed. A good day means you could take a shower. Meanwhile, the world keeps going, everyone goes on about their life, no one is freaked out that you're rotting away. Every extra cent is spent on trying to get well. No Drs are losing a wink of sleep.
Here's another truth some don't want to admit: the world is full of beauty. So much of what we see in media is negative because that's what gets the views, but don't ignore the beauty! It's all around us if you look for it. ❤️
My sad truth: everyone chose safety over freedom, and it happened so long ago that the choice was made for me at birth. I'll never experience true freedom
I'm still trying to figure out why so many people would think their lives would somehow be free from these things.
Maybe YOUR life is awesome with all the ups and downs, but some other people's lives only have downs: mental illness, chronic illness, abuse, poverty, homelessnes... Not every person's life is "awesome".
Load More Replies...no matter how much someone means to you, someone else may not approve and keep you from seeing them. they tell you theyre not your family because theyre not your blood and they dont realize how much this person has done for your mental health. this person has saved your life more than once. but that other person is too stubborn because "theyre just a friend" "theyre just an old teacher" "theyre just an ex"
To any young person reading this. Life has always been a mixture of good and bad. is climate change a problem yes.. but think about humans 10000 years back.. ice age ? Volcanoes ? Mankind survived. Socioeconomic side ? Think about ww1 or ww2. While there are ups and downs, understand that if you see the big picture, humans have improved. While being aware of the dangers of world, and stupidity of people, dont lose hope.. usually, Life finds a way.
Whoever wrote this list, I hope someone talked them off the bridge, because this list is made by someone who just had a nasty breakup, or on serious depression. Life is just not that bleak. Love is awesome, friends are great, life is beautiful, get out and embrace the joy!
I dunno... it all is so very bleak at the moment. At least here in the US. Leadership that is only concerned with enriching themselves, allowing hate to flourish. Corporate ownership of the leaders, making everything too expensive. Complete disregard for the climate crises. It's about as bad as it can get. I fully expect armed rebellion after the next election cycle.
Load More Replies...Life sucks but to y'all feeling down after this, remember that puppies exist and are in the world right now, and you can look at videos of them or even foster some if you're financially capable
Puppies - yes, help if you can, BUT also remember cats who can be sneaky but adorable too.
Load More Replies...Oof. Anybody else off to search for kitten and puppy pictures now to cheer up?
You bet! Baraban-TV; Fluff Town; Buitengebieden; Geobeats animals; etc. Enjoy.
Load More Replies...Think about your most treasured possession be it your photos, some signed memorabilia or a collection of any kind.There's a good chance that when you die whatever it is will mean nothing to your heirs, who will get rid of it at the first opportunity, maybe even just trashing it.
That my husband will never cherish me or even be interested in what I'm thinking about or what I might want. That I have to tell him what to do for me. And even then he has to hide it it's an inconvenience. I didn't buy clothes or even underwear for years. I would love for him to even feign an interest in anything about me; much less to sparklingly ask me how I'm doing or what I've been taking out during the day, or even to say say hey where would you like to go on vacation this weekend... for him, I'm just a doormat or a piece of furniture. He bought me some jewelry because I kept complaining and pretty much made him but he couldn't care less about what I think or what I'm doing or what I might want to do or my Kohl's or whatever I want for us as a family doesn't care at all and this is a man who I've done so much for. i'm not sure I'm still here every day I have to jump off a bridge.
haha, not "my Kohl's," but "my goals," lol... I have a Quinn says they're more interested in what I think or what I'm interested in or what my goals are than my husband could ever be. I have to beg him for a complement of the beer him to buy food that I can eat it's really sad. Actually I'm not really sure why I'm still here except that we have a 17-year-old who is lovely and I'd like to make sure he does OK. He's the only person that my husband cares about. I keep waiting for him to care but he won't. He said he would tell his brother how is Buse of toward me but he won't do that either. I'm not really sure what to do. Please tell me to leave.
Load More Replies...And another: most of the people loudly lamenting that everyone around them is an idiot are themselves idiots. (Not directly aimed at you. Just in general.)
Load More Replies...You can do everything right, get bit by a tick in your prime and have a fever for 12 years straight and counting. End up losing your ability to work, parent your child or even hold your body upright. Your life is now your bed. A good day means you could take a shower. Meanwhile, the world keeps going, everyone goes on about their life, no one is freaked out that you're rotting away. Every extra cent is spent on trying to get well. No Drs are losing a wink of sleep.
Here's another truth some don't want to admit: the world is full of beauty. So much of what we see in media is negative because that's what gets the views, but don't ignore the beauty! It's all around us if you look for it. ❤️
My sad truth: everyone chose safety over freedom, and it happened so long ago that the choice was made for me at birth. I'll never experience true freedom
I'm still trying to figure out why so many people would think their lives would somehow be free from these things.
Maybe YOUR life is awesome with all the ups and downs, but some other people's lives only have downs: mental illness, chronic illness, abuse, poverty, homelessnes... Not every person's life is "awesome".
Load More Replies...no matter how much someone means to you, someone else may not approve and keep you from seeing them. they tell you theyre not your family because theyre not your blood and they dont realize how much this person has done for your mental health. this person has saved your life more than once. but that other person is too stubborn because "theyre just a friend" "theyre just an old teacher" "theyre just an ex"
To any young person reading this. Life has always been a mixture of good and bad. is climate change a problem yes.. but think about humans 10000 years back.. ice age ? Volcanoes ? Mankind survived. Socioeconomic side ? Think about ww1 or ww2. While there are ups and downs, understand that if you see the big picture, humans have improved. While being aware of the dangers of world, and stupidity of people, dont lose hope.. usually, Life finds a way.