I’m already in the holiday mood, Pandas, and I hope you are, too. I’ve been listening to Christmas songs at work and I’ve been polishing my rusty cookie baking skills (so far, it’s all gone disastrously wrong). But! Most importantly, I’ve already started searching for gifts for all of my loved ones. It’s far from easy to be original every year and sometimes we simply mess up. And the internet has proof of this.
Internet users have taken to the r/AskReddit online community to share the very worst gifts they’ve ever gotten. There are more than a few twists and turns in their tales, however. Take a break from school or work, grab yourselves a big mug of tea and some snacks, and let’s dive deep into the world of horrendous gifts, dear Readers. As you’re scrolling down, don’t forget to upvote the stories that took you by surprise. And if you’re feeling up to it, why not open up about the very worst presents you’ve ever given or received in the comments?
I also reached out to author and child independence expert Lenore Skenazy for a few comments about gift-giving and the burden we face as the holiday season comes every year. Scroll down to read what she told Bored Panda. Spoiler warning: we shouldn’t focus so much on the gifts themselves, nor about trying to be ‘perfect’ but about the holiday spirit and being genuine!
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When I was 8, I told my gran that I liked jeeps. So every year, for Christmas I got a crappier jeep. The first year was a model. Ok I like models I put it together it was fun. Next year was a remote. Then a matchbox. and so on. When I was 15 she gave me a jeep calendar. I love my gran so I hung the calendar and told her I loved it.
On my 16th Christmas, she gives me a key ring that says Jeep. UGH. Then asks me to go out and get some preserves from the barn. In the barn was a brand new 86 jeep! Gran plays the long game.
Growing up I used to hate that my uncle would get all of us kids the same $1 pair of cheap one size fits all gloves. I clearly remember thinking how I'd really rather just have the dollar, and yet he never failed to get them for us. It was always the last gift my cousins and I would open... Thanks uncle Craig.
Craig was developmentally disabled, and although he was well into his 30's when we were kids he would come out into the street and play baseball with us, he'd ride bikes across town with us, buy us beer and nudey mags when we were older... And yet every year, these damn gloves even when we were grown adults and his health was fading, and we all moved away. This will be Christmas number 3 without Uncle Craig, and as I look back at it now it makes more sense. He was living in a shack that he was renting for $350 a month there were 15 nieces and nephews... We knew he couldn't afford to get us any toys or anything, but he wanted us to have something more meaningful than a dollar bill, and Christmas was his favorite holiday.
RIP Uncle Craig. I wish there was a poorly wrapped pair of gloves under my tree this year.
Ex boyfriend gave me a pack of cigarettes after I had quit for 3 months to "celebrate my progress".
Most memorable thing he gave me was clamydia though.
Lenore, the president of Let Grow, a nonprofit that promotes childhood independence and resilience, and the founder of the Free-Range Kids movement, told Bored Panda all about how we can ease the burden of the holiday season. In her view, all we have to do is turn on the power of our imagination.
“To ease the burden of the holiday season, think about two possible scenarios,” she said.
I met my wife in january of 2010. For her birthday in July I bought her a crockpot. She was .....appreciative, but later had told me she was upset. Her sister told her to break up with me cause what kind of guy buys his new girlfriend kitchen appliances.
About 2 months later she finds a recipe she wants to try and busts out the crockpot. Inside it she finds a smaller gift. It was a brand new ipod touch.
She was pissed.
It was nothing. My in-laws bring gifts for my husband but not me because I'm not "real family".
My wife used to give me things that were intended for herself.
This was a win-win for her and a lose-lose for me. She could give me something, then get mad at me for being unappreciative. One time, she gave me a frilly picture frame, thinking I would never use it. I thanked her and took it to work.
The expert then went into detail about the two scenarios we should think about and compare in our minds.
“In one, you are invited to a party at a very fancy home. Everything is perfect, clean, expensive. Everyone there is on their best behavior. No one shouts, runs, slips, yells, spills, eats too much, or bursts into song. They can’t wait to go home and take off their too-tight shoes,” she went into detail.
About 10 years ago my uncle was giving out Christmas gifts to everyone in the family. He's mentally handicapped but he makes sure to go to the dollar store to buy everyone something, typically mugs. Now my uncle doesn't really put much thought into who gets what mug. He just wraps the mug and puts someone's name on it. Sometimes people get multiple mugs and other times you get none because he doesn't keep track of who has already been assigned a mug. Well my cousin was married to a Muslim (it's relevant, I promise) and her gift was a mug that said, "Jesus loves you." It was the only religious themed mug out of probably 50 and she got it. The entire family was laughing, including her. She thought it was great.
I'm asian. My secret santa gave me a box of instant rice. I wasn't offended by the rice. I was offended that it was the instant kind.
I’m gonna speak on my husbands behalf here. We don’t speak to his family or see them at all, there’s a history of abuse and just a lot of toxicity so we cut them out of our lives. It’s been almost 3 years of radio silence, which is amazing and it was absolutely the right choice for us. Whelp, unfortunately my husbands parents live in the same city as us and they know where we go to church. So this year, on my husband’s birthday, my MIL dropped off a gift at our church for him because she doesn’t know where we live and can’t contact us any other way.
The gift was the DVD of the movie I Can Only Imagine. If you’re not familiar with the premise of the movie, let me fill you in. It’s about a man who was abused by his father as a boy. He leaves home and stops having a relationship with his dad. Years go by and the man decides to reconcile and rebuild a relationship with his dad, who was previously abusive but because he found God, he isn’t anymore.
It was really f**ked up to get that movie from someone who manipulated and abused my husband until his early twenties. So that gift absolutely takes the cake. And in the event MIL or the family finds this comment and reads it (though I doubt they use reddit), the only thing I’ll say directly to you in 3 years is “Shame on you.”
Its very common of abusive people to demand forgiveness from the victim without apologizing or even acknowledging the pain they caused. Gaslighting the victim and not taking any responsibilty for their past behaviour just shows that they are not capable of true change. Good for u that u cut them out.
