“What Was The Reason You Didn’t Marry The Person You Thought You Were Going To?” (45 Answers)

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While many of us might have certain dreams or visions of a life together with our current partner, the reality is that people change and sometimes we are not quite perceptive enough towards their flaws.

Someone asked folks online “What was the reason you didn’t marry the person you thought you were going to?” and people shared their stories. We also got in touch with marriage and family therapist Elizabeth Earnshaw to learn more about communication and “red flags.” So get comfortable as you read through, upvote your favorites and be sure to comment your thoughts below.

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“What Was The Reason You Didn’t Marry The Person You Thought You Were Going To?” (45 Answers) He got drunk one night and started yelling at me for eating french fries with my fingers instead of using a fork. All I could think of afterward was a lifetime of being yelled at for stupid s**t, so I broke it off with him.

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Julia Mckinney 6 months ago

And that IS some stupid s**t to get yelled at for.

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“What Was The Reason You Didn’t Marry The Person You Thought You Were Going To?” (45 Answers) We had been together for a short while when “things got too real” and he broke it off. Flash forward 6 years and I go on a blind date only to find out it’s him. That night started a series of very long conversations where we cleared the air and all the skeletons were taken out of the closet. And we decided to give it a go again. After being together for a few months he popped the question, I said yes and we started making plans. About a week later I received a call from his sister. He had died. He was a long haul trucker and had developed phlebitis (blood clots in his legs). One of the clots broke loose and caused a massive heart attack. Thankfully it was in his sleep so he didn’t suffer. I think about him every day and miss him terribly.

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Julia Mckinney 6 months ago

Oh man, that's tough. My condolences.

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“What Was The Reason You Didn’t Marry The Person You Thought You Were Going To?” (45 Answers) We had been together for 3 years when I proposed. We held a big engagement party at my parents place in the country, and invited both of our families.

Not only did our families not really get along, we didn’t even get along with our own families. We had a long talk about dropping 5 figures on a glorified party for people we don’t like. That led to a conversation about whether we really believed in marriage.

Together, we called off our engagement at that party (but we didn’t tell people for months.)

This year will mark 19 happily unmarried years we’ve been together.

Edit: Thanks to everyone for the kind replies! In Canada, you get many benefits from a common law partnership. You can also register as a domestic partnership at any Service Canada centre, which we’ve done. Only took a few minutes.

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poison Ivy 6 months ago

Sometimes the Marriage word hurts. It's not a big deal. I'm glad you're happy. I've been married 32 years and he just got upset with me for asking a basic question because he's tired! He only does it to me, no I'm not paranoid, he only does it to me!

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Bored Panda got in touch with marriage and family therapist Elizabeth Earnshaw to learn more about communication in a relationship and she was kind enough to answer some of our questions. Firstly, we wanted to know what things a person should really consider before a relationship gets serious.

“Before committing to a long term relationship, I think it's important to consider the other person's capacity for both openness and respecting boundaries. When we look at healthy relationships, what we see is that those who are in fulfilling relationships have a good sense of how to respect each other's boundaries and also have the ability to be open and loving.”

“What Was The Reason You Didn’t Marry The Person You Thought You Were Going To?” (45 Answers) Right as I started to think of marriage he quit his job, then decided I needed I made enough to pay for the 2 of us. Then got mad when I cut the cable TV and things like Netflix to save money, because he was not looking for a job and we were slowly going broke.

As a gay man myself, I am not paying for another grown man to live. I don't care if he works 35 hours a week at McDonalds, he has to contribute something.

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Jerry Mathers 6 months ago

I'm 100% with this guy. And someone telling me I make enough support us both so they are just going to stay home can go kick rocks. The way I see it, if you have a dream you are working towards, making art, getting an education, starting a business, and my partner brought up staying home so they could pursue it, no worries. But if the plan is to sit around watching TV, playing video games, sleeping...no way. That would ruin that person. They would be looking to me to fill in their lives, and end up either bored as hell or tedious to be around. If we didn't need the $, then we should save it and do something cool. But I am out of the taking care of grown adults business.

