Judging others—it’s something that we all do, all the time. Whether we’re aware of it or entirely subconsciously, we’re constantly evaluating and interpreting the world around us. Making comments about people and situations in our heads. Checking how the world conforms to how we imagine it should be like. And frowning upon anyone who litters!
After being prompted to open up by redditor u/supercoliofy, internet users began sharing the things that make them silently judge people. Taking a deep dive into their comments is enlightening: we’ve judged people for similar things; we’ve done some of the things in this list that deserve judgment.
Read on for some silent judgment-gone-loud, upvote the posts you agree with, and drop on by the comment section to share your opinions, dear Pandas. Do bamboo thieves make you angry? Do you think people give other bears more recognition? We’re very interested to hear what makes you silently judge someone.
Bored Panda reached out to Lee Chambers, a Psychologist and Wellbeing Consultant, to talk about why we judge other people, as well as what role this plays in our lives.
"Judging others is something that we as humans do, both consciously and automatically, and there are a number of reasons why we do it. Comically, we are often told as children not to judge others and have stories shared about how judging others can mean we upset them or lose opportunities to see what really lies behind our perception," he told Bored Panda. Scroll down for our interview with Lee!
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I immediately judge you if you make fun of someone who's trying. I saw someone make fun of an overweight classmate despite the fact that he was doing diets, running, and exercising. He's putting an effort and you have no right to s**t on him.
Psychologist Lee, the founder of Essentialise Workplace Wellbeing and PhenomGames, revealed to Bored Panda some of the reasons why we judge other people.
"Sometimes, we judge others to feel superior ourselves, finding faults in others, highlighting them, and feeling better about ourselves in the process. Sometimes, we use it to work out where we fit in, recognizing how we want to be, where our aspirations lie, and how we don't want to become," he said.
"Sometimes, it's in response to our own flaws, and we attack others for what we don't like or don't see into ourselves. And on other occasions, it's to fit into a wider group who judge something or someone, and we conform and perform with the same judgment."
People who have no awareness of their surroundings when they're out in public.
It doesn't cost anything to wait your turn in a queue, hold a door open for someone, turn on your indicators 10 seconds earlier than you just did, or not block off the entire pavement because you want to hold hands with your husband / wife.
It's so selfish. Drives me mad just thinking about it.
Thank you for the gold, kind stranger.
people who don't say please and thank you.
people who act like a d**k to service staff like cashiers and waiters.
people who generally show a lack of consideration to other people.
one thing my dad always told me: manners cost nothing.
According to Lee, being judgmental can be good and it "does have some benefits when used mindfully," however.
"It can help us to set goals, find alignment with our values, it can help us to build the self-awareness of others and it can boost our self-esteem," he told Bored Panda.
"Add to that it can also help us to make positive social choices, and it's understanding how and why we judge that gives us the ability to use it for our benefits instead of escaping our flaws or pulling others down."
Littering. It hurts to watch, I don't see how people can litter.
Edit: Hey Cloin
I think it is what you are taught in the home this is something that needs to be learned from birth! If I tried it outside - would you do that at home?
I judge people for not washing their hands after using the bathroom
OMG! YES! My OCD spikes out of control for things like this. End up getting panic attacks if I feel surrounded by too much of it😓
Far from everyone makes errors with malicious intent. Quite often, people aren’t even aware that they’re making a mistake. Or they might not think that something that elicits judgment (like parking wrong or being late to meet someone all the friggin’ time) is actually that big of a deal. It’s selfishness and we’ve all got that, just in varying amounts.
We know that being self-aware of our own flaws is difficult. For one, nobody likes thinking that they’re less than perfect. Besides, we don’t have the luxury of seeing our behavior from a different perspective. That’s why it’s important to speak up if you see someone constantly making the same mistakes.
When they have no knowledge of the topic but is still arguing to the person who actually has the knowledge. I mean seriously if you dont know what you're talking about then stfu
having a ton of kids while poor
If you are poor, you probably don't have access to affordable birth control.
I disagree... Any form of birth control is cheaper than raising a child
Load More Replies...This is a pretty unfair one. Let's consider a situation where a financially stable family had 7 children, because they could afford to have 7 children and wanted a big family. Then suddenly the parents lose their jobs due to some large scale event, their savings quickly wither away from normal bills and some unforeseen health issues and now they're living below the breadline and people are judging and saying "well if you're so damn poor you shouldn't have had so many kids".
That's hardly the norm and not what original poster was referring to. People who don't work and won't pay into a system yet expect handouts. Why should they have 7 subsidised kids whilst other people work to support their kids is what was meant.
Load More Replies...Easy to say, but a lot of people don't have a choice. Reasons: They have no access to birth control. Their religion doesn't allow it/encourages procreation. Children/sons are seen as success or wealth. Children are needed to help with farming and earning money. Cultural and social expectations. The reason why most wealthy people have fewer children is because they have endless choices. Poor people frequently do not.
Right! I am disgusted, not so much by the people involved, but by most of the reasons you listed that put them in that situation. Antiquated beliefs that date back to the beginning of civilization, before over-population became the crisis that it is now
Load More Replies...And pets and cars. I've seen many struggling families with 4 kids, 3 big dogs and a couple of cars of which only one actually works.
I'd actually say multiple pets while poor gets more judgement from me than kids. In some cases the kids were unplanned (through lack of access to birth control or insufficient education and no help towards options provided - I have a different set of judgements reserved for if this support is readily available) but pets are always optional. And you can often tell whether it's a case of circumstances resulting in financial change (and you don't get rid of family just because you're newly poor and pets are family), or if it's always been like that and they just don't think beyond the next day and how to feed all these extra mouths.
Load More Replies...People judging others without actually knowing all the facts. Until you’ve walked a mile in their shoes keep your thoughts to your own trials and tribulations. There are many reasons that folk find themselves in financial difficulties, many that are out of their control, stop being so judgemental over something so complex.
That’s the whole point. Things you instantly judge for. Remember?
Load More Replies...My first real job was for an engineering company owned by the youngest of 15 kids, raised in a poor family. They were given a great work ethic and now he employs dozens of people. You don't always need stuff to raise good people.
Plus people can be good despite poor parenting. Not all children of so called bad parents end up that way themselves. Many of us can look at our childhoods with clear eyes and see what was right and wrong.
Load More Replies...The earth provides everything we humans already need to exist, live, create, build, and thrive. People do not have to go without their needs being met or stop having kids. The issue is bigger than that. We are run by a system that controls our needs with money. Make no mistake about it, we do not have to go without because we already have what we all need as far as resources go to live. We will be denied basic human needs if we don't have enough money. Not because we aren't working or putting in enough effort. But because of a one sided corrupt system that controls everything and everyone with money. It shouldn't be that way when we all have equal needs as human beings. There being enough for all people to sustain themselves. The problem is not the people who have to many kids. The problem is selfish, greedy, evil rulers who chose to create a have and have not world.
Different topic. This isn’t Shame for being poor, it’s shame for having kids you can’t afford. Remember? It’s right up there.