Lenore then painted us a word picture about a different sort of party. One that’s more genuine, heart-warming, full of good times with loved ones.
“Now imagine you’re invited to another party the next week. The house is kind of messy and some of the food looks like leftovers. Someone’s playing the piano and people are singing. Someone else is showing the little kids a magic trick. Someone in the kitchen is making hot cider and the dog is sniffing everyone in a slightly embarrassing way.”
My sister received a brand new bike.....on MY birthday. My grandmother felt bad, so on her birthday she got me an Encyclopedia
It wasn’t really the gift itself, but what my dad said after I opened it.
It was one of those ninja blenders that a lot of people starting using instead of juicers. I was 16 when my dad gave the blender to me, even though I had never expressed any interest in wanting or needing one.
After I opened it, he said he chose this gift because he wanted me to live a healthier lifestyle and hopefully lose a few pounds.
At the time, I was taking ballet classes 5 days a week, and I often performed with my dance troupe on the weekends, so I was pretty fit at the time.
It didn’t help that he said this in front of his entire side of the family.
My extremely cheap uncle visited my family once for christmas and upon his arrival he gave me and my brother the chips that he had gotten on the airplane. This man is a Neurosurgeon.
She continued: “The teens are rolling their eyes in the corner, Grandma is repeating that joke she tells every year, and uncles are one-upping each other with stories about the times they had to sneak into the house after curfew. Which party is more fun for everyone? The one that gets people together with a chance to be themselves and feel unself-conscious.”
According to Lenore, it isn’t expensive and fancy things that we need. In fact, we can have an amazing holiday without them if we focus on our family and learn to relax instead of chasing the ‘perfect’ way to celebrate.
Nothing. One year my very well off (we're talking millionaires) aunt and uncle got everyone in the family a gift except for me because suddenly, since I was 20, I was "too old" for gifts. But all the other aunts and uncles got gifts, so it wasn't just me being singled out among the many cousins, but among EVERYONE. If they were not absolutely loaded and they had also not given anything to the other 18+ people I might have understood. But they didn't.
As an already very stressed out, poor (parents were lower class) college student it really upset me. I spent most of the celebration crying in the bathroom and trying to hide it.
This is so painful! Had something similar happen to me when brother and sister in law were about to become parents. My boyfriend (of 10+ years then and we were living together) and parents in law all got a present because they would become uncle and grandparents. I got nothing. Because we weren't married. And whenever we visited them they would exclaim excitedly "hey there's uncle whatshisname!" I would add ".. and aunt whatshername" myself. Joke's on me though. My then boyfriend and I are happily married (+kids) and her side of the family (that got gifts too) fell apart in the years after.
My mother in-law have my wife and I a book about surviving infidelity. Neither of us have ever cheated on the other in 20 years of marriage. Merry Christmas.
An ashtray. I was 7 years old. I didn't smoke then, and I don't smoke now.
“People might think you need fancy food, gifts, clothes to have a truly wonderful holiday. But really all you need are people you love (and a few who drive you crazy), some food, and some time together. Don’t stress about spending money and time making things perfect. Use that time to connect with each other instead. That’s a holiday everyone will appreciate—including you!”
When I was a little kid (going back about 25 years) I cut the legs off a pair of sweatpants and gave them to my dad for Christmas as "leg warmers." No clue where I came up with the idea. Found out a few years ago he still has them and it still cracks him up whenever he sees them.
Aww that’s kind of cute. I don’t think that’s a bad present at all, considering you were young.
As a small child I got a water bottle and a helmet for Christmas and nothing else. I was totally pissed because I thought my mom just thought I was extra special and needed a helmet to not hurt myself while running around and that I was especially underhydrated. Turns out I had actually gotten a bicycle for Christmas but all of my presents were stolen except for the helmet and water bottle. The worst gift I received wasn't those presents, it was the knowledge that the world is a cruel and uncaring place.
It probably broke your poor mothers heart when you opened those presents knowing she bought you a bike that you would never see
My husband received his recently deceased grandfather's used disposable razor as a Christmas gift from his grandmother. Complete with hair and all.
A box of Hillshire Farms sausages from my wife's grandparents. I'm a vegetarian, they had known me for 10 years at this point.
When I was twelve my grandmother gave me a one-foot tall statue of a frog playing the flute for Christmas. She gave my brother bananas and a granola bar.
I got a spray that you use against foot-odour by my Sister last christmas, she had packed in a box for a power tool I wanted so I went from excited to dissapointed.
She got a quite expensive set of fancy soaps and body products + a gift card from me.
Apparently she gave the power tool to some friend and gave me the box.
I was in 7th grade and dating my first ever boyfriend. He lived in the next town over (about 20 min to drive). His friends were dating my friends (there were several of us girls all dating these cooler out of town boys.)
We spent our Christmas gift giving night at the bowling alley and took turns making out in the alleyway behind the bowling alley. It was my first kiss and I was awful. Like open mouth shark breaching for a seal.
That's another story-we each received a gift. They had group picked out necklaces to match our personalities. Sarah got the one with a sports pendant, long chain to match her long hair. Elizabeth got the dainty chain and tiny heart with a jewel, because she was girly and dainty. Leah got the cross with a jewel, because she was religious and it was her favorite color. I got the fake gold biker chain with nothing on it, because it was "manly like you are." So my friends all got cute little dainty necklaces and I got the equivalent of a something you'd see around the neck of a man with a hairy chest that is trying to sell you stereos that his brother got at a cheap price.
Had a friend that received a gift from another friend of ours. It was a McDonald’s gift card. When he went to use it there was nothing on it.
I swear all these gifts sound like they were random things people found in a panic because they forgot to buy an actual present. That’s why I have a stash of random things to give to people in case I forget.
My sister got me a rat as a gift. I'm f**king terrified of rats but I decided to let it be and see if it helped curb my fear of them. It did not.