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“What Was The Reason You Didn’t Marry The Person You Thought You Were Going To?” (45 Answers) He wanted an open marriage (we were engaged). I am monogamous and he knew how I felt about anything open.

Then I found out he was in a relationship with a co worker at his job. On top of that, I found out that If I did marry him, I would be wife number five! (he only told me about his first marriage and said that was it).

His daughter told me everything.

His other exes divorced him because he just didn't understand that being married and having a chick on the side wasn't an option.

Just throw the whole dude away.

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Mel Colley 6 months ago

When a spouse or partner wants an open relationship, they're already in one.

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“What Was The Reason You Didn’t Marry The Person You Thought You Were Going To?” (45 Answers) We were decent together and it seemed like the next logical step. I bought a ring and we flew to California for her to meet my parents. I was going to propose to her.

She knew my parents had money (but not to what extent), even though I didn’t have money. I was having a hard time making the mortgage on my 75k house with utilities and basic upkeep.
We spend a week living outside anything we could ever afford. Borrowed my parent’s cars, spent time at their house in Lake Tahoe, nice dinners.

Before I actually proposed she started talking about my trust (which never existed), how much they’d give us for a wedding gift, how much I’d be making when I took over my dad’s business (never going to happen. Never even worked for him). I decided to wait on proposing.

Within 2 months of us getting back home she traded in her car for an SUV she couldn’t afford, bought silly items she couldn’t afford, stopped paying her portion of household bills. She was a completely different person. Even when we talked about it she said she could see that my current lifestyle was just to make sure she wasn’t with me for the money. I could never convince her otherwise and we broke up a few months after our visit to California.

I’m married to a woman now who I’m obsessed with. We have a strong and loving marriage. We’ve supported each other through our career growth and are doing ok financially. I never dreamt I could be this happy. Luckily for me everything worked out great.

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Julia Mckinney 6 months ago

And I felt mercenary, marrying a guy because he had a living room stero set. Well, that plus we got on great, his parents and my parents got along like a house afire, similar senses of humor (Princess Bride got quoted during the wedding ceremony- it wasn't planned, pastor asked if we needed a chuckle break, DURING the ceremony! We had fun). 31+ years on, we're still doing well.

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“Of course, we are all works in progress so no one has this completely "right". However, we want to ask ourselves, does it seem like this person has a willingness to be a respectful and open partner?” she shared with Bored Panda. After all, even with a “perfect” partner, it’s still possible for issues to arise, so knowing how to handle them is just as important and knowing where boundaries lie.

“What Was The Reason You Didn’t Marry The Person You Thought You Were Going To?” (45 Answers) Her husband was vehemently against it.

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Bouche and Audi and Shyla, Oh My! 6 months ago

I feel bad for laughing.

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Kylie 6 months ago

But we did anyway LOL

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SuperChicken 6 months ago

Don't feel bad, Bouche. I laughed out louder than I should've.

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Dawnieangel76 5 months ago

I don't! LOL!

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Michael Largey 6 months ago

"My boyfriend's family is against me dating him." "Which part of his family?" "Oh, mainly his wife and children."

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EmAdoresHerKats🇮🇪🇵🇸🇩🇿 6 months ago

🤣🤣🤣 so funny He's such a spoil sport

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Katie Lutesinger 6 months ago

*gigglesnort*

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JP Purves 5 months ago

What a wet blanket. Husbands and wives of affair partners need to just chill out!

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Cindy Brick 6 months ago

Ya think?!?!?

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“What Was The Reason You Didn’t Marry The Person You Thought You Were Going To?” (45 Answers) Said something about finding herself. Anyway, she was looking for herself in other guys’ beds, which I thought was a funny place to look for one’s self.

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Julia Mckinney 6 months ago

Can't remember where I saw this but "oops, I tripped and landed on another man's p*n*s".

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She went put with a friend one night and asked me to come pick her up the next morning. I knocked on the apartment door, and my fiance answers, she said, "You want to just wait out here while I get dressed? It was 32 degrees outside, so I said no and walked in. I could hear rustling around coming from one of the bedrooms. I said, oh Is that Kasey(Her best girlfriend)? I walk back there, and she's literally trying to hide two men in her closet. I looked at my fiance and said, "I'll ruin your life if you ever try to contact me," and I left.