Load More Replies...So now having children and pets is only for the well off. Poor people should obviously just live their lives and die alone.
... And in addition, Alex, poor people, according to Justine, should put up with all kinds of crap and verbal abuse from "people like Justine", who are obviously so full of hate, contempt and hostility oozing from every pore of their body in addition to their big mouth...
Load More Replies...You have no say in others reproductive rights. You are free to be child free or have 10 children and no one should judge you. Some of the best parents I know are the ones considered "low income". Because they know they can't afford to "buy" their kids so they must be there for them. Find ways to be creative. Should we do mandatory sterilization for all poor people? And what if they had a higher income and then lost their jobs, should we take away their kids? What if the kids are a product of abuse? You never know. And in the end it doesn't matter.
I disagree because kids are humans and need personal and individual care. No person is a truly good parent to 10 kids (I suspect more than 2 is too much), because with so many to mind the parent is just a caretaker. I can say this because as the middle of 7 we all experienced great neglect and many kinds of abuse (mother did her best, father just worked). That many kids are just servants or organized like an army... none get real attention or help that matters.
Load More Replies...I have to admit to feeling this. A relative of mine has 5 kids and was a YUGE supporter of the prior administration and hates the damn commie liberals. Yet he happily takes food assistance and government insurance for his kids while refusing to commit to a full-time job. It’s mind boggling.
I get where the OP is coming from where impoverished people deliberately have children whilst receiving government assistance. But it also hit close to home for me. My immigrant parents raised myself and my 3 siblings and we had a comfortable life up until I was 7. I'm the youngest. My dad got laid off after dealing with a workplace injury and we ended up becoming poor. I just remember struggling so bad and the many nights we went hungry yet my parents always found a way to make sure we were fed and clothed all while not receiving a single f**king handout from the government. Then we get conservative, closed minded, heartless nitwits who make assumptions that families like mine relied solely on govt assistance and are lazy and don't want to work. Kindly f*** off. Unless you understand impoverished ppls stories and approach them with empathy and understanding, you will never understand why they're poor. Don't make assumptions. It just makes you look uglier.
I agree with everything you said Jay with the exception of your comment about "conservatives"... There are jerks on both sides of the aisle.... There were many negative, unkind, factually untrue, comments made on this topic, which were made by liberals. I make this analysis based on other comments the individuals have made elsewhere. Your comment is unfair to a vast number of conservatives and overly dismissive of a considerable number of offending liberals.
Load More Replies...people should be able have kids only after passive extensive testing
Yeah, because only rich people have the rigth to have children. Anyone knows money makes people better parents, right?? *eyeroll*
But absolutely, let's make sure there are NO Planned Parenthood clinics in certain areas.
You do realize the history of eugenics, planned parenthood, and black communities, right? In New York City, more black babies are aborted than born. Which was the plan…
Load More Replies...An acquaintance just found out she's pregnant for the second time. She's poor. She's in an abusive relationship (hint: she doesn't always have a say about whether she'll have sex or not). She already has a toddler. She also lives in Texas, and she found out she was pregnant at 7 weeks. Already past the point of legal abortion, which is 6 weeks. So - now what? Take THAT up with the asshole GQP who have decided that she shouldn't have any choices. She'll have that child and how will she pay for it? The GQP don't want to pay for healthcare or education or ANYTHING but they will make her bear that child. So maybe judge less.
I hope she finds the strength and wherewithal somehow to get away from her abuser. I know it's a terrifying situation to be in. Not to mention the brainwashing that goes on to make people stay - it should never be underestimated. If she won't leave for herself, which she should as she matters, she should leave for the children. They end up damaged as well. Poor woman. No judgement here, just sadness.
Load More Replies...I’m sorry, WTF?!?!? This is just bias and prejudice against poor families. Beethoven would not have ever been born if this was a thing. This pisses me off, there are many many loving families who are struggling financially through no fault of their own. Their kids are healthy and happy, which is more than I can say for many kids from wealthy families whose parents substitute any attention with money.
So many mean comments on that specific topic surprises me every time. Humans doe, what humans doe, especially in young age and that is a normal behavior. there is a reason, why most of the time, more educated people have less kids. So why not make sure, this kids get a proper education in the first place, instead of complaining: "Poor people should not have that much kids!!!!" That would be more helpful on the long run.
Not to mention alot of religions goes against people not, not having kids. I'm broke and poor. But all my children want not need not. They might act like they are dying (because they don't have the newest iphone) but all are well educated. Ab students with little missed classes. In well health and well dressed (when my middle son isn't wearing his only pair of sweat pants with 17 other pair of pants with no holes) I put their needs above my own being broke and poor. Tell me I'm a bad parent again. I dare you. Asshats always want to judge but never want to understand or be in your situation.
Obviously you are not a bad parent. Doing all those sacrifices for your kids. I would feel differently if you couldn't feed them and they had to eat out of dumpsters. This is what I call poor. A lotta of people in this thread/conversation consider poor people something else entirely. Where I live you can have a lot of money or scraping by. And if you are actually poor you don't have food and the other things that are absolutely necessary. It's very rare to be that poor here to be honest. Just want to point out that I consider someone with less money something else entirely.
Load More Replies...Seriously, if they're not bothering me than I don't care. Even if that family is getting government funding to as help, I don't care. The parents that just have kids to stay on welfare and only for that reason don't take care of them properly and are being watched by CPS. But there are some who have kids, love them and take care of their children and just go about their business. The government has those funds available either way, and wants to fund them with tax dollars, regardless. No one is actually paying more in taxes, like not insanely more, just because a family has a lot of kids. Usually there is a cap at how much a family can get, too. That's not my business nor my life to worry about.
You will have to judge all around the world. From Desert peoples to poor rural America, it is a problem. Are there cultural barriers to places around the world that do not allow birth control due to religious or "male dominance"? Be careful how you judge people, lest you be judged.
for the poor, children act like an insurance policy and a way to earn more money - this is a common economic concept elaborated by malthus
A poor man's wealth is his children. Rich men have all kinds and types of wealth and a poor man has his children. His children and grand children will surround him when he is old and he will be comforted. As arrows are in the hand of a mighty man; so are children of the youth. Happy is the man that hath his quiver full of them: they shall not be ashamed, but they shall speak with the enemies in the gate.
Children are not a burden, they are a gift. Whenever you judge someone for having kids, you make the kids inhuman burdens in your mind. Now, put yourself in that kid’s shoes and ask, if it were me would I rather not exist by someone else’s choice? If not, then shhhhh
Obviously celibacy would be a perfect solution to unwanted pregnancies, but humans aren't perfect and they will have sex regardless of their socioeconomic status. Birth control and abortion access should be readily available for all
In Canada, the more kids you have the more the government pays you. So some ppl use it as a form of income...its so wrong.
I know of a family who is poor and on welfare in my town with 4 kids and goes to Disney in Florida every year!
Good for the kids, nice to hear they manage to give them fun experiences, even if they have a hard time.
