“The True Stupidity Of Earth”: 50 Spot-On Posts That Perfectly Illustrate Work In A Restaurant
Interview With ExpertWorking in the food service industry isn’t all fun and games. It’s grueling, repetitive work that isn’t always rewarded as generously as it should be. And very often, as a server or chef, you’ll also end up emotionally exhausted after dealing with people and stressful situations all day long. Some customers are great, sure. But there will always be at least a handful of less empathetic ones who will make you question your choice of career.
To show you some of the challenges these hard-working employees face, our team at Bored Panda has collected some of their top posts and vents about what they constantly deal with. Scroll down to take a look. If you’ve ever worked at a restaurant, you might find these takes incredibly relatable!
Bored Panda reached out to Jaime-Alexis Fowler, the founder and executive director of the non-profit organization ‘Empower Work,' for some advice on handling negative emotions and stress in customer-facing roles. Read on to see what she told us.
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The Most Hateful Meal
Revenge is a dish best served cold, does that count?
"It can be really hard to be in customer-facing roles, especially as negative behavior has increased. We're all people doing our best to provide the best support that we can. Sometimes, that gets lost amidst the demands and pressures. We see folks reach out to the Empower Work text line regularly who are dealing with frustrating customer interactions or lack of support from management to deal with them," Fowler told Bored Panda in an email.
"We encourage folks to find ways that work for them to manage the stress. For some, that might be creating structures to their day, like breathing exercises to let go of situations as they transition from work."
Fowler said that for some employees, other ways to manage all of that work-related stress might include taking some time off... or even finding another job entirely.
Who The Chef Really Is
"Mumbles incoherently and continues working"
Load More Replies...I remember when we went to a pizza place and their pizza was amazing! I'm quite sure that it was the best pizza we ever had, so we asked if we can buy the chef a drink (it is not uncommon here). They told us no, because he is 16. It was a student. Then we learned that this place does this from time to time, they pick a talented student and let him (or her) work there (with normal salary), because their boss absolutely hates how culinary schools here operate. He picks a new apprentice every two years or so and then they leave to work in Michelin star restaurants at age 18 to 20 with 4 years of experience. He definitely understood the "be the change you want to see in the world".
Chances are Tyler just about knows how to use the fryer, the grill and the microwave. People are delusional about how many restaurants rely heavily on convenience produced for that purpose. Like there are entire fares for that. And they produce for different levels of restaurants. Like sure, maybe Tyler is a cooking genius, but OP doesn't make it sound like that. More like: the convenience chili the boss bought is of decend quality (otherwise the boss would be f****d every time some stoner cook would change his mind about working.)
Load More Replies...You mean he's been getting paid to cook for 3 weeks. I guarantee a 19yo line cook has been getting stoned and cooking for at least 5 years.
Right? And probably making some bomb a$$ grub. lol
Load More Replies...As Gordon Ramsey says, compliments to chef Mike, meaning microwave.
A friend of mine worked at Bertucci's, where the "menu is handcrafted from the heart" (their words) and her customers would occasionally gush over the meals causing her to bite her tongue. They were all premade, shipped/stored in plastic bags, that the "chefs" would cut open, dump in a skillet and reheat.
Then Tyler must be doing a really good job for 3 weeks and being stoned out of his mind.
The Uselessness Of Signs
My ex was like this. The sign would say 'close' and he would be like 'whats the harm in asking'
Still, others might benefit from small shifts in their daily schedule, like changing their commute to "walk off some of the stress."
"We all handle stressors differently. What's important is finding a space or support to work through the approaches that work for you," Fowler told us.
We asked her for some advice for managers on how they can support their staff who have to face dissatisfied customers.
According to Fowler, the first and foremost that they ought to do is have structures and processes in place for how to handle customers and escalation paths if needed.
She said that part of those approaches should include the assurance that in hard situations, management will support their staff. If you face challenges at work, including with customer interactions, you can visit the 'Empower Work' website or contact their text line for support via 510-674-1414.
The True Stupidity Of Earth
Got Your Back
Oops
The food service industry is absolutely gargantuan in the United States. It encompasses everything related to food prepared outside of one’s home, from full-service and quick-service (e.g., fast food) restaurants to catering, cafes, private chefs, and more. Statista reports that the largest share of employment in the US food service industry came from waiters and waitresses in 2022. On the other side of the scale, private cooks made up the smallest share of employment that year.
