From trashy one-liners to unsolicited nude pics, it’s no secret that women receive a lot of questionable content from men they never asked for.
In fact, a study showed that 1 in 4 millennial men (27%) have sent a "d-pic" to a woman. Moreover, of millennial men who have sent a lewd photo, 24% have done so without being asked.
And while not every man pushes the chat with a woman that far, the rude texts they dare to press “send” come in all shapes. Like, being a jerk and telling a woman she’s ugly, manipulating her, or using misogyny. It's obvious that way too many women are forced to face such disrespect on a daily basis.
And thanks to women on TikTok, who decided to expose such cases by sharing the rudest texts they ever received from men, this awful problem is finally put into the spotlight and makes us rethink what’s normal and what’s not in men texting women.
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At Least He Had A Plan
When Why Is He Asking For Them
But It's All Love So It's Fine
If you’re a woman, you most likely know very well how it feels to protect yourself from online abuse and harassment. In many cases, it feels like women have this “unjust burden” thrown at them which is only getting worse with each new way of communication. Imagine men who would have never considered standing on a street corner in a trench coat are now bullying and harassing women they meet online. How did it happen?
All I Did Was Go Out With A Dude I Met On Tinder
After A Phone Conversation/ Argument. I Wish I Was Joking
I Honestly Didn’t Even Know How To Respond To This
The experts now say that sexual harassment made online is no less dangerous to a victim than physical harassment done in real life. “It is inevitable that some of these people will then go on to commit contact sexual offenses, but it is not possible to say at this time what sort of proportion that is,” Clare McGlynn, Professor of Law and expert in image-based sexual abuse, from Durham Law School, told HuffPost UK.
I Just Found This At The Bottom Of My Tinder Messages Im Going To Peeeeeeee
And They Say Romance Is Dead?
Reality Of Dating In 2020
Meanwhile, Laura Thompson, a lead researcher at City University, believes that with the digital age and more and more platforms coming out, people always find a way to weaponize them. Moreover, according to her, “while women seem to have largely accepted this as part of the unwritten laws of internet interaction, finding the solution to this type of abuse should not fall into the laps of victims because it 'curtails women’s opportunities.'”
Laura believes that it’s “unfair to expect women to be continually self-policing and every time they want to use some function online, they need to think about how it might be misused by someone else and we can’t scare women off using the internet, or smartphone technology, because it is simply not fair.”
This Man Rlly Called Me Out Like That
No Coming Back From This One Brother
I Know Rodby Ain't Talking
#chivalryisntdead
Oh No
Please It’s 90° And I Posted In My Bathing Suit Bye
Sorry Ladies He’s All Mine
Kinda Clever Tho
True Love
Let’s Pray Nobody From My School Sees This Especially Him
That’s On Having Gorg Friends I Guess
The Right Idea...?
Thought I Would Hop On The Trend
Men On Tinder
Hellll No
I Was Scared
Great - a rando creepy stalker. Block this creeper before it gets any weirder.
If u didn't live in a society where such interactions usually result in some thing or other u would see it as a neutral story. They could hit it off. He is trying to not be weird about it. But ur society is really sick so probably not
Load More Replies...I'm not sure I agree that this guy needs to be canceled based on this. I admit that I'm speaking from a male perspective and so I don't fully grasp what this situation must have felt like for the woman involved but I understand how his approach could be perceived as creepy. On the other-hand, when I was a young man there was a barista I thought was cute and I'd go to her coffee shop even when I didn't feel like coffee on the off-chance she might be working- eventually I worked up the nerve to ask her out. I guess I'm not seeing how this situation was much different? Isn't this how people have always met except with the addition of smart-cams and social media? If there's more to the story, like this kid kept messaging her after she said she wasn't interested or, worse, followed her around or showed up at her house than a line has been crossed for sure but I thought he seemed far less of a d-bag than the men in the other posts.
James, you are 100% correct. I think because these creepy situations happen so much. That even when it's not someone being creepy, but actually being genuine. They automatically see it as creepy when it's not. People definitely need to discern and take a minute to think if it's really creepy or if it's just someone trying to get to know you. Anyhow, I do agree with what you've said.
Load More Replies...I really don’t get stalker vibes from this one. To me, this is the modern day equivalent of “I saw a really attractive person with a Bloggs College shirt on so I a asked a person I know who goes to Bloggs colleges if they knew her and now my friend is going to introduce us.” This is the world of social media - if you have a presence on social media, people will find you on social media (which is why I don’t use my real name and make my settings private because I had clients from work trying to friend me).