Load More Replies...a) there are too many people on the planet already. If we all have the "right" to have as many children as we're want then there is no space for any animals. b) not being able to feed the children you already have yet still having more when contraception is readily accessible.
Birth control (eg. The pill) in New Zealand is $5 for 3 months worth. Condoms can also be prescribed by the doctor for the same price (or free at family planning etc.)... the price of one take out coffee. You can't say that's not cheaper than having a child. Abortions are also free.
The rich man has many types of wealth, the one wealth the poor man can have is children. When he has a few it makes his old age better when he is surrounded by his children and grand children. As arrows are in the hand of a mighty man; so are children of the youth. Happy is the man that hath his quiver full of them: they shall not be ashamed, but they shall speak with the enemies in the gate.
Many people who comment on this one is having a different idea of what poor is. Some consider poor as people with low income while some think of poor as people who can't afford food and the necessary things to keep their children healthy etc. If people said what they considered to be poor it would probably be easier to discuss it?
No personal judgment on this I'm just saying I knew a girl who told me she had a daughter because her mother told her if she had kids she could always play the government and she would never go without.
Oh what great advice she was given! Sure, I know lots of people getting handouts from the government. They of course don't have; forms to fill, hoops to jump though, difficulties day in day out proving they need these handouts. Handouts which are SO generous that they're visiting food banks as well. They are hardly going to live a life of luxury but one that is still hand to mouth. Seriously - no-one is wealthy on welfare.
Load More Replies...Should judge people for having tons of kids regardless of their situation. Especially when the older kids are forced to raise their younger siblings because they outnumber the parents, so many kids resent their parents for doing this because they are losing their childhoods. Not to mention the dying world all these kids are being brought into. Why do this?
First of all, shame on you. When you turn children into a burden, you dehumanize them. Children are a gift, one that changes your life forever. I was born into a single parent teenage home. I am grateful to my mother despite our hardships growing up. If I resented her, I’d be a selfish entitled asshole. We have children with the hope that they will learn from our mistakes and leave the world a better place than we left it. It’s for hope. To adopt your world view we should all just drive off a cliff, which is the reason no one should listen to you.
Load More Replies...Some people do it for government entitlement money. They don't want the kid, they want the income
What "income", in the US I assume, do you speak of? An extra $50 on the SNAP card? TANF is the only cash assistance program, which is funded ridiculously low, and the states control how it is distributed. Some states spend the cash on a football player agreeing to give some speeches, which they don't actually do (to be fair, the player didn't know what LA was doing), or they accrue large amounts without disbursing, or only a minimal amount. You have to be in such dire straights, and then tell and prove your situation for a couple hundred at most, and not even necessarily for multiple months. This narrative is just an extension of Reagan's welfare queen garbage
Load More Replies...In the US, at least in the area that I live in, condoms are given in bulk for free at health departments, and birth control is on a sliding scale based on ones income. If you can't access those two options, at least attempt the pull out method. To keep having babies just puts you deeper into poverty.
So money is more important than children? Disgusting statement. I hope you don’t have kids, what a nightmare that would be for them…
Load More Replies...There’s a lot of resources out there where you can get certain types of birthcontrol for free. There’s a lot of place that give out free condoms. Also there’s free apps where you can track your cycle & figure out when you’re fertile window is & just not have sex that week. It’s like if you’re too poor to get bc you’re def too poor to raise a kid. Even an abortion is cheaper than raising a kid. If you can get Medicaid you can get your tubes tied or a vasectomy. There’s so many options
So many elitist comments. There are all types of people out there, with varying levels of education, support, income, housing, etc. Consider the fact that for many families, there are generations of poverty, abuse, religious zealotry, teen pregnancy, etc.. to overcome in order to break the cycle. Everyone isn't getting the same factual information, or having "the talk" with a caring, knowledgeable parent. Many states still only offer abstinence only as a basis for their sex ed curriculum. This is a multifaceted issue, and to reduce it to something so simple one-dimensional is quit flippant
In many states in the US, abtinence only is the only sex ed many kids are getting. Still. In 2022
Define poor. What you consider poor may not be the same standard for someone else. If people only had children for economic reasons, no one would ever have children.
An add-on for this should be... "... and then berate others for not having children whilst they themselves complain about how hard they have it as a parent of many"
Having any kids while poor, and than using the fact that you have kids, and you're poor as justification for expecting the rest of the world to conform to your "needs" and cater to what is convenient for you. Hell, any use of being a parent as a means of expecting anyone else to make special allowances for you, because you somehow believe that it really is possible to have everything you want, all the time without any sacrifices. Birth control, even in the US ranges from FREE to $50 a month. Condoms cost less than $1 each. If you're education level is "i know sum readin'" and your job title is "none" yet you're on child number 4 with no co-parent in sight, society isn't the problem.
Condoms are very easily obtained at your local Health Department or Planned Parenthood often for free. There is no excuse.
If one person isn't allowed to have several them no one should have any simply because overpopulation is a world crisis. I wish I'd been taught that having children is environmentally unsound. FIVE children later. But I made a bunch of tree huggers, I'd like to thank that helps a bit.
Having a ton of kids at all. Overpopulating the world with a bunch of little copies of yourself is the most self centered arrogant thing a person can do, rich or poor.
Everyone saying use "pull out method" need sex education...it's not an effective prevention because pre-ejaculate or pre-cum contains a large amount of sperm. Either wear a condom, go on the pill, or have an IUD placed. Or just don't have sex but we all know thats not going happen
I am so disgusted how many people say poor people just shouldn't have sex. Can any of you women thinking that garbage imagine how you would feel if someone told you to just keep your legs shut? Responsibility falls on women 100 percent of the time so this is pretty misogynistic way of thinking. Being poor does not mean someone is lacking in morals & intelligence. Being poor does not mean that someone is unworthy of dignity, self determination, or moments of happiness.
So only people who are financially secure, or have sufficient access, knowledge, & diligence with contraception use, have the right to sexual intercourse? Only the financially secure have the right to bear more children? That's fascism and ignores basic humanity. People got nerve looking down on the poor when they could very well end up in dire straights through no fault of their own. A lotta nerve looking down on folks they know nothing about. Kids are not just a financial decision. There are cultures where it is expected to have many kids. Tragic things happen, you could be looking down your nose at someone trying to raise their sibling's orphans. Or a family bankrupted by an illness. The price of birth control is only 1 barrier. There's a lot of stigma around Planned Parenthood and only 1 for hundreds of miles in parts of the US Poor women have to find transportation in secret, & that's assuming she hasn't been deliberately misinformed by her school about effectiveness or dangers.
I understand it might be unpopular, but I don't agree with having a bunch of children if you cannot afford to provide the basic necessities. Kids don't need to grow up in mansions or anything, i don't mean that, and some of the best parents I know are low income and are incredibly creative with the resources they do have. What really stands out to me is that their children don't know they are any different (because they are not) than their peers. Their parents provide the same love and support as someone with millions. The reason why I might judge someone for having a bunch of children while being poor is having them to make them work. No child should be exploited for labour. You cannot use the "oh their family" excuse, or "its a cultural thing". It's not. That sort of behaviour towards children is abusive. Children do not understand their rights and cannot provide for themselves. We are supposed to protect and raise them, not breed them to be our own slave labour.