I've been happily married to the love of my life for 10 years. So thanks, Kasey, for taking Haley out that night!

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ADZ 6 months ago

Imagine calling your fiance to pick you up after getting spit roasted.

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We were also curious to hear her opinion on the question of if it’s important for people to share their own stories, both in relationships and outside of them. Yes, I do. I think there is a time and place - perhaps don't share it all on the first date - but I do think if you're in a long term relationship with someone that part of getting to know them is getting to know their stories and what has influenced them and the way that they feel about themselves and the world around them. “ You can find more of her work on her website and her new book, "Til Stress Do Us Part", on Amazon.

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Watched her blow weed smoke into a babies face.

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poison Ivy 6 months ago

Wow, that's psychotic behavior!

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#11

Realized i would’ve been his second mom for the rest of my life instead of his partner.

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Alicia M 6 months ago

These types are the worst.

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“What Was The Reason You Didn’t Marry The Person You Thought You Were Going To?” (45 Answers) Everyone’s is sad or heartbreaking.

I was 18 and he was 24 and thought he was a werewolf. It wasn’t til he stopped the car while taking me home to howl at the moon that I realized I needed to get out.

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Lene 6 months ago

That is sad. He must have suffered mentally a whole lot and never gotten help. I had a bf once who was convinced he was a necromancer. It was cute and fun until he informed me that he'd spend nights at graveyards and uhm... doing his necromancy spells. We broke it off shortly after but staid in contact online. After about two months he told me thst he'd now been diagnosed withh scizophrenia and apparently he'd had it since he was a little kid. Poor guy.

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“What Was The Reason You Didn’t Marry The Person You Thought You Were Going To?” (45 Answers) First person I was engaged to ended up beating the s**t out of me. That was the end of that.

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weatherwitch 6 months ago

I'm so sorry this happened to you and I'm extremely glad you got out. It took me too long to escape 😞

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“What Was The Reason You Didn’t Marry The Person You Thought You Were Going To?” (45 Answers) He wanted babies

I had fertility issues

He wanted to speed up baby making and ivf

I ran as fast as my legs could carry me.

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poison Ivy 6 months ago

No, your Ovaries said, I don't wanna work that hard! No Thanks!

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“What Was The Reason You Didn’t Marry The Person You Thought You Were Going To?” (45 Answers) My friend found her on tinder

Edit: didn’t expect it to blow up. To summarize the answers: no my friend didn’t match with her, just sent me the screenshot, I instead tinder and found her profile to double check. Her profile picture was a picture that I took after we got engaged so it wasn’t her old profile. On the upside I kept the tinder profile that I created to find her profile and eventually ended up meeting my future wife there so there’s that.

Edit 2.0: the way I approached my ex about the whole thing was creating a profile with my real name and photos and leaving a “super like” or whatever it’s called now so that if it was her she’d definitely see it. She did and she messaged me about it apologizing and trying to explain herself, so no, it wasn’t a catfish, my ex just didn’t think I’d find out because I never used tinder before.

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Julia Mckinney 6 months ago

Wow, really dodged a future divorce there.

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“What Was The Reason You Didn’t Marry The Person You Thought You Were Going To?” (45 Answers) She committed s*****e. Over 50 years and I'm still not really over it.

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poison Ivy 6 months ago

I'm so sorry, I don't have that experience, but my Aunt took us 4 kids to a pool one day and then left us. I loved her. It was only the next day I learned she met a guy,left with him, then committed suicide. I'm sure the guy killed her and it still stings from d***s and shooting herself. That was 40 years ago. Her name was Cherry and she was beautiful!

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“What Was The Reason You Didn’t Marry The Person You Thought You Were Going To?” (45 Answers) He ended up being into dudes as much as I am.

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Stardust she/her 6 months ago

Well at least you had something in common

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“What Was The Reason You Didn’t Marry The Person You Thought You Were Going To?” (45 Answers) He ended up having a wife I did not know about.

