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There are very obvious red flags that show up right away and are a clear sign that the relationship isn’t worth developing. But most of the time, the red flags are more subtle and are easier to dismiss as a one-off thing or a not-so-serious character flaw that doesn’t mean anything. Those subtle signs are the most important to catch as they may indicate that the person is hiding something more serious.
People on Reddit discussed what are some red flags that are related to cooking that might mean that the person isn’t the right fit. Many of them not only shared what cooking habits they find alarming, but they also spoke about signs that, from their own experience, were red flags.
Would you add anything to this list? Which habit that people mentioned do you think is a solid sign to rethink the relationship? Let us know in the comments!
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#1
There was a letter to an advice column years ago, from a woman convinced her mother in law was slightly poisoning her every time they went to her house for dinner.
After every meal she grew violently ill and threw up/had diarrhea.
When she told her husband her suspicion he said she was crazy. His mother was a saint who adored her and would die before hurting her.
The advice columnist urged the wife to swap her plate with her husband’s during the next dinner. The woman wrote back saying she followed the advice and it was her husband who became violently ill after the meal.
When she told him what she’d done she said he looked at her with such loathing she realized he’d suspected what his mom was doing all along but, instead of standing up for her, he decided to gaslight her about her suspicions to avoid upsetting his mom.
Talk about your red flags.
Danniee Gyrl 2 years ago (edited)
I found the original: Dear Prudence, My mother-in-law hates me and makes no bones about it when she and I are alone. My husband doesn’t believe me, and she even gloats about that. We have to attend family functions at her home about once a month. (It used to be more frequent, but after I put my foot down, my husband agreed that monthly would be sufficient.) The problem is that after each visit, I wind up with a bad case of diarrhea; my husband does not. I don’t know if the other in-laws are affected, because if I asked, it would get back to her. I suspect that my mother-in-law is putting something in my food or drink. Last time, I barely made it home before being struck down. Now I am considering getting some “adult undergarments” to make sure I don’t ruin the car’s upholstery on the ride home from her place. Do you have any other advice? —Running for the Hills
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#2
Refusing to regularly take over the responsibility for providing meals.
God bless him, my late father could *not* cook. He could manage a few basics, would help by fixing sides dishes, but anything more complicated, well.... Nope.
That said both he and my Mom worked fairly long days at not-easy jobs. Still, Mom was usually the one who was responsible for dinner.
But there were evenings when Mom walked in the door, dropped her bad, and announced, " I'm not cooking."
Dad, while hopeless at cooking, was not stupid, and replied with, " Where do you want to go?"
Yes, we were lucky to be able to eat out regularly. But that aside, that one exchange was a fantastic example of how they stayed married for nearly 40 years.
It didn't matter that Dad couldn't cook; what mattered was that it was no longer Mom's problem.
We usually went out to a typical family restaurant. But sometimes it was McDonalds. Sometimes we ordered pizza. Sometimes it was declared an "every man for himself" night, and everybody, including us kids, just fixed ourselves something.
But the big thing was Dad was always willing to take over for Mom when needed. And *that* was why it worked.
Taking My Antidepressants 2 years ago
I cook a lot for my family. Occasionally my parents will do the cooking.
#4
When they don’t know how to cook, refuse to cook, but are super picky when you cook for them. Nope nope nope
#5
I once decided to cook for a girl I was dating. It was pretty fresh at the time, third time I had seen her. I thought it might be nice to cook, have a wine and chat etc. as you do. While I was cooking she told me to stop talking so much and hurry up because she was hungry in a rude, annoyed tone. That turned me off to the point I didn’t see her again after that night!
#6
That a*****e on YouTube who is tricking his vegetarian wife into loving the taste of meat.
Sneaking animal products into things she believes is meat free.
Huge piece of s**t. Unless it's all b******t for getting views, then mild piece of s**t.
#7
Being a full grown adult that waits to be cooked for. Knowing full well, his spouse might also be working full time. But they won't lift a finger to grab dinner on the way home or if already home toss something in the microwave.
#8
You cook and they dont help clean
Antz Online 2 years ago
Well, when I cook, I use minimum dishes and tidy up while cooking. My better half on the other hand leaves the kitchen like a tornado hit it, so I do refuse to clean up after she cooks.
