Settling down is like gambling – you never know if it’s actually going to work out. You might think you know the person well; perhaps, you’ve been those high school sweethearts, or love’s got you blinded, and you believe that the bond will last forever.

People change, and even if your loved one promised to be with you through thick and thin – there’s no guarantee that the promise will be kept.

Life happens, and there’s a chance that your once beloved spouse will make your existence a complete hell, but what’s worse is having children involved in this traumatic experience.

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Sometimes you hate the father of your child so much that you’re willing to sign away your parental rights

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“AITA for refusing to meet my biological daughter? (I gave up my parental rights years ago)” – this online user took it to one of Reddit’s most popular communities to seek advice from the members and find out whether she’s indeed a jerk for refusing to meet her biological child that was adopted by her former spouse’s mistress. The post received nearly 18K upvotes and 4.8K worth of comments discussing this emotional situation.

Cheating ex got in touch with woman saying her biological child wants to meet her, she refused and told him to never contact her again

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The author began her post by revealing that many years ago, she was married to a man named Mark; a couple of years into the marriage, the poor woman found out that her spouse was cheating on her and had managed to get his mistress knocked up. It was a huge shock because the OP was pregnant with his child too.

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She was only 9 weeks pregnant and was determined to get a divorce and have an abortion – however, the man begged her to reconsider and insisted that she give their relationship a second chance.

The woman had a very traumatic pregnancy and when she was 6 months along, she discovered that her beloved spouse had never stopped seeing the other woman. He later justified it by saying that he was “torn” as he loved them both dearly. Naturally, the OP wasn’t willing to put up with his behavior, so she finally moved out and filed for divorce. The author wanted him to disappear from her life, but since she was expecting – it made things rather difficult.

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Unfortunately, the OP never fully bonded with the baby and the fact that it was her ex’s child contributed to all the negativity that she felt. The woman told her former partner that she didn’t want the child, so when they got together with his mistress, she gave her the choice to adopt – and she did.

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The author signed over her parental rights as soon as the child turned 6 months old and, when she left, she told her ex-husband that she didn’t want to be a part of the girl’s life, and that his lover was more than welcome to become her mother.

The OP moved to another country and tried to leave that distressing part of her life behind; she met a wonderful man and is now a mother to 3 kids.

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However, she recently was contacted by her former spouse who revealed that her biological daughter, who’s now 14, is eager to meet her. According to the man, his wife had passed away and before she died, she told the girl that she wasn’t her biological mother.

The woman was completely torn, as she didn’t want to meet the kid. She mentioned that it was extremely difficult to leave that part of her life behind; she was severely depressed for years, so she reminded the man that she gave up her parental rights years ago and that she wanted nothing to do with both of them.

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The OP shared that she planned on telling her kids about their half-sibling once they were grown and mentally mature, but for now, the time’s not right. She told her former spouse to never contact her again and hung up the phone.

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