"the school is not helping out my kid". They never do. You'll have to find your own solution. They NEVER do. Anyone whose been bullied at school knows this.

That last YTA idiot... "Jeff needs this" ????? No he does not! I'd promise him the world first and then at the last minute, I'd be the AH... put him against the wall and be like, "yeah, you see her? That's my daughter that you've been f***ng with all this time. She's going on this trip and you're not! So, what you're going to do is watch as we walk away and you can eat our dust you punk a** little pr**k!" Sorry, I was bullied from kindergarten to 12th. I can't stand bullies!

So the bully needs a break.... How about the victim?

Rough up this little sh!t a few times until he wets his pants when he only sees you daughter. That will do the trick.

Auntie can include Jeff on another vacation with just her, her husband, her son, and Jeff, plus any other children she has. But THIS vacation? This FAMILY vacation? Is she insane? No f*****g way. I know she’s trying to be understanding of Jeff’s s****y home life, and to help show him what a more normal family is like, but she should also take into consideration that her niece has been Jeff’s favorite target for abuse for way too long now. If she expects nothing to happen while they’re all cooped up together for two weeks, she’s delusional. With all the raging hormones and lack of critical thinking of a16 year old boy who has already bullied a girl, including ripping her clothing, he could use any and every opportunity to do much, much worse to her. Does Auntie, as well as the rest of the family, not understand that risk? BTW, what are the odds that Jeff should be the cousin’s BFF? That almost sounds planned by Jeff, to be connected to his favorite target/victim and be able to gain access to abuse her. Think that’s impossible? Think again. When it comes to people who have been mentally and emotionally wired to be abusive, and have already been acting out on it for years, such predatory stalking behavior is entirely possible. If it isn’t shut down and dealt with (mental health intervention), they can end up leaving countless victims in their wake. If Auntie REALLY wants to help Jeff, she can pay to get him into intensive therapy ASAP. But she needs to protect her own family from him until he (hopefully) has his breakthrough and works on becoming a better person, who is working hard to rewire his brain for positive behavior—-as well as sincerely apologizing to his past victims. Especially OP’s daughter. Remember, her mental health, and her life, can be severely damaged by his abuse. That thought should be foremost in the entire family’s minds, and I am sorely disappointed and honestly shocked that it apparently is not.

So, the daughter is less important to the extended family than their little token philanthropy project with Jeff. That's all well and Hallmark of them, but I don't see why that has to come at the expense of a family member? Why is Jeff more important than their own grandaughter/cousin? Isn't this a FAMILY trip? Jeff ain't family.

You YTA f*****s are as bad as the bully, you absolute trolls! Stop looking for stories that you want to pick apart because you think the dad hasn't done enough. WHAT TF ARE YOU READING? He's said that he hasn't put everything on here and he's done all sorts! Bullies the lot of you!!!! What an awesome dad you are! Ignore trolls, they stick together, like this bully and your nephew AND to then have a sister feeling sorry for him? I know that people like this bully can become a target because of his home life, but he's got there first to make sure that doesn't happen, by picking on someone who is quiet and wouldn't hurt a damn sole! He's older and knows exactly what he's doing. I'd never want to speak to my family that let this bully go on holiday. If he actually goes and you two don't, that would be the last straw for me. You're fabulous and don't listen to trolls! Hope your daughter get's so strong from this and I'm over the moon she hit him! The school was wrong NOT HER!!! AHs!!!

Little stinker 69 can f**k right off. Imagine excusing physical and mental harm because they don't have parents? Dad is awesome, the family can suck it. I hope they have a fabulous holiday of their own and that the bully breaks a bone on holiday.

Time to break contact with your family.

Update: the whole family got together to discuss it and Jeff is no longer invited. Most people had t known he was invited in the first place and were against it. Sisters husband didn’t even know and was also against it. Daughter wants to go as long as Jeff isn’t going so they will be on the trip

Hopefully Jeff didn't accept the invitation because he thought he'd get the chance to bully OP's daughter on vacation too and when she doesn't show up he zeroes in on another target for some fun.

Bullies like this only understand power. The girl is going to have to get physical and brutal at some point, and do what needs to be done. Only then will the bully get the message. Retired teacher here, and someone who got bullied as a fat girl growing up. I used my words; didn't work. Every single time, when I stepped up to someone, laid the hammer down, and did what needed to be done physically, only a couple of times in my life, did they lay off. But having to get to that point, UGH! I'd much rather just destroy someone with my mouth than use hands, but bullies choose their own karma.

I would take this evil boy on the trip, and make his stay a living hell.

This post has way too much "boys will be boys" " it's okay that the boys are cruel because boys can't help it." Being a guy doesn't (shouldn't) equate to being cruel, regardless of the age. People are not aholes purely because of what's in their pants.

No way in God's green earth are you the ah. I cannot ever imagine being cooped up with a kid who has assaulted me in a mfing FAMILY trip!! Can you imagine the worst thing he could do to your daughter??? Dear God!! And SHAME on your sister for even suggesting this. Let her take the bully somewhere in her own!! How on earth is this even an issue?? Stand by your daughter, no matter what!!! You have got this exactly right!! No second guesses no family guilt and they can pi$$ off.

In 20 years almost no-one will remember that vacation trip. The one person who will, however, is the daughter. Does he want it to be a memory where she was forced to be with her tormentor or one where she knew her dad had her back. ?

This father's family is enabling this bully just by inviting him. They are bullying the father by trying to get him to come on the vacation. His family is clueless! Kids commit suicide from bullying. The bully needs help or this is just going to get worse and he's going to end up really hurting someone. God forbid he gets married. The family needs help with therapy in understanding bullying and what it does to someone. Until the family understand this, I think the father and daughter should stay the heck away from the family because God only knows what else they think is alright.

Eff that cousin for being friends with a dude who continues to abûse his cousin 🤬 Bet myself an iced latte cousin dearest is in on the bullying campaign. Can't wait to read about those two committing a crime and the cousin is left holding the evidence. Are mummy and daddy going to defend poor Jeffie after he screws over their kid since niece isn't a priority or really a person to them? The will of the group outweighing the glaring needs of one individual: fascism begins at home.

I'd go, then kick Jeff's a**e surreptitiously throughout the holiday. Dig him in the ribs, knee him in the balls, etc then say "see how it feels you evil little fvcker".

Go on the trip. Find some alone time with Jeff in the woods. Put the fear of Jeebus into him.

Send your daughter to an amazing vacation with a friend. Then you go to this family vacation and absolutely torment the s**t out of Jeff. Throw his new wintercoat in a full toilet. See how your family feels then and then you can say: this is what he does to YOUR NIECE.

Get a restraining order against Jeff, that way he won’t legally be allowed to go. If you and your daughter attend and Jeff shows up, have him arrested immediately.

Since the bully’s usual target won’t be there on vacation, Jeff will find another 🎯 target or simply drastically misbehave…or be scaringly sly Doubt he would ever be invited anywhere near them again including demanding nephew to defriend

If this young man expences natural consequences for onaappropriate behavior, he has the opportunity to fix it. If the fmly failed to tell him thathr had to fix this before he could gooon family trips again, they failed him. I suspect he also needs a Michelle Garcia winners social thinking and when daughter is willing restorative justice

Sometimes bullies are victims of chaos at home and so bullying someone else is their attempt at control. Criminal in the making.

If the family is well off as they claim why doesn't OP take Jeff on a different vacation???