#10
Touching the oven when I'm cooking. Had a friend "fix" the oven while I was reverse searing ribeyes a few years back so they'd cook faster. You know what happens to a ribeye when you leave it in the oven at 375 for an hour?
She did the same to a rack of ribs on another occasion. Saw that the grill was set to low and thought "That can't be right." Jacked it up to high without telling anybody, and treated us to a nice rack of charcoal chips for dinner.
Squirrelly Panda 2 years ago
She should have learned the first time. If she was my friend, she would get a blunt warning to not mess with my cooking again.
#11
Haven’t seen cleanliness yet.
I’m not talking about pots, pans and dishes after (that should be negotiated or depends on who invited who. But one should always offer to help).
I’m talking about during preparation and cooking. For example, if you handle raw meat, you should use soap and warm water before touching anything else. Any possible contamination on a counter top, …
Heather Resatz 2 years ago
We were at a bbq and thankfully I was watching while he started brushing sauce from the bag (where the raw meat came from) onto the fully cooked chicken he was just about to serve! Salmonella anyone??
#12
I knew a guy who dropped his $1 bottle of spaghetti sauce, jar broke in the bag. He goes and makes spaghetti…. With sauce. We ask if this is the same sauce…. Yup! He just pulled the chunks of glass out of it 😳. I do not eat that spaghetti or anything he cooked after that
#13
Saying they are allergic to some ingredients but later admit they "just don't like the texture."
I get the texture thing, I hate mushy slimy myself. But ffs don't pull the "I am allergic to mushrooms/peas/onions/tomatoes" thing.
Chucky Cheezburger 2 years ago
And don't give others grief if they don't like the texture. I hate the texture of onions. Can't stand them. Don't even like to see them. If I had a dollar for every time someone gave me $H!T about it, I'd be able to hire someone to destroy all the onions in the world.
#14
people who won’t eat leftovers
N Gregory 2 years ago
This can very much depend. My husband won't eat leftovers because the leftovers he was fed as a child were the result of the cheapest nastiest sh1t that he barely ate it before it became leftovers. Oh, and his leftovers weren't what was left in the dish unserved, they were the scraping back off the plate. So yeah, we don't do leftovers, thanks for your judgment.
#15
I love to cook. My ex-boyfriend was a really picky eater. So i tried to make things without the ingredients he doesnt like. But several times after i cooked he said "im just gonna order something". I know it sounds like im a bad cook, but thats not the case. I worked in a kitchen for years and my friends all love my food. I still get pissed when i think about the time i just wanted him to tast my soup, just a little spoon. He refused because he was gonna order shoarma and didnt wanna ruin the 'before taste'.
#16
If they are purposefully cooking things that their partner does not like or worse, that they are allergic to.
TheAquarius1978 2 years ago
Well deppending on the case this might be a good thing, when i was a kid ( toddler ) i was alérgic to eegs, só my pediatritian advised my Mother to give me just a bit of egg every now and again, and it did work, i can eat eggs with no isues whatsoever, of course i only had a light reaction, and my Mother was advised by a doctor, don't f*****g do the same to a person that hás severe alergies, you might kill the poor bastard lol.
#17
Making fun of your diet restrictions.
Benita Valdez 2 years ago
I get it often because I'm allergic to peppercorns. No I don't sneeze. Yes I could die with a large enough quantity. Sorry you've never heard of someone's throat closing up from pepper but I assure you I'm not lying. Please don't try to test me; small amounts will only give slight breathing issues but I really enjoy breathing normal. It's not cute mocking me or slowly pushing the pepper shaker or grinder slowly towards me.
#19
The last time I saw this question posted, a guy responded saying that his wife only makes one thing at a time when making a meal. Mashed potatoes until they’re done, then beginning the meat, etc. He hadn’t had a hot meal in years. That comment still haunts me.
#20
Not having any spices at all in your kitchen
Lisa H 2 years ago
I always say that a good, varied spice cabinet is an investment. Learn how to use them properly and you can make anything taste amazing, even if you're broke and eating spaghetti for the fifth night in a row. I always make sauces from scratch because it's cheaper and I have the spices for it.
