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Ex Wants To See His Kids But Won’t Lift A Finger, Livid When Mom Refuses To Drive Them To See Him
Many times, it so happens that when a couple fights, it’s the kids who also have to suffer the consequences. Because believe it or not, adult fights massively impact children. But when a partner or ex-partner is not being cooperative, there’s not much a person can do except give them a taste of their own medicine.
And the original poster (OP) did the same by refusing to drive the kids to her ex-husband’s house as he wouldn’t pay child support. Well, he was extremely furious and started saying vile things to her.
More info: Reddit
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The poster of this story has teenagers and her ex can’t drive, but it was his day to have the kids, so he expected her to drive them to his house
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The ex-husband has been withholding the child maintenance money that he owes her and using derogatory language while texting her
Image credits: ThrowRANervous_
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As the poster refused to drive the kids to his house, he said that she was stopping him from seeing them
Image credits: ThrowRANervous_
But she said that since it was his day to have them, he could come and pick them up as his new partner has a car
In today’s story, our female protagonist ThrowRANervous_ tells us about her toxic ex-husband and we realize why he’s the ex. Her children are teenagers and it was her ex’s day to have them over. Well, he “expected” them to be dropped off at his house, which is around 8 miles away, so a 20-minute drive.
Now, the ex doesn’t drive and doesn’t have a license. And he has also been withholding the child maintenance money that he owes her. On top of that, he called OP a money-grabbing jerk and used really foul language while texting her. The poster also commented later that he used to mistreat her financially and mentally when they were married.
It must be quite annoying to go through it, even now that they’re no longer together. He even claimed that by not driving their kids to him, she was stopping him from seeing them. But she said that she was in no way stopping them, she was just refusing to drive them. And anyway, why should she, when it was his day to have them over, so his responsibility?
So she informed him that she was no longer going to drive them and if he wanted, he could come and pick them up as his new partner has a car. Well, this did work, as OP updated later that he was coming in the afternoon to pick them up, presumably with his partner.
OP also updated that after posting the story, she reported him to Child Maintenance Service and requested to switch to collect and pay from his wages. For this, he’d have to pay an additional 20%, but he did pay what he was supposed to directly to the poster.
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After the poster vented on Reddit, people were quite furious with the man and his abysmal behavior towards her. But they were most worried about their kids. They felt that the children were suffering without any fault of theirs as they had to witness all the terrible things between the adults.
It has been observed, “When parents repeatedly use hostile strategies with each other, some children can become distraught, worried, anxious, and hopeless. Others may react outwardly with anger, becoming aggressive, and develop behavior problems at home and at school.”
Well, it seems like the Redditors’ worries were justifiable and the adults’ fight might adversely impact them. OP mentioned that she had spoken to the kids about all this and she was forced to ask for the money from him. And while he earns quite a lot, she has been hustling with 2 jobs and earning minimum wage. So, we can understand how terrible she must be feeling in all this.
As per MedicalNewsToday, “Verbal abuse is a form of emotional abuse in which a person uses words or threats to gain or maintain power and control over someone. Being on the receiving end of verbal abuse can cause emotional or psychological harm, making a person question their own intelligence, value, or self-worth.”
It looks like the ex’s foul language is already taking a toll on the poster as she mentioned that he made her feel like a jerk. But many folks empathized with her and advised her to use co-parenting apps rather than letting him text her and continuously mistreat her.
If you were in the poster’s shoes, how would you handle a toxic ex-partner? Also, if you have any advice for OP, just drop down everything in the comments section.
Netizens said that he is just a lazy, arrogant person and they’re glad that he’s her ex, they also advised using co-parenting apps to avoid him
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Bouche and Audi and Shyla, Oh My! 4 months ago
He doesn't owe his ex the money. He owes his children the money.
Chirp 4 months ago
Exactly! I got divorced in California and child support was fixed - they looked at income of each parent to set the amount. Both parties could agree to more but they couldn't make it less.
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Broadredpanda 4 months ago
It makes me sick that women are called "money grabbing c**ts" by the absent father!!!! WITHHOLDING CHILD SUPPORT????? they must have stopped eating, growing and everything in between? Honestly f**k yous. I'm from the uk and through the child support agency (it's now scrapped) I got £10 every two weeks. When that was scrapped I got nothing NOTHING!!!! He had visitations, but neither of us had a car. He was the money grabbing miser and my daughter has NOTHING to thank him for!!! She's 24 and knows who actually parented her. That's all that matters. I encourage her to have a relationship with him, but he doesn't bother? Why should she? This person is loved by everyone, but none of them had to live with him, who brought me down lower than I was already. He is different with everyone else. He's the lid of the bullying I've suffered all my life, and the reason I've been on my own for 22 years. I've just found out he followed me home to my new place. He scares me so much!!!!