Instead, while I was sleeping it got out of it's cage, crawled up on my bed, and started chewing on my lip. Didn't sleep for a week after that. Thoughtful gift in the sense she was trying to help but dear God it made my fear so much worse.
As a rat owner, this makes me so angry. For one thing rats should be kept in pairs at the very least because they're social animals and become depressed if they don't have a friend, and for another - don't give a pet rat to someone who hates rats! It's unfair and cruel to both of them! I hope this person re-homed the poor thing.
My aunt gifted me a snowscraper for my car. When I opened it she said "I bet you don't have one of those! "
I was 21, living in northern Midwest and driving everyday. Including that day, which had 4" of snow.
I gave it away to some fool clearing his widow with a credit card a few weeks later.
I got a half of a box of chocolates for my birthday one year. Yep - I opened it and half of them had been eaten already. It wasn't from a child - it was from adult family members. The reasoning was that they knew I would share them when I opened them, but I was away on a business trip on my actual birthday and they couldn't wait to eat some.
Haha, sorry to laugh but one year my middle brother and I gave my younger brother a completely empty box of chocolates with a note saying "here hold this". We did that coz my younger brother is a cheeky bugger. He would say "here hold this" and put something in our hand or arm, like a takeaway coffee cup, bag of lollies etc. And then he would walk away. He gave us his rubbish lol. We did get him a real present too.
First Christmas with my husband of three months, my mother decides to make everyone underwear and boxers. Weird as is. The boxers showed total disregard for male anatomy (things didn’t line up) and the girls’ underwear were all way too big. She wanted to fix them, and asked us for a pair of underwear to fit correctly to go off of. It’s my favorite ‘my family is weird’ story.
A bunch of random tools from my wife. Not tools I needed. Not tools I asked for. Not tools I could use for my hobbies. Just random tools she picked out from Lowes because "Guys like tools".
I got a Game Boy. The original. The year it came out. I was, as you could imagine, thrilled, especially as it came from my older brother, who wasn’t always particularly nice to me. I was absolutely horrified and instantly hysterical when I opened the sealed box and it was filled with D batteries, thinking it was another “prank.”
Turns out someone had bought it, stolen it, re-wrapped it, and returned it to Walmart for someone else to buy. Fortunately, they replaced it. I am still emotionally scarred.
My ex gifted me tickets to a big country music concert for some goofy relationship milestone (like 5 months?). I reminded him that I don’t like country music and he said, “Well, I do and I already bought the tickets so we’re gonna go so the money isn’t wasted.”
That was a dumb relationship.
My husband gave me a $10 keychain on my birthday this week. It was in a box that definitely looked like jewelry. Nope, keychain.
Eek, I just bought keyrings for my family. A bit more personal though. I have ordered 2 dog tag style keyrings that have a photo of my mum and her partner, one for each of them. And I have ordered 2 one for my brother with a pic of his dog and one for my dad with a photo of his dog that passed away. I hope they are received well and don't end up on a list like this lol.
A 1kg box of dried milk for babies from my uncle
We don't have any kids and they knew.........
Foundation (as in makeup) from my husband. Turns out he went to Sephora, pointed at a colour and said “that looks about right” (with his FEMALE friend who ALSO wears makeup AGREEING) and bought it for me!
I am a pasty white girl. Like I’m always the lightest shade, and sometimes the lightest shade is too dark.
The colour they picked was from the middle-to-end range. Like for a black person.
I laughed so hard I almost peed and we (and the female friend) still laugh about it years later!
A girl I dated for two years got me a blue Powerade for my birthday because “you like blue Powerade”. I don’t even drink Powerade. Plus it wasn’t even a big bottle, it was one of the smaller ones that come in the packs. That was the end of that relationship
My parents renovated my bathroom at their house. It was a “surprise”. Thing is, I didn’t live at home anymore - I had been living in a different state for 4 years. I was visiting for Christmas with my fiancé. Bathroom is connected to my room and everyday for the five days we were visiting we were woken up at 8am and had to leave so the construction guys could work. When I sort of complained about being woken up she called me ungrateful and screamed at me. We didn’t speak for four months.
For Christmas, my aunt (Aunt 1) gave me and my sister liquid soap that had already solidified. She's known for being "thrifty" and re-giving old gifts.
Aunt 2 gave Aunt 1's son a shirt for his birthday. After a few years, Aunt 1 gifted the shirt to Aunt 2's son.
That’s not being thrifty. That’s just disgusting. Might as well not have given them anything
My mother and her friend came to stay with me last year for Christmas and I got them both standard stuff like scarves and bath bombs and stuff.
My mom’s friend got me one gift, which I opened on Christmas morning - it was a package of ground espresso, which I don’t like. I was nice about it and said thank you and then put it in my cabinet and went about celebrating the holiday.
The next day I woke up late and went to go make coffee - she had opened the espresso and made it for herself! I remain deeply offended.
Worst gift I ever got was last year from a friend from school. I was 3 weeks post partum with my first kid and in a motel alone for Christmas and she came by with a bunch of JuicePlus tablets and an ItWorks wraps. Then she told me since I’m “doing nothing” I could help her sell it. I was cordial at the time but afterwards I thought it was pretty s**tty thing to do
mom was a single mom with three kids, no child support, and working two jobs. so, needless to say, money was always tight. no allowances but she would try to do little things for each of us once a month. come mother's day i found an old tarnished copper tray in a dumpster. i took it, polished it and gave it to her. (i was about 8) she oohed & aahed over it. then, when i was in my 30s i saw it in her china cupboard & asked her why she still had that. it was then she told me that she had seen me take it from the dumpster & didn't know why until i gave it to her. said it was something very precious to her because i wanted to give her something on that day. mom was great. miss you.
