“Left Her A Note Signed ‘What Did You Expect?’”: Roommate Gets A Taste Of Her Own Medicine After Woman She Bullied Decides To Move Out

Some things just happen in life which we have no control over. We didn’t ask for it, we didn’t deserve it, we didn’t anticipate it. In those very moments, having a close support network, be it friends or family, is crucial. Easier to navigate a boat on a rough sea when you have someone helping you out.

But when those people turn their back on you, ridiculing you for your feelings rather than helping you deal with them, one has to make the very tough decision of leaving such people behind. One proud mother decided to share her daughter’s story on the r/PettyRevenge subreddit, and hundreds of people came to offer their support.

Although this may seem like a very vague way to start the article, it’ll make a lot of sense once we get into the story. Make sure you stick around to read the similar experiences from fellow netizens, and leave your own thoughts and stories in the comments below. If you want more, here’s another article. Now let’s dive in!

Having a parent diagnosed with cancer can rain down on one like a ton of bricks, leading to panic attacks and a need for someone to be there for you

“Left Her A Note Signed ‘What Did You Expect?’”: Roommate Gets A Taste Of Her Own Medicine After Woman She Bullied Decides To Move Out

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However, when petty drama comes before being an understanding friend, things can get very messy, as they did in this story of petty revenge

“Left Her A Note Signed ‘What Did You Expect?’”: Roommate Gets A Taste Of Her Own Medicine After Woman She Bullied Decides To Move Out

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“Left Her A Note Signed ‘What Did You Expect?’”: Roommate Gets A Taste Of Her Own Medicine After Woman She Bullied Decides To Move Out

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“Left Her A Note Signed ‘What Did You Expect?’”: Roommate Gets A Taste Of Her Own Medicine After Woman She Bullied Decides To Move Out

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As stated by MayoClinic, a panic attack is a sudden episode of intense fear that triggers severe physical reactions when there is no real danger or apparent cause. Panic attacks can be very frightening for everyone involved, as one might think they’re losing control, having a heart attack or even dying.

Panic attacks may come on suddenly and without warning at first, but over time, they’re usually triggered by certain situations. Some researchers believe that it’s caused by the body’s natural fight-or-flight response to danger, although there may not be an obvious danger present. Highly traumatic events in life can lead to these developing, as it happened to the daughter in the story.

To be the devil’s advocate, it can be really difficult when someone is experiencing anxiety or panic attacks, especially when one is unfamiliar with the symptoms. However, one should never put more pressure on a person struggling, as the roommate did.

Instead, if you actually care about the person having a panic attack, try to stay calm. The Help Guide instructs to gently encourage them to breathe slowly and deeply, asking them to watch while you gently raise your arm up and down, and to encourage them to sit somewhere quietly where they can focus on their breath until they feel better. You should never encourage someone to breathe into a paper bag during a panic attack, as it may not be safe.

If you’re ever struck with an anxiety or panic attack, Mind.org.uk has some advice. Focus on your breathing and concentrate on slowing down your breath, inhaling and exhaling on the count of 5. Some people say that stomping on the spot helps them reset their breathing pattern and get back in control. Lastly, focus on your senses. Mint-flavored sweets and gum, or the soft touch of a plushie can help with grounding.

If you find that they’re becoming a common occurrence, rather than a one-off, make sure you speak with your doctor or therapist, so that you can get on the right path to healing. Life is never easy, especially when you’re fighting the good fight alone. Having a parent diagnosed with cancer is hard-hitting, and the best you can do is take care of yourself and be there as much as you can.

We wish the family all the best and hope the mom wins the fight with cancer. Hoping the daughter has a smooth healing journey as well! Let us know your thoughts on this story in the comments below and I shall see you in the next one!

Dozens of people came to support the mom and daughter, praising the latter for how she handled the situation, and sharing their own stories

“Left Her A Note Signed ‘What Did You Expect?’”: Roommate Gets A Taste Of Her Own Medicine After Woman She Bullied Decides To Move Out

There were those that empathized with the roommate, however. Leave us your thoughts on this story in the comments!

“Left Her A Note Signed ‘What Did You Expect?’”: Roommate Gets A Taste Of Her Own Medicine After Woman She Bullied Decides To Move Out

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PrettyJoyBird 1 year ago

Cant belive some of the awful comments they left the mom. Horrid. Humans can be despicable. Makes me extremely sad.

51points

XenoMurph 1 year ago

It sounds like the girl is having difficulties. It's possible the friends have become different and less caring. Or it's possible the girl has changed due to the additional stress of the cancer diagnosis, and the other girls simply cannot cope, or don't have the empathy, yet. I don't even want to think what I was like at that age. I certainly didn't have the empathy or experience to care for someone who had serious psychological issues. The last comment is very balanced. It's just a sad situation. And it's broken up the friendsships, Shame.

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Rob Van de Graaf 1 year ago

What awful comments?

6points

gas station cola 1 year ago

"awful comments"? no, REALISTIC comments. just because she has cancer & the girl is her daughter doesn't mean the mom should be protected from what could honestly be the truth. if her close friends are ALL turning away from her & her poor roommate is forced to get along with both parties due to living situation, that probably means the daughter is dumping her mental health issues on her friends who already have their own lives to deal with. they're young college students (already stressful), & one of their friends has started having panic attacks at the drop of a hat due to the very real fear her mother may die. if EVERYONE is backing off, it sounds like she's turning her problems into EVERYONE'S problems. daughter sounds incredibly toxic & honestly this behavior can easily become emotionally abusive. i have ptsd from being a friend's personal therapist & suicide watch 24/7 for 4 years. it was the worst time of my life. i don't blame the girls for trying to avoid the same fate.

3points

Mary Rogers 1 year ago

@gas station Be careful with trying to fill in the blanks based on your experience. Yes, as someone who has dealt with mental health issues, we can overwhelm others with our issues. But there is no indication that this lady has been suicidal and overwhelming people the way that you are suggesting. If it's just panic attacks and nothing else, then her friends may be overreacting. I am sorry, but 19 year olds are usually not known for their developed sense of empathy. That takes time and maturity. I am sorry about what happened to you because it does sound like too much for a person to handle, but be careful of throwing around insults like "toxic" about total strangers. The bottom line: NONE of us knows the whole story. It is also incredibly toxic to throw out labels such as "incredibly toxic" at people who struggle with mental health issues.

11points

Panda Kicki 1 year ago

Well, as some comments said, we only have one side of the story. No matter how the issue has been, yes they handle it very badly but we have no idea if the girls indeed tried to signal that they couldnt cope or not. I wonder if it had been a long process of nightly calls, hour long talk and simply to much grief and anxeity to handle for the friends. The therapist wasnt enough, but I wish they could have sat down with a neutral part who could habe helped them found a balance between a level of support they where comfortable with and her needs. All have life, studies and own problem. And is very young. The option to simply go no contact may have been very tempting.

31points

Vira 1 year ago

I don't know about that. The roommate joining the group, being a friend while the other girls backed out, and then finally turning. That all sounds like triangulation. It sounds like the new girl turned them all against OP 's daughter, so she could have control over someone vulnerable. It just didn't work because the daughter had a way out, and took it. I understand the girls might not have been able to handle Daughter's stress, but clearly disregarding a request for them to not come over during work/finals days is just beyond disrespectful and signals something else besides the friends being overwhelmed.

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