So people who are poor can't have the same shot at having a family as anyone else? And what is deemed poor- what's the cut off? How many is too many kids? Why do others get to decide this for you? How is that different to people not having a choice for abortion?
Yes, I know, sometimes it's not a choice, but that mostly goes for the families who knowingly don't use any contraception, even though they absolutely can afford to buy a pack of f*****g condoms, they just choose not to and decide to have children when they clearly can't provide for them. I feel sorry for those kids - they didn't sign up for this, and yet they have to deal with poverty and total hopelessness.
If you're poor and have lots of kids the government funding comes in to take care of you. At least where I live.
That kid of those poor parents could become the doctor that saves your life, of how about that really inspirational teacher because that person had to work twice as hard to get there? Just sayin'. Don't just write poor people off. Also, this statement is just discrimination based on social/financial status.
I know that mine is an unpopular opinion, but being too poor to provide for your kids is a problem, but if you can still get by, then it is your choice who you want to bring into your family. Also, you never know if they had more money when choosing to have children. This is what happened to my family, my parents had 8 kids, then Dad got laid off. We were poor, but still had the absolute necessities.
I’m poor, work full time and can’t afford kids, much as i would like to, yet my taxes pay for benefit scum to have a multitude of children who will also grow up to sponge off welfare, where is the fairness in that?
Birth control is FREE. A medical facility can and will prove it if you don’t have insurance. It’s cheaper to give birth control pills or rubbers than have human lives born then abused and grow up to be Charles Manson! Being poor doesn’t mean you don’t know that having unprotected sex won’t make a child.
In many countries, those who are poor don't have good education and don't understand the consequences of what they are doing. They may even be unaware of what kind of birth control available.
I had 3 kids by time I was 21. I was on birth control all 3 times... I got my tubes tied after my 3rd child... I still ended up pregnant but that pregnancy ended with a miscarriage. Birth control and condoms do not work 100% of the time. With that said, It makes me mad when people get pregnant purposely when they are already struggling to make ends meet.
having more kids makes a bigger chance of one of them becoming successful enough to help them in the future
In my country this problem is more complex. In poor regions the lack of education is the main problem. These people doesn't even know about proper birth control. So the first step in every country would be to EDUCATE.
In Canada - a lot of girls have babies to live off the child benefits. Sad - but true
it has nothing to do with money and more with half a brain and integrity. also, there's something glorious called "the consequences of your actions". very innovative concept!
So one lacks integrity for having children? What a f**k wad you are for saying such things about your parents…
Load More Replies...Unfortunately in many very poor nations, having lots of kids is still celebrated, a cultural symbol of status.
This isn’t unfortunate. It just shows those cultures value family and community over money. 😑
Load More Replies..."Stop fcking, get a job. Get a job holding d***s, but get paid to do it" - Chris Rock
You can get a pack of condoms for a pound in Poundland. This is where poor people shop anyway so they can get them with their crisps and chocolate. They don’t though because of the very generous benefit system in the UK. Vermin breed without any thought.
You can get FREE condoms at any family planning clinic. Birth control, morning after pills and abortions are free in the UK. The benefit system is there to help those who need it. Sure some abuse it - that kind of thing is going to happen. Not anywhere near as bad as companies who don't pay their staff a living wage forcing them to get Universal Credit which only ultimately benefits the greedy fat cat b*stards at the top.
Load More Replies...This needs to be higher. This is a huge society issue and i find this people to be the worst
Aren’t you a lucky little cupcake having been born to parents with money? For those who were born into poverty, people like you make our lives a living hell. I am the son of a single parent teenage mother. I completed my doctorate three years ago and run a successful business going on 12 years strong helping kids get into college with scholarships. But you think I am the worst? What the hell have you done to make you so righteous?
Load More Replies...Having a ton of kids period. I start getting judgy past two. There aren't enough resources on the planet for everyone to just keep having a bunch of kids. It's not sustainable. If every couple had two kids, then that would at least allow the population to level out, while still allowing people to have plenty of children per househould. If people separate and remarry, then they should be mindful of the tally with their next partner. One kid per adult total. If they want more than that, then they should adopt. Keeping the number low also allows the parents to spend more quality time with each kid. It's just better for everybody.
Yeah, you might want to research the long-term damage from the Chinese one-child policy before spreading that outdated idea.
Load More Replies...Ok now this is just a weeeee bit classist, don’t you think? Bad form.
Load More Replies...Wall Street welfare snd the 1% do more damage to society than the few poor who may get around the system. I know zero people on welfare who can afford a 2020 Mercedes. Do you know all of the details about the people you type about. In America one must jump through many hoops annually to get welfare and stay on welfare. Agencies have people looking for cheaters all the time, unlike the 1% or Wall Street
Load More Replies...If you don’t hear any criticism about what you do, then it’s only natural to assume you’re ‘perfect’ and ‘flawless.’ If there’s no feedback, how can we expect someone to learn? Overly selfish people don’t change their ways at the drop of a hat. It takes a series of moments of clarity to get them to think that maybe—just maybe—they might need to rethink some things. However, some individuals find it hard to get past the embarrassment that comes from realizing they’ve been making mistakes.
"We spend a lot of time and effort presenting an ideal version of ourselves to other people. When something happens that contrasts with the image we’ve been projecting—when we say or do something that shows we actually aren’t as graceful or as smart as we’d like people to believe—we feel embarrassed," Vanessa Bohns from Cornell University explained to Bored Panda.
People walking toward you that don't put equal effort into avoiding collision. I'll move a bit, but you should do the same. You expect me to walk around you?
This! One time, 3 people were walking towards me side by side, taking up the entire pavement. I would have had to walk in the busy road to avoid them. They did not move over one inch. I just stopped in the pavement and looked at them. They also stopped in front of me until it got awkward and they grew enough social awareness to apologise... 😑
I can't stand people who piss on the toilet seat and don't clean it.
How could you just leave your own urine and poop on a public toilet seat with a clear conscience? ಠ▃ಠ
"Discovering you were wrong about something most everyone else around you has long known to be true is one of those moments. In that moment we learn, 'Wait a minute, maybe I haven’t been presenting the image of being smart or worldly that I thought I was presenting all this time,' which is embarrassing."
One powerful way to change for the better is to become kinder, more altruistic, more giving. And there’s an added benefit, too—you’ll become happier while making the world a better place.
Not using a turn signal when driving. It's not that hard, and it's pretty arrogant not to use one
I think I've been the only BMW driver that used their turn signals. I’ve heard tales of others doing the same. But they're probably apocryphal and now lost in time.
I can't stand people who don't pick up their dog's s**t! You're a scumbag!
or those folks who leave doggy poo bags hanging from trees and bushes like weird Christmas decorations... they just can't be bothered to put it in the doggy bin..