In 2022, the American food service and drinking place industry as a whole reached earnings of a jaw-dropping $975.9 billion. That’s just shy of a trillion!
In 2023, that trillion-dollar mark was breached, with the sales in the industry reaching an eye-watering $1.09 trillion, supporting 13.2 million employees. Statista notes that there were over 2.1 million servers in the US in 2022, and more than 2.2 million in 2023.
As A Person Who Worked In Retail, All I Can Say Is Very Accurate
Every Time, All While Saying "Sorry, Sorry, Sorry"
An Inspiration To Us All
With the size of the industry in mind, it only makes sense to take the workplace issues that the employees in this market face very seriously. Good managers ought to care about their staff’s welfare. Meanwhile, good business leaders know that motivated, well-compensanted, and properly supported employees are loyal and get better results.
Online food delivery is also massive and continues to get ever more popular. The US has the second-biggest online food delivery market after China. In 2023, the size of this market in the US stood at around $270 billion. Grocery delivery brought in $182.9 billion while meal delivery was worth $86.9 billion in revenue.
WebstaurantStore reports that nearly 750k restaurants were operating in the US in 2023. An overwhelming number of them—9 out of 10—were small businesses with fewer than 50 staff members. Meanwhile, 7 out of 10 restaurants were single-unit operations. Most American adults (63%) have worked in the restaurant industry at some point in their lives.
And Salt
When life gives you a cut anywhere remotely near your hands, hope really hard that it doesn’t also give you lemons.
She Knows What's What
Those are the same people who call Kamala Harris a fascist and then say that the Democrats should not be calling anyone fascists. Hypocrites the lot of them.
The Honest Truth
The sad reality is that many servers have to deal with rudeness, disrespect, and entitled behavior on a constant basis. One server and popular content creator, Quinn, previously opened up to Bored Panda about how a customer came in, started filming him, and set up a game for him to play for his tips.
He said that many employees don’t stand up for themselves because they’re scared of getting fired if some of their customers were to complain about them.
Can't Get Any More Accurate Than That
This is so insane to me, that is what managers are for. I have never once had to look for someone to cover my shift here in Germany.
It Makes You More Patient With Stupid People And Also Makes You Way Less Irritable When Places Are Running Behind/Messing Things Up
There’s Multitasking And Then There’s Multitasking
“We can’t change how people think, however, if servers realized their job is just a job and stood up for themselves more often and had managers who backed their servers up more often instead of allowing such behavior from these guests, I think we’d see a massive improvement in the workplace of restaurants,” the server told us in an earlier interview.
At Least He Took It Well
I have a blind friend who absolutely loves slip-ups like this 😁
If You Have Ever Picked Up One Of These With Your Bare Hands, You Don't Need To Worry About What's In The Vaccine
Ugh I hate Ergo-Mats. Just buy good non skid shoes. Had a server once who broke her ankle in teh dish pit because she refused to wear anything besides her oh so fashionable Nikes.
They Are So Bad At Reading The Room
BECAUSE YOU GO THERE ON HOLIDAYS! I personally don't mind working holidays, I usually make good tips, I get leftovers 🤤, and I'm not too crazy about holidays. But when I'm taking a guests order on Thanksgiving and they say something like 'aw, it's a shame you have to work today', it drives me nuts. Just come in, be courteous, and tip them well! 😁
“Servers are people and just because they’re in the industry doesn’t mean they’re beneath you. In fact, some A-list celebrities used to be servers: Chris Pratt, Chris Rock, Lady Gaga, Jon Hamm, Jennifer Aniston. A lot of important people used to be in the service industry, not just celebrities, people in science, people in our justice system, and doctors. Just treat them for who they are—PEOPLE.”
Been There
Silly. You're Supposed To Balance It On Your Head
I Showed This To The 56-Year-Old Who Sitting Next To Me And His Response Was “I Don’t Understand What That Means”
Ms. Lisa celebrated when I got my license and then about 10 minutes later told me that she wanted to marry Steve Perry.