It's really not the same to talk to someone about a common interest and to watch back a tape to find out a identity of someone who was there to work. Granted, he apologized but for a woman he's all red flags. Plus what you're implying, that it's her fault for having a social media presence is essentially victim blaming, please consider her pov.
Load More Replies...i mean my thought process is a lil different when it comes to stuff like this so idk if my thoughts are valid- like ive had multiple adults that knew i was a minor hit on me and send me random d**k pics and found my personal info and all this other stuff and then id laugh and say to them "lmao dont risk arrest for lil ol me" and block them
Load More Replies...Why is this bad? Guy finally finding a girl he's seen ones and really liked is literally there plot of every single romcom. Not every guy is a serial rapist.
It's a volation of her personal privacy. No one wants that. I work in a bank, if I called u cuz I saw u were a client and wanted a date? I bet you would get me fired. Think first dumb dumb. It's not cute. It's not nice. It's not flattering.
Load More Replies...Yeah its weird to do. And I hope she reported him to door dash so they can send only large male delivery people.
its not creepy if you think if you wanted it then its sweet. strange world
Yup, our culture says if it's wanted it's cute and if it's not then it's creepy. Every romcom ever teaches guys that they just need to try harder, ask again, show up at her house with a boom box... and then we turn around and expect them to know not to *actually* do any of that.
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Such A Romantic
For Context This Was Two Years Ago
Man Has Game
I think I was coming up against these guys, I'd stay single forever. Ha, ha, ha..
I agree! Dating has gotten stupid. Or at least brings it out in people on all those apps. *SMH*
Load More Replies...Modern internet dating sites give you a chance to sort out the creeps without the bother of having to actually meet them first.
Oh my f*****g God, these guys are...I can't even think of a word to use, they're so far beyond cringe!!
I know! I can't believe there are people out there that are this clueless in how to interact with the opposite sex. I'm really intrigued by the who, how and why people come to believe that these comments are normal and how they come to expect any reaction other than disgust? I don't get it, these people have some type of mental handicap..
Load More Replies...These are the same gits who whine about how women are just shallow gold diggers who won't date them because they're "Nice Guys".
Amen! I bet every one of these guys thinks of themselves as a "nice guy, just being honest"
Load More Replies...This is one my girlfriend got from a friend of two years. (Yes that is on google docs because she had sent me a picture of her family members after that so i had to crop it.) Screenshot...d7-png.jpg
I really hope it was a wrong number text, because yikes. You don't send that to someone out of the blue.
Load More Replies...I am so glad I dated in the 80ties before social media and apps. Yep there were lots and lots of jerk men then but most were respectful and would never be so gross and bold. If they were they were considered real losers. Guess everyone is a disrespectful creepy loser now.
These men are disgusting. And even that is an understatement but I also know there are some pretty grimy women on the scene as well. It's not just men.
I’d like to actually know why women are on Tinder? Everything I see posted about that app is like this post. Wouldn’t a site like Match be just a little bit better? I can only assume that women are on there for entertainment and to make posts like this one in the first place. You are never going to meet anyone worthwhile on there.
I know someone who met her now husband on tinder so not exactly true.
Load More Replies...Wow, guys were stupid and rude in the 60s and 70s but they've taken it up to a whole new level of obnoxious.
I don't understand how dating works, honestly. The only people I've had relationships with, I was close friends with them for a minimum of like two years first. I can't imagine trying to develop a relationship right away with some rando just because they supposedly match my interests and personality. Wild.
I'm a trans dude, but this was a reaction from my extremely toxic incel of an ex when I came out. He, to this day, still hasn't responded. I'll probably be outed when I finally go back to school. Screenshot...da-png.jpg
There is so much crap to criticize, so I really don't get why there is still a need to make it sound even worse than it already is. "In fact, a study showed that 1 in 4 millennial men (27%) have sent a "d-pic" to a woman. Moreover, of millennial men who have sent a lewd photo, 24% have done so without being asked." That means "only" ~7% of millennial men have sent an unsolicited d-pic. And out of ALL men, it must be significantly less. Why besmudge a clear cut case with such a misleadingly phrased statistic? Isn't it bad enough already that some men do this, why try to give the impression that it's many more? Only hurting the cause with manipulative crap like this.
The ironic thing is that if women sent unsolicited boob pics to men, a large percentage wouldn't complain. Why is it so different between the genders?
Load More Replies...I feel very strange up voting these... they are SO terrible that every fiber of my being wants to down vote, but they are excellent examples of terrible things... so confused!
I kinda wish I had Gods power to just evaporate men like this. Just with a click of the finger & they’d be snuffed out of existence. They are literally a waste of human cells.