Being unjustifiably rude to waiters, sales associates, janitors, etc. (basically anyone who is being paid to perform a service for you)
It is extremely telling of a person's character.
Saw a old, spoiled lady getting her bad character out on a approx. 20 y.o. waiter, because he didn't get the 6 wine glasses at the same filling level on first try. From then on, she always watched him and shook her head and said things like "i would be shamed soo much if i were him". Next morning (it was in a hotel) i overheard from her family that she got a stomach bug and diarrhea and can't make it to breakfast. Well deserved
"The 10 keys to happier living are giving, relating, exercising, awareness, trying out, direction, resilience, emotions, acceptance, and meaning. We are likely to be happier if our lives have direction, meaning, and purpose and if we are part of something bigger than ourselves," Sarah Vero from ‘Action for Happiness’ told Bored Panda.
People who bring children to situations that are not appropriate for children.
Mmm.... define 'appropriate' for children. The picture suggests an office. I don't judge for this. People don't want to bring their kids to offices and the like. If they do it's usually because they don't have any other option and they are doing the best they can with what they have. Bars and genuine inappropriate places and times are a different story.
Even worse are the people who play their music through their speakers on a trail. You're outside its gorgeous there are birds and s**t. Turn off you god damn music you're ruining it for the rest of us.
Finally: "I judge people who complain about politics, but choose not to vote
Unless you can't legally vote. In my country, we have lots of people disenfranchised from voting, often for very petty reasons. If you're politically active and engaged in other ways, I figure you've earned your right to complain -- even if you can't vote.
"Think about how you can reach out and do things for others, help a neighbor or volunteer for a cause, we get happiness high from helping other people. Or start small and simply list three things that you can be grateful for each night before bed. Take it slow and be kind to yourself,” she suggested how people can learn to open up to new experiences and helping others.
Throwing others under the bus in the work place for their own personal gain. Especially when they do it in front of a group of people,
I work at a Starbucks in a grocery store and I have two regulars with scrawny, super scraggly kids and they spend $7-$10 on one or two drinks while they yell at their kid for wanting a 75 cent doughnut.
The kicker is that they're paying with food stamps.
So that. I judge that.
I feel sorry when mommy and daddy coming in for lots of beer and stronger stuff, but the kids got nothing.
When you tailgate me when there is a slow car in front of me. What a pointless action and people do it all the time. It accomplishes nothing except making the road even more dangerous than it already is.
People who don't take care of their dogs.
I'm not talking about people who don't feed some super premium dog food, or get them groomed every 2 weeks, or even those people who opt to euthanize because they can't afford a 12K surgery.
I'm talking about doing the bare f**king minimum. Take a brush and brush your dog. Find a food that doesn't give him explosive diarrhea every time he has to take a s**t. Give that little turd factory some discipline so he stops trying to maul toddlers when he inevitably dashes out your front door and across the street. For f**ks sake, run your labs and goldens until they're too tired to move any more. A tired dog is a happy dog.
I judge people who shut down those asking questions and trying to learn more
so religious zealots, obstinate teachers, totalitarian governments - most of society's figures of authority
I'm not always silent about it, but people at my local supermarket who refuse to return their shopping carts, but instead leave them to roll into other cars whenever the next wind gust comes along.
The last lady I confronted about this said some bulls**t that was basically blah blah blah my bad back, but she managed to push it all around the store and then fully loaded out to her car, now she suddenly can't push a now-empty cart a few more feet to the return?? Can't stand those people.
In Belgium we have to put a coin in the trolley to be able to use it. Simple solution.
People who are habitually late to things. It's one of the most inconsiderate things I can thing of and yet it seems so common
Ppl hu typ lyk dis.
Or people who don't use punctuation or at least a damn full stop to break up their god damned sentences. Drives me insane and although I'm not the greatest at punctuation and grammar, I automatically think you're and idiot.
Definitely smoking cigarettes while pregnant. I can't help not judging you for that s**t.
I have a coworker who "only feeds her children bio foods" but she's smoking while breastfeeding...
If you don't like animals....I don't know if I like you.
There's nothing I dislike more than when a husband feels like he has to act like his wife's authority while other people are around. I hate gender roles in relationships
People who have their phones out in a goddamn movie theater. We all payed the same price. I don't care if you don't want to get your money's worth, I do. I am going to yell and you and if you don't stop, throw popcorn at you till you do.
Constantly posting condescending political rants on facebook.
Also those who can't admit that they are wrong, or when they've lost. 🤨
Anyone who adopts a "whatever" policy to being late. I freak out when I'm late for something, and it absolutely blows my mind when people just don't care.
I've seen way too many people who think arriving an hour late to an important event makes them cooler
Being involved in an MLM... Scentsy, Essential Oils, It Works!, etc.
It's not that I don't appreciate the fact that they are trying to better themselves. It's that I assume they are really stupid for getting suckered in the first place.
Crass public behaviour, especially while drunk. If you can't handle your alcohol without being a s**t, don't drink. Hate it.
People who give disabled people dirty looks. Or shops that don't have access like we need to get in too you know
I have even experienced disabled people giving other disabled people a hard time. Ahhhh humans, what to do.
Load More Replies...People who leave unwanted items scattered all over the store, especially things that need to be frozen and are just sitting in the canned goods or the bread aisle. If you decide you don't want something, give it to the checkout clerk so it can be returned to the right place. Especially do not leave raw meat just sitting around. Also, people who "donate" so-long-past-expiry-that-it's-not-safe food and other unusable items to the Food Bank. The less fortunate do not want your six year old cocktail onions or your opened package of crackers.
As someone who used to work in a grocery store, I totally agree. You don't want something? Just give it to me so I can have someone put it back. Such a waste to find a package of chicken stuffed in between the magazine racks.
Load More Replies...I judge people who wear their mask under their nose and think they're doing it right. I mean come on, we're like 3 years into this thing and you're still half assing the mask.
People who give me weird looks when I dress fancy… dude I can wear a suit on a Wednesday. Or a dress on a Monday. I can do whatever the h-e-double hockey sticks I want.
After the last two years, I have come to judge anyone who says, "I did my own research/vaccines are evil," the way I'd have judged the defendants at Nuremberg. This is unfair of me, I know it, and I'm working on it. Mea culpa.
"did my own research" == "watched bullshit on youtube". I send them this. the-ive-do...5aa1ea.png
Load More Replies...I am going to say something that will probably be controversial. I am seriously judgmental of people who have fertility treatments in order to have children. It costs tens of thousands of dollars for the process, and if your insurance is paying for it that means that everyone else's insurance costs are going up. And this is not about wanting children or a family. There are thousands and thousands of orphans of all ages, colors, nationalities, etc. Out there starving for a home. No. Fertility treatments are about one thing: passing on your precious genes. Making sure your own magical combination of DNA goes on for one more generation. And I think it is an egotistical waste of economic and medical resources.
