I absolutely hate it when people refer to cheating as a “mistake.” Like sure, it’s a mistake in the sense that you shouldn’t have done it. When you knowingly and deliberately betray someone in a way that cannot be undone, that is a decision, and you should use language that shows you understand that. “We all make mistakes” - yes. We forget to pay back a friend for dinner, we merge into another car, we say hurtful things in the heat of the moment. Cheating on your partner is a choice. You can regret all of it, but don’t act like it’s the same thing.

The only mistake that can be linked to cheating is to mistakenly think you're gonna be forgiven. At least I wouldn't.

Mistake? She wasn't walking down the sidewalk, slip on a banana peel and land on a d**k. GTFO.

"It was a mistake!" Yeah... no. There are a dozen different decisions that happen before cheating. Not dismissing the idiotic idea immediately; starting the flirting; letting it get heavy; agreeing to go somewhere with the stranger; taking the clothes off; etc. This lady made a whole bunch of selfish and awful decisions IN A ROW.

someone i kno was cheated on and he told her about it. she forgave him. fast forward a year they were engaged a few months before the wedding he cheated again. he asked for forgivness again but she said no bc he promised it would never happen again and it did. she now has a new guy and they r engaged and he cares about her so much and his son treats her as if she is his mom. my husband and i have never seen her so happy. best part wen she left her ex she took the dog and bc everyone was on her side he didnt say a word about it. so she has an amazing relationship and still has her canine best friend and doesnt need to share him.

So he's the bad one now because he is unforgiving of a mistake. Way to go

If you have a good relationship, why do you have to know "if you still got it"? Every women who walks into a bar can find someone to have sex with. It is not that hard! My neighbour of 82 still has lovers and she moves around with her walker!

I imagine she only told him in case one of her friends dropped her in it. OP - NTA. 'Once a cheat, always a cheat'.

Please be checked for STDs. Why don't people think about these anymore? All we need is another epidemic similar to AIDS and everyone will be blaming each other again and taking it out on scapegoats.

She didn't make a mistake. She made a bad decision. Now you have to decide what the consequences are for you as a couple. Can you trust her again, or is your trust irrepairably damaged? It sounds like you want to break up.

Nah, bro, you did the right thing. If she did it once she'll do it again (and probably has), especially since her friends are trash and will push her to cheat.

You can't be with someone you don't trust, and you cannot trust a cheater.

I don't believe in the "once a cheater always a cheater" thing, but it should be OP's decision whether it's a deal breaker for him. Some couples can move past it, some can't. It's no one else's call. And I can understand why it hurts more to him that she did it for such a s****y reason.

She didn't even accidentally slip and fall on a dong in this one.

Bye, Felicia

I don't remember what it's in, but I saw a scene in a movie or a TV show where a guy insists that his cheating was an accident and the angry girlfriend says "oh, so your fly was open and you just tripped over and your d**k accidentally landed inside her?"

As they say on Letterkenny: "If he (or she) cheats, it's over. No exceptions."

She didn't make a mistake, she made a choice to go screw some stranger. She put her health and possibly life and yours in danger! She's stupid and can go screw whoever she wants and hopefully will make sure they are using rubbers.

I call BS. You can tell if you still "have it" without having to sleep with a random stranger. If he lets her get away with it she'll just do it again in 5, 10 years to make sure she's still got it, expecting forgiveness. I'd tell her I'm not so sure she still has it, as some people will sleep with anyone, regardless of if they are hot or not. Hope he left for good!

Oh Rachel still has IT alright, except "IT" is not OP. What a pathetic excuse from a two-timing ego-mistress and the equally sh*tbucket, enabling excuse of "friends" as well. OP did right to drop the ego-mistress and hopefully he drops the bunch of ego-mongers as well. SMH!!!