MoMcB 4 months ago
Report him. I'm in the UK too, the CSA awarded me £36 per month, didn't even pay for school dinners. I said nothing about him to my daughter, he never used his visitation, as he was an alcoholic, and after he passed out using a visitation, I insisted on a responsible person being there (could be a member of his family, it was about safety for my daughter), and he didn't like that. She worked it out herself when she was old enough, went to visit a couple of times, but that's stopped now. Regarding the stalking, report him to the Police. I had that joy too, spoke to the Police, and they visited him. It stopped. I am worried about you. Please talk to someone ASAP.
Load More Replies... El Dee 4 months ago
When parents can GENUINELY think of their kids first and set aside how they feel about the other parent (who may well be a d**k) these problems will be minimal. Those that DO arise are ones that you cannot avoid or change. Children see and hear EVERYTHING. Never let ANYONE put you in a position where you could even remotely be thought of as the 'bad guy' This REALLY upsets your kids and damages your relationship long term. I have lived through worse than this with my ex and managed not to react (openly) I have a relationship with my child and with step children whereas my ex has limited interaction with them..
YukiChou 4 months ago
My parents never ever fought when we were present. Their divorce was a huge shock for me as a 12 year old. If we asked our father for something and he said no, then went to our mother, or vice versa, they'd already spoken on the phone about it before we could reach the other parent. They were always agreeing about us children, just not with themselves as a couple.
Load More Replies... Bouche and Audi and Shyla, Oh My! 4 months ago
He doesn't owe his ex the money. He owes his children the money.
Chirp 4 months ago
Exactly! I got divorced in California and child support was fixed - they looked at income of each parent to set the amount. Both parties could agree to more but they couldn't make it less.
Load More Replies... Broadredpanda 4 months ago
It makes me sick that women are called "money grabbing c**ts" by the absent father!!!! WITHHOLDING CHILD SUPPORT????? they must have stopped eating, growing and everything in between? Honestly f**k yous. I'm from the uk and through the child support agency (it's now scrapped) I got £10 every two weeks. When that was scrapped I got nothing NOTHING!!!! He had visitations, but neither of us had a car. He was the money grabbing miser and my daughter has NOTHING to thank him for!!! She's 24 and knows who actually parented her. That's all that matters. I encourage her to have a relationship with him, but he doesn't bother? Why should she? This person is loved by everyone, but none of them had to live with him, who brought me down lower than I was already. He is different with everyone else. He's the lid of the bullying I've suffered all my life, and the reason I've been on my own for 22 years. I've just found out he followed me home to my new place. He scares me so much!!!!
MoMcB 4 months ago
Report him. I'm in the UK too, the CSA awarded me £36 per month, didn't even pay for school dinners. I said nothing about him to my daughter, he never used his visitation, as he was an alcoholic, and after he passed out using a visitation, I insisted on a responsible person being there (could be a member of his family, it was about safety for my daughter), and he didn't like that. She worked it out herself when she was old enough, went to visit a couple of times, but that's stopped now. Regarding the stalking, report him to the Police. I had that joy too, spoke to the Police, and they visited him. It stopped. I am worried about you. Please talk to someone ASAP.
Load More Replies... El Dee 4 months ago
When parents can GENUINELY think of their kids first and set aside how they feel about the other parent (who may well be a d**k) these problems will be minimal. Those that DO arise are ones that you cannot avoid or change. Children see and hear EVERYTHING. Never let ANYONE put you in a position where you could even remotely be thought of as the 'bad guy' This REALLY upsets your kids and damages your relationship long term. I have lived through worse than this with my ex and managed not to react (openly) I have a relationship with my child and with step children whereas my ex has limited interaction with them..
YukiChou 4 months ago
My parents never ever fought when we were present. Their divorce was a huge shock for me as a 12 year old. If we asked our father for something and he said no, then went to our mother, or vice versa, they'd already spoken on the phone about it before we could reach the other parent. They were always agreeing about us children, just not with themselves as a couple.
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