I don't care if it's controversial, as l agree. And it really bothers me that they talk about parenthood when they mean pregnancy. Two entirely different things
Load More Replies...Interrupters ! People who won't let others finish their sentence, or don't let them finish whatever they're doing ... because they think, they're "more important" than everyone else! It's just being rude and inconsiderate.
I judge people who, without benefit of actually knowing me, attempt to discuss politics with me. In almost EVERY case they misjudge where I stand. Possibly this is because of geography. I don't know. But if you're some rando on a bus or in the checkout line, I'm not interested in your political leanings.
I live in christian trump country. You'd be amazed at how many talk to me assuming I'm christian, republican and racist. I shut it down hard. You assume things with a stranger, I will be happy to provide the consequences you reap.
Load More Replies...There are a lot of people in my city who are politically progressive, generous, pleasant people... but when the topic of homelessness comes up, they just turn incredibly hateful. Homelessness is a massive problem here and it's sometimes frustrating to deal with. But if you can see a confused, elderly, mentally ill person living in a cardboard box under a freeway overpass, and instead of feeling empathy you just complain that they're blocking the sidewalk... there's something wrong with you.
in civilised countries, aka what trump calls 'shitholes', we have social housing.
Load More Replies...Oh, and people who put trash in recycling receptacles--or put recyclable paper in the trash when the the recycle bin is two steps away.
unless you are literally blind, there is no reason for this.
Load More Replies...I've known a couple of people like this because they were pathological liars. It's not an excuse, just an explanation. I hate them just the same.
Load More Replies...Poor work ethic. Someone has to cover for you when you’re out. If you don’t want the job, quit and let us get someone who does.
As an employer, I would rather have someone who knows how to show up instead of the guy who knows how to do the job.
Load More Replies...People who are walking about aimlessly buried in their phones expecting you to move out of their way.....no I'm not moving. If you walk into me, drop your phone or whatever then it's your own effin' fault!!
I still, and will continue to, judge people who won't wear a mask to protect others, and those who won't get vaccinated. I've become adept at showing my judginess even while wearing a mask, hat, and sunglasses, and without using any verbal signals.
Just got a t-shirt that reads "I Identify as Vaccinated" I think it is hilarious, because I wasn't born vaccinated.
Load More Replies...People who treat animals poorly. (e. g. eat meat every day, go to horse races, keep their bunny in a tiny cage.)
I agree with everything but the eating part. If something dies, eat it. What I can’t stand is people who waste meat- let it go expired or cook too much and throw it away. That animal died- have some respect. Especially if it’s a whole animal like a chicken or turkey. If you waste it, it truly died for no reason.
Load More Replies...I will concede the no-vaxxing, but as long as their religiosity is not hurting anyone, no judgment.
Load More Replies...I'm judgemental about influencers. I think 99% are just narcistic people who loves easy money.
“I’m excited to have partnered with [brand]…” NOPE! Unfollow.
Load More Replies...Most of these I wouldn't silently judge...I'd loudly judge. One thing I do silently judge is when people from other countries come here and don't pay attention to laws or safety things, like street signs. I live in an area with a lot of immigration and, I understand yoou may not know the language yet, but pay attention to the behavior of people around you until you figure out certain things. We have people riding their bikes on highways in the area which is against the law and dangerous. A lot of people on bikes with no shirts or shoes on freeways, a lot of uninsured people... We also had a lot of people who work jobs with equipment they aren't licensed to handle because it was cheaper for the contractors to hire undocumented peoples. It's dangerous for them and for others. I know it's not PC to say it but I'm definitely judging those contractors if you put other people in danger because you don't know or care about laws that govern safety.
A lot of time not intended. If you see from where those people come, you'll understand. If you were used to the streets of Mumbai, you will think the streets in Asterdam are 100% safe. People have to learn how to follow rules, because in a lot of countries, people are just doing something.
Load More Replies...Parents who count to three, and then...well,nothing happens. If you're going to count, when you hit three, you better follow through.
I'm noticing that too. I bet the use of the word "hate" on this site has increased greatly in the past few months. But people love to pick sides, maybe it gives them a sense of purpose that's otherwise lacking in their lives.
Load More Replies...People who get rid of animals because they aren’t “convenient” anymore. When you adopt an animal, you adopt it for life. Also, when people use their pets’ reproductive system to make money. The pounds are full of animals with no homes. We don’t need more designer puppies.
I've reached that stage in life where almost everyone pisses me off. I realise that says a lot more about me than anyone else, but fück them all.
I judge people who drive large lifted trucks who adorn them testicles. I like trucks. I drive a truck. Don’t ruin it for me.
It’s so weird and obscene. I’m not shy about the human body and all bodies are beautiful but really?! It’s just unnecessary and Crude.
Load More Replies...These are all too safe and reasonable. I will judge you if you watch reality tv, add at the end when you say the word ‘something’ or ‘anything’, wear Crocs, buy every FIFA game or have scalped a PS5. Nothing exactly wrong with these things by I will automatically think less of you.
Putting their social media accounts everywhere. i.e. 'everyone is an aspiring celebrity' culture. The worst offense I see is in dating profiles, with "follow me" instead of a description, a sure sign of no personality. The dumbest are probably the flashy cars with a social media window sticker, since there are so many cases of cars being stolen because of the details posted on the person's account.
I hate people that proudly announce every chance they get, how smart their kids are, however, they think that kids cannot understand good behavior and never teach them manners or consequences, because "kids are too young to know or to be taught better" I've worked with kids of all ages for 30 years, and let me tell you; Kids know, and they're manipulating you, because they know they can get away with everything around their parents, why do you think they behave differently and better with other adults like teachers, nannies, parents of other children etc. Another adult or caretaker wouldn't discipline your kids, but the kids don't know this so they behave well
Long nails on people who work with food or in health care. How can you really get those clean?
I judge people who choose to live in a country where their native language is not spoken.. and even after years, they have not bothered to learn the local language. There is always a way to learn it... and not doing it is lazy and ignorant in my opinion.
stop sending me youtube link to anti vaccines and vegan clips. please. you do you, i do me.
Wow, did I upvote a bunch of these. (also guilty of a few). Amazing how many of these could be avoided with the "Golden rule"
People who repeat talking points without having any idea what they actually mean. If you try to actually engage, they just spew more talking points. Literally can't carry on a conversation because they have no idea what they're talking about, but they'll roll their eyes, shout at you, and act like YOU are the asshole.
People who lie. People who break basic society rules. I don’t care if the lie didn’t hurt anyone, or if the rule is stupid. Change the rules instead of breaking them. People who constantly lie, can they be honest with themselves? And if they are, do they feel fine lying all the time?
People who habitually talk over others. Why would you interrupt someone answering a question you asked? I work with someone who just does not understand how conversations work.
Nuerotypical people judging nuerodivergent people for not being "normal" F**k those people.
People who walk into my podiatrist with their bare, filthy, smelly feet.
People who can't grasp third grade literacy skills, unless they have a legitimate learning disorder. Being willfully illiterate is trashy.
