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“I Asked Her If She’d Hit Her Head”: Pregnant Dressmaker Refuses Bride’s Demands, Drama Ensues
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“I Asked Her If She’d Hit Her Head”: Pregnant Dressmaker Refuses Bride’s Demands, Drama Ensues

“I Asked Her If She’d Hit Her Head”: Pregnant Dressmaker Refuses Bride’s Demands, Drama EnsuesPregnant Woman Asks Friend If “She Hit Her Head” After She Demands A Wedding Dress In 5 MonthsBride Asks Dressmaker To Design Her One For Free On A Tight Deadline, Doesn't Accept A Woman Refuses To Make Wedding Dress For A Friend, Gets Shamed In Group ChatPregnant Woman Is Dragged For Not Making Friend's Wedding Dress: Woman Refuses To Make Friend Wedding Dress, Is Accused Of Favoritism“I Asked Her If She’d Hit Her Head”: Woman Refuses To Make Friend’s Wedding Dress In 5 MonthsWoman Refuses To Make Friend A Wedding Dress Due To Tight Deadline, And They Get Into A FightEntitled Bride Expects Friend To Use Her Maternity Leave To Make Her A Custom Wedding Dress
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There’s a difference between a favor and extortion. And Reddit user Elegant-Big3199 feels like her friend crossed that line.

She was asked to create a wedding dress — something the woman does for a living — but on an impractically tight deadline. With her upcoming maternity leave and the demands of her job, the Redditor told her friend that she couldn’t deliver in such a short time, and the two of them had a falling out.

Now that the conflict has also spilled into their broader social circle, the woman turned to the internet, asking people who is to blame for it.

This fashion designer told her friend she couldn’t make her a dress for her wedding

Image credits: Albertshakirov / Envato (not the actual photo)

But the friend refused to take a no for an answer

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Image credits: Pressmaster / Envato (not the actual photo)

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Image credits: Elegant-Big3199

Custom wedding dresses take a long time to create

Image credits: Daniel Moises Magulado / Pexels (not the actual photo)

The timeframe that the Redditor’s friend presented is very short even for those who aren’t working pregnant.

For example, seasoned fashion designer Angela Kim, who also specializes in the industry, takes around double that.

“Creating a custom wedding dress typically takes 9-12 months,” she writes on her website. “This timeline allows us to create a gown that matches your bridal vision and achieves a perfect fit. During this time, designing your dress becomes a partnership to make every aspect of the dress reflect your bridal vision and personal style.”

According to the designer, a comfortable timeline allows them to finalize every detail, from the hem length to the delivery date, and leaves space for the creativity and precision required to make your dress perfect for your wedding theme and bridal photos.

“It’s a process that can’t be rushed—remember, this isn’t an episode of Project Runway! If you’re looking for a last-minute wedding dress, going custom is definitely not the right choice!”

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Even if the bride chose from pre-existing designs, she’s still quite late.

“If you plan to buy a dress off-the-rack, you’ll need sufficient time for the order to arrive, which can often take four to six months,” Kim adds. “And likely you’ll also need alterations done, which can take another couple of months as well.”

This is because embellishments like hand-beading or lace appliqués require meticulous craftsmanship and precise placement.

Then, once the dress is nearly complete, designers also have to come up with the finishing touches that make a bridal look truly come to life. “Choosing the right accessories can elevate the overall aesthetic, whether it’s a vintage veil, a sparkling tiara, or elegant jewelry that complements the gown’s design,” Kim says.

Add the fact that custom dresses cost upwards of thousands of dollars and quickly becomes obvious that the bride from the Reddit post needs a reality check.

As the story went viral, its author joined the discussion in the comment section

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And while the majority of people said she did nothing wrong

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Some believe the woman could’ve taken a less confrontational route

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moggie63
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2 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I think the point about people not knowing how long it takes to make a dress is valid. Has she ever told anybody?

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TribbleThinking
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2 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

On group chat - "It normally takes 10 months to make a wedding dress. Entitled demanded that I make her a free one in 5 months and informed me that I would have more free time as I'm having a baby in the middle of these five months. Entitled is right about one thing - I do have favourites. I didn't before this demand, but I sure as heck do now".

Vera Diblikova
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2 months ago

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10 months to make a wedding dress? Is it handmade weaved and woven? In my country at communist aera we women and girls made our dresses, bc in shops was nothing nice and special, so I know how to sew even dresses for balls etc. In 10 months can the bride have triplets!! and the dressmaker two separate children.

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StumblingThroughLife
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2 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

There is always a YTAer in this type of post where the OP is in the right, showing that a lot of the time, the (YTAers) are as entitled as the peeps asking for (free) stuff & derogating the OP when it's inconvenient at that particular time - esp when OP suggested a compromise. I've never understood such entitlement. It's like when you're offering free stuff online & they want you to drop it off, or complain about the free stuff once they've got it. NTA, btw re: the OP. I hope she doesn't back down on this.

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moggie63
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2 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I think the point about people not knowing how long it takes to make a dress is valid. Has she ever told anybody?

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TribbleThinking
Community Member
2 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

On group chat - "It normally takes 10 months to make a wedding dress. Entitled demanded that I make her a free one in 5 months and informed me that I would have more free time as I'm having a baby in the middle of these five months. Entitled is right about one thing - I do have favourites. I didn't before this demand, but I sure as heck do now".

Vera Diblikova
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2 months ago

This comment is hidden. Click here to view.

10 months to make a wedding dress? Is it handmade weaved and woven? In my country at communist aera we women and girls made our dresses, bc in shops was nothing nice and special, so I know how to sew even dresses for balls etc. In 10 months can the bride have triplets!! and the dressmaker two separate children.

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StumblingThroughLife
Community Member
2 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

There is always a YTAer in this type of post where the OP is in the right, showing that a lot of the time, the (YTAers) are as entitled as the peeps asking for (free) stuff & derogating the OP when it's inconvenient at that particular time - esp when OP suggested a compromise. I've never understood such entitlement. It's like when you're offering free stuff online & they want you to drop it off, or complain about the free stuff once they've got it. NTA, btw re: the OP. I hope she doesn't back down on this.

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