#21
Not being the one who's chore it is to clean something doesn't give you license to make more work than necessary for someone else. It's a huge red flag when you and your partner have the alternating "one cooks, other cleans" chore cycle and your partner completely *trashes* the kitchen every time it's their turn to cook. I'm talking leaving out ingredients, spilling and splashing stuff everywhere, dirtying way more cookware than needed, or cooking in a way that leaves burnt on residue so you have to deep clean.
When I was still married to my ex I always tried to keep things neat when I cooked and he always left a huge mess. Turns out its a big warning sign that they don't value your time or have consideration for your feelings.
#22
Being a full-grown adult who doesn’t know how to cook
Squirrelly Panda 2 years ago
Depends. A young adult, just left the nest, might not have been taught. If willing to learn, great. An adult who can follow recipe instructions but is a meh cook due to lack of interest, as long as honest and appreciative of others cooking, fine. An adult who doesn't know how to cook even the simplest thing and refuses to learn on the other hand...
#23
Not necessarily cooking but it's a pet peeve of mine when people buy things and just, don't eat them but throw them away... watched my ex purchase a wonderful looking ice cream, sit and let it melt for half an hour, then get up and throw it away.
#24
My ex wife wanted to make meatloaf when we were first married. I was like cool I love meatloaf. So she pulled this meatloaf out of the oven when I got home. It was a slightly charred sad looking meatball floating in grease. She was apologetic about it but I didn't say s**t about it. I have never complained about her cooking anything. I made meatloaf a few weeks later and she loved it and wanted to know what I put in it. I told her and asked her how she makes meatloaf. She said you take some meat and put it in a pan. No egg, salt, pepper, ketchup. Just meat. I was like yep this is going to take some work. Turns out she was overconfident about everything and just winged it.
#26
When they put your best knives in the dishwasher
Bored Retsuko 2 years ago
Cough ... I recently ruined a knife with a wooden handle by putting it in the dishwasher then leaving it unemptied for I don't know how long
#27
Refuses to eat vegetables
Nathaniel 2 years ago
I know a few people who claim not to like any vegetables. I mean how? There are literally thousands of varieties of vegetables, all with different flavours, all with multiple methods of cooking which can vary the taste. Have you gone through and tasted them all?
Benita Valdez 2 years ago
Trauma from childhood. My sister learned in her 30's that she actually likes vegetables; just not the crimes my mom made
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CelticElff 2 years ago
Please have compassionate space for people who are dealing with medical issues. There are very few veg I can tolerate, but I have food trauma and recently learned I'm autistic which adds to my issues. It's often a taste & texture thing.
Rens 2 years ago
I know the feeling, and yes I am autistic too. I also have IBS so there are loads of veg I can't eat anymore (cruciferous vegetables, turnip, swede, mushrooms,) some aversions are due to smell, taste and texture.
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Matt Smith 2 years ago
Corn, potatoes, and maybe peas are about the only vegetables I actually like. The rest range from only tolerating them in certain dishes to outright being unable to taste them without gagging.
ADHD McChick 2 years ago
Again, this can be attributed to sensory issues stemming from ADHD, ASD, and other similar disorders. People like that (like me) with strong, * uncontrollable* reactions to certain tastes or textures cannot even put certain things in their mouths. Unless the host wants them to puke all over the table. Please don't judge.
Sabrina Monson 2 years ago
I have been crazy picky my whole life. It's a taste and texture thing for me with most veggies. I can't do bitter or earthy and the smell puts me off. I don't like potatoes and get so much flack for that. Lettuce makes me gag, one tiny piece in a taco and the whole thing gets given away, I cant even have it touching anything cause that taste lingers. I do like green olives, corn, and pickles. That's about it.
Israel Martinez 2 years ago
I don't unless it's a Caesar salad ... just can't stand the texture and taste of it ... at least I'm not lying and saying I'm allergic to them ... if I do eat it on a whim, it's, usually, doused with something delicious like cheese ...
Chucky Cheezburger 2 years ago
Yeah, there aren't many that I like. Some of it is texture, some of it is that they reek. But I have tried many and yeah, it's not for me.