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Julia Mckinney 6 months ago

Good reason not to marry him then.

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“What Was The Reason You Didn’t Marry The Person You Thought You Were Going To?” (45 Answers) We were discussing former partners and somehow she got to the point where she told me she didn't expect me to be her last partner.
And not in the sense of "after you die, I'll go on with my life". She sincerely didn't expect us to stay together forever.
Now I can respect some realism in a relationship, but I decided right there and then that we weren't going to make it.
We broke up that same week.

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Julia Mckinney 6 months ago

Yeah, that'd be a deal-breaker for me too.

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“What Was The Reason You Didn’t Marry The Person You Thought You Were Going To?” (45 Answers) Alcoholism and never ending lies about even minor things. After 5 years of giving chances and hoping things will change, I realized that they, in fact, won't and this will be my life if I don't break it off.

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weatherwitch 6 months ago

Good escape. You can't help them if they don't help themselves either 😞

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“What Was The Reason You Didn’t Marry The Person You Thought You Were Going To?” (45 Answers) Oh man. We'll call her "A." In the early days A was such a delight. I knew it was her when I started to have actual dreams about what our children would look like, which was something I've never experienced before or since.

For a long, long time, I was blind to all others but her.

"A" did not feel the same. The emotional distance that she kept between us eventually came to a head when my mom had a severe stroke. It nearly killed my mom, took months for her to recover to a minimal level, and simply stripped away much of who she was.

Far from offering support and encouragement during what was, at the time, the worst point in my life (not to mention my mom's), I began to realize that "A" seemed to view the whole thing as an inconvenience.

The realization that my life, and my family, didn't really matter to "A" at all broke me in ways that I'm still recovering from. I saw what I wanted to, of course. In hindsight "A's" relationships were always about projecting an outward appearance of high-value normality in order to boost her own fragile ego, and little more. My mom's stroke (and my resulting mental state) were not relevant to her because neither added value to her.

To this day I'm not sure if she's really capable of treating people as anything more than set props.

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Ephemera Image 6 months ago (edited)

Sounds like a sociopath, completely devoid of empathy. They are good at mimicing emotions, without actually feeling anything.

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“What Was The Reason You Didn’t Marry The Person You Thought You Were Going To?” (45 Answers) Because I was an idiot and didn't appreciate what I had.

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Avoidance_Panda 6 months ago (edited)

Ouch, this one burnt me... Almost 20 years on, I still kick myself how I behaved. I just hope wherever she is she's happy.... I often day dream about meeting later in life, being more mature hopefully wed give it a re do... Unfortunately it's almost been 20 years, and I realise this probably won't happen... And I'll die with the regret of the damage I did when I was younger... I hope she's had a wonderful full life...I'm just ever sorry I couldn't be the one to bring her the happiness she really truly deserved... I was such a fool

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“What Was The Reason You Didn’t Marry The Person You Thought You Were Going To?” (45 Answers) He found a girl in another state, while I mourned my dads death.

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Julia Mckinney 6 months ago

I hope you were able to persuade a friend to help play some pranks on him, like signing him up for some erectile dysfunction clinics or Jehovahs Witnessess visits.

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“What Was The Reason You Didn’t Marry The Person You Thought You Were Going To?” (45 Answers) Covid. Just being a home, stuck together stressed about bills. The things we used to love about one another, we quickly grew to hate.

We went through the most toxic breakup I’ve ever been through in my life, 10 months of manipulation on both parts.

We had one last dinner together, a nice Italian place. We people watched a little, watched an awkward couple on their first date. Laughed some. Went back to her place and played “scattagories”. But we were both emotionally drained, trying to make something work. I could sense the emotional fatigue in her and she knew i was there too. That was the last time i saw her. We ended up mutually blocking eachother on everything you could think of. We didn’t talk for about two years. But dammit i still thought of her everyday and still loved her, even if she was bad for me. I liked to believe she was the one, at one point.

She passed away last year. That was a tough phone call i got.

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Julia Mckinney 6 months ago

My condolences for your loss.