My parents used to guilt me into doing things with presents. Growing up, I was a happily introverted homebody. They gifted me a gym membership because they thought I didn't exercise enough and required me to go. Another year, they signed me up in a weekly class as a gift because they thought I didn't have enough friends. (I was perfectly happy. They were just extroverts, and I wasn't.) They meant well but just didn't understand me, and of course, I was polite and wouldn't disrespect their gifts. I flipped the script recently though. My mom has been teetering on retirement for years and keeps finding excuses not to retire. For her birthday this year, I gifted her a retirement countdown calendar. It is 100% peer pressure in the form of a present -- and it's working. She's agreed to retire in December.
My brother once stole something from me, wrapped it, and gave it back to me. He was roughly 13 at the time. Old enough to know better, imo.
Yeah, one time, a sister stole one of my prized books, left it by the pool to get all oogie, then gives me a new one, same title, for my BDay...!!!
Load More Replies...I'm the bad gift giver. I have no empathy, so I can't 'put myself in their shoes' and think what they would like to receive, so I have to rely on information given to me. If I hear you say you want something, that's what you'll probably get. Back when I had been dating my now wife for about 5 months, she was complaining about the lights being too bright in her bedroom and said that she wanted a dimmer switch, so that's what she got for xmas. That same year she got me a PS3 on the day it came out (some time in November) just because she knew I'd want one AND still got me a xmas present the following month. Needless to say, she's in charge for gift buying.
You have my vote - just listening is the best way!
Load More Replies...My father used to give everyone Logical gifts. Mom was a Stay at home Housewife, she must like kitchen appliances and cleaning things. Me and my sister were girls...we must want dolls and pretty things. My brothers were boys, they must've wanted race tracks and power tools. Then one Christmas, my mother opened a hand vac from my Dad, got up, stormed out and slammed the bedroom door shut. He was confused until I had him take me and my sister for a drive so we could explain. Next year, I got a Tyco race-track, my sister got a dremel, my mother got perfume, soft comfy robe and a slippers to match. My brothers got power tools...(they never complained.) Everyone was happy and my Dad learned to ask what we liked instead of giving in to gender stereo-types after that. He also learned my sister was a whiz at fixing cars. Proud papa moment when he realized that.
It’s a good thing he realized and worked on that :D
Load More Replies...Just turned 50 last week and once again my wife got me nothing. I was buying myself a cake when my nephew saw me. He said “You can’t buy your own cake Tio!”, grabbed it off the conveyor and bought it. So some really bad…and some really good this year.
My mother in law gave me religious erotic novels for Christmas one year. I gave them away at a "rewrap your crap" party where you compete for the worst gift. I won lol and it still makes me laugh thinking about them!
Is that really a thing? Novels that are religious AND erotic? Is it like fanfiction?
Load More Replies...My granny used to give us gift bags every year for Christmas with chocolate, walnuts and mandarins inside. And every year, she got it wrong. My brother hated nougat and loved marzipan. He got nougat every single year although I always reminded her that he hates it. One year, she packed the bags a little early and the mandarins had mould on them on Christmas eve. But the year she packed cheap small kitchen knives without any wrapping takes the cake. She died 8 years ago and I'd kill for one of her gift bags now.
One year, an uncle visited. He gave the nephew roughly 25 hand-me-down action movies. It was awesome. Because "boys like that stuff." He gave the niece an empty hat box. That was not awesome.
So my hubs and I we're engaged at the time, his truck had been having issues, so my mother decided a great birthday present would to be to have it fixed. She made sure to tell everyone about her thoughtful gift.... And it would have been if she didn't decide a few months later that we needed to repay her :/
My dad gave me a carton of really nice nonalcoholic white sparkling wine... but I haven't seen him this entire year because he lives 3 hours away and his wife only allows her friends and family visit so he drunk it.
For my 20th birthday I was going to Philly for the weekend with my now ex-boyfriend and my mom LOANED me $50. I thought she was kidding but she was not! I had to pay her back the following week. I'm assuming she couldn't afford to just give me the $50 because a month earlier on my older brother's birthday she bought him a laptop. He didn't have to return it or anything! It didn't really shocked me though, they always had a very close bond and I was the odd man out. My trip to Philly was awesome though!
My aunt is bad gift giver. I know that she don't like me- she married into our family and beside her husband (my uncle) hardly likes anyone from her in-laws. So most of us get cheap (and sometimes crappy) gifts. I don't want her to spend fortune on gifts, and I don't mind getting socks for Christmas,, but she could at least make sure I don't get socks 10 sizes bigger than I need. Also giving her mother-in-law Hannah Montana themed pens wasn't good idea. But one year, when I was 9 years old, she got me awesome gift. A book, The Little Prince. It's still one of my favorite books.
Every year for Christmas as a child my family parents gave me an educational toy. It would like a game like Trimatics which was a maths game or a general knowledge game. I wasn't brilliant at school to say the least and I hated being at school. Also every year I always asked for the same thing. A shop bought teddy bear. I never got one. I did however get the absolutely hideous ones my Nana made. Hers teddies were awful. They were made out of this horrible nylon material that was really scratchy and they were stuffed up so hard that you'd swear they were full of concrete.
Honey, you had a grandma who took the time to make you a teddy bear, don't be a f*****g ungrateful little bitch.