Jack and Coke 2 years ago
My thoughts exactly. I'm an adult and I eat what I want, and that doesn't include many veggies.
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Robert Beveridge 2 years ago
I saw a survey maybe a year ago saying 25% of Americans claim to have never eaten a vegetable. HOW? Do you never eat soup? Never get fries with your absolutely plain burger? No chili? I mean...
Mrs. EW 2 years ago
Ok, for those who don’t know, there’s such a thing as super tasters and people who can’t do certain textures. For super tasters, anything bitter or tart is not going to fly. Super tasters have extra tastebuds. One way to check to see if you are such, is blue food coloring. Most people, your tongue will turn blue. Super tasters may get a slight hint of blue, but it usually doesn’t show. And why I was always disappointed when us kids would show our tongues after a blue blow pop and mine was never bright blue. Sweeter and spicy veggies, I can handle but the texture turns me off often. I like to make emulsified sauces from veggies I can handle. But eating most cooked or raw, I just can’t unless I was literally starving.
Moya Satterwhite 2 years ago
My only food dislike is cabbage, and that’s more emotional than taste. (Saw a dead bug in once).
Isabel Care 2 years ago
My friend hated sprouts as a kid. As an adult she asked if she could try them. My reply "One leaf or two?". I am a bit of a fussy eater so know how others might feel. Trying something means trying a tiny bit, as many times as you want. Dad and grandma were "You will eat a whole portion or it's wasted" people. My friend loves roasted sprouts now
Amelia Bee 2 years ago (edited)
My dad and my ex are like this, both are insufferable manbabies with a toddler's palate. My dad's organs are now shutting down, because he never ate anything but beige food his whole life. He still refuses to touch anything green.
Evelyn Haskins 2 years ago (edited)
A lot of children are accused of noy liking vegetables, :-( But My Mum was a 'non-taster" (look it up) and I am definitely a taster and probably a super taster. So my Mum served up swedes and turnips and parsnips, and over-boiled greens, . . . What is WRONG with fresh raw greens?? Why ALL these unpleasant starchy root vegetables,
Lime flavored takis 2 years ago
Ugh my boyfriend is like this. He says he's willing to eat collard greens but that's about it. I love eating veggies
Michael McCarthy 2 years ago
For me, it is ulcerative colitis and autism which causes me to cringe with certain textures.
Bernard Tharp 2 years ago
I am sorry that this a red flag for people in relationships. I mean, if I don't like vegetables, how is that hurting you? Eat what you enjoy, I'll eat what I enjoy, and we'll both be happy. But passing over a picky eater because they are a picky eater makes me think you've missed out on some great people. On the other hand, perhaps you feel about picky eaters like they feel about foods they dislike: you've tried enough over the years and you've gotten to the point where you stick with what works for you, and don't worry about everything else.
Trinity Cottrell 2 years ago
I make dishes with vegetables that are quite lovely, like honey carrots, creamy garlic beans, delicious mashed potatoes, broccoli with melted cheese on top, stir fry, creamed baked potatoes, San Choy Bao, etc. Personally, I am not the biggest fan of bland steamed vegetables, which is why I make them delicious, so I can get my nutrients, and not have to suffer.
Jodie daubenmire 2 years ago
My son in law, he flatly even refuses to buy vegetables. He says he doesn't eat them, so neither will his kids. My GC love veggies. We have a ton of them when here.
Katie Howerton 2 years ago
My dad didn't eat vegetables except for corn and lettuce if it was on tacos. He wasn't made to eat vegetables by his grandma growing up so he never learned to eat them. I finally got him to eat sweet potato pie when I started baking it and he loved it. He has been gone for three years. I miss him dearly so I'm making my pie for Thanksgiving in memory of him.
Bernard Tharp 2 years ago
I am glad this worked for your father. But my elders tried to force me to eat foods I didn't even want on my plate. Many was the night I was stuck at the dinner table when everyone else had been excused. I don't recall a great deal of corporal punishment for it, but there was some. And my parents were upset I wouldn't eat the food cooked like it was some sort of insult. I have tried different things since I've been an adult, but the first 10 years or so I didn't each vegetables at all. These days I eat some things sporadically, but I still can't stand most of them.