People that don't follow the rules for their recycling plants/centers. In most plants/centers, they'll simply throw away recyclables that aren't properly cleaned, non-recyclable parts removed, wrong number, etc. Many people don't know this or do this. They just toss anything plastic/glass/paper in the bin and think they're helping when all they're doing is making trash with extra steps.
Religion. Christian Evangelicals, mostly. Why take any responsibility for your personal actions your entire life when you can confess all your sins on your deathbed and get a free pass?
So much of this is petty or ignorant of what other people are working with - makes me very sad about other people. Save yourself some space in your brain for others and assume they're dealing with difficult things, a hard day, kid who is having a hard time, they had kids before becoming poor, they're just living their life - whatever. Trust me, you're no peach yourself.
People who claim to be medically exempt from wearing masks and then actually wear a mask with no problems when you tell them your work doesn't allow mask exemptions. My work doesn't allow exemptions for several reasons, and we are within our right to do so, and I have yet to have someone who claims medical exemption leave. They always take a mask and shockingly, actually have zero issues. There are fully valid reasons why someone can't wear a mask, but if you really had a reason you can't wear one, you would leave instead of taking a mask and wearing it. And so yes, I judge people who fake or exaggerate conditions because they don't want to follow rules in a pandemic because they just make it harder on the people who genuinely have real medical conditions.
People who are nasty on anipal twitter. Who cares if they talk in baby talk or the spellings wrong. We KNOW it’s not really animals typing but it’s fun and there are some fantastic communities on there who offer friendship and support to people who have no one. If you don’t like , move on . Live and let live.
I judge people by their book shelves. And I judge them far more for _not_ having a book shelf than for having cheap and/or trashy books
There is a culture in America. You are paid by the government for each child you have and can't support. You also must have no support of the significant other. So our system encourages it.
Spoken like someone who knows nothing about the US welfare system. First, government doesn't pay you anything unless you pay in and qualify to receive SSI or SSDI due to age/disability. The only cash program is TANFF, which is critically underfunded, distributed through poorly designed programs,when the state isn't hording the money for other stuff. Welfare requires info from both biological parents, and they evaluate your support arrangements if you aren't sharing a household to determine if it meets their income guidelines. If the other parent isn't contributing voluntarily, they hunt down that parent, verify DNA and enforce a support agreement based on their income (& not their actual financial situation which may not actually afford the amount they determine). Then the state will award Medicaid/CHIP, SNAP, WIC, Section 8, none of which is cash. Welfare reform of 90s changed the programs to require contribution from both parents.
Load More Replies...People who give disabled people dirty looks. Or shops that don't have access like we need to get in too you know
I have even experienced disabled people giving other disabled people a hard time. Ahhhh humans, what to do.
Load More Replies...People who leave unwanted items scattered all over the store, especially things that need to be frozen and are just sitting in the canned goods or the bread aisle. If you decide you don't want something, give it to the checkout clerk so it can be returned to the right place. Especially do not leave raw meat just sitting around. Also, people who "donate" so-long-past-expiry-that-it's-not-safe food and other unusable items to the Food Bank. The less fortunate do not want your six year old cocktail onions or your opened package of crackers.
As someone who used to work in a grocery store, I totally agree. You don't want something? Just give it to me so I can have someone put it back. Such a waste to find a package of chicken stuffed in between the magazine racks.
Load More Replies...I judge people who wear their mask under their nose and think they're doing it right. I mean come on, we're like 3 years into this thing and you're still half assing the mask.
People who give me weird looks when I dress fancy… dude I can wear a suit on a Wednesday. Or a dress on a Monday. I can do whatever the h-e-double hockey sticks I want.
After the last two years, I have come to judge anyone who says, "I did my own research/vaccines are evil," the way I'd have judged the defendants at Nuremberg. This is unfair of me, I know it, and I'm working on it. Mea culpa.
"did my own research" == "watched bullshit on youtube". I send them this. the-ive-do...5aa1ea.png
Load More Replies...I am going to say something that will probably be controversial. I am seriously judgmental of people who have fertility treatments in order to have children. It costs tens of thousands of dollars for the process, and if your insurance is paying for it that means that everyone else's insurance costs are going up. And this is not about wanting children or a family. There are thousands and thousands of orphans of all ages, colors, nationalities, etc. Out there starving for a home. No. Fertility treatments are about one thing: passing on your precious genes. Making sure your own magical combination of DNA goes on for one more generation. And I think it is an egotistical waste of economic and medical resources.
I don't care if it's controversial, as l agree. And it really bothers me that they talk about parenthood when they mean pregnancy. Two entirely different things
Load More Replies...Interrupters ! People who won't let others finish their sentence, or don't let them finish whatever they're doing ... because they think, they're "more important" than everyone else! It's just being rude and inconsiderate.
I judge people who, without benefit of actually knowing me, attempt to discuss politics with me. In almost EVERY case they misjudge where I stand. Possibly this is because of geography. I don't know. But if you're some rando on a bus or in the checkout line, I'm not interested in your political leanings.
I live in christian trump country. You'd be amazed at how many talk to me assuming I'm christian, republican and racist. I shut it down hard. You assume things with a stranger, I will be happy to provide the consequences you reap.
Load More Replies...There are a lot of people in my city who are politically progressive, generous, pleasant people... but when the topic of homelessness comes up, they just turn incredibly hateful. Homelessness is a massive problem here and it's sometimes frustrating to deal with. But if you can see a confused, elderly, mentally ill person living in a cardboard box under a freeway overpass, and instead of feeling empathy you just complain that they're blocking the sidewalk... there's something wrong with you.
in civilised countries, aka what trump calls 'shitholes', we have social housing.
Load More Replies...Oh, and people who put trash in recycling receptacles--or put recyclable paper in the trash when the the recycle bin is two steps away.
unless you are literally blind, there is no reason for this.
Load More Replies...I've known a couple of people like this because they were pathological liars. It's not an excuse, just an explanation. I hate them just the same.
Load More Replies...Poor work ethic. Someone has to cover for you when you’re out. If you don’t want the job, quit and let us get someone who does.
As an employer, I would rather have someone who knows how to show up instead of the guy who knows how to do the job.
Load More Replies...People who are walking about aimlessly buried in their phones expecting you to move out of their way.....no I'm not moving. If you walk into me, drop your phone or whatever then it's your own effin' fault!!
I still, and will continue to, judge people who won't wear a mask to protect others, and those who won't get vaccinated. I've become adept at showing my judginess even while wearing a mask, hat, and sunglasses, and without using any verbal signals.
Just got a t-shirt that reads "I Identify as Vaccinated" I think it is hilarious, because I wasn't born vaccinated.
Load More Replies...People who treat animals poorly. (e. g. eat meat every day, go to horse races, keep their bunny in a tiny cage.)
I agree with everything but the eating part. If something dies, eat it. What I can’t stand is people who waste meat- let it go expired or cook too much and throw it away. That animal died- have some respect. Especially if it’s a whole animal like a chicken or turkey. If you waste it, it truly died for no reason.