Load More Replies...My grandma is known for just buying whatever’s on the front page on Amazon… one year she got me a blue plastic “face bank”. No kidding. https://www.google.com/search?sxsrf=AOaemvKFnZ7htqs8FBwJpfDTugl0NiFq5A:1637081823060&source=univ&tbm=isch&q=face+bank+gif&hl=en-US&safe=active&client=safari&fir=3Q2wA2ubDJkLDM%252CBPGswDHrLwy31M%252C_%253BxU4iy8UF25L4EM%252CwTS2sQq78wiPNM%252C_%253B3eQy_xpbQKe05M%252CENp2tMEWfa7b1M%252C_%253BQRroX7povVivdM%252Ck-hddVkYbn34-M%252C_%253B4p55d4kJy0fYpM%252CAe7yQWjoD76V-M%252C_%253BiViavkBkwqqQKM%252CMSo-8v0sc5CAZM%252C_%253Bp3vt39crf8PjTM%252CUaejIjcWwE4E3M%252C_%253BUOZgbipRrqm1cM%252ClVZfNu1ZsV2XZM%252C_%253B-yBkbf8hljT3WM%252Ck-hddVkYbn34-M%252C_%253BTgnkFFm5_h4MuM%252CAfLHJs8DO9gzDM%252C_%253Bby5ftb5ZrSoi6M%252CuAaVVya3UVZbsM%252C_%253BeLHOX1-tWTexdM%252Ck-hddVkYbn34-M%252C_%253BtFxVgEl6v4EWJM%252CGH6wi1MrvMVGGM%252C_%253BYCvAob4t-KLnBM%252CcF00VggbBjtLKM%252C_%253B_t3LgWEZn8PKhM%252ClVZfNu1ZsV2XZM%252C_%253BFxtbHFpBmr-N-M%252CVVajjCZK4s0zXM%252C_%253
Needless to say, it went into the next White Elephant exchange. The weird part is that someone actually wanted that… nightmare fuel…
Load More Replies...Ooh I've got one for this thread! My mother-in-law gave me a pair of flannel pajama pants that were way too big (also I don't wear pajamas). I thanked her, but asked if she had the gift receipt because they were too large. Her response? "I bought them that size on purpose so that they'll still fit no matter how much BIGGER you get." I was 5 months pregnant at the time. It might have come off as a benign gesture, except for the fact that she had embarrassed me by calling me fat in front of a group of her friends at a party a few weeks prior.
She didn't call you fat, you were pregnant ffs. Why do you put so much stock on what people think of your weight?
Load More Replies...when i was really little, around 4-6, i hid my grandma's slippers and gave them back to her for Christmas..... at least i always made cards and drawings?
If Grandma/pa give you bad/ cheap presents, please remember they often are living barely day to day. Days of not eating if the electric bill is high for the month. Damn, this just reminded of all the sh*tty presents I have gotten in the past. (many of the none variety). I always try and make the gifts I give nice and special ( i stress about it for weeks).
One Christmas back in the 70s my brother and I hinted around that we wanted little portable TVs for our bedrooms. About a week before Christmas, two rather heavy presents appeared under the tree, hidden behind the others. All week we resisted the temptation to peel back the wrappings and take a peek. Christmas morning we held our excitement a little longer, unwrapping other gifts first, and finally got to the "TVs", only to find that dad had boxed and wrapped a couple bricks from the neighbor's fence for each of us. We laughed because the TV wish really was rather extravagant, and ran outside later to put the bricks back on the neighbor's fence.
I got a high-vis vest from my partner one Christmas. Not even sure why... I don't work in a trade, nor do I like to do evening walks...
When I was 10, my cat passed away and I was devastated. That x-mas, my aunt gave me a book of '101 Things to do With a Dead Cat'. I cried the rest of the day. When she passed away when I was in my 20's, I sang 'Ding Dong, The Witch is Dead' in my head for the entire funeral service. Good riddance, hag.
Last year I got a wrapped can of Spam from my brother-in-law. Not quite sure what he was thinking but we all had a good laugh.
One xmas I had to work, so to make up for it I spent my bonus money on a pre xmas shopping trip to New York (from the UK) for my then wife and her sister with some spending money - it was about 3k. They brought me back a keyring and some pancake mix. Only one of us liked pancakes too....and I think you can guess it wasn't me. xd
Disappointment. I kid you not, that is my standard Christmas present. So when my husband and I first started dating and Christmas came around he said, "Don't get me anything because I can't afford to get you anything." Well, Christmas was my favorite and I thought there was no way in hell I was not getting him something and he would at least get me something cheap...no. I gave him a percolator, cutting board, and fake leather jacket. He got me nothing. I cried. He told me that as long as I am with him, I would only get disappointment. 15 years later, that is exactly what we get each other for Christmas. We watch What Would Jesus Buy and enjoy having full bank accounts. We got money now, but disappointment is now just tradition.
If it works for you, okay. If not, tell your husband what you need. Spell it out. A lot of us have different needs than our spouses. If his attitude makes you miserable every year, tell him. Agree to a spending limit. For the first year, tell him expressly some ideas for gifts. If he still doesn't give you anything appropriate, get more help involved - therapy, family who cares, etc. He doesn't get to unilaterally decide the rules for your relationship. You deserve better.
Load More Replies...I never give anyone birthday, or Christmas or any other “expected” presents yet I am known as an extremely generous person. I give people stuff when I feel like it, not when some social norm dictates it.
There are some really crappy examples, but for big majority, I think there are enough efforts. No everyone is great with present. I didn't even know the concept of present when I was a kid, we hardly celebrate anything, I wouldn't change a thing becauae it's fine with me. But that makes most of these don't sound bad at all imo.
I got a teeth whitening kit. Because I was told my teeth are not white enough. I couldn't even use it anyways.
I hate presents. Since I begun to work I hated it. First: I'm annoyingly picky. Second: I feel so embarrassed when someone gives something to me, or even helps me!
U probably had to be independent early I guess. Its ok to accept help 💚 We are all just human
Load More Replies...My (now ex-in-laws) got my son (16 at the time) a (cheap) white shirt and tie for Christmas...the shirt was too big. His younger brother (10 at the time) got a really ugly cheap jacket (I knew where they got it from). For comparison, their other (favorite) grandson got a computer... including a monitor, keyboard and mouse. You haven't seen my sons in a decade... which obviously, is all my fault!
My worst gift was at my 10th birthday. My aunt used to keep (and sometimes breed) guinea pigs, so she decided to gift me a cub... She did not bring a cage along... We had to improvise till next morning my parents could go to store and buy a cage (aunt arrived at the evening)... We were keeping cats... I did not get to play with Snowflake :(
My mom almost always gives me things that she thinks would "improve" me. (I'm 45) Like a set of DVDs on the history of opera when I explicitly told her I hated opera. And I'm not just some chick who does not understand fine art - I studied and played classical guitar, I studied history of music etc. I just came to a conclusion that opera is not my thing. But NOOO, a cultured daughter of my mom's has to love opera! So she'd spend $$ on that CD set and be super upset that I never opened it. And that's just one example.