Murdering someone because they sent a rude text is pretty horrible.
Load More Replies...Are we going to have one of these posts for women? Or is it only acceptable to point out how trashy (some) men can be?
Not enough material. Are you going to focus on the topic or just panic and go “But but but teacher! She did it toooooooooo!” Grow up, ugmo.
Load More Replies...There's nothing wrong with casual sexual relationships. It's possible to be open and honest about desires and expectations while not seeking something longterm.
Load More Replies...Manner has quite a bit to do with it, I suspect. E.g., "I prefer tall men who are health-conscious" is polite, but "dude, you so flabby you make me sick" is not. See?
Load More Replies...I think I was coming up against these guys, I'd stay single forever. Ha, ha, ha..
I agree! Dating has gotten stupid. Or at least brings it out in people on all those apps. *SMH*
Load More Replies...Modern internet dating sites give you a chance to sort out the creeps without the bother of having to actually meet them first.
Oh my f*****g God, these guys are...I can't even think of a word to use, they're so far beyond cringe!!
I know! I can't believe there are people out there that are this clueless in how to interact with the opposite sex. I'm really intrigued by the who, how and why people come to believe that these comments are normal and how they come to expect any reaction other than disgust? I don't get it, these people have some type of mental handicap..
Load More Replies...These are the same gits who whine about how women are just shallow gold diggers who won't date them because they're "Nice Guys".
Amen! I bet every one of these guys thinks of themselves as a "nice guy, just being honest"
Load More Replies...This is one my girlfriend got from a friend of two years. (Yes that is on google docs because she had sent me a picture of her family members after that so i had to crop it.) Screenshot...d7-png.jpg
I really hope it was a wrong number text, because yikes. You don't send that to someone out of the blue.
Load More Replies...I am so glad I dated in the 80ties before social media and apps. Yep there were lots and lots of jerk men then but most were respectful and would never be so gross and bold. If they were they were considered real losers. Guess everyone is a disrespectful creepy loser now.
These men are disgusting. And even that is an understatement but I also know there are some pretty grimy women on the scene as well. It's not just men.
I’d like to actually know why women are on Tinder? Everything I see posted about that app is like this post. Wouldn’t a site like Match be just a little bit better? I can only assume that women are on there for entertainment and to make posts like this one in the first place. You are never going to meet anyone worthwhile on there.
I know someone who met her now husband on tinder so not exactly true.
Load More Replies...Wow, guys were stupid and rude in the 60s and 70s but they've taken it up to a whole new level of obnoxious.
I don't understand how dating works, honestly. The only people I've had relationships with, I was close friends with them for a minimum of like two years first. I can't imagine trying to develop a relationship right away with some rando just because they supposedly match my interests and personality. Wild.
I'm a trans dude, but this was a reaction from my extremely toxic incel of an ex when I came out. He, to this day, still hasn't responded. I'll probably be outed when I finally go back to school. Screenshot...da-png.jpg
There is so much crap to criticize, so I really don't get why there is still a need to make it sound even worse than it already is. "In fact, a study showed that 1 in 4 millennial men (27%) have sent a "d-pic" to a woman. Moreover, of millennial men who have sent a lewd photo, 24% have done so without being asked." That means "only" ~7% of millennial men have sent an unsolicited d-pic. And out of ALL men, it must be significantly less. Why besmudge a clear cut case with such a misleadingly phrased statistic? Isn't it bad enough already that some men do this, why try to give the impression that it's many more? Only hurting the cause with manipulative crap like this.
The ironic thing is that if women sent unsolicited boob pics to men, a large percentage wouldn't complain. Why is it so different between the genders?
Load More Replies...I feel very strange up voting these... they are SO terrible that every fiber of my being wants to down vote, but they are excellent examples of terrible things... so confused!
I kinda wish I had Gods power to just evaporate men like this. Just with a click of the finger & they’d be snuffed out of existence. They are literally a waste of human cells.
Murdering someone because they sent a rude text is pretty horrible.
Load More Replies...Are we going to have one of these posts for women? Or is it only acceptable to point out how trashy (some) men can be?
Not enough material. Are you going to focus on the topic or just panic and go “But but but teacher! She did it toooooooooo!” Grow up, ugmo.
Load More Replies...There's nothing wrong with casual sexual relationships. It's possible to be open and honest about desires and expectations while not seeking something longterm.
Load More Replies...Manner has quite a bit to do with it, I suspect. E.g., "I prefer tall men who are health-conscious" is polite, but "dude, you so flabby you make me sick" is not. See?
Load More Replies...