Load More Replies...I will concede the no-vaxxing, but as long as their religiosity is not hurting anyone, no judgment.
Load More Replies...I'm judgemental about influencers. I think 99% are just narcistic people who loves easy money.
“I’m excited to have partnered with [brand]…” NOPE! Unfollow.
Load More Replies...Most of these I wouldn't silently judge...I'd loudly judge. One thing I do silently judge is when people from other countries come here and don't pay attention to laws or safety things, like street signs. I live in an area with a lot of immigration and, I understand yoou may not know the language yet, but pay attention to the behavior of people around you until you figure out certain things. We have people riding their bikes on highways in the area which is against the law and dangerous. A lot of people on bikes with no shirts or shoes on freeways, a lot of uninsured people... We also had a lot of people who work jobs with equipment they aren't licensed to handle because it was cheaper for the contractors to hire undocumented peoples. It's dangerous for them and for others. I know it's not PC to say it but I'm definitely judging those contractors if you put other people in danger because you don't know or care about laws that govern safety.
A lot of time not intended. If you see from where those people come, you'll understand. If you were used to the streets of Mumbai, you will think the streets in Asterdam are 100% safe. People have to learn how to follow rules, because in a lot of countries, people are just doing something.
Load More Replies...Parents who count to three, and then...well,nothing happens. If you're going to count, when you hit three, you better follow through.
I'm noticing that too. I bet the use of the word "hate" on this site has increased greatly in the past few months. But people love to pick sides, maybe it gives them a sense of purpose that's otherwise lacking in their lives.
Load More Replies...People who get rid of animals because they aren’t “convenient” anymore. When you adopt an animal, you adopt it for life. Also, when people use their pets’ reproductive system to make money. The pounds are full of animals with no homes. We don’t need more designer puppies.
I've reached that stage in life where almost everyone pisses me off. I realise that says a lot more about me than anyone else, but fück them all.
I judge people who drive large lifted trucks who adorn them testicles. I like trucks. I drive a truck. Don’t ruin it for me.
It’s so weird and obscene. I’m not shy about the human body and all bodies are beautiful but really?! It’s just unnecessary and Crude.
Load More Replies...These are all too safe and reasonable. I will judge you if you watch reality tv, add at the end when you say the word ‘something’ or ‘anything’, wear Crocs, buy every FIFA game or have scalped a PS5. Nothing exactly wrong with these things by I will automatically think less of you.
Putting their social media accounts everywhere. i.e. 'everyone is an aspiring celebrity' culture. The worst offense I see is in dating profiles, with "follow me" instead of a description, a sure sign of no personality. The dumbest are probably the flashy cars with a social media window sticker, since there are so many cases of cars being stolen because of the details posted on the person's account.
I hate people that proudly announce every chance they get, how smart their kids are, however, they think that kids cannot understand good behavior and never teach them manners or consequences, because "kids are too young to know or to be taught better" I've worked with kids of all ages for 30 years, and let me tell you; Kids know, and they're manipulating you, because they know they can get away with everything around their parents, why do you think they behave differently and better with other adults like teachers, nannies, parents of other children etc. Another adult or caretaker wouldn't discipline your kids, but the kids don't know this so they behave well
Long nails on people who work with food or in health care. How can you really get those clean?
I judge people who choose to live in a country where their native language is not spoken.. and even after years, they have not bothered to learn the local language. There is always a way to learn it... and not doing it is lazy and ignorant in my opinion.
stop sending me youtube link to anti vaccines and vegan clips. please. you do you, i do me.
Wow, did I upvote a bunch of these. (also guilty of a few). Amazing how many of these could be avoided with the "Golden rule"
People who repeat talking points without having any idea what they actually mean. If you try to actually engage, they just spew more talking points. Literally can't carry on a conversation because they have no idea what they're talking about, but they'll roll their eyes, shout at you, and act like YOU are the asshole.
People who lie. People who break basic society rules. I don’t care if the lie didn’t hurt anyone, or if the rule is stupid. Change the rules instead of breaking them. People who constantly lie, can they be honest with themselves? And if they are, do they feel fine lying all the time?
People who habitually talk over others. Why would you interrupt someone answering a question you asked? I work with someone who just does not understand how conversations work.
Nuerotypical people judging nuerodivergent people for not being "normal" F**k those people.
People who walk into my podiatrist with their bare, filthy, smelly feet.
People who can't grasp third grade literacy skills, unless they have a legitimate learning disorder. Being willfully illiterate is trashy.
People that don't follow the rules for their recycling plants/centers. In most plants/centers, they'll simply throw away recyclables that aren't properly cleaned, non-recyclable parts removed, wrong number, etc. Many people don't know this or do this. They just toss anything plastic/glass/paper in the bin and think they're helping when all they're doing is making trash with extra steps.
Religion. Christian Evangelicals, mostly. Why take any responsibility for your personal actions your entire life when you can confess all your sins on your deathbed and get a free pass?
So much of this is petty or ignorant of what other people are working with - makes me very sad about other people. Save yourself some space in your brain for others and assume they're dealing with difficult things, a hard day, kid who is having a hard time, they had kids before becoming poor, they're just living their life - whatever. Trust me, you're no peach yourself.
People who claim to be medically exempt from wearing masks and then actually wear a mask with no problems when you tell them your work doesn't allow mask exemptions. My work doesn't allow exemptions for several reasons, and we are within our right to do so, and I have yet to have someone who claims medical exemption leave. They always take a mask and shockingly, actually have zero issues. There are fully valid reasons why someone can't wear a mask, but if you really had a reason you can't wear one, you would leave instead of taking a mask and wearing it. And so yes, I judge people who fake or exaggerate conditions because they don't want to follow rules in a pandemic because they just make it harder on the people who genuinely have real medical conditions.
People who are nasty on anipal twitter. Who cares if they talk in baby talk or the spellings wrong. We KNOW it’s not really animals typing but it’s fun and there are some fantastic communities on there who offer friendship and support to people who have no one. If you don’t like , move on . Live and let live.
I judge people by their book shelves. And I judge them far more for _not_ having a book shelf than for having cheap and/or trashy books
There is a culture in America. You are paid by the government for each child you have and can't support. You also must have no support of the significant other. So our system encourages it.
Spoken like someone who knows nothing about the US welfare system. First, government doesn't pay you anything unless you pay in and qualify to receive SSI or SSDI due to age/disability. The only cash program is TANFF, which is critically underfunded, distributed through poorly designed programs,when the state isn't hording the money for other stuff. Welfare requires info from both biological parents, and they evaluate your support arrangements if you aren't sharing a household to determine if it meets their income guidelines. If the other parent isn't contributing voluntarily, they hunt down that parent, verify DNA and enforce a support agreement based on their income (& not their actual financial situation which may not actually afford the amount they determine). Then the state will award Medicaid/CHIP, SNAP, WIC, Section 8, none of which is cash. Welfare reform of 90s changed the programs to require contribution from both parents.
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