I don't believe she "threw" the child. I think what a lot of these people are saying is correct, she might have pushed him away or even dropped him if she was holding him, but that would have been a reflexive thing to do after getting stabbed/jabbed in the ear.

From what I've read here, there are 2 separate issues which are not related. One is looking after your sister and paying for everything, for which I trust she's grateful. The other is the accident. This seems to have been quite a shock for your sister, who reflexly reacted to the pain in her ear. Sounds like the toddler accidentally fell to the floor when your sister jerked away from him. I'm sure she's terribly remorseful for what happened. Had it been me, I would have felt terrible, but at the same time, worried as hell that I may have lost hearing permanently in that ear.

Can't believe all the people calling the baby a sociopath, he isn't even two yet! That said, they need to give him consequences or hw will be impossible.

A punctured eardrum is painful and doubly so if stabbed. The kid needs some parenting. It’s probably time for the student to get a part time job and live elsewhere to finish school. Even if the commute is longer.

Some of these details sound a bit embellished. I’ve been a first time mum - I get how OP feels that she can’t do a lot of things with her toddler around and asks for help from the sister, but I do wonder how she’ll cope without her? OP also doesn’t sound particularly confident in guiding the toddlers behaviour, either, but, again what first time parent (or any parent ) is? They do sound just a bit pedantic, though. I have had 3 quite feral toddlers, all close in age, and while I didn’t wear delicate necklaces or dangley earrings for about a decade due to the potential for them being grabbed, I never felt compelled to never wear a plastic headband on the freakish off-chance that it might be grabbed from my head and jabbed in my ear while I was doing something on my phone for a quick minute (which, by the way, is a normal and necessary thing parents often have to do, anyway). The story sounds a bit contrived and OP sounds a bit painful.

I think YTA actually. She was physically injured and did not "throw" your toddler. She probably let go or pushed him away because it's a PAIN RESPONSE. Does that mean she shouldn't be remorseful? Of course not. But accidents do happen, and this was not done out of some violent impulse where she's going to hurt him on purpose. YOU would have had the same physical impulse if YOUR eardrum was ruptured. Do you have any idea how painful that is? You're exaggerating in your title for views no doubt, making it seem as if she chucked him for the fun of it. Whether you owe her a college education is another matter entirely, but it's NOT related to this incident. If you promised her 2 years funding, you should follow through with that. Sinking her life plan bc of an accident is not an equal return for this incident.

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I have suffered eardrum damage. There is no way she did it on purpose.

Has this person ever heard of a play pen? Kids can very easily stay an hour in there, if they get interesting stuff to entertain themselves. The US are the country in which toddlers are put on a leash, so a play pen shouldn't be thst big of a problem.

The child is undisciplined and her sister is immature. Bad combination. I had a toddler once and never had to tell a caregiver to remove their jewelry and any headband.

A paid baby sitter got injured because rule one don't wear s**t he can grab was broken. He grabbed it an stuffed in into her ear. Out of shock she pushed a toddler away. Ok he fell. They bounce. Both were in the wrong. Your paid the bills. She can't hear for half a year. He got a bump an small concussion. Kids are accidents waiting to happen. Get a f*****g nanny to watch him. Leave her alone with the babysitting job. Let her do her school. She should be lucky this family is paying her way an do more around the house. Like clean so you would not have to ask for her help. Or cook. Or go into a diff room to study or play on her phone and ignore the kiddo. Just suck it up as an accident an get a nanny.

The child had a concussion....and you don't think she threw him? Getting poked in the ear has never once made me drop my child or throw her. That's just me, though. 🤷‍♀️Getting peed on never made me drop her. Getting her finger in my eye while tickling never made me drop her.

Ever had a punctured eardrum? It's painful.....add to that pain the threat of having your hearing permanently damaged and i don't think she "threw" the little brat, but reflexively tried to get away from the thing STABBING HER IN THE EAR. I think that deserves repeating. The child was stabbing her in the ear with enough force to puncture her ear drum. Been around a lot of kids in my life, never encountered a single one that did anything like that. Perhaps this "gentle" / youtube parenting method, isn't having a positive influence.....especially when YOU admit that whatever action you're taking is ineffective in changing behavior. Might be time to....ya know, actually be a parent. Raise your voice, show a bit of anger when it's merited....because if all you're getting is laughter in response to your "consequences" you're not doing it right. I sincerely hope the next ear drum the kid punctures is yours, be sure to let everyone know how calm and collected you were.

The sister belongs in jail. A concussion with a child that young always results in brain damage and permanent effects. She knew all too well what to not do and on top of that prioritiezed her phone over the toddler.