I was a single Mom dating a guy for about 8 months. As my birthday approached, I told him that I wanted to go out to a bar or club for my birthday. I was 34 and had never gone out anywhere for my birthday in my adult life. I wasn't asking him to pay for it, just wanted to go out. A couple days before my birthday, he told me that he had gotten me an online Magic The Gathering account and a deck or something. It cost $12. (I don't care about how much money is spent in general, but this becomes a little important.) It was honestly thoughtful, except in the fact that he completely ignore my wishes. He then told me he wasn't going to go out with me on my birthday. Fast forward 6 weeks. He takes out his friend from a previous job, a woman 12 years older, and spent about $85 on her, taking her out to - you guessed it - a bar. (First Avenue in Mpls, actually.) I married that guy. We split up 3 years later. I'm an idiot. But I still have the MTG account!
When my daughter was about 6 we bought her the Playmobil toy that she really wanted for her birthday, but when the delivery arrived she was there and it was in a big branded 'Playmobil' box - seemingly totally spoiling the surprise. So I kept making up dumb jokes about how it wasn't what she thought, that it was a toot in a box. Every time she mentioned it I say stupid things about how me and her dad had held hands and tooted into the box as a special birthday gift and she would laugh at the silly joke. But on her birthday she unwrapped the gift and inside the huge box found only one of those party blowers with a little label on it that read 'toot in a box' which I had cunningly swapped out with the real gift. Of course she still got the real toy, but I still got to ensure her gift was still a surprise!
I hate when the articles says, "Internet users have taken to the reddit group...." No. Internet users took. Past tense. Two years ago. I wanted to go the thread and share mine, but it's two years old.
Took until my late 20s for my family to realize I was growing tired of all the girly clothing they'd get me--i have NEVER cared for girly clothing, it's not my style. Even after I told people to just give me gift cards/money so I could get myself what I wanted--girly clothing is what I usually got. Thank God the family started listening.
my mom's "friend" was getting her pair of female stockings as a gift :D I mean... Christmas, home warming, birthday, whatever occasion, it's always a pair of stockings. We never figured out why and if it means anything (like in passive aggressive language). She is well off, there was no reason for such gift, if there would be a financial problem, just buy a flower, it's ok. At some point I even started asking "is aunt stockings coming for your birthday?". Needless to say, for many different reasons, this friend is not in a picture these days :)
mom was a single mom with three kids, no child support, and working two jobs. so, needless to say, money was always tight. no allowances but she would try to do little things for each of us once a month. come mother's day i found an old tarnished copper tray in a dumpster. i took it, polished it and gave it to her. (i was about 8) she oohed & aahed over it. then, when i was in my 30s i saw it in her china cupboard & asked her why she still had that. it was then she told me that she had seen me take it from the dumpster & didn't know why until i gave it to her. said it was something very precious to her because i wanted to give her something on that day. mom was great. miss you.
My parents used to guilt me into doing things with presents. Growing up, I was a happily introverted homebody. They gifted me a gym membership because they thought I didn't exercise enough and required me to go. Another year, they signed me up in a weekly class as a gift because they thought I didn't have enough friends. (I was perfectly happy. They were just extroverts, and I wasn't.) They meant well but just didn't understand me, and of course, I was polite and wouldn't disrespect their gifts. I flipped the script recently though. My mom has been teetering on retirement for years and keeps finding excuses not to retire. For her birthday this year, I gifted her a retirement countdown calendar. It is 100% peer pressure in the form of a present -- and it's working. She's agreed to retire in December.
My brother once stole something from me, wrapped it, and gave it back to me. He was roughly 13 at the time. Old enough to know better, imo.
Yeah, one time, a sister stole one of my prized books, left it by the pool to get all oogie, then gives me a new one, same title, for my BDay...!!!
Load More Replies...I'm the bad gift giver. I have no empathy, so I can't 'put myself in their shoes' and think what they would like to receive, so I have to rely on information given to me. If I hear you say you want something, that's what you'll probably get. Back when I had been dating my now wife for about 5 months, she was complaining about the lights being too bright in her bedroom and said that she wanted a dimmer switch, so that's what she got for xmas. That same year she got me a PS3 on the day it came out (some time in November) just because she knew I'd want one AND still got me a xmas present the following month. Needless to say, she's in charge for gift buying.
You have my vote - just listening is the best way!
Load More Replies...My father used to give everyone Logical gifts. Mom was a Stay at home Housewife, she must like kitchen appliances and cleaning things. Me and my sister were girls...we must want dolls and pretty things. My brothers were boys, they must've wanted race tracks and power tools. Then one Christmas, my mother opened a hand vac from my Dad, got up, stormed out and slammed the bedroom door shut. He was confused until I had him take me and my sister for a drive so we could explain. Next year, I got a Tyco race-track, my sister got a dremel, my mother got perfume, soft comfy robe and a slippers to match. My brothers got power tools...(they never complained.) Everyone was happy and my Dad learned to ask what we liked instead of giving in to gender stereo-types after that. He also learned my sister was a whiz at fixing cars. Proud papa moment when he realized that.
It’s a good thing he realized and worked on that :D
Load More Replies...Just turned 50 last week and once again my wife got me nothing. I was buying myself a cake when my nephew saw me. He said “You can’t buy your own cake Tio!”, grabbed it off the conveyor and bought it. So some really bad…and some really good this year.
My mother in law gave me religious erotic novels for Christmas one year. I gave them away at a "rewrap your crap" party where you compete for the worst gift. I won lol and it still makes me laugh thinking about them!
Is that really a thing? Novels that are religious AND erotic? Is it like fanfiction?