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Ambry Petersen 2 years ago
I know many children who go through this phase, the vast majority grew out of it
Gini Sarver 2 years ago
i raised my granddaughter for 3 yrs, her mom ((my youngest daughter)) worked 12 hour shifts with an hour long drive one way to and from anyway, at the age of 2 her favorite lunch was green beans, raspberries, black olives… she also loves chicken noodle soup, she will still eat an entire can of black olives.. she eats tomatoes as if they are an apple… she prefers healthy foods over junk foods oh yea, she absolutely loves her meats, especially steaks with deep fried pickles lol
Leslie ixrawrxi 2 years ago
My ex REFUSED to eat ANY vegetables. I however, love most all food. And being a caring gf, I thought it important for him to eat his veggies. So I literally had to look up recipes on how to hide veggies in your dinner.... It was meant for children eating their veggies... But apparently it works for 30 year old men too.
Bernard Tharp 2 years ago
I had someone in my life try this on me. It failed of course because it's flavor-texture combinations for me and I could detect the mix every time. EVERY time. As much as people want us to "understand" about vegetables, we just want to be left alone. We are adults capable of making our own decisions, and don't need others trying to force change our minds.
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Stacey Campbell 2 years ago
My nephew does this carnivore diet thing. He claims veggies are bad for you. I don't get it, makes no sense to me. I figure balance is key.
AnnaPanda 2 years ago
He may like it but it's not healthy for longer periods of time. His body needs nutrients and vitamins and from eating too much meat he may start having high cholesterol and blood pressure
Load More Replies... Janessa Hart 2 years ago
Well, my brother refuses to eat vegetables AND fruits. That might be because he’s allergic though lol
Zombiedoll 2 years ago
My sister in law doesn't eat any vegetables or fruits. None. I can't even.....
AsexualShrimp 2 years ago
the issue is.. people don't know how to cook veggies properly for them to like. prove me wrong. obviously there are some veggies you just can't like and some that you are allergic to even, but if you hate potatoes, try cooking them a different way and taste.
Bernard Tharp 2 years ago
Why can't people understand that their world view isn't the only one out there. How many times must you "try" stuff you don't like before giving up? Why do people who have food issues have to justify them to anyone? As long as it isn't affecting others, we should be left alone. If it is affecting others, then they need to decide if they can live with it or not
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Bernard Tharp 2 years ago
What are you? An insensitive wretch that enjoys telling everyone how to live their lives? Or are you just ignorant that people have tried things and still don't like them? Are you authoritarian and think that everyone should comply with your worldview?
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Kathleen Pearlman 2 years ago
My husband is like that - he will take the vegetables out of a dish, even carrots out of soup! He'll eat potatoes, corn or peas. Carrots, but only raw. He isn't too big on fruit either.
#28
My ex thought that "browning" ground meat meant leaving it in the fridge til it turned brown.
#29
someone who judges my personal tastes so strongly that they allow it to threaten a (potential) relationship
Justin Smith 2 years ago
And the two above this for me qre not trusting or liking people who dont eat pizza or use garlic or garlic powder. Irony.
#30
Saying that MSG is extremely bad for food.
What do you think ?
Jaguarundi 2 years ago
I was slow smoking racks of ribs on my outdoor grill one holiday weekend, as usual. One of my next-door neighbor's guests came out on her porch and said: "Grandma, your barbecue smells wonderful! I can't wait for supper!" "THAT'S NOT MINE!!!!" was angrily shouted from inside her place. I had to go inside to laugh.
anarkzie 2 years ago (edited)
Mine was asking my partner if she wanted some of the food I was going to prepare, she says no, waits till it's cooked then decide that she wants some. Drives me crazy, sharing means that I'm now hungry because I have only eaten half of a meal, cooking more in anticipation of this nonsense means that we end up wasting food because sometimes she does not actually want some.