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He had an affair with my stepmum.

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Lord_CrumbleGamer 6 months ago

Ooofff!

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“What Was The Reason You Didn’t Marry The Person You Thought You Were Going To?” (45 Answers) FBI knocking at my door to arrest him for being a p*******e and a CP salesman. No joke.

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Natasha Arruda 6 months ago

Glad this happened before you ended up tied to him and potentially bringing children into the picture, assuming that was the plan. I can only imagine what he'd end up doing.

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“What Was The Reason You Didn’t Marry The Person You Thought You Were Going To?” (45 Answers) He dreamt I was trying to k*ll him with a six foot frozen fish and in his sleep tried to defend himself by choking me.. He had very strange dreams that he physically reacted to in his sleep. We decided after the third or so time it wasn't going to work.

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Julia Mckinney 6 months ago

At least when my husband got physical in a dream, it was because he thought I had a spider on my arm and slapped it. Surprised the heck outta me though, and he NEVER woke up. I didn't get an explanation until the next morning.

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“What Was The Reason You Didn’t Marry The Person You Thought You Were Going To?” (45 Answers) He came from old money vs I came from no money. (as in familial wealth). Education wise, on par. He is Jewish, I am Afro-Latina. Parents (mom + step dad) threatened to cut him off if he continued the relationship. We break up suddenly after a few really fun years. Sucks to suck.

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poison Ivy 6 months ago

I'm sorry, but you did dodge a bullet. If he loved you he wouldn't care. They either come around or they don't. Hope you're doing better!

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“What Was The Reason You Didn’t Marry The Person You Thought You Were Going To?” (45 Answers) She decided having sex with her boss for more money was a better deal.

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laura lee 6 months ago

Idk, what was the percentage? /jk /s

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“What Was The Reason You Didn’t Marry The Person You Thought You Were Going To?” (45 Answers) He started drinking a lot and I just didn’t want to end up with someone like my dad. I adore my dad but it hurts to see him struggle and I knew I couldn’t handle loving two men with drinking problems. It broke my heart because he was otherwise such a great guy.

It was ultimately the right choice though. My husband is the true love of my life. And I can’t imagine being happy in any other life.

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weatherwitch 6 months ago

I had an uncle who I saw once or twice a year. He was a big man and he was frequently extremely drunk which I found very scary as a child. I find drunk people very unpredictable and still have that sense of fear around them. My best friend is a soppy drunk but I used to be so wary of him in the early days. Best buddies 24 years on though. I'm glad you found your wonderful husband ❤️

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“What Was The Reason You Didn’t Marry The Person You Thought You Were Going To?” (45 Answers) It took me a while to figure out that she was actually an entitled grand daughter of a once-rich Asian family. There never really is just one thing and maybe I ignored it when we first started dating. But here is a list of things I realized after about a year of dating

1. She flat out said that public school kids (like myself) weren’t as good as boarding school kids (her)

2. Her expectation was that everything was going to rely on my salary. At the time, I was making about 2x her salary

3. She was a closet racist. She’s Korean and I’m Chinese and just had to take jabs. One time I was in line in the grocery store while she had to get something. When she came back, there were a few people in between us and I just told her to come up and cut the line. She made a comment like “…just like a Chinese person” underneath her breath.

4. Her mom would buy her business flights tickets back home. She came back once and implored that was the life that she wanted. Sure, but she was on a $70k salary.

5. She was nostalgic about the life she had that her grandfather built for the family. Wealth really lasts three generations and she was never “taught” what job or vocation would make money for a life. She was smart and well educated (art history major) but the fancy education really is just an intangible Louis Vuitton bag that was there to make her more marriage material.

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LakotaWolf (she/her) 6 months ago (edited)

Some people ::ahems while glancing below:: seem to think that racism is just "learned manners" (wtf?) that one might have "trouble" going against. I'm white af, adopted at birth into a Mexican family, and my boyfriend is Chinese (the son of immigrants.) I've seen racism in both my family AND his. Amazingly, you can CHOOSE to not be racist, regardless of what your family and upbringing were like!