Not all rude customers are alike. Some folks are decent but they’ve had an awful day, and they snap (even though they shouldn't). Others are used to always getting their way, so they resort to bullying and manipulation.
Servers with lots of experience can often instinctively tell who’s who, and how to deal with each category of people.
Truer Words Were Never Spoken
Nothing Like When The Doors Are Already Locked And They Start Aggressively Tugging On The Doors From The Outside Though
Mine Was Mr. Pickles Because I Asked For Extra Pickles On My Sub
My husband goes everyday to Wawa to get a soda. They call him pop guy because that’s what he calls soda. Anyways, my son got a job there and they didn’t know “pop guy” was his dad. While my son was working my husband went to get his soda but also bought a candy bar and threw at our son on his way out. Sons coworkers look at him like WTF and son told them that his dad. They were shocked. “Pop guy is your dad?!?” A legend was made that day
Often, unhappy customers just want to be heard and their criticism shouldn’t be taken personally. A dash of empathy and some active listening from the server’s side can work wonders in these situations.
It can be a ton of help if your manager roleplays with you and walks you through some potential scenarios with rude customers. Meanwhile, managers should always be available to support their newer staff members and step in if they have trouble handling negative and entitled people.
"I’m Scheduled Until 8, So I’ll Probably Be Off Around 10"
My ex-husband manages one of the most popular local restaurants in our area. His days off are Tuesday and Wednesday. He has a friend who regularly comes into town on the weekends and for several years would text me (when my ex and I were still married) to see if my husband had the weekend off. He texted me because (surprise!) my husband WAS ALWAYS WORKING WHEN HE WOULD COME UP. Dude never got it through his head that he was either going to have to come up mid-week or stay overnight on Friday or Saturday in order to see my husband.
Newbies vs. Old Vets
How does 86 cherries mean no cherries? Sincerely, a confused high schooler who works in an ice cream place and would definitely give this guy 86 cherries
I Mean He Ain’t Wrong
Have you ever worked in the food service industry, dear Pandas? Do you have a lot of experience as a server, chef, or bartender? What are the weirdest situations you’ve ever been in with customers?
What advice would you give anyone who’s completely new to working at a restaurant? We’d love to hear all about your job stories, so if you’re taking a coffee break, share your experiences in the comments at the bottom of this list.
As A Server, I Promise You We Noticed Everyone That Makes Our Restaurant Their First Date Spot
Not a surprise, actually. In my experience, servers have to be observant so they can take proper care of their customers.
The Reasonable Requests
The List Of Allergies A Table Handed Us On NYE (The Set Menu Was Surf & Turf)
Public service announcement: "If you have life-threatening dietary restrictions please check the menu beforehand and contact the restaurant to ensure accommodations can be made. Thank you".
With that list of allergies, take the hint. Mother nature has decided your branch of the gene pool is defunct and is trying to take you out like Agent 47.
Using Your Coworkers As Free Therapists
I know better than to vent to anyone at my work. Never know who's a spy, who's a narc, who's a gossip, and who's the real manager's pet.
Foodservice In A Nutshell
The Highest Quality Speakers
It Really Is
Changing One Of Those Bad Boys In A Lunch Rush Is An Extreme Sport
Bit Harsh
The Least Welcome Version Of Small Talk
The Generational Difference
Facts
Not To Mention We Had A Solid 50 Other People Ordering Food
That’s Today’s Society For You
Charge them twice... When they object, tell your manager this exact thing.... It went out of the kitchen OK, got to the table OK, was OK itself, the customer ordered it and then sent it back with nothing wrong with it. They should pay for it AND the repeat order.
The Staff Have Got Enough To Do And We Clear Our Own Mess
So irritating, especially when the bin is probably ten steps away from their table.
Hahahah, Why Do I Relate To This Back On My Old Sales Days
Never say ‘sorry for the wait’. Instead, try ‘thank you for your patience’.
Better Not To Know What Is Happening Behind The Scenes
Accurate
"Could you please pass along my dissatisfaction with how this is structured?"
Simple Timetable
Then why tell customers you're open til that time? Just have an orders cut off time.