Load More Replies...My granny used to give us gift bags every year for Christmas with chocolate, walnuts and mandarins inside. And every year, she got it wrong. My brother hated nougat and loved marzipan. He got nougat every single year although I always reminded her that he hates it. One year, she packed the bags a little early and the mandarins had mould on them on Christmas eve. But the year she packed cheap small kitchen knives without any wrapping takes the cake. She died 8 years ago and I'd kill for one of her gift bags now.
One year, an uncle visited. He gave the nephew roughly 25 hand-me-down action movies. It was awesome. Because "boys like that stuff." He gave the niece an empty hat box. That was not awesome.
So my hubs and I we're engaged at the time, his truck had been having issues, so my mother decided a great birthday present would to be to have it fixed. She made sure to tell everyone about her thoughtful gift.... And it would have been if she didn't decide a few months later that we needed to repay her :/
My dad gave me a carton of really nice nonalcoholic white sparkling wine... but I haven't seen him this entire year because he lives 3 hours away and his wife only allows her friends and family visit so he drunk it.
For my 20th birthday I was going to Philly for the weekend with my now ex-boyfriend and my mom LOANED me $50. I thought she was kidding but she was not! I had to pay her back the following week. I'm assuming she couldn't afford to just give me the $50 because a month earlier on my older brother's birthday she bought him a laptop. He didn't have to return it or anything! It didn't really shocked me though, they always had a very close bond and I was the odd man out. My trip to Philly was awesome though!
My aunt is bad gift giver. I know that she don't like me- she married into our family and beside her husband (my uncle) hardly likes anyone from her in-laws. So most of us get cheap (and sometimes crappy) gifts. I don't want her to spend fortune on gifts, and I don't mind getting socks for Christmas,, but she could at least make sure I don't get socks 10 sizes bigger than I need. Also giving her mother-in-law Hannah Montana themed pens wasn't good idea. But one year, when I was 9 years old, she got me awesome gift. A book, The Little Prince. It's still one of my favorite books.
Every year for Christmas as a child my family parents gave me an educational toy. It would like a game like Trimatics which was a maths game or a general knowledge game. I wasn't brilliant at school to say the least and I hated being at school. Also every year I always asked for the same thing. A shop bought teddy bear. I never got one. I did however get the absolutely hideous ones my Nana made. Hers teddies were awful. They were made out of this horrible nylon material that was really scratchy and they were stuffed up so hard that you'd swear they were full of concrete.
Honey, you had a grandma who took the time to make you a teddy bear, don't be a f*****g ungrateful little bitch.
Load More Replies...My grandma is known for just buying whatever’s on the front page on Amazon… one year she got me a blue plastic “face bank”. No kidding. https://www.google.com/search?sxsrf=AOaemvKFnZ7htqs8FBwJpfDTugl0NiFq5A:1637081823060&source=univ&tbm=isch&q=face+bank+gif&hl=en-US&safe=active&client=safari&fir=3Q2wA2ubDJkLDM%252CBPGswDHrLwy31M%252C_%253BxU4iy8UF25L4EM%252CwTS2sQq78wiPNM%252C_%253B3eQy_xpbQKe05M%252CENp2tMEWfa7b1M%252C_%253BQRroX7povVivdM%252Ck-hddVkYbn34-M%252C_%253B4p55d4kJy0fYpM%252CAe7yQWjoD76V-M%252C_%253BiViavkBkwqqQKM%252CMSo-8v0sc5CAZM%252C_%253Bp3vt39crf8PjTM%252CUaejIjcWwE4E3M%252C_%253BUOZgbipRrqm1cM%252ClVZfNu1ZsV2XZM%252C_%253B-yBkbf8hljT3WM%252Ck-hddVkYbn34-M%252C_%253BTgnkFFm5_h4MuM%252CAfLHJs8DO9gzDM%252C_%253Bby5ftb5ZrSoi6M%252CuAaVVya3UVZbsM%252C_%253BeLHOX1-tWTexdM%252Ck-hddVkYbn34-M%252C_%253BtFxVgEl6v4EWJM%252CGH6wi1MrvMVGGM%252C_%253BYCvAob4t-KLnBM%252CcF00VggbBjtLKM%252C_%253B_t3LgWEZn8PKhM%252ClVZfNu1ZsV2XZM%252C_%253BFxtbHFpBmr-N-M%252CVVajjCZK4s0zXM%252C_%253
Needless to say, it went into the next White Elephant exchange. The weird part is that someone actually wanted that… nightmare fuel…
Load More Replies...Ooh I've got one for this thread! My mother-in-law gave me a pair of flannel pajama pants that were way too big (also I don't wear pajamas). I thanked her, but asked if she had the gift receipt because they were too large. Her response? "I bought them that size on purpose so that they'll still fit no matter how much BIGGER you get." I was 5 months pregnant at the time. It might have come off as a benign gesture, except for the fact that she had embarrassed me by calling me fat in front of a group of her friends at a party a few weeks prior.
She didn't call you fat, you were pregnant ffs. Why do you put so much stock on what people think of your weight?
Load More Replies...when i was really little, around 4-6, i hid my grandma's slippers and gave them back to her for Christmas..... at least i always made cards and drawings?
If Grandma/pa give you bad/ cheap presents, please remember they often are living barely day to day. Days of not eating if the electric bill is high for the month. Damn, this just reminded of all the sh*tty presents I have gotten in the past. (many of the none variety). I always try and make the gifts I give nice and special ( i stress about it for weeks).
One Christmas back in the 70s my brother and I hinted around that we wanted little portable TVs for our bedrooms. About a week before Christmas, two rather heavy presents appeared under the tree, hidden behind the others. All week we resisted the temptation to peel back the wrappings and take a peek. Christmas morning we held our excitement a little longer, unwrapping other gifts first, and finally got to the "TVs", only to find that dad had boxed and wrapped a couple bricks from the neighbor's fence for each of us. We laughed because the TV wish really was rather extravagant, and ran outside later to put the bricks back on the neighbor's fence.