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#32

Turned out she was a cheating narcissistic liar and I had been trying to ignore the signs. Bullet dodged.

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Thomas Hunt, Jr. 6 months ago

I can relate. Didn't help that she got a.kick out of tearing my heart outta my.chest and stomping on it.....but only after I confronted her with the truth. Swore off relationships after that. That was almost 15 years ago.

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#33

She's a nice girl and I was a s****y boyfriend.

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censorshipsucks 6 months ago

yeah this was my story twice. Never underestimate that maybe the problem is you.

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“What Was The Reason You Didn’t Marry The Person You Thought You Were Going To?” (45 Answers) I was young. Didn't know what I had. Would be different now. I think about her everyday and it's been 11 or 12 years since I've even seen her.

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nanofarad 6 months ago

Not healthy, you have to learn to move on.

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#35

“What Was The Reason You Didn’t Marry The Person You Thought You Were Going To?” (45 Answers) She decided to go with another guy, who she had a baby with and then he left her for some other girl.

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G A 6 months ago

If they do it once, they'll do it again.

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#36

He died.

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Brenda 6 months ago

I'm so sorry

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#37

He married someone else on my birthday because he got her pregnant.

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G A 6 months ago

Happy Birthday?

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“What Was The Reason You Didn’t Marry The Person You Thought You Were Going To?” (45 Answers) It was a long distance relationship and she found someone closer.

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Emma S 6 months ago

It's sad but this is fairly common in long distance relationships. It doesn't excuse cheating, but the novelty of having a partner that you can only see maybe once in a blue moon, or communicate with over a computer or phone eventually wears off and one person decides they want someone they can have regular sex and go on dates with. I'm not saying long distance can't work, but it certainly makes things difficult.

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#39

He was not meant for “settling down” as they say. We dated expecting marriage in the future but some people abhor commitment and he fooled himself into believing he could settle down as well but but turns out commitment was difficult for him and this is something I should have realized way before in the relationship.

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weatherwitch 6 months ago

Society really is all about committing and the long term. I'm 50 and never got beyond two years in the few relationships I've had. It's just very difficult for the other person 😔

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#40

I needed to face my baggage by myself.

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weatherwitch 6 months ago

We are our own best cure. People can help us but ultimately it is us who has to deal with whatever the issue is ❤️

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#41

I realized I was settling.

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Blue Bunny of Happiness 6 months ago

I realised that one far too late sadly….

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#42

We were too young.

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weatherwitch 6 months ago

Or just grew apart. I know of three couples who've been together since early teens and now are couples in their fifties, sixties and seventies 😮 But they're So unusual, people just generally drift apart as they get older from wanting different goals to just not loving one another anymore. It's sad but it's life 😔❤️

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#43

The last words she said to me were, "who are we kidding? It was never going to work out."

Long distance relationship that optimist me thought would actually work out despite my buddies telling me otherwise.

Still sometimes think of what might have been. The temptation to search for her online is strong.

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G A 6 months ago

True dat, as the saying goes.

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#44

We grew apart.

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weatherwitch 6 months ago

Sadly happens 😕

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#45

Said no.

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Anna Ekberg 6 months ago

¿Que... who said no to what?

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Power puff scientist 6 months ago

the last few were just c**p

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ZuriLovesYou 6 months ago

What? What makes you think that?

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Lorraine Woollands 6 months ago

I was engaged to be married, as I thought. But it never happened. He has been married before( marriage of convenience for the woman. She was gay from somewhere in Africa. If she had gone back unmarried she would been killed). I realized after a while he never intended to get married ( he wouldn't get the paperwork sorted out). I stayed when I should have got out. He died two years ago. He don't know what he told his family about me but they blamed me for his death. Not my fault he didn't take care of his own health ( he was diabetic and had big ulcers on both legs. Think he died of Sepsis.) family never told how the died r when he was buried. We had separate rooms and where more like brother and sister. Together 13 years. Stayed because I didn't want to out back to live with mum and dad

8points

Royal Stray 6 months ago (edited)

How is it so difficult for some people to realize that you can be a bad person without having an uncommon mental illness, and that trying to say that X-person is a narcissistic sociopath really only causes issues for actual people with these disorders. Which aren't an excuse to be a horrible person.