The Intense Heat
I once went out with a group of a dozen. We had a copy of the menu distibuted to everyone beforehand, collected the orders and posted them in advance for the restaurants convenience and to speed things up. I, having waitressed before, took a picture of the order for future reference. Said refence happened when the plates arrived at the table, because at least four people couldn't remember what they had ordered. Duh.
Opening The Box Was The Hardest Thing For Me
I Always Say Sorry I Left My 3rd Arm At Home Today
My favorite restaurant always brings out the entire order on a cart. They choose to have fewer tables to make this work, but the wait staff seems happier for it. Prices are near the high end, but I don't care.
I Work In An Upscale Seafood Restaurant And Get Order Like This All Day
My partner and I could relate to every single one here, as we've both worked in restaurants and bars. Please be nice to the staff they are people too and do not need your b******t they have had it all day from most of their customers.
Odd that options skip the most common jobs in a kitchen. It's not a bunch of chefs and a dishwasher. It's a chef, a bunch of underlings and dishwashers.
I completely agree with Trillian below. How bloody rude some people are when the waiter person arrives with the food, and instead of claiming what you ordered and saying thank you, the bastards just keep talking and ignore the wait person.
I don't do their stupid surveys, but for me, dishwasher is the EASIEST job, by far! I've worked in food-service for 25 years, and I can relate to every one of these entries, lol. But just this year I started a job as a dishwasher. It's the first time I've ever done that as my hired position. And I LOVE it!! I'm left alone, I can work at my own pace, I can play music, and best of all, I don't have to deal with a single customer, all night long!! It's amazing. I am absolutely thriving. And my job loves me, too. They gave me a raise before I even hit my 90 days!! I was nervous about making this change, because like I said, I'd never done it before. But I'm SO glad I did!! My only regret is that I didn't do so much sooner, lol!
When I first started work in hospitality my manager told me, look after your KPs, they are the one member of staff that can break our kitchen AND front of house in minutes. Our KPs were a great bunch, they kept spirits up, they worked hard, they didn’t suffer fools and honestly they earned every penny of their paycheck. I’ve carried that advice through my working life, look for the members of the team that are the ones who are the behind the scenes but are making stuff happen. Kitchen Porters, you are MVPs but get paid poorly. PS we all ensured tips were split so KPs & Chefs got a share. UK business so tips are relied upon to make rent.
If the KPs can make or break the place, then they should be paid much higher, and not have to depend on the kindness of those that were tipped.
Load More Replies...I would've never survived if it wasn't for those serving platters.
My partner and I could relate to every single one here, as we've both worked in restaurants and bars. Please be nice to the staff they are people too and do not need your b******t they have had it all day from most of their customers.
Odd that options skip the most common jobs in a kitchen. It's not a bunch of chefs and a dishwasher. It's a chef, a bunch of underlings and dishwashers.
I completely agree with Trillian below. How bloody rude some people are when the waiter person arrives with the food, and instead of claiming what you ordered and saying thank you, the bastards just keep talking and ignore the wait person.
I don't do their stupid surveys, but for me, dishwasher is the EASIEST job, by far! I've worked in food-service for 25 years, and I can relate to every one of these entries, lol. But just this year I started a job as a dishwasher. It's the first time I've ever done that as my hired position. And I LOVE it!! I'm left alone, I can work at my own pace, I can play music, and best of all, I don't have to deal with a single customer, all night long!! It's amazing. I am absolutely thriving. And my job loves me, too. They gave me a raise before I even hit my 90 days!! I was nervous about making this change, because like I said, I'd never done it before. But I'm SO glad I did!! My only regret is that I didn't do so much sooner, lol!
When I first started work in hospitality my manager told me, look after your KPs, they are the one member of staff that can break our kitchen AND front of house in minutes. Our KPs were a great bunch, they kept spirits up, they worked hard, they didn’t suffer fools and honestly they earned every penny of their paycheck. I’ve carried that advice through my working life, look for the members of the team that are the ones who are the behind the scenes but are making stuff happen. Kitchen Porters, you are MVPs but get paid poorly. PS we all ensured tips were split so KPs & Chefs got a share. UK business so tips are relied upon to make rent.
If the KPs can make or break the place, then they should be paid much higher, and not have to depend on the kindness of those that were tipped.
Load More Replies...I would've never survived if it wasn't for those serving platters.