I got a high-vis vest from my partner one Christmas. Not even sure why... I don't work in a trade, nor do I like to do evening walks...
When I was 10, my cat passed away and I was devastated. That x-mas, my aunt gave me a book of '101 Things to do With a Dead Cat'. I cried the rest of the day. When she passed away when I was in my 20's, I sang 'Ding Dong, The Witch is Dead' in my head for the entire funeral service. Good riddance, hag.
Last year I got a wrapped can of Spam from my brother-in-law. Not quite sure what he was thinking but we all had a good laugh.
One xmas I had to work, so to make up for it I spent my bonus money on a pre xmas shopping trip to New York (from the UK) for my then wife and her sister with some spending money - it was about 3k. They brought me back a keyring and some pancake mix. Only one of us liked pancakes too....and I think you can guess it wasn't me. xd
Disappointment. I kid you not, that is my standard Christmas present. So when my husband and I first started dating and Christmas came around he said, "Don't get me anything because I can't afford to get you anything." Well, Christmas was my favorite and I thought there was no way in hell I was not getting him something and he would at least get me something cheap...no. I gave him a percolator, cutting board, and fake leather jacket. He got me nothing. I cried. He told me that as long as I am with him, I would only get disappointment. 15 years later, that is exactly what we get each other for Christmas. We watch What Would Jesus Buy and enjoy having full bank accounts. We got money now, but disappointment is now just tradition.
If it works for you, okay. If not, tell your husband what you need. Spell it out. A lot of us have different needs than our spouses. If his attitude makes you miserable every year, tell him. Agree to a spending limit. For the first year, tell him expressly some ideas for gifts. If he still doesn't give you anything appropriate, get more help involved - therapy, family who cares, etc. He doesn't get to unilaterally decide the rules for your relationship. You deserve better.
Load More Replies...I never give anyone birthday, or Christmas or any other “expected” presents yet I am known as an extremely generous person. I give people stuff when I feel like it, not when some social norm dictates it.
There are some really crappy examples, but for big majority, I think there are enough efforts. No everyone is great with present. I didn't even know the concept of present when I was a kid, we hardly celebrate anything, I wouldn't change a thing becauae it's fine with me. But that makes most of these don't sound bad at all imo.
I got a teeth whitening kit. Because I was told my teeth are not white enough. I couldn't even use it anyways.
I hate presents. Since I begun to work I hated it. First: I'm annoyingly picky. Second: I feel so embarrassed when someone gives something to me, or even helps me!
U probably had to be independent early I guess. Its ok to accept help 💚 We are all just human
Load More Replies...My (now ex-in-laws) got my son (16 at the time) a (cheap) white shirt and tie for Christmas...the shirt was too big. His younger brother (10 at the time) got a really ugly cheap jacket (I knew where they got it from). For comparison, their other (favorite) grandson got a computer... including a monitor, keyboard and mouse. You haven't seen my sons in a decade... which obviously, is all my fault!
My worst gift was at my 10th birthday. My aunt used to keep (and sometimes breed) guinea pigs, so she decided to gift me a cub... She did not bring a cage along... We had to improvise till next morning my parents could go to store and buy a cage (aunt arrived at the evening)... We were keeping cats... I did not get to play with Snowflake :(
My mom almost always gives me things that she thinks would "improve" me. (I'm 45) Like a set of DVDs on the history of opera when I explicitly told her I hated opera. And I'm not just some chick who does not understand fine art - I studied and played classical guitar, I studied history of music etc. I just came to a conclusion that opera is not my thing. But NOOO, a cultured daughter of my mom's has to love opera! So she'd spend $$ on that CD set and be super upset that I never opened it. And that's just one example.
I was a single Mom dating a guy for about 8 months. As my birthday approached, I told him that I wanted to go out to a bar or club for my birthday. I was 34 and had never gone out anywhere for my birthday in my adult life. I wasn't asking him to pay for it, just wanted to go out. A couple days before my birthday, he told me that he had gotten me an online Magic The Gathering account and a deck or something. It cost $12. (I don't care about how much money is spent in general, but this becomes a little important.) It was honestly thoughtful, except in the fact that he completely ignore my wishes. He then told me he wasn't going to go out with me on my birthday. Fast forward 6 weeks. He takes out his friend from a previous job, a woman 12 years older, and spent about $85 on her, taking her out to - you guessed it - a bar. (First Avenue in Mpls, actually.) I married that guy. We split up 3 years later. I'm an idiot. But I still have the MTG account!
When my daughter was about 6 we bought her the Playmobil toy that she really wanted for her birthday, but when the delivery arrived she was there and it was in a big branded 'Playmobil' box - seemingly totally spoiling the surprise. So I kept making up dumb jokes about how it wasn't what she thought, that it was a toot in a box. Every time she mentioned it I say stupid things about how me and her dad had held hands and tooted into the box as a special birthday gift and she would laugh at the silly joke. But on her birthday she unwrapped the gift and inside the huge box found only one of those party blowers with a little label on it that read 'toot in a box' which I had cunningly swapped out with the real gift. Of course she still got the real toy, but I still got to ensure her gift was still a surprise!
I hate when the articles says, "Internet users have taken to the reddit group...." No. Internet users took. Past tense. Two years ago. I wanted to go the thread and share mine, but it's two years old.
Took until my late 20s for my family to realize I was growing tired of all the girly clothing they'd get me--i have NEVER cared for girly clothing, it's not my style. Even after I told people to just give me gift cards/money so I could get myself what I wanted--girly clothing is what I usually got. Thank God the family started listening.
my mom's "friend" was getting her pair of female stockings as a gift :D I mean... Christmas, home warming, birthday, whatever occasion, it's always a pair of stockings. We never figured out why and if it means anything (like in passive aggressive language). She is well off, there was no reason for such gift, if there would be a financial problem, just buy a flower, it's ok. At some point I even started asking "is aunt stockings coming for your birthday?". Needless to say, for many different reasons, this friend is not in a picture these days :)