Bill Evs 2 years ago
My wife used to do this too so I'm glad I'm not alone. I'd say I was going to make something and ask if she wanted any. She'd say no so I ask if she's sure and she'd say no again. Inevitably she'd then come into the kitchen and say "that smells nice, is there enough for me to have some". I'd share but as I was only cooking one portion there was never enough. In the end I just started to refuse, saying I asked her several times beforehand and there just isn't enough (which was true). Thankfully it doesn't happen anymore but it had to put up with a few silent treatments before it sunk in.
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Glenn Schroeder 2 years ago
No one mentioned using a cast iron skillet and then leaving it soaking in the sink instead of cleaning it.
censorshipsucks 2 years ago
it's ok if they're doing that to loosen the gunk from the ribs in the pan. If however they leave it there indefinitely that is a no go
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Monika Lachova 2 years ago
Not sure if red flag, but it annoys me really a lot - when someone grabs salt, pepper, or any kind of seasoning and starts to season his meal without tasting it first. Ugh
ADHD McChick 2 years ago
When I cook, my husband cleans. He usually cleans, anyway. But he enjoys cleaning (has told me so, genuinely, on several occasions). He does most of the cleaning, laundry, and childcare at home, as he's disabled, and doesn't work. I'm the breadwinner. I'm also neurodivergent, and he knows how exhausting the world can be for me. So when I come home, he wants me to rest, while he takes care of me. I have a winner. 😊❤️ I do make a bit of a mess sometimes, when I cook. But I try to at least wipe the counters (and any spills), rinse the dishes I use, and stack them neatly in the sink, lol.
A falz 2 years ago
I'm a great cook. My ex mil was not a good cook. So everytime I cooked my ex would say don't make that again. Before I left him I was making hamburger helper 5 days a week. He had also heard that you put spices in your cooking at the end. I could not get him to understand that was for fresh spices not dried. His spaghetti sauce was can of tomato sauce heated then spices thrown in for about 2 mins (dried spices) then served it over noodles. It was horrible. But he thought it was the most fantastic meal. Note: red flag for relationships and cooking if they put ketchup on something before even tasting it they didn't grow up eating or learning to cook food with flavor. My ex and ex-mil both would put ketchup on their food before tasting when mil cooked. I never understood till the first time I ate her cooking. Bad just plain bad cooking. Roast cooked on a top of the stove. Not oven not crock pot. In a fry pan. Nope
Kimberly Marino 2 years ago
My ex-husband did so many weird things on our first date that should have been red flags but I somehow overlooked them. No regrets as I can't imagine my world wo my children. Not food related but for starters he would not tell me where we were going and told me to dress casual. I asked what casual was to him, he said Jeans wo holes and clean sneakers. Ok fine. I was nicely dressed but he showed up in a suit and tie and I was very under dressed for the restaurant. Then the reservation was in my name. He made it but used me name. But the biggest thing was when he ordered he asked that every item he placed on it own plate as apparently he did not like his foods to touch! He also ate one plate at a time until it was done. So all the meat then all the potatoes then all the veggies. I was young and thought it was weird but funny. It was a huge read flag hitting me in my naive face. When someone shows you who they are believe them!
ADHD McChick 2 years ago
Not disagreeing with you on the other stuff, but the seprate plate thing could be a sensory issues thing. Even if it wasn't for him, it often is, in general. I have sensory issues, and I don't like certain foods touching, because the juices from one change the taste/texture of another. I have divided plates at home, lol. I don't always ask for seprate plates, at a restaurant. But if I'm getting something that has a lot.of juices, like a steak, I will politely ask that my fries be served separately.
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Miss Cellania 2 years ago
About 40 years ago, my boyfriend invited me over for dinner. He asked that I start the cooking while he showered. He had something I'd never seen before called Hamburger Helper. So I browned the beef and was draining the grease when he returned. He asked what I was doing. He had apparently never bothered removing excess grease from ground beef before.
Kely Toboologlou 2 years ago
Hair! And over reacting! And all the variety of this. The fine line from tolerating "that one hair found once", to "every single time" "in every damn plate", to "demanding that you should get dressed like an astronaut every time you cook because of this one incident two years ago"
censorshipsucks 2 years ago
my red flag: person only liked really bland food, like plain rice. I mean, food is life. If you're going to do that then why bother living at all?