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Casey Smith 6 months ago

Kindergarten ended and he went to a different 1st grade. I still think of him, my married name would have been Casey Casey.

3points

talliloo 6 months ago

when i realized that he would be forever comparing me to his ex wife. to be honest, she was an absolutely beautiful woman and i am just a normal looking woman. but, nope - i had no desire to live up to an expectation...just wanted to be me.

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Neopet22 6 months ago

My friend was having a long distance relationship for close to 9 years I think. She thought he was her soulmate,she went so see him few times in his country but this past year she ended it. She is definitely not the kind of person who needs to have sex so that was not the reason but the fact that she was getting lonely from not having him near plus him not doing anything with his life. Since the start of their relationship it was very clear he won't change that part of himself but of course she was in love and didn't notice it. He was like 32 and never had a stable job and she was planning to move to his country and build their life together. Once she realized she will have to also basically support him,that was the end of it

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Big Yetti 6 months ago

Found out my father was fking her

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Alymara 6 months ago

Things had gotten progressively worse between us for months. He was in a bad place emotionally but refused to get any help for himself and in the end became nothing but disrespectful to me. He wouldn't consider any of my needs. I would pour my heart out and end up crying to him about how hurt I was, and all he could say was "Are you on your period?" (For the record, I was not.) Several years later, I realize I should have left him much sooner, and I'm now getting married to someone who treats me very well and who I'm happy with.

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Lee Banks 6 months ago (edited)

I moved to his small town where I knew no one. Developed a serious drinking problem to cope. He enabled. When I decided to clean up, I foolishly went cold turkey and had a tonic-clonic seizure that landed me in rehab for a proper detox. 28 days later I called for him to pick me up. He said that all my belongings were at my mom's house and he was engaged to a mutual friend. Slept on the street for a week. Five years wasted, but I'm so very glad I found out what a callous a*s he could be before I became wife #4. Edit: I'm mostly to blame for making poor decisions, but it turns out his isolating women was a regular thing. His ex called to tell me his habit was underage girls.

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Michael Largey 6 months ago (edited)

My intended and I had to move to different places and her older sister convinced her that long distance relations don't work. Shortly after the break-up, guess which older sibling was driving down to where I lived intending to get in bed with me? Sorry Big Sis, no d**k for you!

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Casey Smith 5 months ago

I thought I was going to marry my first love but I was seven and he was Shaun Cassidy.

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Alymara 6 months ago

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Miki 6 months ago (edited)

Because she started cheating on me and straight up just went with new guy. We were engage and stating planning our future. I am in new relationship for over 7 years now and still have some trusting issue.

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Sioux White 6 months ago

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Granny's Thoughts 6 months ago (edited)

What a cry baby. Get on with your life with your son. You are all he has and needs your attention, not a dad whining about his past mistakes - which were huge. Man up. Your girls know where you are if they want to contact you.

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censorshipsucks 6 months ago

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=FwZvuV79jeY

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Power puff scientist 6 months ago

the last few were just c**p

9points

ZuriLovesYou 6 months ago

What? What makes you think that?

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Lorraine Woollands 6 months ago

8points

Royal Stray 6 months ago (edited)

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Casey Smith 6 months ago

Kindergarten ended and he went to a different 1st grade. I still think of him, my married name would have been Casey Casey.

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talliloo 6 months ago

2points

Neopet22 6 months ago

2points

Big Yetti 6 months ago

Found out my father was fking her

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Alymara 6 months ago

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Lee Banks 6 months ago (edited)

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Michael Largey 6 months ago (edited)

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Casey Smith 5 months ago

I thought I was going to marry my first love but I was seven and he was Shaun Cassidy.

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Alymara 6 months ago

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Miki 6 months ago (edited)

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Sioux White 6 months ago

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Granny's Thoughts 6 months ago (edited)

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censorshipsucks 6 months ago

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=FwZvuV79jeY

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