Angel Carbajal 2 years ago
Autism, mate. Pretty rude to say someone shouldn't live because they prefer plainer food tastes.
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Poh_tatoes 2 years ago
#14. I don't see this as a red flag. For example, I hate mayonnaise (and most other sauces) in sandwiches to the extent I'd rather starve than eat it. And simply requesting no mayo in the sandwich from fast food places doesn't work, most times they ignore the request and I end up with mayo in a sandwich I won't eat. I've had to specify I'm allergic to mayo in order for them to get my order correct. #36. He sounds like a huge a*****e tbh. His wife cooks dinner and has to see about a baby and he's complaining that the cleanliness of the place isn't up to his standards? Taking care of a child and dinner is absolutely not easy work. How hard is is to pitch in help instead of complaining. Working doesn't excuse anything when it's also your child, your household and your dinner.
Pizzagirl 91 2 years ago
How are most of these red flags? Most of these problems seem to stem from people never having been corrected, maybe never having anyone teach them. Did they at least TRY to talk about how to treat the knives, or how to season things, before judging the other person? I am glad for people who are brought up to know "everything" about cooking, but isn't the worst Red flag for a relationship when the person who CAN won't teach/help out the person who CAN'T? Otherwise, it's just a matter of superiority and prejudice.
Dave Hinckley 2 years ago
I was using my nice little paring knife to debone some meat. A few days later I couldn't find the knife and realized I tossed it in the trash with the scraps I removed. I dug through the trash until I found the stinking mass of slimy decaying fat and found my knife. Took a while to clean the handle. Wife thought I was nuts, but I like that little knife.
Jaguarundi 2 years ago
I was slow smoking racks of ribs on my outdoor grill one holiday weekend, as usual. One of my next-door neighbor's guests came out on her porch and said: "Grandma, your barbecue smells wonderful! I can't wait for supper!" "THAT'S NOT MINE!!!!" was angrily shouted from inside her place. I had to go inside to laugh.
anarkzie 2 years ago (edited)
Mine was asking my partner if she wanted some of the food I was going to prepare, she says no, waits till it's cooked then decide that she wants some. Drives me crazy, sharing means that I'm now hungry because I have only eaten half of a meal, cooking more in anticipation of this nonsense means that we end up wasting food because sometimes she does not actually want some.
Bill Evs 2 years ago
My wife used to do this too so I'm glad I'm not alone. I'd say I was going to make something and ask if she wanted any. She'd say no so I ask if she's sure and she'd say no again. Inevitably she'd then come into the kitchen and say "that smells nice, is there enough for me to have some". I'd share but as I was only cooking one portion there was never enough. In the end I just started to refuse, saying I asked her several times beforehand and there just isn't enough (which was true). Thankfully it doesn't happen anymore but it had to put up with a few silent treatments before it sunk in.
Load More Replies... Glenn Schroeder 2 years ago
No one mentioned using a cast iron skillet and then leaving it soaking in the sink instead of cleaning it.
censorshipsucks 2 years ago
it's ok if they're doing that to loosen the gunk from the ribs in the pan. If however they leave it there indefinitely that is a no go
Load More Replies... Monika Lachova 2 years ago
Not sure if red flag, but it annoys me really a lot - when someone grabs salt, pepper, or any kind of seasoning and starts to season his meal without tasting it first. Ugh
ADHD McChick 2 years ago
When I cook, my husband cleans. He usually cleans, anyway. But he enjoys cleaning (has told me so, genuinely, on several occasions). He does most of the cleaning, laundry, and childcare at home, as he's disabled, and doesn't work. I'm the breadwinner. I'm also neurodivergent, and he knows how exhausting the world can be for me. So when I come home, he wants me to rest, while he takes care of me. I have a winner. 😊❤️ I do make a bit of a mess sometimes, when I cook. But I try to at least wipe the counters (and any spills), rinse the dishes I use, and stack them neatly in the sink, lol.
A falz 2 years ago
I'm a great cook. My ex mil was not a good cook. So everytime I cooked my ex would say don't make that again. Before I left him I was making hamburger helper 5 days a week. He had also heard that you put spices in your cooking at the end. I could not get him to understand that was for fresh spices not dried. His spaghetti sauce was can of tomato sauce heated then spices thrown in for about 2 mins (dried spices) then served it over noodles. It was horrible. But he thought it was the most fantastic meal. Note: red flag for relationships and cooking if they put ketchup on something before even tasting it they didn't grow up eating or learning to cook food with flavor. My ex and ex-mil both would put ketchup on their food before tasting when mil cooked. I never understood till the first time I ate her cooking. Bad just plain bad cooking. Roast cooked on a top of the stove. Not oven not crock pot. In a fry pan. Nope
Kimberly Marino 2 years ago
My ex-husband did so many weird things on our first date that should have been red flags but I somehow overlooked them. No regrets as I can't imagine my world wo my children. Not food related but for starters he would not tell me where we were going and told me to dress casual. I asked what casual was to him, he said Jeans wo holes and clean sneakers. Ok fine. I was nicely dressed but he showed up in a suit and tie and I was very under dressed for the restaurant. Then the reservation was in my name. He made it but used me name. But the biggest thing was when he ordered he asked that every item he placed on it own plate as apparently he did not like his foods to touch! He also ate one plate at a time until it was done. So all the meat then all the potatoes then all the veggies. I was young and thought it was weird but funny. It was a huge read flag hitting me in my naive face. When someone shows you who they are believe them!
ADHD McChick 2 years ago
Not disagreeing with you on the other stuff, but the seprate plate thing could be a sensory issues thing. Even if it wasn't for him, it often is, in general. I have sensory issues, and I don't like certain foods touching, because the juices from one change the taste/texture of another. I have divided plates at home, lol. I don't always ask for seprate plates, at a restaurant. But if I'm getting something that has a lot.of juices, like a steak, I will politely ask that my fries be served separately.
Load More Replies... Miss Cellania 2 years ago
About 40 years ago, my boyfriend invited me over for dinner. He asked that I start the cooking while he showered. He had something I'd never seen before called Hamburger Helper. So I browned the beef and was draining the grease when he returned. He asked what I was doing. He had apparently never bothered removing excess grease from ground beef before.
Kely Toboologlou 2 years ago
Hair! And over reacting! And all the variety of this. The fine line from tolerating "that one hair found once", to "every single time" "in every damn plate", to "demanding that you should get dressed like an astronaut every time you cook because of this one incident two years ago"
censorshipsucks 2 years ago
my red flag: person only liked really bland food, like plain rice. I mean, food is life. If you're going to do that then why bother living at all?
Angel Carbajal 2 years ago
Autism, mate. Pretty rude to say someone shouldn't live because they prefer plainer food tastes.
Load More Replies... Poh_tatoes 2 years ago
#14. I don't see this as a red flag. For example, I hate mayonnaise (and most other sauces) in sandwiches to the extent I'd rather starve than eat it. And simply requesting no mayo in the sandwich from fast food places doesn't work, most times they ignore the request and I end up with mayo in a sandwich I won't eat. I've had to specify I'm allergic to mayo in order for them to get my order correct. #36. He sounds like a huge a*****e tbh. His wife cooks dinner and has to see about a baby and he's complaining that the cleanliness of the place isn't up to his standards? Taking care of a child and dinner is absolutely not easy work. How hard is is to pitch in help instead of complaining. Working doesn't excuse anything when it's also your child, your household and your dinner.
Pizzagirl 91 2 years ago
How are most of these red flags? Most of these problems seem to stem from people never having been corrected, maybe never having anyone teach them. Did they at least TRY to talk about how to treat the knives, or how to season things, before judging the other person? I am glad for people who are brought up to know "everything" about cooking, but isn't the worst Red flag for a relationship when the person who CAN won't teach/help out the person who CAN'T? Otherwise, it's just a matter of superiority and prejudice.
Dave Hinckley 2 years ago
I was using my nice little paring knife to debone some meat. A few days later I couldn't find the knife and realized I tossed it in the trash with the scraps I removed. I dug through the trash until I found the stinking mass of slimy decaying fat and found my knife. Took a while to clean the handle. Wife thought I was nuts, but I like that little knife.
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